 What's up y'all? So, Mr. O'Shea Duke Jackson just put out a video called Kendragy Media Thirstiness Gets Exposed by This Male Model. And I watched the video and I'm pissed and I have thoughts. Let's break this down. Kendragy is a former radio personality and I think she still does radio part-time who now runs a dating show after the success of Kevin Samuels. And on this dating show, she brings on either men or women who are seeking love. And those people are bombarded with DMs and messages on Facebook and Instagram. And despite how good the person might have presented themselves to be, they typically always report back that the quality of people they reached out to them was poor. Eric Giver, you have any kids? Yes, I do. I have five girls all by the same date. You have five daughters? What, you want to marry? How did y'all not get married and have five kids together? We got like four ten kids. What number are you? I can't answer that. The unfortunate reality is people who tend to go on things like this do not tend to be the best quality of people. People who tend to find interest in somebody simply because they saw them on a dating show tend to not be the best quality of people. But nevertheless, she's made a name for herself and she's been successful. And I believe she was successful before this, but the first thing I want to talk about is Kendra G. Kendra G, for a lot of reasons, embodies the boss-bitch aesthetic. The I can do bad all by myself. I don't need a man. I want a man. Archetype. I've been vocal about men running far, far away from this type of woman. But I think her interaction with this Ugandan male model is an exceptional example of the problem with these types of women. But just like my case study recently about Atlanta restaurants and how they mistreated Keith Lee and how they mistreat most of their patrons, these types of women tend to be in those types of big cities. Atlanta is a very good example of it for many reasons, primarily because these types of women think that they're God's gift to everything and everyone. Specifically men, they think they're better than you simply because they're a successful woman and you are an average man. Even if you are above average, the operating premise is that you're average, at least in comparison to her. And that your role in her life should be worshiping her and your role in her life should be celebrating her greatness. Due to the success of this brother, he's got millions of followers throughout his social media platforms. She reached out to him. And her very first message was, hey, how are you doing? Hi, I'm Kendra G. How's your day going? It's the weather like in Uganda right now. You know, small talk, pleasantries, her very first message was, are you single? If so, I want you to come on my dating show. Now fellas and ladies, this type of introductory message to somebody that you have never met in your life and especially somebody who for all intents and purposes is your peer is disrespectful. She wasn't self-aware enough to realize that his response was sarcastic because he responded in a way to show her how she should have approached him. Hello, good afternoon Kendra. She didn't pick that up. Now, again, I think multiple things are going on here. I think that baked in contempt that Dr. T. S. Johnson talks about that an unfortunate number of black women internationally have for their black male counterparts. I think it's also the contempt of being American and talking to somebody in a third world country. I think it's also the contempt of being a quote unquote celebrity and talking to somebody who you think is not or you think their light isn't as bright as yours. But nevertheless, it is contempt. And what's ironic is even this Instagram page that she's DMing him from has less followers than his page that she's DMing. But yet and still, she saw it fit to approach this brother this way. Whatever reason why she thought this was acceptable, it's a shame. In my opinion, it's absolutely disgusting. And it goes back to that delusion that we've been detailing that's present in so many modern Western women. The delusion of this is an acceptable way to introduce myself to somebody. The delusion of this person should be happy that I'm even reaching out to them, me of all people is reaching out to you. And also the delusion of I can care less about the outcome because that's how it comes off. Now, despite the fact that she made several pleas prior to this message for somebody to help her find him, she couldn't humble herself to be polite. Not even respectful but polite. And you know, recently we've been talking about how she's starting to sound more and more like Kevin Samuels. And I've been telling guys to be careful about women like this. If I have 100 single women and 10 men, automatically every woman is not gonna get a man. Some people call it chameleon, but women are starting to figure out that, hey, if I can just regurgitate some of the stuff I've heard men say, then I'll get men on my side because they don't have the presence of mind to sift through who actually means what they say and who lives what they say versus who knows what you want to hear. Who's an intellectual stripper? Who's an intellectual prostitute? And this interaction alone is enough for me to come to the conclusion that whatever she's been telling women now that is Kevin Samuels-esque is just intellectual prostitution because her life and her interactions do not exemplify the humility that she's encouraging women to have. She doesn't have it. I don't know if you know English. I don't know. But as he was walking down the street, everybody was looking at him. He might be homeless. He might not even have a motherfucking job. But you know what? He was tall, dark and handsome. As an African, I would be remiss not to also talk about the third world contempt. I'm somebody who's really honest about the reality of African countries, particularly the reality of Nigeria, because that's where I'm from. I'm somebody who agreed funny enough with Trump when he called Nigeria a shit-hole country. I'm somebody who thinks that Africans, just like people in Atlanta, need to start being honest about our shortcomings and honest in a way that we can now start moving towards solutions. However, wealthy people in Africa are living a completely different life than some of our brothers and sisters over here might assume. To be wealthy in Africa, and I don't actually think this is a good thing. I'm just letting you guys know what it is. But to be wealthy in Africa is far better than being wealthy in America, primarily because of the astronomical wage gap, primarily because there's no middle class, there's no credit, there's no government assistance. So if you are wealthy in Africa, you will be worshiped. So whatever kind of ego you might think you have because you're making some good money and you live in Atlanta or you live in LA or you live in New York, I can guarantee those rich guys who live in Lakey, those rich guys who live in Potacot, those rich guys who live even on the mainland in Lagos, the ego is not comparable. So you're going to have to approach them with respect. And this brother is doing really good for himself in Uganda. Now, whether or not he's making the same amount of money as Kendra G, I don't know. What I do know is his money goes further where he is than it does here. So the idea that you're offering him an opportunity or an experience that he otherwise wouldn't have access to, it's not true. And I say that because part of this delusion is this lack of awareness. Also, for a little bit of context, these videos that are going viral of this brother walking through the streets with a shirt off and you see women turning around, it's not what you think. As an African, I can tell you that most of those women are thinking, what the hell is wrong with this nigga? Six packs don't have the same effect in Africa as they do in the West. And primarily because just cultural context is different. Typically, in more impoverished areas in Africa, we associate wealth with having a rotund figure. So the wealthy men are the older man with the big stomachs. And wealth is more important than looks. People say it's not about being handsome, it's about if you have something in your hand. So most people are licking like, what's wrong with him? Other than the videos that you see him in a suit, because then he looks like somebody of a higher socioeconomic status. But most of the thirstiness is actually coming from Western women, white women and black women in Europe, in the Americas. And like I've been talking about, there is this fetishization of the black male image. And usually we talk about it from the perspective of white women or non-black women fetishizing black men, but black women fetishize black men as well. And the tell-tale sign is when we're reduced to our aesthetic, the tall, dark and handsome, and our perceived ability to perform in the bedroom, that is fetishization. Not our perceived intellect, but just the fact that we look good. Umar Johnson a while back in a moment of honesty, he said that African men are not gonna tolerate the stuff that black women do in the United States. And that's true. Very often a lot of women in the West, they talk as if the world has better men to offer than the men that are available to them. And the reality is very different. On the macro, men overseas are not making the kind of money as men here. That's just the reality. On the macro, men overseas are not as accommodating or not as flexible with gender roles as men here. They didn't grow up with single mothers. They grew up in a hierarchical structure where dad had the final say and mom was in her traditional role as a woman. So him conforming to your way of life is actually the stretch. And furthermore, it's worth noting that this new 666 thing that women are looking for, other than some pockets in the world, the rest of the world isn't that tall. The rest of the world does not earn six figures in mass. And in the places where they are that tall, they definitely don't earn that money. In a place where they earn that money, they're not that tall. So again, we have to be clear, concise and honest about where are our best chances to find what we want and who do we have to become for it to be successful? And if you want one of us, one of us Nigerian men, you're not going to talk to us like you talk to some brothers here. And that's not to say that we're better or anything like that, but that's just to say that our tolerance for this neo-feministic contempt is so much lower. And if you ask our women, there is a lot of good that comes with us, but there are a lot of challenges as well. Shit not sweet on the other side. So I would encourage women and men alike to spend more time working on yourself as opposed to focusing on how green the other side might seem. During their interaction, he dismissed her politely by saying, I hope everything is going well for you there. And she said, it's amazing. This isn't surprising. These quote-unquote boss, successful women tend to not have the self-awareness or the honesty to admit that they're unhappy other than the occasional TikTok breakdown where they're crying and looking for sympathy. But the reality is a lot of these women are miserable. And Ebony Kay Williams is a great example of this because now she's talking about all the woes of in vitro and trying to have a kid by herself. And I believe Kendra G is in that same camp. But no, things are not going amazing. And it's because of you. And just like that Atlanta restaurant that Keith Lee went to and had such a terrible experience, the real milk and honey, your reflex is to pretend like you're above. In their case, they pretended like they didn't know who he was, even though their employees were scrambling to accommodate him. In her case, her feelings aren't hurt because he dismissed her request. But again, because as a people generally, we're so unwilling to face the reality that we'll just mask as if we are impervious. We're beyond reproach and nothing bothers us because it's all going amazing because it looks that way. Nothing gets off. And then these same people end up breaking down one day and you're like, what happened? I thought everything was amazing. I thought you were single and happy. I thought you were only eating high vibrational plates. But again, as a people, we're so enamored with what shit looks like that we never actually focus on what shit is. And the other thing too to keep in mind is she offered her show in a way that she thought it would be doing him a favor. You're gonna get more followers. You're gonna have a whole bunch of women reaching out to you as if he already doesn't. Number one, he already has more followers than you. And number two, he already has women reaching out to him. Probably women of better quality than the women on your show. But again, that cognitive dissonance won't even allow you to conceptualize that truth. That brother's in Uganda. Do you know what Uganda women look like? Do you know what Ethiopian, Eritrean women look like? Do you know what South African women look like? You do this, brother, no favors. Because not only do the women in proximity to him look better than the women on your show, but they behave better as well, right? Like even with the passport bro movement that I've been critical of, one of the things I've heard women say is that these men are looking for uneducated, ignorant, stupid women overseas who don't even speak English. Without considering the fact that some of these women are better educated than you. Most of these women are bilingual or trilingual. And for you to assume that they are less intelligent simply because they haven't been socialized in the language of your oppressor, in my opinion, is the height of ignorance. And I think we need to add more texture and color to these conversations and to these dismissive egotistical assumptions. And if you had taken two seconds to do your due diligence, you would know that. But more than doing your due diligence, you're just a disrespectful woman who believes that the world is your oyster and everybody works for you. Everybody is an employee. And if you're a woman like Kendra G, I would simply ask you, or if you're a man like Kendra G, I'd simply ask you, how's that working out for you? Or the outcomes you're getting, the outcomes that you want, if so, keep going. But if not, hey, you're just gonna have to deal with the fact that men and women alike will no longer want to be around you. If you run into the right men or the right women, they are going to dismiss you the way that your energy dismisses everybody else. And they might do it politely and they might let you think you won. But nevertheless, the scoreboard is still gonna be the scoreboard. My message is simple. Ladies, gentlemen, humble the fuck out of yourself. You are not God's gift to everybody. This is not a video game where you're the first player. People don't work for you, even if you have employees. Honor yourself and honor other people. Do not talk down to people. And for the love of God, your first interaction with somebody should be a cordial one. Do not lead with demands or requests. Lead with humility and grace. So we as adults don't have to question who the fuck raised you. Like, share, subscribe. See y'all in the next one. Peace.