 but today's topic of discussion is the society pressure of having a child why are you going seeing children as a burden there are so many things that are put into having a child first of all how you gonna carry this pregnancy do you have the money to sustain yourself the entire pregnancy period are you psychologically prepared this is not the kind of life i want for myself yet so i can't have a child right now because i am not even satisfied with the kind of life i'm leaving and me i have seen guys what i want to say is that i am feeling very warm welcome to espion bars this is friends vibe and we are back with another episode my good name is miss kithingi and i am joined by edema store in the house silva kido guys don't worry to me kula lunch atakama one of you you know the mood is a bit low but shout out to you guys for always commenting down on the comments section you know what were us dubai guys we see you talk to you funny asho kubei very very soon invitas we will come but today's topic of discussion is the society pressure of having a child how big is this pressure where is it coming from what is the effect of this society pressure because we've seen people you know online and even people we interact with one on one me me nili ulizo adiwa kachoka sasawa meni atia mungu but you see now that's society pressure how is it affecting us and how does it come because i feel like it comes in different forms sometimes not just pregnancy if you if you're done with school ahead after kazi ama if you're done it's cool when i'm here so sometime you can settle down and then when you settle down it's but don't you think they are right but you see a do it's okay they could be right they could be right yes but then again let's say for instance we're talking about the child a child here the society pressure of having a child a child is not something you just wake up and you say today i'm having a child yes there are so many things that are put into having a child first of all how you gonna carry this pregnancy do you have the money to sustain yourself the entire pregnancy period are you psychologically prepared those are things you cannot ignore you are complicating this thing so why why you pressure in me how sure are you about putting pressure i am an adult i'm allowed to choose and have my own choices no listen i'm an adult i'm allowed to have my own choices i'm allowed to live my life the way i want one thing you must know your parent well that's okay but it can't continue if the child is going to do nothing no it's not that you are the best for you yes bro do you know there are people also who are suffering because they had children that they had not planned for but exactly why are you going to bring a child why are you going to bring a child in this life just to please he's not in your relationship and why are you guys seeing why are you going to see children as a burden no it's not a burden it's preparation are you prepared to have this child is your are you ready you know psychologically prepared are you ready to raise a child i don't know yet You've just been a judgement of a new result. I'm not being judgemental. You are. Beti. Beti, you plan yourself the better for you. Angali aivi beti. At times kupatam tui mapema. Kusam tui ni blessing. Let me finish beti, let me finish. At times kupatam tui mapema, ina sedi yanga a lot. Kusabena kumiaivi. Mdwe reza kusedi awe wuka become more... Responsible. Responsible. Uka tu liya chene. Mdwe reza kamko family yama kakamko ako. Akak yunai tui na bofenti ako. True. Onaget. Na kuna si kumtoia takuja uta teseka. People watching us here. They have families. They are looking for to have families. Ume pata chance. Yakupatam tui mapema. Zazi ya kuskuma. Mupatam tui jana mojana. Taka mapema. I do ni ni. Yakuna kazi ageki dogo. And takam say to mdweftem toto. Mdwe rata kam. But usi seme. My time is jafika. Because of one thing. Uwe mdwe reza kuja ina different way. Reza kwa unplanned. Mdwe reza kumtoia. Mdwe reza kumtoia. Mdwe reza kumtoia. Uwe mdwe reza kuja ina different way. Reza kwa unplanned. Kapatam tui. Dure jama kapotea. So mdwe ya kikam. Namzize ki sema upatia mdwe. Mdze se shaw na mbeine. Me ya disagri. Me ya disagri. Me ya disagri. Was aso kwangia. Kwangia tuwa mese. I disagri. Because they see. What anidipu kid doata before tuve. Before useme you disagree with me. Thing is, I am still responsible right now. And I am not ready. What part of I am not ready you guys cannot understand. I am not ready. I am not ready. I am not ready to be responsible right now. Financialli. Financialli. I am not ready psychologically. I am not ready financially. I am just not ready. And when I feel ready, I will know. I will know. There are things I need to plan before I decide that. But if it happens accidentally, well and good. But if me making a decision, it's gonna take time. But sometimes also it's good. It's good to know. As in, kuna vituzi na kuchaleju me cheki kama yo, kitu mese ma, ita kusahidea. Beti kuna venyam toyuki wama na gaivi, mama kiyama na gamu toiwa keivi. Nuna. There is how like mainda kuna shift. Nuna cheki. Una janza kuji challenge vii different sana. Una zaku pendulum toi. Una get. Una zaku fanya vituzi. Nginiata, kama uru kuna fanya ga job moja. Una zaku tafti ingini. Nuna. Ilikum. Nuna. Lakin uzi se ma atu ya no trade. This thing is not a process. It's not to do ya agi. Usi complicati ki tu tafu ta mutu. Kana e tulia na e zaheni aza familiar po. It's as simple as that. No, that's very hard. Tifa, ati tafu ta mutu. Tafu ta mutu. Ika macha usubah market. Nika maia. Nika maia. Nika maia. Nika maia. Nika maia. Nika maia. Nika maia. Are you single? Are you single? No, you don't just speak someone you want to raise a child with. Just ati ako. Kujetupatia mtoto. It doesn't work like that. Yeah, it doesn't work like that. It doesn't work like that. It doesn't work like that. So mta kama laikama. Bro, wekwaza wkuna mtoto. No, do you know the feeling to be a dad? Do you know the feeling to be a dad? I don't know. I don't know. Do you have a parent? Do you have a fee? Do you have a child? Do you have a feeling to be a dad? Do you have a feeling to be a dad? To be called daddy? To go home? Wekwaza wkuna iyo feeling. I have one. That's why I can say. What kids? What kids? Unless you're a deadbeat, you don't spend time with that kid, you'll never show. Yeah, this is the kind of kid. Yeah, this kid was just one. You want to get a baby. Apana. Nice. One thing, first, there's what we call lineage. That lineage will be protected. Bro. Nugets. Let's say like me, I have to protect my lineage. Nugets. By the, let me just ask you. By the, in identity 40. There's this thing, nameless, alikwana aftaku, ni nimto toa ke, the third girl. Sindio. Kuliko na komentia, msi alibu komentia. You should have a boy. You should have a boy. Uno na like, mentality outlook of very, very different. Different. That's just a mindset here, 1970. What do I Facebook on? What do I Facebook on? Hey. But then what do I Facebook mindset, those na kwa ga different. What do I Instagram different? What do I Twitter different? They are just different types of audiences. No, but I feel like, you don't go around forcing people to have kids, just because you want them to continue your lineage. It has to. No, with kids, you know. Or else, or else. Or else, or else. And that's why, let me tell you, before, parents were just raising kids without even knowing their kids well and all that. And it has really messed up with a lot of people's minds and how they get. Roken children are just being raised. Roken children. Yeah, and the traumas that are going on in those houses and all that. But now, let me tell you, you know better. You understand better. So, for you to get a child and your child to have a better life than you had, or better mindset or everything, you have to be also in your head psychologically prepared. Financially, we are living in hard times. You can't just bring a child to this world because I'm continuing my lineage. So, let me tell you, to go hard times. To go hard times. Do you want to have kids once a month? That's not what I say. But my child cannot suffer because I just decided to have a kid. Are you suffering right now? At that moment, are you suffering right now? I think it's time. That's not the kind of life I want for my children. Right now, this is not the kind of life I want for my children. Right now, this is not the kind of life I want for my children. Please say, this is not the kind of life I want for myself yet. So, I can't have a child right now because dad and me I'm not even satisfied with the kind of life I'm living. And the goal is to make your children's life better than you had. So, if I feel like I'm not able to provide that right now, so, where are you guys for me? You guys want me to go into Miza, Mkinita, Mama, Iwiju, So, you want to tell us that these ladies that are Miza, Painge, they are Mizirebo. We are not Mizirebo. They are living good and you are kusawa. When you hang out with people who have kids. In fact, if you want to have a kid and you want to have a kid and you want to have a kid, you can't have a kid. That's a lie. That's a lie. It's true. It's true. No, no, no. Also, you're putting a lot of pressure on a child that this child is going to make me happy. It's true. It's true. Mimi, no, no. Excuse me. Come on, guys. Come on, guys. Mimi, what's your name? Nice to meet you. Nice to meet you. Nice to meet you. They have no... Let me tell you one thing. I may marry to a lady, isn't it? To make a son of a Bahasa but you know one thing that makes me happy when I go home. Is that to me to Iwango? Yes. I'm sick in Iwiju. Yes. In any pamba, Iwango is my best friend. So, so, so... In fact, Iwango is a friend that I've met before. So, so, Iwango is a friend that I've met before. Because at the end of the day... Iwango is a friend that I've met before. Where were you? Iwango is a friend that I've met before. Mimi, honestly, at the end of the day, let's people live their lives. Don't pressure people into doing things that they don't want, they're not ready for. You guys are complicating this. We are not complicating. You are so westernized designing it. It's not westernized. It's not complicated. I don't know what you want. I mean, I don't know, you guys are just not used to having people knowing what they want. I just don't get it. It will be too late. It will be too late. Kwa kwa kwa. Hey, so, you are so westernized. Iwango is a friend that I've met before. No, you guys, you are so westernized. Iwango is a friend that I've met before. When a child comes in this world, it is literal. Who doesn't want to see how it's gone? Let me ask you, every single day, do you have a child? Yes. Kwa ni munao ga? Eh. Ui mtui ya kiki kuja, hatapa yo kitu na kula si. Kwanzao, kato, ana rilae on mimi for 9 months. Niyin ni munao ga pato responsibility. Kwa ni muna kata kata ushera tu, piga sheheri. Kwa ni kuzunguka, kwa rato pui taon. There are people who are focused here and they know what they want. It's not everyone who just wants to be a sheherei. Sto kujete ware. I think on us. We just afraid of responsibility period. Kui do mamo. It's okay so that I don't give birth and I'm not responsible of my child. I already know that. It's okay. What are your last words Kido? I will say this. If you have a chance to have a baby, please nibaraka. Don't wait aske na naisa and betia waiting. This is a bad example. It will be too late. This is a bad example. But if you have a child, please take care of the child. This is the one who does not have a child. Naisa. Do whatever you want. Honestly, this is your life. Plan the way you want it. If you want to have kids at a certain time, that's okay. Don't get into this pressure. Ladies have kids. They are blessings. With which men? Advise the men as well because they are not having kids alone. Men are there. Talk to your men. We are here. Opatinia wa tu miimbabuan. And do toroke. We are here. We are here. We are here. Alright, guys. Mimi, I will just say. If you know you are pressuring anyone in this society, just stop. They have a life. You don't need to control anyone's life. Whether it is in direct pressures or direct pressures or just silent pressures. Pressure is in any form of pressure. Just stop because you don't know how their life is. You don't know what they've gone through. And you don't even know what they want to achieve later in life. So just stop the pressure please. Okay. Yes, but also let us know down on the comment section. What do you think? Have you gotten any pressure? How did you handle it? How did you talk to the people who are putting in the pressure on you? Just let us know down on the comment section and make sure you subscribe and share this video to your friends. Edi Junior baka zalewe ita on. Edi Junior. Kido Junior baka zalewe. Kida mabebisha wazawe nyewe? 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