 Now, like, that you said everything you said, like, I ain't even gonna, like, you really just, I ain't even gonna say that anymore because everything you said, I had to think about if it was my son just now. My son, you know, I was, what, 17, 18, he got a little girlfriend and some shit happened and I'll be mad as fuck, like. This is really what I want to get to. A lot of women enter relationships in bad faith. They enter relationships expecting the worst. It's hard not to know. I understand that. Let me finish. Let me finish. Let me finish. They enter relationships in bad faith. They don't do the proper vetting. They don't properly vet the dude that they're entering you with. So like, their mind kind of, you know how your mind sets you up to prove itself right? It's like, they ain't not good, good gonna happen and then you act surprised when nothing good happens. You've set yourself up for that. You didn't do your homework on the person and you came in negative. So why are women doing that? Why are women not doing their work on the front end and coming in with negative expectations? I don't know. I'm not them. But even the stuff you're saying about niggas is going to cheat on you and they're going to leave you with oatmeal still making this, this and that. Those aren't things to consider at the end of the day. Those are always things to consider when you're dealing with a man. Let's just be real. I agree. In the beginning, those are things to consider in the beginning and that's why you look for the type of man who's not going to leave you. In the beginning, during, like that's always something that... If you constantly do that, it's going to run him away because he's going to feel like it's nothing I can do that's good enough. You got a veteran man based on like how he move in general. Is he somebody who's loyal to his friends? Is this somebody who's loyal to his family, loyal to his mission, his purpose and things like that? So if he can do that, like it's certain dudes like they won't take you serious as a friend. If they see all you do is cheat on your girl. They're like, oh, if you can't be loyal to her, how are you going to be loyal to the business that we put together and stuff like that? But again, if you want to see two different types of men together in one dude, it's never going to work and you're always going to be suspicious. I feel like you can't combine all that because all that can be separated. A man cheating on his girl has nothing in place, no part in how he conducts himself as a businessman because them two different lives, two different worlds and two different people that he got to be. I can agree with that. But I'm saying there are some crossovers. It is some crossover that right there specifically depends on the person. If you just a shite person in general, then that shit is just going blow over in all areas, relationships, business, relationships, family, all that shit. If you just ain't shit. If you just ain't shit in this in you, then that's just what's in you. But most times I feel like men can separate all that shit. Niggas be out here cheating like hell on their girlfriend, but they know how to get money and they know how to like, you know, budget and do all that shit and know how to like, it's just it just depends on the person because because he can go home to his girlfriend and they can be doing all that relationship stuff and then go out where it's hard out here in the world and try to make ends meet and try to get some money and take care of the household and shit like that. I just really think it all just depends on the person. Some things depend on people and some things just can separate. And some things can always still just flow all together because you can just be a not shit person all around. But you can separate the two as well. That's true. But what I'm trying to say to you is if you keep having negative expectations, you're always going to not just with men with anything, if you go into like a job thinking you're not going to like it, you're probably going to be right. If you go into a business thinking you're going to fail, you're probably going to fail. Right. So I'm not saying be naive. So using the business analogy, I'm not saying go go into a business without a plan or without any kind of structure, go into the business, put your business plan together, put the structure together and hope for the best with the work that you're doing, same with romance. But if you're just going to not do the work on the front end and be negative, of course, it's going to fail. Hope for the best. Expect the worst. Prepare. OK, what are the bills prepared for the worst? Not necessarily prepared for the worst. You just say prepare. Why can't you say prepare for the worst? This is why. Because sometimes when people prepare for the worst, they like they manifest it and I hate I hate manifestation, too. But it's like, especially with men, like as a black man, people expect you to do wrong, like they don't expect the good thing from you. And then they react based on those negative expectations. So I think if more women expected better from us, first of all, got with good dudes expected better from us and interacted with us as if we are the king and everything that we could be, they would get better outcomes. I disagree with when you said you go in with negative and that's what's going to happen. Based off experience, that's that's happened a couple of times where I was expecting the worst and the worst didn't happen to you. Why didn't it work? That's a whole different type of situation. But what I'm trying to tell you is like certain things where I would expect for it to be the opposite, it wasn't. And it was surprising to me. But I don't think that's always the case. I feel you. But I'm saying, how do you think that other person feels we can feel it when a woman thinks we ain't shit or we're suppressing or ain't shit? That's the best way to put it, like we're hiding or ain't shit. We can feel that. Because at the end of the day, you got to consider the fact that ain't nobody going to always be a hunnit. It's always some lingering character flaws that we can find out over time. And that's why I said earlier, people begin to reveal who they really are over time. That's why you do your homework. You right. But even doing your homework, it can be some. All right, you act like you you're talking like just because you've been with somebody for eight years, they can't surprise you on the eighth year and do some shit or turn into a person or act on something that you would have never seen coming because you thought you knew this person for so long. I don't feel like it got nothing. I don't know. I don't know. It's just it's really a surprise. Everything you can't really expect too much as you can do all the homework you want to. You can't. It ain't nothing. It ain't enough homework in this world. You can do on a person to really know who they are and to know that you're secured and nothing can ever go wrong. But that's that's why I say you have to look at big picture stuff. I'm talking about principle. So I'm not talking about like, for instance, you know how like parents might say sometimes if somebody stopped me on the street and was like, my child did this, I would believe them versus another person stopped me and said, my child did that. I wouldn't believe them, right? So it's not like you you're with somebody 24 seven. Your parents aren't with you 24 seven, but they have a general idea of your character and they know that, OK, worst case scenario, this is how far it can get versus best case scenario. This is how it can get. So when I'm talking about doing your due diligence or doing your homework, I'm talking about like getting a general idea of what that person is capable of. Now, sometimes you're absolutely right. Some people could go a complete 180, a complete 360 and surprise you. Exactly. But that's not many years down the line. I feel you, but that's not the rule. Those are exceptions. What you mean? Those don't happen often. Like that's when we're talking about narcissistic personality disorder. That's something's wrong with that person who does a 360 or 180. Most human beings are pretty consistent. That's the truth. OK, OK, OK. So if you get a better if you get a general idea of this person's character, there is always that risk that they might change. But what I'm saying is the 180 doesn't happen a lot. Most some people do five degrees or whatever, but they generally are still in the same box. I get what she's saying. So if you get an idea of who that person is and you come with your best self and you expect them to come with their best self, it'll work. But again, if we like we play this game with people where it's like. I'm a I'm a I'm a I'm a hurt you before you hurt me. Or I'm a you know, I'm saying that I'm trying to outsmart you. I'm not going to give as much, you know, so I could protect myself. And it's like it doesn't work. People end up going old and miserable. You know, so I'm just saying with our women in particular, black women in particular, if you keep number one, encouraging niggas to be more like future instead of Russell. And then number two, coming in with negative expectations, our relationships aren't going to work. Women have a lot of power. As much as you say, y'all don't, y'all have a lot of power. I'm talking to little dudes right now, like young dudes. And they're saying, yeah, I would rather act, you know, this certain type of way. I would rather act like the hood dude, because those type of men have success with women in the seventies, you have to have a suit on to highlight somebody. But women change that. And now we're getting these types of men who are also being raised by women. So like we have to we have to change the way that we approach each other and the expectations we have. I like men in suits. I'm not just talking about the suit and talking about the whole like the brand. I feel you. You feel what I'm saying? But so the other thing in your video, we talked about you. You say you want a dude to be able to fight five men for you. Oh, I remember that. OK, let's go back today. Going back and thinking about it. OK, so. I had to really like visualize that shit in my head and it kind of sound crazy because like, why would you want your nigga to get beat up by five niggas? But that ain't really what I was trying to get at. It's it's really more about like just standing up for. What you're protecting. Like just make a female. That's another like reason why like a female would be more willing to submit, because if she know that her man don't play, that's a sense of security. You feel safe with him. You know, he ain't going to never he's always have your back. He's going to always, you know, and that goes for like friendships to not even relationships. It can be platonic friendships. Like, you know what I'm saying? So I'm not really I don't want to tell nobody to like. Yeah, I should risk your life. Because the movie is what got me and then I'm just going. I was just going based off that movie. And then like I was putting myself in her situation like she felt so vulnerable and disappointed that like they was grabbing on her blood and everything like them dudes was harassing them and he didn't. Hey, stop, stop. Get in the car, get in the car. Like she was she was turning around, cussing them out and shit like that. And you're right, what if they had a gun? What if, you know, people crazy out here, you're right. It's just that was just a fucked up situation. But let me ask you, how would you if you were a dude, right? How would you have handled that? Same exact scenario. Same exact scenario. If I was a dude, I would have had my pistol. I would have let him know what's up. You know what I'm saying? So what if you didn't have your pistol? Because that's in the movie, he didn't have a pistol. Right. And I'm telling you, if I was a man, I would have had mine. There was no there is no what if I didn't have it? Because that would have been me as a man, if I would have had one to protect my woman, because that's what I would want to. I just want to protect it. And I don't want to feel like you not going to do shit to protect me. If we going somewhere, if we out, they was taking a walk outside even in time and some little busts came up harassing them. And they was grabbing on her butt like he just allowed not allowed it. But I'm just saying like as a woman, though, you got to put yourself in a woman's shoes, too, because for one, y'all don't have to go outside and worry about getting raped or sexually harassed or cat called or wink that or just talk to crazy when you walk into your car, money or business. So as a woman, I was putting myself in her shoes as a woman, like, and what if she would have been by herself? It wouldn't be no difference to her being by herself, walking to her car alone. The only thing that stopped her from possibly getting raped or anything like. From OK, the only thing that prevented the situation from escalating was the fact that he was there. Ain't no telling what would have happened if he wasn't. So that was just the bare minimum of what happened just because he was there. And the fact that he didn't really do shit made him want to harass her even more because you see, they didn't stop messing with her even after they said, let's go, let's go get in the car, leave me alone and all the type of shit. They kept going because he didn't do shit. So where could she kept going back? Well, I mean, I'm just saying like he wasn't doing nothing. He wasn't getting on their ass. He wasn't trying to like stick his chest out or nothing like. And she went home, curled up in that bed and didn't even want him to touch her. And as a woman, that's like hurtful. I mean, even if he had no gun, I wouldn't want you to get jumped. But like I'm just saying, in that situation, it's this fucked up because I'm speaking from a woman's perspective. No, I don't want you to die behind me. No, I don't want you. Well, if I have your kids, yeah, you should want to die behind me. But I should want to. I mean, I gave you children. No, want to and willing to are two different things. I mean, no, but look, no, same thing because, look, it's up to me. If I really want to have your kids and I write, I get the last say so, right? Is my body right? So I'm giving I'm giving you children. You better fucking go out there and do something. Be willing to be willing to die. OK, you can say one or one. You should want to die. That's the only even trade. I feel like if she's gonna have kids for you, you should be willing to go the extra mile to do whatever it is. that, you know what I'm saying? When it comes to life or death, because you can die behind having kids, and I had your kids risking my life, my body, if there should be some type of even traitor, you know what I'm saying? But back to that, as a woman, I want to feel protected, and she didn't feel safe, she didn't feel protected. So now, moving forward, she probably might do things on her own knowing that her man can't step in and do what she would rather him do than whatever he did, which was get in the car, let's go, grabbing, okay, say you out with your girl and some niggas walk up on y'all and they start calling her bitch, hey bitch, come suck my dick, and I type a disrespectful shit, grabbing on her, walking up, just doing the most. What will you do? You ain't gonna slap nobody, you ain't gonna pistol with nobody, you ain't gonna, like at least not one of them out and then both of y'all run or something, like damn, like something, I might even jump in and help you a little, like something, I ain't even trying to say like risk your whole life, but like, hey, you get that one, I get this one, like somebody at least, like if you have hers, more than likely she gonna have yours too, so y'all both can be beaten up niggas, even if y'all probably gonna get y'all ass whipped, but y'all got y'all ass whipped together. You ever beat up a grown man? You talking all this cash, I'ma get him, you get him. But I'm not even really dead ass serious about her, I'm just really putting things in perspective, like just like see where I'm coming from. Okay, I see where you're coming from. Thank you, that's it, that's it, I'm not trying to tell her niggas to go jump in front of a train for her, or go jump in front of- That's how it comes off sometimes. No, me, I get what you're saying at, but yeah, it's just like I was just looking at, I was watching the movie, I was looking at the shit from her perspective as a woman, and you know what I'm saying? Like she was hurt by that, like she didn't even want him on her. Like damn, and I'm not even justifying it, I'm not even justifying what, cause that shit is crazy, but you see why she started fucking with that other dude? See, that- He brought a lot of stuff. But yeah, that's why I said I didn't even- No what I'm saying is because they did another scene with the rich dude, where he parked some white dude on a bicycle. Like this guy had to park five black men, and this one had to park one white dude. Like that wasn't even the same. It wasn't the same, and I get it. And they try to make it look like he used more of a bunch of, I think it was a white dude on a bicycle, relax. But I would say this though, this is what I would say. So I've never had that experience where I'm with a woman and somebody- Yeah, I asked my question, because what would you do? Somebody, I'm about to answer your question. I've never had the experience where like, I've been with a woman and somebody tried me. Maybe it's because I'm dark-skinned. Maybe it's because I'm a big dude. I don't know, but I haven't had that experience. But for me, if I was given like my little brother advice, I would say number one, if you have to have your gun with you, you probably shouldn't be there. Like you probably shouldn't be in that environment. That's number one. No, no, no, no, no, no. Let me finish. Let me finish. You come back to it. Okay, okay, okay. So that's number one. But two, I know people who work in law enforcement. I know people who have been to prison in the whole nine. And what you'll see is there are a lot of dudes who are in prison, quote unquote, protecting black women. And because they didn't think shit all the way through, they did whatever they did, they ended up in prison. And whatever was gonna happen to that woman still ended up happening to her at a later date. Cause now he can't protect her. He's behind bars. Or she moved on with her life cause he's behind bars. It's a story of this influencer. She said her brother is in prison right now and his cellmate is in prison because he beat up his sister's boyfriend cause she was getting beat by him constantly. So she called her brother, he pulled up, he beat the niggaz ass. Now he's spending like 10 years in prison and they back together. So again, as a man, you have to think 15 steps ahead. You are. You feel what I'm saying? So for me, number one, if you're in a place where you might have to do something to protect, you probably shouldn't be in that place. Number two, your first thought is to remove yourself before you engage. Engaging is a last minute thing because here's the thing that I don't think women understand. When you a grown ass man to engage with somebody on some physical shit, you have to be ready to kill or die. That's how serious it is for men. Men don't play with that type of stuff, especially old men. So for me, number one, assess the environment you're going to. Number two, see if there's an exit plan and if you absolutely must, you should have an idea of what you're risking. Because again, if you're talking about, I'm protecting this person, protecting that person, you end up getting locked away. Whatever you were protecting them from could still happen. So you have to think multiple steps ahead. But again, when women grow up on movies and shit like that, they see the nigga knock this dude out and they turn around and knock this dude out. Life don't work like that. It don't matter how good you can fight. You know what I'm saying? How good you think you can shoot? It does not work like that. Trust me. So but I wish women understood that more because they wouldn't keep holding men and boys to these unrealistic standards. A lot of niggas do their lives away on top of like they protected some. Even a dude who got stabbed recently in that bodega, he was trying to stand up for his woman or whatever the case may be died for no reason. She probably gonna end up with another nigga. Bring him to her, the dude's funeral. So again, like y'all gotta start thinking this shit through because men do, we gotta think that shit. If I'm engaging with somebody, I'm ready to kill that nigga or he about to kill me. Now, like that you said everything you said, like I ain't even gonna, like you really just, I ain't even gonna say that anymore because everything you said, I had to think about if it was my son just now. My son, you know, I was 17, 18, he got a little girlfriend and some shit happened. I'll be mad as fuck. As far as if they could have lost, you know what I'm saying? I just really had to like put myself outside of myself real quick and just really like take it back. Like if that was my son, cause I'll be mad as fuck. Losing your life, fighting over this bitch. What is wrong with me? I'll be mad. It's because I'm here getting killed because they stepped on people's shoes. Man, look, okay. So what I was finna tell you, okay, when you said if you need a gun to go to a certain environment or whatever type of location then you probably shouldn't be going. Okay, all I'm gonna say is this, it's dangerous everywhere, everywhere. I'm not even gonna, I'm not even lying to you. A couple months ago, I was driving, I was on fucking Lawrence Road, right? It was a dude on a motorcycle. I was driving. I don't know if, I really don't even know what I did cause I ain't see him. So I might've fucked up and didn't know. But this man had like pure road race. This man got off his motorcycle and approached my car. Now, he was knocking on my window too. In the middle of the street. In the middle of the fucking road. Yes, in the middle of the day, in the middle of the road. This man was on a motorcycle, got off his motorcycle and approached my car. And he was at a red light, banging on my fucking window. Now, if I would've pulled out my, what you call it? And got out of the car, I would've been wrong. And he approached my car. Now what? And I'm by myself and I'm a female. And I don't want to say this because at the time, at that time I ain't have no AC in my car. And my windows was down. When he got off his motorcycle, I rolled him up. And it was hot as fuck. And he sitting out there like going off on me, standing outside my car, in the middle of the road, in the middle of the day on a motorcycle. So he saw you were a female? Yes, he ain't give a fuck. And it was a white man too. Of course. Got off his car, banging on my shit. So it was a green light. You know, proceeded to, you know, I was accelerating, moving on to the next red light. He was following me all the fucking white path. And mind you, I'm like at Hooters, driving by Hooters. I'm all the way passing a food line. He's still following me. We had another red light. He got off the fucking motorcycle again and approached my car. Now what? And I'm by myself. Yeah. So I would've been wrong if I shot his ass. Cause I don't know what you're gonna do to me ain't you a white man? I don't know what you capable of. Better you than me. I don't know what you could have did. This man got off his, he was following me down Lawrence Road. I would say the way, whichever way you handled it was the right way to handle it. Cause you here right now, you know what I'm saying? He might mess around, knock on the wrong person's window. He was following me. Yeah. He made sure that I knew how he felt. So if I would've pulled my thing, I would've been wrong. I would've been wrong. Just tell me. Wrong, it's not even about right or wrong. In that type of scenario though, come on. And I'm a female. Yeah, but it's not about right or wrong. I'm looking at it, you know, for me I'm looking at it from like, what are the consequences? So if- What are the consequences for him or me? Both people. Most of them for you, cause I don't know dude. But for you, that could've jeopardized it. If there was an alternative way to get out of that, I would rather you take that way than potentially jeopardize it. What was the alternative way? You're here, aren't you? Okay. Okay, I'm talking about in that situation in that very moment. But whatever you did was the right thing to do cause you're here. You didn't risk your freedom. That's what I'm saying. Part of me still wish I could've- You want to scare him? Just, yeah, and I wouldn't, I didn't even want to do it with traffic. I'm not even trying to, in this green light, I'm finna keep going, but he kept following me. So now at this point, I'm feeling like I'm in danger. I feel you. I feel you. So if I would've got out of that car, he could've stabbed me. He could've did like, I should've just waved it at him just for him. I just kept going like- That was smart. You walking up on me, I'm really trying to get where I'm going. And I know you not finna follow me all the way. Like if you would've really followed me to my extra destination, I know for a fact I would've pulled out. Because that shit was not okay with me. That makes sense. Because for me, the way I think about it, with training and stuff, you don't pull it out unless you're ready to use it. You know what I'm saying? So for me, whatever you did, and you got out without having to jeopardize your freedom, whatever, it's not even about what happens to him. But if you don't have to jeopardize your freedom, if there's an alternative, don't do it. But who does? But that's not a point. It's danger everywhere. Ain't no tell me he could've been having a bad day. I might've fucked it up by cutting him off. And I didn't even know I cut him off because I ain't see him. Yeah. Yeah, listen, I- I don't know what happened. I assume 100% of the time I assume everybody crazy. Exactly. That's how I get my life. But that's my point though. It don't matter where you at. I'm in public in the middle of traffic in the intersection at a red light. What I'm saying though is- And you get off your motorcycle and approach in my car. And then you follow me to the next red light all the way down the street. You kept following me. You fucking driving alongside of me, looking at me, cussing me out, throwing me a middle finger, like, what the hell? You crazy as hell. In the middle of the road too.