 So today we're going to talk about self love, but from the perspective of self love from the inside out and I'm really excited to have a guest with us today. Her name is Gia Fay and she has a website, a program called body by Gia so, and I'm going to tell you a little bit about her in a second but welcome Gia. Hi Jonathan, I'm so happy to be here just to talk about self love and how it connects so much to exercise and mental health and all of that fun stuff. Yeah, you know it's interesting because I met you at the gym where we both the complex we both belong to, and it was during covid so we actually had to like make reservations to reserve the spot and there was only allowed like six people at the time. And I remember you and Michael working out together your partner your fiance and and I noticed something about you. I don't know if I've ever told you this but you just radiate so much amazing beautiful light energy from you. Thank you. Yeah, you just have this just this there's something about you that just shines and so my impetus for having you on this on you know to record this video is to go like what's your secret like what's your secret to radiating the beautiful love that you put out and I know it's self love so you know but I'd love for you to expand upon that for everyone watching. Thank you. I mean, I've heard that a lot and it took me a while to discover that light. I didn't know what it was. And as I developed my self love, and I started to raise my vibrational hurts. I don't know if you are aware with the vibrational hurts and if people are listening they're like what is this. I'm thinking of hurt like this, not hurt. H-E-R-T-Z. Yeah, exactly. So this is a vibrational hurts that I've learned more recently as I've read books that there's a there's a vibration that we carry with our emotions, you know guilt, guilt, shame, fear those are probably the lowest so your light kind of dims and then love, joy, peace and enlightenment are in the highest. And I've noticed as I've tapped more into those higher hurts, not that I don't feel the fear sometimes, but I'm able to transcend that and you know that I use that as inspiration for what's next or what is the universe trying to teach me. And so I've been able to learn to raise it and use those lower vibrational energies as inspiration to take it back up and always aligning myself I think with love is probably the reason why I radiate love I wear a lot of pink too. Okay. It just makes me feel like I'm radiating love and I, you know, I've noticed that as I've learned to love myself. That's the energy I want to put out and when I didn't love myself. I probably didn't have the same light or maybe I did I just, I hadn't heard it as much as I do now. I get similar comments when I do live streaming on TikTok now I do a lot of live stream on TikTok and yeah, it's the same. Everything you just said it's like people see it even on camera so the fact that you can see it in person. And then millions of people have seen it on camera and I get the same response I have to say that I think it's just tapping into that love energy and tapping into my creator, you know my creator that is you know, I was created by love. I am love and I am constantly reminding myself of that and I think I'm assuming that's why this is just kind of my. Well, you know it's interesting. So let me jump in because you know you're not like your typical fitness, you know. Yeah. I mean you're a curvy woman you know you got some real curves to you and and and yet I'll be candid with you you're intoxicating I mean you put out such great energy and and I don't mean that in some sort of subversive way kind of thing I just meant that it's it's really just it's such a pleasure to be in your presence. Yeah, but it reminds me a little bit my mother was very overweight. When I remember her being like five foot five 300 pounds. But what was interesting about my mom was she could walk into a room and own the room. You know she had this kind of inner confidence even though there was a depression that was causing that weight gain. She was mostly related to having some miscarriages and a stillborn child and all that kind of stuff. But you know she had she had this presence about her like she owned a room and that's something that comes from the inside. It's not about the physical and yet I think our physical well being is an important component of this well because as well because I mean you work out heavily you do a lot of exercise. It's not about how you look it's how you feel on the inside that draws out that beauty on the outside as well. Exactly and when I first started working out I was so obsessed with looking good on the outside. I thought when I was young right I mean I'm still young but like when I was your baby compared to my audience. So I mean when I was in my 20s though I remember I was so focused on looking good on the outside because I did grow up thicker. I played soccer so I had these really big thighs I still have thighs. But so I was so focused on being skinny because that's what I was being shown on TV commercial everywhere. And then YouTube came right 10 years ago I got on YouTube and I just started posting my workouts and and my audience eventually titled it curvy girls fitness. And like I kind of blew up on the Internet was curvy girls fitness. It's you know and I started to I got really skinny eventually because I went through a divorce. The first time with Michael. He's my husband long story long long story but I got divorced and I was the skinniest most fit. I mean I weighed 135 pounds on 5 8 like that really skinny. Yeah I weigh 170 pounds now. Okay so yeah that's a big difference and I know you. So when I got to that place I thought once I got to this weight it was it was the weight on my driver's license right we always lie about that. Finally hit the weight on my driver's license and I realized how miserable I was and and at that point it shifted and I realized like oh no like exercises for something completely different it's not about looking good it's about feeling good feeling good in my body. And and creating that that mental resilience you know believing that I can do something hard. I think that's the biggest lesson that I got from exercise because I would go through these intense workout I was a spin instructor if anyone's ever taken a spin class. Oh yeah. It's saying and I was insane teacher. And so I learned that like you know the more stronger I got in my body the more I believed I was a strong person. And so I was able to to handle things you know like a lot of times I had I had these fears that like oh my God if we got divorced my life would fall apart and I had that fear and then I confronted that fear. And then I didn't fall apart and I was like oh I guess I was able to handle it. You know but all of that was developed with my physical fitness and the resilience that I was building on a cellular level to then get to a mental level of resilience as well. You know it's interesting. I vaguely remember seeing an Instagram post or video or something related to you could take an overweight person who exercise and you could take a thin person who doesn't exercise and that person who exercises will actually live longer than the overweight person or the thin person who doesn't exercise. So let's talk about exercises a form of self love for a moment like like why does why is that a reflection of self love and why what's the I mean beside of the benefit I just shared there's more to it than that do you mind expanding upon. There's more to exercise like I said in my 20s I thought exercise was to lose weight right that's what most people will start exercising to lose weight and I know this because I was a personal trainer for 20 years. Everybody that came to me was like I want to get down to this way. And when I asked them why it was like they were frozen they're like I don't know it's just because that's what I'm supposed to do and so. So really like we've been taught and we've been programmed to think we have to lose weight because we want to look good and yes looking good is so important. But there's so much more exercise like I said it's it's not just for the physical part you know exercise for me at least helped with my confidence. Okay, we believe that I can do hard things it helps with discipline. If anybody wants to achieve any goal in their life. Discipline is the road to get there without good point and without discipline. There's no way you can get to a goal you know so I think all of the habits that I built in exercise and the habits that people build when they create a exercise lifestyle. All of those habits can be streamlined to your goals your career your family your relationship goals even relationship goals you know Mr relationship coach. You know that healthy relationships take habits like me and my fiance have a habit every time we see each other. We kiss each other every time he leaves we kiss each other every time we go to sleep we kiss each other good night and we say I love you. It's the same muscles right it's a muscle that you're working and it's discipline and it's habits and so that ultimately is what exercise does and it's not something people are going to one day wake up and want to do. You know yeah no I struggle with I'll be candid with you I struggle with the discipline and and I recognize discipline doesn't care how you feel discipline as you do it. Even when you're feeling crappy you still do it and of course we have to honor our body and whatnot but you know. I really appreciate that you've talked about this because you know it seems to me that one of the most important aspects of attracting a really good life partner. Represents being your best self yeah and it doesn't just mean you know it means physically best self it means mentally your best self it's emotionally about self and also spiritually your best self. And I think when people say why are why is dating so hard and why are so relationship so hard. I don't think people really understand the importance of starting with the self and what it means to be your best self in these four key areas. You know when you work with a client you mind sharing a little bit of how you work with them to get them to that space of wanting to be disciplined like you have to want to be disciplined right. I think the the way that I work with clients typically is I just get them to start I show them all the benefits all the results that will come from the discipline and then we just get them to start. My biggest thing with a lot of my clients is you just have to start and I also I do ask for a large fee upfront because I want them to know there's no turning back from here. I don't do funds so we're moving forward and this is at least a three month I start with three months at least. So you know my thing is really just having them tell me right I'm interviewing them really you know I'm like why should I take you on as a client my time is so valuable. I do a lot of things I wanted to know why I should take my time with you so I think for them it helps them. It's almost like they're selling themselves to me but what I'm having them do is let themselves convince themselves I shouldn't be convincing you that you need to get healthier. You're convincing yourself that you're done being tired you're done feeling you know that you have to cover up you have to wear these large clothes just to cover up like why why do you want to change and so I always get them to talk about why they need to do it. And then it's like okay then that means you're ready and then we have them start and I think that's the biggest thing is like kind of holding their hand at the beginning and little by little and I'm a kind tough trainer. I like I watched you train a couple people I've seen it. Yeah, so I'm kind of tough at the same time but so it's like building the habits and then and like showing them look you did this in one month. And like reminding them with the data that I keep you know I keep the data of like the weight the inches they're losing and the habits right like so one of my my recent clients when I first worked out with her she or when I first tried to train her she couldn't work out at all by herself. Okay, we're a year in and she does on her own. She does two to three days and then we do two days a week. Right, so she's working out almost five days and so little by little after building those habits it's like look you are disciplined. The biggest thing right now we're overcoming is she really loves cake and that's a whole nother thing is sugar addiction is real sugar, sugar activates the same part of your brain is like cocaine does. So just think about the addiction people have on sugar. So it's again but it's like baby steps and it's trusting that they're you know I remind them constantly that they're exactly where they need to be in their fitness journey. You know and it's and it's if you can get better 1% right there's a book called like the 1% you can get better 1% a day. Think about in a year. You know so I always kind of have them think it's not in the end some people majority of people are like, I'm going to go eat all the junk food this weekend and then on Monday I'm going to start eating broccoli and chicken all day. That's not how you do it either. People but it doesn't work like that either so I always and you know the way that I coach him is I'm coaching them with realistic habits and we do a lot of habits stacking. So she likes to watch kpop, but she also doesn't get to bed in time and sleep is also one of them it's like nutrition sleep is as important as your nutrition. Yeah yeah yeah okay if you're going to watch kpop that you have to turn it off by 10 and you have to exercise while you're watching kpop so we're habit stacking you love kpop good watch 20 minutes of it while you're doing spin. You know it's it's working with the client's lifestyle that I don't want to make a client feel like this is horrible because I want to create a program for them that is going to be sustainable. That's what you need. Okay something just occurred to me I'm going to go back to something we talked about earlier and thank you for that because I really wanted to emphasize that for everyone watching. You used to be your five five five eight five eight five eight so used to be 135 now you're 175 okay and I suspect from the dating perspective and not that you're in that space right now. Most people think well I have to be that way before I can date you know but there's a reason why you're not there anymore. Like why so and the fact is I know you're very happy where you're at right. You know you're and so not that but why is it that you're happy where you're at and why why why don't you need to be like people think they need to be this way to attract people. Am I making sense can you decipher what I'm getting at a little bit yeah. Well I mean I think that you know when it comes to the weight first of all going back to what you were saying as far as like attracting your person like yeah you know I do have this conversation with one of my sisters, you know, there's a lot of co dependency out there right like they cannot be alone, but sometimes we have to become we have to become the person we want to attract right so and I'm speaking from personal experience right. I used to want this great ambitious and fit you know somebody that had a healthy lifestyle, somebody that didn't drink. I wanted all these things but then I put the mirror in front of my face and I was all those things I drank. You know I did exercise I did extra I used to drink I haven't drank enough for three years. But like I exercised but I wasn't as like serious with my food. And you know I also it was just like I wasn't being the person I wanted to attract and like that makes you to kind of take that step back and like we're so focused on being with somebody because that's what society has told us. You need to be with someone to be happy and really some people are totally happy by themselves I know people that are like, I don't have kids, I'm not married and I'm the happiest person ever so not everybody needs to be in a relationship. That's another thing is I feel like our culture makes it like you know movies have shown us you got to get married have kids. Well most people don't even know how to be in a good relationship you know like, I mean that's really the biggest problem is you might want to be in a relationship. But most people aren't good at it but I don't want to detract that's enough for later in this conversation. But I think I think the most like I feel like our our purpose and mission in life should be to fall in love with ourselves. I think like I like we should become our like our our biggest love of our life should be with the person we're experiencing this life with like our soul is having this experience with this human right we're synced soul and human body. And I feel like that should be our purpose and the universe has such a beautiful perfect plan for every single person that if that plan consists of a person. It's going to be revealed to you but that shouldn't be in the front of your mind it shouldn't be like I need to find a relationship if I'm single. Like when I was single I've I learned all this right and I was I ended up being single five years and I was the happiest I could be and I did not worry about. I'm being left behind nobody's going to be with and I was an attractive woman it's not that I didn't attract men it's just just didn't sink. You know and it wasn't my priority in life my priority in life was to learn to freaking love myself with all its flaws and I'm still on that journey right I'm not saying I you know there's some days where I'm like oh I don't like this about myself but then I come back to like yeah but you're learning and you're growing and I give myself that compassion right and so we need to love other people the way we're loving ourselves. So I think the biggest thing is we need to learn to love ourselves and there's books and books including yours you know the self love book you know but you can read you can read but if you do not apply it you're not going to actually learn it. So well let's okay I'm going to piggyback from this because there's this belief I have to love myself to love another and and to that extent it self love isn't a destination you never get there. I don't think you ever like maybe like two seconds before you die you go epiphany and that's what happens right. I think it's the so when we say you have to love yourself to love another I think what I think what I believe it means is you have to be loving on yourself in other words it's a it's a it's a movement of energy versus a destination and so I really appreciate that you brought that up. So. All right, you're in relationship with Michael you're engaged the two of you work out together right. Yeah. Okay. And and do who like are you do you motivate each other like how does your relationship work yes area of exercise. We actually do motivate each other I do more of the motivating but there are certain days where like yeah I'm like oh I don't want to go do you want to go and he's like let's go. And I'm like oh I'm so happy he said let's go because I wasn't going to go. And this is funny too because I have a lot of girls through my social media will post a post that like you know we're working out. And they'll be like oh I wish my guy like to work out because if he worked out more I would work out more and I check girls I'm like no. You need to be the person you want to be with right so like a lot of girls I hear this all the time like oh I wish my guy wasn't you know he eats bad he doesn't work out like oh I wish he did like your guy because then I would. Yeah. Like that's where I feel like people find excuses to blame others right for them not just doing it like why aren't you doing it why aren't you being the motivator. Right but that's it's it's human nature to blame other people for not for the reasons why we're not doing something and that takes maturity to eventually be like no I'm kind of responsible for my own life. Nobody can tell me to not work out or to work out like I choose it if I want it but if they don't have a why right if they're already in a relationship and they're comfortable. Yeah. Most of the time it's you know they say people gain weight in relationships because they get comfortable. They're like okay I've got my partner and then sometimes these people get cheated on and I know because I've trained women that let themselves go and then they find out their husbands are cheating and it's like. Not that I'm giving any excuse there should never be a reason to cheat. But you get too comfortable you stop doing the romantic stuff you stop wearing lingerie like I literally had one of my clients go and throw away her granny panties because she still had them and her kids were eight years old. Like your kids way past grown up like I made her go throw away her granny panties go to Victoria's Secret. She lost 30 pounds with me and their relationship was able to come back together. Sometimes people stay with them you know she could have moved on but she had a family I get it you want to work it out you know but she changed everything and she had to look at herself versus be like oh well you're cheating I can't believe you did that to me and it's like what did you do how can you also hold yourself responsible because it takes two people for a reaction to happen right there's an action and there's a reaction. Her actions eventually created a reaction because the love started to die. She didn't feel sexy how do you have sex with your husband when you don't feel sexy and I know this because I've like I said I've trained women for the last 20 years and they gain weight and they don't even want to have sex with their husbands because they're embarrassed to take their clothes off. So what do you expect there's always a reaction to actions. Yeah that doesn't absolve you know whether it's a man or woman it doesn't absolve their infidelity or their behavior you said something key. I let myself go like they let themselves go you know there's there's this there's you know I have a certain I have a certain appreciation for accepting yourself for who you are. I mean it's important to self acceptance at the same time you know I think striving to be your best self with whether it's whether it's personal development work whether it's self help work whether it's spiritual work where it's physical and physical fitness or being of service all of these things when we strive to be our best self not to convince people to like us and not as a form of competition just to be your best self. When two people in relationship that strive to do to be their best self the best they can. They're probably going to experience a more enriching relationship and by letting go means that fear took over. And I know you're very familiar with the difference between fear and love. You know because when we talk about self love what really is we're talking about not giving into you know the egoic fear and giving into things that don't serve you. How do you motivate people from an emotional perspective like this is really that what we're really getting at is not the physical anymore. Talk about that emotional self love how do you motivate people in that regard because you by the way folks and I want to say this and I'll let G answer this. She has an amazing presence on Instagram and on tiktok and YouTube and these other social media because you don't just you you talk about a variety of things. I mean you you kind of sometimes you talk about stuff I'm like why does she go down that road but you and by the way you do some of in Spanish which I'm like what did she say. How do you motivate people on that emotional level. Gosh that's a really good question. I mean I go back to the vibration right most people now I don't know if I don't know if all generations are learning about this but the. The trend now is to learn about energy right everybody now is hearing energy I mean maybe people have heard good vibes right like good vibes what does that mean it's not just like a saying. We are energy right there is only energy and we are only energy and and so our feelings and our emotions. Link up to that vibration so when our when we're emotionally depressed or we feel shame because we're not happy with the way we look or we're alone. It brings us on a lower vibration and so the way that I'm motivated is really I asked the question of like how do they feel so they're there I'm just their mirror. I just like their mirror. I asked them questions and then they hear it for themselves. Like oh wow I am really I am really stressed like I am feeling really down and and I'm just reflecting everything back to them and then I basically will ask like how would you like to shift that. How do you you need to shift it because everybody has a highest self everybody has a guide a spiritual guide and I just want to ask the right questions so that they're able to motivate themselves. I'm not really I don't even you know people are like you're the motivation I'm like no I'm just your mirror. Yeah. I'm going to reflect back to you your emotions your feelings your actions because of those emotions right and then I let them figure it out. I'm not a motivator I always say that I got it. I want to share with you a quick story this happened some years ago I was on a first date with someone and and sitting across from them I literally I literally could see every person that ever hurt her standing behind her like the energy she was putting out she didn't realize this that you know while there was an energy of hurt and an energy of pain. And I made the mistake of putting on my coach's hat and I have to this is something that I struggle with because I can't help. Yeah this is I am by the way folks I can sometimes be my own worst enemy in that I want to help people and I and I and I brought it up and without really quite frankly asking permission. And so it stirred a kind of a negative response and it didn't work out but it was really I wanted I really saw this person was hurting and she didn't realize she was putting out that energy. I think a lot of people are hurting on the inside really truly hurting on the inside I think COVID brought this out to some degree and and and that's why maybe the physical fitness has gone by the wayside and the emotional fitness has gone the wayside. You know, by the way as I'm asking this question I'm not even sure the question I'm asking I'm bringing this up because coming back to a practice coming back to that conversation about discipline. And I think you'd agree you and maybe maybe you can share with me your, your practice of how you embody self love not in the physical sense but in the emotional sense. Well, I have a practice. Okay, in the morning and at nighttime. Okay, I place my hand on my heart. I close my eyes and I just take three big deep breaths in. You know just big deep breaths nice and slow kind of bring myself to the present. And then I just ask myself like how am I feeling today. Like how are you doing Gia how is your heart feeling and I feel like when you connect your hand to your heart. Your heart talks to you because your heart's like okay you're paying attention to me right now. And so just doing that practice every day just like we need to learn to connect with our heart on a date. That for me has really really helped. And then I also do a lot of meditation. Okay, I do bring my mind you know just to focus on breath so for people that are like new to meditation. It's just focusing on your breath. A lot of people think it's to get all your thoughts out of your mind. It's impossible your mind's going all day long. But if you can help your mind it's like exercise right when you want to exercise and focus on the biceps only. You have to do a certain muscle to focus on the bicep and sometimes our forearms tries to take over. But we have to consciously send the direction to the biceps or okay biceps exercising. So it's the same thing when you're focusing on your mind right when you're doing the meditation what helped me eventually I do guided meditations to but I don't like to depend on the guided meditation so what I've learned to do is exercise the focus I'm focusing on just my breath. Like when we focus on just our bicep I'm focusing on my breath so I'm counting four seconds in and then six to eight seconds out. And that the longer the exhale the deeper the relaxation and then my mind is able to stay on just the breath. So how long do you meditate for. I'll do like five to 20 minutes depending on my depending on how much time minimum. Okay, so so you'll do five minute meditation. Yeah, I'll do five minutes if I'm like if I have a busy day and I don't have time sometimes I do do the full hour. I've done guided meditations for a full hour. Those are more guided. But what I've learned and what my clients have told me as well is that that helps them when all these things are happening in real life because you're exercising that daily you're able to like bring it into one focus. You know what I mean so like doing that is my practice to exercise to focus on one thing because multitasking first of all doesn't work. It's been proven you cannot do you know as much as women are like we're great multitaskers you're giving you know you're giving really half-assed energy to everything. Yeah, that's kind of one thing and I've learned this as a content creator. I used to write, edit, write, shoot and edit all on the same day and post it which was so bad because every single and it was sometimes because I wasn't you know I was really trying to hit a goal every week. But I started to realize I wasn't as effective as when I would write on one day, shoot on another day, edit on another day and then write the captions and make sure everything goes out like you know so it's just learning you know meditation that practice just helps you learn to focus. It's like focus is so hard with social media with all these things are so much things going on outside of us. Yeah, we need to exercise the focus. So, tell me if I can go down this path and if you say no we won't go in that but is okay if I share you know the spiritual journey we did. Yes, oh my god. Good, good, good, good, good, good. So, folks actually my audience knows that I do plant-based medicine journeys in a very guided curated format and actually I invited Gian Michael to join. He's not a shaman but I call them a shaman it's a husband and wife that put this together and it's a psilocybin I just want everyone to know. How would you be open to sharing your experience for the two of you and the fact that you've gone back three or four more times would you the importance of that because I look at it as like meditation on steroids. Yes. I want to share with my audience this because I'm a big proponent of doing plant-based medicine journeys to awaken the heart to clear out energy that your shadow and that sort of thing and I'd love for everyone to hear it from another person. No, I mean I feel like anybody that's ever like had trauma you know and I'm talking about like child molestation, a psychotic episode, divorce that maybe was debilitating for you. Anybody that's had trauma which I feel like. Bullying in school. Bullying in school that maybe traumatized you for a lot you know for years on end I feel like going in that going under I say going under because it's like the matrix you literally put your little headset on and you go to another place. Yeah. When you learn like for me what was what was revealed to me in the the mushroom ceremonies is that time first of all doesn't exist really. Yeah. And then future is happening all at the same time so I can actually connect with my future self right now. I can connect with my child I've connected with my seven year old I was molested as a child that's seven years old, and I've connected with her. I've connected with that little girl and I'm like I'm using my voice and I'm speaking up for myself now. I didn't do it then, but I'm doing it now for you. And yeah it just it opened myself up to the fact that like we invite everything into our life there was one ceremony where I was in an empty room it was everything was white. And the universe you know God you know was like what do you want to invite in your life. I was like well I want abundance I want health I want you know I was just inviting and it was just so easy like okay. There you go and it's like those mushroom ceremonies literally would take me out of my body like I left my body. And I was like oh wow that that's the avatar that I'm living life through. Yeah. Once that changed my perspective I mean I've had moments where my spirit my soul will come out again and be like you know I'll be in a conversation with people. And I'll feel uncomfortable. And then my soul will be like remember this is just a simulation and this is the the body that you're you're experiencing this reality with. Yeah. And so it just detaches you from ego it detaches you from your description like I'm a Kirby Latina you know LA girl fitness trainer YouTuber take talk like I am none of that. I'm really just a goal that's living the experience through this Latina influencer you know whatever it is. So it took me to this place where I was able to connect with God on another level and yeah it was the best experience and I'm still afraid to do ayahuasca. Oh I've done it and I was miserable. You know what I didn't I made the mistake. I didn't respect the medicine. I went in thinking it was going to be like like psilocybin and and I went in a bit cavalier land let me just say something. The first thing to be aware of if you choose to partake in ceremony is to respect the medicine because this is medicine that comes from the earth. This is medicine that has a DNA to it it has a spirit it has it has a mind of its own if you will or it has a mind let me say. And if you go in not respecting it like I did I had a miserable experience. Really quick though too with the mushroom ceremony. It also revealed to me that I am so loved and I am so perfect. Just the way that I am and even in that moment I realized you know because I'm you know I'm an influencer you have to look so pretty online and I left my body and none of that mattered. I remember coming out of it I had my makeup my lashes everything was all and I and Mike was telling me all your lashes and I said and I didn't care. I was like it's fine. This isn't real. Like it doesn't matter. Like it's just the outside of me. It's the inside that matters went through this literally this place where I was like I'm all love like I'm literally love I'm created by love. I am love like what else nothing out here matters. And I think going back to that first question that you started with like that's why I radiate this energy because I knowledge that that I learned that. So yeah going back to your I was good let me know how that was with the I was good. Yeah no well I had a while I want to share two things with the audience. So I'm going to ramble for a little bit. Not that you do I'm going to say I do. I do a little bit. Huh. I said I have ramble a little bit. Okay. My last so for me when I began doing my my journeys it was because my son had passed away and I wanted to really connect with him and I believe that by using medicine I could connect with spirit. And I had this profound experience by doing you know mushroom ceremony and I really connected with him I really felt like I connected with the other side. So for the next couple years I was actually going with that impetus. And I was connecting with them I really felt like I was connecting with them. And then about a year ago I did ceremony and I said I want to connect with you Connor and he said dad stop bugging me. I'm doing fine you know this is your journey. And and it was like whoa like really it hit me strong like he's like you know you can you can not release me or let me go or anything like that it was just I'm doing fine and you'll get I'll get to see you again in this in this non physical form. And so I've had these really amazing experiences since then centered around self love. That was the one thing I wanted to share just much like you is I get this sense of who I am as a person without the mask. Oh and the other beautiful thing is you get to commune with other people and you share your experiences like the like the last hour and a half is connecting with everyone else and hearing there is experience that's almost worth the price of admission. The ending experience not the experience itself. But what I want to share with everyone is I did something called the Hoffman process about six years ago. And this was a deep deep deep program to heal childhood wounds and traumas and adult traumas that cause our negative patterns and our limiting beliefs. And there's a ceremony two days beforehand where your little kid gets to play. And while I'm sharing this for everyone. I felt like I was wrapped in a blanket of self love like for the first time in my life doing this experience with a group of people and really just knowing what it felt like to love myself I went 50 years of my life. Not knowing what that felt like. I think that's the challenge for so many of us is so many is that we don't even know what it feels like to love ourselves you and I wrote a book about it we talk about it we're talking about it. But to really you know this is this isn't easy work is what I'm trying to say this isn't something you can snap your fingers you can do one thing. It takes a lot of effort to get to this place but now you you know what it feels like to love yourself right. And like you said it is like this it's it's it's so much more spiritual than intellectual we can learn about self love. But until you really feel it on like every single like it comes from the higher power though. Yeah, I feel at least it comes I mean if it's in us. Yeah, higher power side you know it's like they know the journey we're going to take they know the time that's going to happen they know it's going to when it's going to be revealed right it's like school. We have first grade second grade third grade and like so it just can you know the universe is like okay you're on a sole curriculum. Yeah, you will be revealed this much self love like when I got first revealed I was like 26 years old. Okay, next then the next time it was like 35 where I got a really bad injury and I had to learn something else and now at 40 I went through a horrible lawsuit and it opened up a whole nother thing of self love and so it's like you're on this curriculum that you're just like growing and growing and like you're feeling it more and more and more and mushrooms for sure takes it to like it takes it to like 100% but when you come back into human. Yes, into your human body. You it's like you have to constantly remember what that feels like because when you're in that mushroom place where it takes you out of your body and you're there with God and you're just surrounded by love. It's like you just want to be there forever but unfortunately you do have to come back to your body and go back into the human experience. Yeah, many experience sometimes forgets it. So because it's like it comes back with another lesson. You know, here's another lesson remember what I taught you that time. Yeah, we're here again. It's actually people liken it to dreaming like in fact, many people say when they're on the experience. They're not even sure if if when we're awake that that's really reality like when you like there's this duality that happens with the dream world and in the real world kind of thing and people who are on mushroom. When you're on the medicine you feel like this is the real world and everything else is the dream. And so like you said when you're in this experience and then you go back into the dream you're like, I forgot like you've got to make sure to take it with you. There's an integration. And it's the same whether you use medicine or not whether you meditate whether you exercise whether you do personal development workshops. All those things is is not to just experience it but also take it with you in your daily life. And so I'm a big proponent of you know my channel is really even though I'm a dating a relationship coach Gia. I'm constantly espousing the importance of heal childhood wounds heal the drill from as practice self love exercise meditate do all these things to just be a better person and not even I don't even like the word better. I'm more happier enriched person whatever that means for an individual. And I mean relationships have a lot to do with the you know I forgot who said this but like the way we treat other people. Yeah, the way we treat ourselves. Yeah, so for example when I'm when I used to be overly critical of other people. Yeah, I was overly critical with myself. Yeah. So you know when it comes to relationships I think I mean relationship coaching is so important not just for the couple that you want to you know the person you want to attract but it's learning to relate with yourself, because we then mirror that with everybody else. And so that's what I love about you know what you do is like the relationship coaching is really just somebody learning how to relate with themselves and the better they can relate with themselves. The better they're going to relate with somebody outside of them as well. You know it's interesting and thank you so much I appreciate that I am. I'm not here to profess I'm the expert I'm the guru anything like that because I'm learning on the job. You know I'm literally and all I do is I learned this and let me tell you about it and I learned this and let me tell you about that's that's really I'm here to just teach what I've just learned like minutes ago and. I recently ended a relationship I am in has recently ended and and today she and I actually had this two hour conversation about some of the nooks and crannies of what happened. And, and we were both so amazed at how much we grew in this experience and while we're not meant to be together in that form a partnership. We got so much out of the year or so that we were together. And, and, and I think that's another form of self love is to to appreciate the gifts because she was a mirror of what I needed work on I was a mirror for her what she needed to work on where we came together it was great where we're different. You know we had to work through those stuff but I didn't realize it until really me saying it to you right now. That experience was just another form of loving myself because I grew from the experience. So I'm such a big proponent of encouraging people to just and like what you do and that's why I was excited to reach out to you I am when we connected on the beach the other day and I just reminded of the light you you shine and you are such a gift to humanity I wanted to really say this to you the amount the work you do whether your social media work the way you get out there and, and sometimes I'm jealous of you I see where the places you go and the things you do. I want everyone to, first off, I'm going to come to a close right now. Yeah, unless you have any if there's anything you'd like to share then please share and also let people know how they can get in touch with you. Oh man well I think we went through a lot I hope people were able to take something today that will lighten themselves up you know right bring the light within because everybody has the same light like the light that I carry like everybody can you know capture that light within. And so I hope something that we said today first of all was able to touch your heart to lighten you up maybe lead you in the right direction. I do have two YouTube channels my fitness channels body by Gia on YouTube. And then GFA is my YouTube channel to where I'm posting conversations like this. And it's also my English channel I've started to do some English love to because I've developed a lot of community here in the United States and through YouTube. So YouTube Instagram tick tock at GFA is probably the easiest way to find me you'll find all the channels under just and I'll put links below for all that stuff to. But yeah I hope that people were able to just kind of just look like I said look in the mirror. And hopefully we mirrored something back to them where they can relate to something like oh like yeah maybe I need to work on that and just know that you're exactly where you need to be right now. Yeah yeah. You know there's actually it occurred to me there's a bunch of more nooks and crannies I'd like to go down with you and conversation. Would you be open to doing this again. Yes definitely definitely let us know let us know comments down below what you guys maybe want us to expand on that way we kind of are guided with the comments. Yeah comments that would help to kind of you know figure out where we can also expand on anything that we might have talked to today that we didn't get all the way into detail. I still want to hear about your ayahuasca trip my sister is about to do an ayahuasca trip in a week and a half and I'm nervous for her but she has a lot of trauma she was also molested. By the same person that's me it's like it was a cousin it was a family member which is typically 90% of the time it happens it's with family which is crazy. Yeah. So she's going through that journey and it's just scary I mean I still haven't done it I'm still kind of like I don't know if I'm ready. Well you know and by the way we're still recording so if anyone but by the way I was coming to a close but we're going to chit chat for a second for fun here. Yeah. So my experience first off typically ceremony is help held with a group of people and one thing they prepare you for is you're going to have a 99% chance you're going to throw up. Yeah. She's been fasting she stopped drinking she's. Yeah. Like doing cleanse in a sense. Yeah. I did all that a day before I fasted I mean I drank liquids and whatnot. So one thing is I had nothing to purge but you still have the dry heaves. Okay. And that was painful. But and I'll be candid with you everybody else throwing up was bugging the f out of me. But you know what one thing is if you're if you're if ceremony is held with the right group. Yeah. The music it's usually music is a significant part of this process and they this was live music. I mean there was it was like a like a spiritual band if you will that did a lot of tribal music and a lot of spiritual music and such like that and the music like that part of the experience being on the medicine. Was like you could feel like you were getting inside of the notes you like you could feel you could feel the music as part of who you were like you were a molecule. With mushrooms you remember that I yeah yeah yeah it's it's there's a feeling of like being present in a way you I don't. There's a feeling of presence that is almost like you could watch a hummingbird's wings flap at slow like it like like think of a honey bird like this and you're watching it like this that's what presence feels like. Yeah. We are instruments if you think about it we're radiating we're sound radiating like if you look at what energy equals mc squared right I don't remember that but it's like matter time sound of speed. Yeah. That is what we are. So whenever we connect with the right music and the right medicine. Yeah. It just brings it on a whole mother like it takes us to that. Like you know matter we see matter we see this but we're really so much more under a microscope right we're just sound actually there's a lot of empty space. There's a lot and we're just sound that's radiating at a certain frequency. And a lot of that has to do with our emotions and you know the energy we're putting out we can also choose the energy we bring to every single day but yeah when you think about what we really are we're just sound. Like that's so that's when we go under the medicine. It's like it brings us to what we truly are which is not this avatar. You know what people you know a lot of people would judge the medicine as being bad because society has dictated this by the way in South American countries you know where this is kind of. Mushrooms was first discovered in Mexico which is like yeah exactly with the medicine like my grandma was telling me to do it. Yeah. This is what we did. Yeah there's nothing bad about it in fact it's natural you know no different than an herb or whatnot and yes for some people it might have a reaction but it's only exposing what needs to be healed within individuals and so you know I'm not here to try to sell you on doing something and I know many of you watching right now go might know go where can I find out about it Google it there's there's a lot of resources you may even type it in and see what comes up there's meet up groups and things like that. Yeah. But there's really I find that you know the the experience of being present like like literally being able to see a hummingbird's wings flap at slow speeds which happens when you for those who can deeply meditate and have breathing exercises they have that capacity certainly on the medicine. Presence is a powerful experience. Yeah. And and you know Eckhart totally wrote the book the power of now that the experience of being now. And and I want to say this because one things I appreciated when I first spoke to you I remember our first conversation it just happened by random at the gym. What I appreciate about you is that you really have this capacity to be present when you're with people. Yeah. And and there's some there's a difference between talking at someone and talking with someone. Why I'm bringing this up folks is that you know this whole thing we call relationship in this human experience a lot of people are just talking at each other. So true. I invite everyone to learn how to talk with someone. Yeah. That's so true. And you know what I practiced a lot of that now doing tick tock lives. Okay. I'm doing these new tick tock it's like the new QBC is on tick tock. Okay. That's what I've been realizing that I'm doing versus the other host is I'm so present with the audience. And you know when I see other hosts because I'm like what is it about you know because I do I've excelled a lot more than the other host and I'm like what is it and I've watched them and I realize there's just so much going on right there's like sell this bag do this sale do until there but they're not present with like the people. So the people don't feel seen like you said when I'm in front of people like when I meet someone on a human level right when I'm in front of somebody. I want to be so present I'm like what is this soul here for like what is it teaching me and and it's the same when I'm online it's just like and I'm in front of like a million people. So when I'm doing tick tock live and I'm seeing a million people it's like I still see them I see their comments I see how they're engaging and I'm just so present and that is also an exercise that takes time. Yeah. You know I see moms that you know moms are probably the ones that I'm like I'm not a mom and I don't know if I'll be one. That's not my goal in life but when I see moms. They're there it's so hard for them to be present a lot of times because there's like I need to watch the kids make sure the kids don't do this and this and this needs to be done and it's and it's really hard. So I feel like even when there's more distractions it's even harder to get to that. Yeah. Oh by the way and I emulate that because even I'm aware by the folks let me be clear about something. I struggle with being present you know when I shoot a video I'm thinking about so many different things and sometimes I'm in the zone and sometimes I'm all over the map. It takes work to get there. Well speaking of presents I actually have my presence I'm meeting a business person in about 30 minutes so I need to get my button gear. Yes. Thank you so much everyone there'll be links below to connect with GI highly recommend checking out all of her social media presence and can I give you a big gigantic Jonathan bear hug. Oh thank you so much Jonathan this was fun we'll definitely do this again. Okay thanks a bunch. Bye everyone.