 Hi. Welcome to Sunday morning afternoon coffee here on above live channel. So I am going to say part of the reason why this is afternoon instead of morning coffee is because I took my time getting out of bed this morning because I went out last night so I'm going to share that with you a little bit. And then we're going to have a conversation about intimacy a little bit we're going to talk about that because I had one of my super good friends. Let me just make sure this is working here. One of my super good friends and my my two of my besties we one of them asked me a question about intimacy and how it is that I can share with you so much about myself and kind of along the lines of like well. Okay good we're good here. Kind of along the lines of like intimacy on so many different levels like not just physical intimacy I think when you hear the word intimacy you think physical we think sex right I mean don't you kind of go first the animal mammalistic brain goes there right yeah and then. But intimacy also means I how I described it when she was like hey I'm I'm exploring intimacy and all the ways that I don't allow myself. That connection so I'm going to talk about it here on Sunday morning coffee because I think it affects all of us and it impacts all of us. So what it basically boils down to is connection and trust and so I'm going to talk about those two things the connection and trust is basically what this topic is about. So first you want to hear about my night. I'm going to give you some time to jump into the live stream because I did not post the crossed post this by the way I do have I know old school Facebook page above live channel on Facebook. You can also find me under Bridget inspired on Facebook I also have Instagram for Bridget inspired but haven't been on there that much. I've been really trying to you know be present for life and do my my above live channel on Sundays and Mondays is when I show up here and I work like I need to you know focus on generating sessions and business and things like that so. I've also been on Tik Tok which has been really fun but good morning in the chat if you are new here just know that if you post in the chat I will say hello and we do share that on the replay so be aware of that. So if you don't want me to call your name up then don't post in the chat. Hello Squatch. Hello Darrell. Hello Dana. Nice to see you. Oh Nash. Hey thanks. Nice to see you. Nice to see you. So in Minnesota this weekend there I think are definitely purple people lots of Prince stuff going on because Prince's birthday although he was Jehovah's Witness and did not did not celebrate that later in his lifetime. Prince's day is I think it's the 7th I want to say 6th or 7th. Nash will be able to tell me that in the chat. There was a lot of activity this week to celebrate him and his life and his incarnation will call it that way how about that because without his incarnation there wouldn't be all this hubbub around Paisley Park and Prince and the music scene here in Minneapolis and so he was a great contributor to that the 7th thank you. All right. And so hello to all of those of you who might be watching because of Prince because above life channel started because of him because he's the one that said y'all you need to start channeling other people. Okay, you need to start talking other people to ensure this so I did and here I am multiple years later. Gosh, cut that was back in 2016. That's seven years ago now. All right, so last night, bring it back to a Minneapolis vibe. I went to uptown, which is Lake Street. I was I think West Lake Street last night and at a the luring. It's called the luring collaborative I have to let me just I'll let you know exactly where I was and what was going on because we will promote this incredible play that I was at to support Pride month, whether you are a queer, a queen, someplace in between or an ally. This would be a great way to support the arts and also the queer community the luring collective luring L O R I N G collective empowering queer creatives. And so I went to a play that was called artistic tendencies. And so you can find that online, artistic tendencies and they have shows they have a show today and they have shows next weekend is their last weekend. And so it's a very intimate little setting. It's a tiny little, tiny little theater setting, super small cast four people. It was amazing. And one of the women and one of the groups that I belong to was one of the stars of it. And so there were four of us that went to support her and and learn about it was the play itself was about internalized homophobia, and also a bit about queer history and specifically queer history in Minneapolis and Loring Park and historic things and facts about that. And so it was a very, it was an original work. It was a original play that was written and acted in by this, this, I can't even think of his name now, this person who amazing but if you look online, you can see the cast and oh my gosh, it was just, it was so profound. I'm like this kind of stuff needs to be on big stages everywhere. It was amazing. It was so good. And it just really touched me like I almost like there are a couple parts where I literally wanted to cry and I'm like, don't cry, don't cry, don't cry, because I'm like, oh, don't cry, don't cry. I was like it was so profound. And because it touched on the AIDS epidemic, which you know if you've watched above life channel for a long time, my dad died of AIDS in 2002, he was a closeted gay man who had a full life as a in the heteronormative society and so it was a whole thing. And so he was alive, obviously, during all these times like Stonewall and all these things as historic and tumultuous, dramatic and traumatic trauma that occurred when people were just trying to be people to be have the right to love who they want and how they want and then society interjecting, no, I don't like that. It's like, well, then focus on your own life. Maybe you should be focusing on your own family because your shit's falling apart, you know, and so now we're in this time just incredibly, almost like deja vu like time where we're brought back to that time in history. And so it's like this, it was so layered with so many different things because now instead of the AIDS pandemic, we have, we had just had COVID, you know, and then there's, and then there's all this stuff and there's uprising and there's an uprising in Minneapolis with the it was just amazing there's this thing at the end of the play that was a talk back where the actors talk about the topic of queer history and then somebody from telling queer history, which is a group I guess a 10 year they just celebrated their 10 year anniversary in the Minneapolis area in Minnesota in the twin cities. And there was a representative of that group who actually facilitated a discussion with the small intimate audience there was like maybe 15 of us in the audience 18 of us, I don't know how many exactly. And we had this whole conversation about grief and collective grief and how you can, how do you heal from experiences that happen have happened to you and that you've shared in this collective grief with others and how does this frame you and how to how are you part of this history and what story do you have during those times and that kind of thing it's just freaking profound. I did not expect that going out on a Saturday night necessarily. And it was amazing and then after a bunch of us went out to this great little Italian place and we close the place down and you know when I went out for drinks and food and it was just so lovely, it was so lovely. And I got home really late because I carpooled and so I was like, oh, then I went back to the place where I parked my car and then I drove home and it was a long drive because I'm way outside the city so, but it was awesome. It was very much just an incredible is transformative, very enlightening. So good morning to those of you in the chat. Hey, I'm Jay nice to see you. The artist MJ the artist, incredibly gifted artists here in the chat. Let me just tell you MJ MJ if you have your, if you want to post your access to your art information in the chat go ahead and do that beautiful artist amazing. She does commissions I'm sure she still does. And Molly nice to see you Jennifer. Hey, nice to see you. Hi. Nice to see you Jen. Nice to see in the chat I hope you're doing well. Yeah, I hope you know what I'm thinking of you. All right. Hi. Good morning. Good morning. All right. It's technically the afternoon here by the way I know I think you're on the West Coast right Cali your Cali girl. It is morning for you and afternoon for me getting up late rolling out of bed this morning and it's okay and no guilt no shame no nothing this morning with that so welcome. We're gonna have a constant conversation about intimacy. So when I say the word intimacy do you not think about your body first. Do you not connect into this concept of how you're supposed to be in relationships and how you're supposed to have access to people and with people in this way with your body and sharing your body. Isn't that what intimacy really invokes and many of us this comes from that that theme then from last night to about this like what does society tell you how have you been raised what is ingrained and subconscious in you about how you should be. Because there's so many messages just in general about how you should be. Right, like the right way. Not the right or the left way. Not the right or the wrong way but the right way this is the way this is the way like there's no other options here there's just this. You know, and it's just ingrained and we just learned this, like there's a way you sit in the circle crisscross apple sauce in preschool right. I mean, there's all these things like there's a there's a way right because there's a schedule and there's a timing and there's this is the way and you learn this rhythm and it's automatic and there's a way that you drive there's a way that you you get dressed for work. There's a way that you act at your family functions there's a way that you act at a memorial service or a funeral there's a way that you show up to a baseball game there's a way that you park in Minneapolis. There's a way that you do you see there's all these things right and they're just constantly running inside of us and we're not even aware of it. So the thing here is the invitation today in the Sunday morning coffee talk about intimacy is to be connected to make a conscious choice to bring conscious the choice of intimate intimacy, which is connection. So intimacy and this raw pure basic form is awareness. Wake up coffee wake up wake up. Are you awake. I so want to say or something else here, but I'm not. It's another form of the word awake. Let's awaken our awareness. Become aware because when you're aware, then you can shift your perspectives. When you're aware, then you can make choice when you're not aware when you're just doing stuff autopilot. And sometimes that's very helpful right autopilot stuff like stuff you do at work sometimes things you do when you're paying your bills to click click click click click click. Things that you do in the morning the brush your teeth the comb your hair you know whatever you're doing whatever your normal things are. It's kind of just it's easy to be in there's some things that are helpful to be an autopilot, but your thoughts that inform action so that you can make choices. There's got to be a pause here to allow for awareness to for allow you to be awakened in the moment and be conscious bring conscious. The choices that you're going to make whether it be what are you going to put in your body so today. Yesterday I actually started this a couple days ago. I've been putting lime instead of lemon. I put lime in water to help me drink more water and of course I got my rainbow cup for Pride month. And I'm balancing the water because my body wants it and the coffee because it is a pattern coffee is a ritual for me. Yeah it's an automated automated thing. So the question then is for me to intimately know myself. I need to be present to pause to make the connection between why is coffee. Such a thing for me what does it do for me what does it provide to me what is my intimate connection with coffee. I can tell you right now there's one really big one and it's related to my current events. Many of you may know that many of you know that my grandmother my dad's mom passed away recently at the end of April. And I was blessed to be there at her at her transition moment I was the one that was her death doula so to speak and and right there with her. And it was very intimate it was just her and I was very intimate and that is connected to my connection actually to coffee. Because my grandparents used to always drink coffee grandma and grandpa always had coffee going and so it's a smell it's a scent that went and the sound of it brewing in the old coffee pots now I have like an espresso so I just push the button. But it's that that sentimental tie that intimate what it means to me so intimacy and part also is that connection of what something means to you. It's the relationship. Of the meaning and so intimacy we talked a little bit about the initial entrance of intimacy is like about the body and the sharing of the body and the access to the body. And then we shifted into this conversation about connection and awareness and how intimacy is this true really true presence of how we choose choice because that's where your power is in choice. How we choose to live how we choose to connect how we choose to be in awareness and recognition of the meaning. What does this coffee mean it means for me it does create a sense of of home. I lived with my grandparents you met some of you may not you. I don't know if I shared that. I have to share my story about when I moved out of my house when I was 18 went to college and like I moved out like I came home one weekend after my first year college I packed everything up I just left is very kind of dramatic actually for me like it was me being a kid being like a young teenager person young person just going I don't want this blah blah blah I want this and so just leaving. And then I was like basically homeless for about two months. There's a whole story about this and then but I still went on to college and graduated and did the whole thing. It was not easy it was a struggle and also I was very blessed and fortunate because my grandparents supported me they kept reaching out to me during this time that I was separated from my family. They estranged from them and I'm purpose by my choice not my family's choice at all by me being yeah you know in that place where I didn't know what the fuck I was doing basically and I had to fuck around and figure it out you know and I did I did I did and my grandparents always just stood by me they sent me cars and they just reached out to me and they tried to stay in contact with me during this whole like six months really intense period and. They just supported me and so then when I left school in the summer than to come back like when I wasn't in school during the summertime instead of trying to get an apartment and try to like just blow my money paying for rent. I got to go and live with my grandparents and I didn't have a car anything so they drove me everywhere like to work and back and all that stuff and I worked my ass off to try to save money to go back to school the next year. And they just helped me they were like. Another set of parents for me truly and so the coffee the meaning of coffee for me is really this. Family it's family and support that's what it is that's what it is and so I'm trying to balance that because. I have my own family and my own need for support in so many different ways. And now my body needs more healthy not just coffee all the time it needs water right so I'm trying to find ways to balance that past automatic programming with the present and what I need here today now to be healthy so. There's so many layers of how you can explore concepts like intimacy. It's not just what you think it is it's so much more. It's so much broader than that right. So, for me personally and I shared this with my friend this morning was that intimacy for me is really about trust. And and for me, that's a life lesson and a life theme. I've really struggled with trust and I I enter in cautiously optimistic with new friendships relationships jobs whatever it is cautiously optimistic. And I want to trust and yet I have in the back of my mind okay you know something's going to happen. So you're, you know, do you really want to be so trusting so open do you want to really believe everything somebody tells you, you know all this stuff like do you want to believe what somebody else says or do you want to believe what you feel in your gut and not your heart where you might be you know. I'm overly worried and bringing up past stuff and your brain being suspicious bringing up past stuff but in your gut. You know in your total intuition alignment with yourself like that like that kind of trust and so that in that involves a really deep commitment to intimacy in yourself you have to know yourself. We always doubt ourselves we second guess ourselves we self sabotage we so it's a constant awareness that you need to recommit consistently with yourself and forgive yourself quickly, quickly. Quickly, don't hold grudges against yourself don't beat yourself up. I'm going to say this what not to do and you're going to do it, because it's ingrained. But if I say it, then we have this collective awareness that we're intimate right now, because I know you and you know me like that right, because we're all doing that. I am so exhausted and tired as an empath and I'm sure many of you are as well from connecting to each other because of misery and suffering and pain and trauma and uniting against a common enemy. How about we unite and align inside of ourselves and then love from our center in a fullness and connect intimately with other people in a fullness. And that takes guts, because you know some people are going to be assholes anyway because in their fullness their assholes why I don't know maybe they're scared. I like to believe that we should just to the best of our ability assume positive intention and assume people are doing their best like Brené Brown says just assume if you if you just give people the benefit of the doubt that they're doing their best. It makes your life a little bit easier, just because even if they're not, you're at least feeling good about your ability to assume the best to feel compassion. You're not giving away something to somebody else you're not giving them your light and your sunshine and your rainbows and your unicorns and how you're happiness. By doing that, you're just literally maintaining your peace. And that is the commitment you make to yourself and intimacy to maintain your peace to allow other people to be as fucked up as they need to be. And you, you have your grit and your grit is from the pearls and the diamonds inside you it's from that the good stuff. And you get to share that however you want with whoever you want. And at any time you want, but you're not doing yourself any favors by holding yourself back. Because you're afraid to get hurt and believe you me, I am a master of that. I know how to hold myself back. I've been doing it for 50 fucking years. And I'm very sweary today. I noticed very sweary today. I actually had a friend of mine that said she said to me this was a couple of years ago she said, actually form a client. She said, you have a switch. I'm like what she's like you have major boundaries like you're good with your boundaries and this and that I'm like I'm not good with my boundaries I just don't want anybody in my intimate I don't want anybody in my intimate space. Okay, I don't want anybody taking advantage of me or riding my coattails, or just asking me psychic questions, because they just, they're my friends, they just want to know but really they are people that are like, should be clients not friends. They should be clients. You know what I mean. But she said to me you have a switch, and that you let people in to a certain degree to a certain point. And then, if they step cross your boundaries you flip the switch and they're out. You reset the boundaries and you're like, push them back, like security and I'm like, wow, yeah, I used to do that. Up until the last three years, where I've made a conscious choice to allow myself to have boundaries that are healthy, but not boundaries to overly protect myself from any kind of human interactions or experiences that might provide me with opportunity to deepen my connection to myself, because we learn from other people other people reflect, they trigger us damn right they trigger us. They're a reflection of ourselves and our lessons and our messages, but they also reflect our love and our goodness and our creativity and our inspiration and the things that are so good about you. Other people reflect that back at you, because you don't know how good you are and talented you are and skilled you are until someone else observes that and they speak it to you. And it has it takes multiple people to do that to you often in order for you to actually start to accept that that is the truth. The truth that you already know by the way inside yourself. So the people help us by reminding us of what's true for us and sometimes they do it by opposition and some, you know, challenge and sometimes they do it, which you miss. You miss how often the beauty is showing up in your life because it's not just human people it's your pets. It's the little doggy you pass every day when you're running down the trail and that that owner is walking their dog, or it's the beautiful skyline of the city that you overlook, or it's the sound of the trees that they make when the wind catches up picks up right before a storm, or it's the flowers when they start to bloom in your neighbor's garden like you don't have to take care of that ship and you get to appreciate enjoy it. Or it's that moment that incredibly intimate moment of joy. When that song comes on the radio. Just a small town girl. Like that, right. I'm sorry I didn't mean to yell into the microphone probably just blew out your ears I just realized that sorry. Sorry about that. Sorry about the volume of that. I'm not sorry about the expression of the joy and the moment I just felt just right now I just felt joy in that moment. Right, I just felt that joy did you feel that joy because you know what I'm talking about. Will you post in the chat the music the song lyric, or the song that comes up when you're driving in the car and you just go boom, like your heart burst open it's like. I'm sorry. Like that it just makes you come alive. That those beautiful moments like that that's intimacy that's joy. That's your momentary connection with that incredible intimacy of the universe aligning you. And filling you with joy but it's not coming from outside of you it's it's. It's like lighting that spark of the firework inside of you and then it shoots off that joy let's like that like that. What music what song is it of yours posted and if you are watching this after the fact after the live stream today, please post the song lyric, or the song in the links won't show up by the way, but post the title of the song or the line from the song or the lyrics a full lyrics if you want to. You're invited to do that in the comments okay because other people might also be able to resonate with that and go hey let's share the joy and that will provide an intimate connection between the three of you or the four of you or the two of you. Like love oh I love that one me to me to start that. That is the opportunity for intimacy of connection. Okay it's as simple as that. All right. Let me just take a peek now this was a this has been a great chat. Let me take a peek now at the live stream the chat to say hello. All right my friends. I'm okay with squaring things. Hey Drew. Hello to Denmark. I have a friend actually overseas right now. She's in the Netherlands I don't know the proper way. What do you say Denmark, Holland and the Netherlands I don't know had this whole conversation the other day. Um Amsterdam. Okay there's a lot of stuff here I don't understand. Hey Patty thanks for being here. Into Swingtown Steve Miller. Okay we got to listen to that. We got to listen to that. Oh if you have anything to post to and you want to share stuff you don't have to post it necessarily on the channel you can go to Facebook if you're a Facebook Facebooker above live channel on Facebook. Cold brew is yummy. Yes it is. It is Denmark okay it's not bad either I should say I should clarify this it's not bad to think of your body first when you think about intimacy that's great. I mean that's that could be very beautiful intoxicating and sensual and for many that is a sacred healing journey that many people are on and I recognize that many people are on that so the body component could also be triggering but it's just like I said with other people the reflection back right it could be a triggering thing a lesson opportunity and invitation for healing that's inviting you deeply intimate with yourself but it could also be an incredible expression of freedom I started on a shockty journey several years ago to open to whatever the shockty meant for me and the Kundalini energy and then in the last few years sacred sensuality and sacred sexuality and just beautiful. Just a whole bunch of healing around that so yeah so there's definitely room for conversation about that we should do that on a Sunday morning coffee oh that'd be a little spicy. Yeah it'd be a little spicy which might be great might be exactly what we need nowadays. We'll put up we'll have a dirty chai with that of a chai tea latte with a shot of espresso on it. That actually makes me I am actually oh that's yummy I might need one of those I might need one of those. All right beautiful people. Hello Nikki. Hello C. Rose. Nice to see you. All right thank you so much for being here. Tomorrow we have a channeling session I am I have so many people I want to channel right now one because it's Pride Month so I kind of want to keep that energy flowing but I also am super aware that I got to do MJ also this month. I might end up doing it closer to 4th of July I don't know because there's too many people on my channel and talk to you so we'll see join me tomorrow for our channeling weekly channeling session here on above life channel. I hope I've inspired your spirit today and filled you with some hope and encouraged you to live your life this is your life after all and you get to live it. Just live it. Thanks for being here.