 You don't want to contradict or correct your husband in public and same same with husbands You don't want to ever demean your spouse to your children if you don't honor your children's parent Your children will not honor their parent either and remember It's still Riba or backbiting to talk about your spouse in a way that he or she Wouldn't like instead of listening to those people who advise don't let marriage change you Amend their words to marriage should only change you for the better make Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta'ala your ultimate destination