 So I thought I'll teach you something really cool that came up today during a coaching session that I had and that cool thing is the thing that nobody knows or at least nobody realizes about comfort zones and the truth about comfort zone the the the amazing thing that's going to change your life is That comfort zones are not Static things that you Try to grow. They're actually very dynamic things that change based on necessity So what does that mean? Most people when they think of comfort zones Usually people in self-development They think of them as like this you could say like this circle and anything inside the circle is Things that I am comfortable doing anything outside the circle is things that I'm not comfortable doing and The further away you get from the circle The more uncomfortable the thing is so for example right at the tip of the circle might be You know making a sales call to somebody who asked for more details about your product at the Far end of it could be public speaking in front of 10,000 people now most people think that again, this is a Circle that's static. That means you started a very Specific base, you know, maybe somebody has more comfort zone. Maybe somebody has less But it doesn't change like what it's like leveling leveling up a character like the grounds you've covered Are your new comfort zone? You know like you for example, you got comfortable public speaking in front of 15 people Well, that means you've how they say expanded your comfort zone and this is simply the new Level and what you've expanded. This is the comfort zone and it just stays like this and One the bad news is that It's dynamic meaning that even grounds that you've previously covered Can actually go back to being out of your comfort zone Which means that again, let's say you got used to public speaking and Suddenly, you know something happened in your life. You couldn't do that for a long time It's probably gonna slowly come back out of your Like come back out of your comfort zone and not feel comfortable But the good news and this is really really good news is That you can actually directly grow your comfort zone by Thousands like multiple multiple multiple times Based on one factor, which is necessity What does that mean? Necessity is basically how much You have to do something So the example that I gave to the person I was coaching was that under normal circumstances You probably won't feel comfortable just coming up to people You know that you don't know and asking them for things and you probably won't do it but Let's say that you were with your kid and your kid was very hungry and You forgot to take money with you and He really needed to eat right now how much will your comfort zone stop you now if at all Like you'd feel like something that was previously really out of your comfort zone Suddenly, it's a lot less scary because it's a lot more scary the thought of your kid like starving then the thought of just asking people for help and Regardless of how it feels you're gonna do it so you can actually Multiply and expand major grounds for your comfort zone simply based on necessity So take whatever it is that you're afraid of doing right now whether it's approaching women or Public speaking or making videos and kind of exposing who you are Anything that might be in the way of you attaining what you want You don't actually need to overcome These things like it's it doesn't have to be like, you know, I'm gonna be brave now and I'm gonna try and you know, you kind of try and then you don't do it and then sometimes you do do it No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, it's it's pointless. It's Just a waste of time and lots of mental and emotional resources The two fastest ways to do it is either getting a mentor which Relates to necessity because when you have a mentor you feel like you have to kind of live up to What he expects of you Again, it's necessity. So the the only way to do that very effectively is To raise the necessity. So if you are have trouble approaching that girl You could literally walk around for an hour and think about it and think about it think about it Not do it. You can waste full like whole days even months and The reason I'm using the girls example approaching women is actually because this is what happens happened to me like And also it happened to me in sales by the way with cold calls at the beginning like it was just too scary And I would like I would say okay today's the day I'm gonna, you know approach this many women and you know Get a phone number or something Again same with cold calls like okay today I'm gonna make this many cold calls and I just won't do it and then I try the next day and the next day and the next day and I would spend weeks trying these feats and It almost felt like the fact that I was Trying mattered because hey, I tried and I couldn't do it But it only matters if you actually did it, you know, if you didn't fail that's perfectly fine But if you didn't even do it and just tried to do it but didn't do it You get nothing not only do you not get any recognition or Why you shouldn't you know reward yourself But it's even worse because you actually condition yourself to first of all not do what you're you say you're gonna do which is literally the worst thing you can possibly do to yourself and You know beyond that. I mean like what you're conditioning yourself as a loser like hey, I'm good with not even trying so, yeah, this is a really really important point and You can skip it all so there were days where I was like, okay I'm gonna call a friend and if don't my friend look if I don't do this if I don't approach this many women Or if I don't make this many calls Today I'm gonna pay you $500 and you know what I did it. It's like the fear was gone It's like the fear was Psychological and I had it in my brain and it wasn't real because my site my comfort zone out of necessity it expanded immensely So it's just a cool story to exemplify that to summarize When you're facing situations in your life that required you to act out of your comfort zone don't try to Manually expand it the odds that you'd actually do it are very very low and it would require a lot of effort This is basically a complete waste of time It's like you've had a you have a car and you need to get somewhere and takes like five minutes But then you choose to walk so now it takes like 30 40 minutes. So It's really that big of a difference and maybe even bigger Next time you Are in that situation where you need to expand your comfort zone. Don't focus on Pushing through the comfort zone and and expanding it like you know trying really hard and resistance and stuff instead create a necessity For you to accomplish that thing that would require you to break your comfort zone and That would solve it now you might be thinking You know, I don't want to do it. It's It's too much of a stress, you know, I don't want to commit to it But here's the thing like let's say you said you're gonna do 20 cold calls today to People who might you know be interested in buying your product If you said you're gonna do it then why would you not? commit to it Why would you not create necessity if you you said you're gonna do it and that's a huge philosophy that led me Through many many decisions where I was like, well if I am going to do it Why not just act as if it's already been done? And what that means is again if you are gonna do those 20 calls or whatever it is you need to do Why procrastinate why try and then not do it and then try again and not do it Then promise to Mario would do it and then lose motivation and keep trying and why? Why and I might also Asking this out of frustration at me because I've done this for so long fortunately not anymore, but I spent I think half a year of my life like not At one time, but like six months of my life if you some all the times that I tried to do something that was scary and Try to do it without, you know any necessity and basically failed 60 months of my life half a year was spent Not doing things that I knew I should do and trying and failing so it's it's fucking horrible Okay, so that's the message I have for you Create that necessity and it will dramatically Expand your comfort zone and find out suddenly you'll find yourself Doing the very things that you know you rationalized you couldn't do because of the comfort zone again It's it's a myth. It's comfort zone is just a myth. It's it's so what like, okay, so it's less stressful It's more stressful What's outside of your comfort zone? The only question is will you do it or will you not do it? And when there's necessity you will do it and again with time it will feel less and less scary If you don't have the proper necessity, you just won't get out of your comfort zone You won't do these things again the further away from your comfort zone the more necessity you need to force you to do that and That's the message for today, so hope you find it useful Feel free to get on a coaching session with me if you want you can find the link in the description to book a call and Thank you for watching