 Okay, so let's say that you'd like to get more affectionate with your man. You want to make him feel loved, cared for, and nourished by your touch. You can actually calm a man down, turn him on, and make him feel more bonded and connected to you through the use of your touch. So that's what we're going to be talking about today. We're going to be talking about how to touch a man to create more affection, to turn him on to make him feel comfortable, to build a bond and a connection with him, even if you're not used to really showing a lot of affection or touching a man in this kind of a way. And so my name is Matthew Coast and welcome to Commitment Connection. And by the way, if you really want to get into a relationship where you're loved and seen and cherished, make sure that you go to the foreverwomanformula.com. There should be a link either above or below this video as well if you want to check that out. And so touch was around a long time before verbal language was, as you probably know. And a lot of men right now are kind of freaked out about touching women because of a lot of the things that are going on politically in our world right now. And so there's a lot of men who are out there that are just absolutely starved for physical touch. And so a lot of guys are kind of craving this physical touch with a woman right now, especially if they come from a background where maybe they didn't get a lot of touch when they were younger. And it's one of their primary love languages, which it is a love language, right? Physical touch, right? In fact, it's my primary love language. And it can make a man feel like he is actually being loved by you and that you actually really care about him. And so if this is your, if you're watching right now, make sure that you say hi in the chat and let us know where in the world you're watching this from. It's always cool to see where everybody is watching from. So for some men, it's more important than others, right? So you need to figure out what's important for your man and how he likes to be touched and how much he likes to be touched because everybody's different, right? Like I remember the first time I kind of learned that my primary love language was touch was when I was in a relationship where the girl that I was seeing her primary love language also was physical touch. And I just, it just felt so good for us to sit there and kind of bond together and just like hold each other and just lay together and just, you know, in hand holding touch, like it was all things that I was just like starved for and I was craving and I absolutely loved. And I didn't get a lot of that, especially when I was growing up. Like I didn't come from a family where we really touched or hugged or even necessarily really talked all that much. And so it can be really, really powerful to touch other people, especially if it's something that they really, really value in themselves. And so today we're going to talk about five different ways that you can touch a guy that can be really, really powerful, even if you're not used to kind of showing affection or touching men. And the first one is the head or hair, right? And so this kind of it builds sexual tension, it can kind of relax him, it can make him feel cared for. And so what we're talking about with the head and the hair, it's not, you know, if a guy has his hair all done up or something, you might not want to like mess up his hair if you guys are like going out or something. But just like kind of rubbing the back of a guy's head, right? Like you can do it almost as kind of like a massage and just like kind of touch the back of his head. It's kind of a little bit more intimate and just kind of stroke your fingers through his hair and the back of his head that can feel like just really good, really calming. You can make him feel like you really care for him, right? A lot of guys will kind of like just drop their head down like this when you start touching them like that. And I've seen guys that were just like, just jacked like angry dudes, right? And they're just like in a fit of rage at the moment. And you see like this small girl walk up behind them and just, you know, kind of start touching him in the back of, like on the back of his head, just on his hair, you know, and just like, I saw a girl one time walk up and start whispering in a guy's ear while she was doing that. And he was just like, this big guy just like kind of relaxed and kind of sat down and just like totally chilled out went from like, Royd rage anger to like totally chill and relaxed within like a minute or two. And so it can be really, really powerful. Just doing that rubbing your rubbing his scalp and just kind of touching the back of his head like that. It can be, it can be really, really powerful. And it's also something that you can do when you're like laying together and you're just, you know, touching his hair. And, and it's just a normal part of intimacy that two people have is like touching each other's hair and stuff like that. So it's definitely something that you can do. Number two is the neck. And so in the neck, there's this thing called the vagus nerve that runs through your neck. And it actually, it triggers something in your body called the parasympathetic nervous system. And your parasympathetic nervous system is something that they call it feed or breed, right? There's like two sides, there's a sympathetic nervous system and parasympathetic. Didn't know you guys were getting like a medical lesson here, did you? And so the sympathetic is like fight or flight, which is like, you know, anger, it's like running away from things like freaking out. And the parasympathetic, which is what the vagus nerve in the neck will trigger is feed or breed, which is kind of like this calming, like relaxing, it can make people go to sleep, right? And medical centers, a lot of times people will rub somebody's neck right around their vagus nerve and it'll help them like relax and fall asleep and chill out because it sends kind of the shockwave through your body that tells you that it's time to just relax and chill and calm. And so you can touch a man's neck to kind of tickle him. You can touch a man's neck to turn him on because that feed or breed part is part of that turning a guy on, right? You can kind of like kiss him on the neck and that can be really, really powerful or massage him there. Or, you know, if you guys are doing physical intimacy, if he's into choking, you can always choke a guy. And if he's into that, I mean, there's some guys that are into that. So, and it's one of those things, even if you're not choking him or something, if he likes it and you can tell that he likes it, you can kind of like scratch his neck with your fingernails just real lightly over his neck when you're getting physically intimate with him or just laying there with him. And it can feel just really, really good. And just putting a little bit of pressure like right here and here can feel really amazing to somebody because like I said, it activates that sympathetic nervous system with the vagus nerve. And it can just make a guy just feel really calm and really awesome. You can kind of glide your lips around his neck and just kind of like almost touch him with it or touch him just lightly or give him little kisses around his neck and that can feel really, really amazing as well. And so I'm kind of going through the spectrum of things, whether it's like, you know, you're kind of just getting introduced to it to the point where you're kind of getting physically intimate and you're a little bit more comfortable with it. So let me know if you're watching this, if you get it, you get what I'm talking about here. Okay, so number three is his hands. And so this is early date kind of connection stuff where you can just kind of touch a guy's hands. Actually, if a guy comes in, right, like let's say that you work as a barista at a coffee shop or something and a guy comes in and you can actually, if you touch his hand, you're giving him his change and you kind of like touch his hand or linger on his hand, it's basically a signal to him that you like him, right? And you can just touch his hand kind of anytime or even accidentally touch his hand or something that can show him that that you're interested in him that you like him without being like overt or saying it or anything like that. And you can also kind of play with his hand if you guys are like out on a date and you're kind of having fun or whatever and you kind of like touch hands or hold hands or whatever you can kind of just like mess with his hand and play with his hand and touch his fingers and stuff and pick up his hand and like measure your hand against his hand or like play with his fingers or whatever. You can do that and it's kind of fun and it's playful and it's just showing interest and it's kind of creating that that physical connection initially that you want to have with a guy. And also there's obviously holding hands. There's a few women that were commenting on one of my one of my posts from our page a while back where there's a few of them that got on there and they're like, oh, men hate holding hands. Only some men hate holding hands. Some men love holding hands. It's the same with everything, right? Like there's it whenever we talk about guys like this or guys like that or guys do this or guys do that. We're never talking about all guys that are out there, right? Like guys are individuals just like women are individuals and you have different preferences and things that you like different than other women that are out there and well guys are the same way. You know, some guys like holding hands. Some guys don't like holding hands. Some guys like physical stuff. Some guys don't like physical stuff at all. And just about anything that you can think of out there, there's a spectrum of guys on probably either side of that those scales that and you have to kind of figure out where your guy is in order to connect with him in ways that make him feel really good and that kind of and that also work with you, right? Like if you are big into physical touch and you meet a guy and he hates physical touch and he never wants to do physical touch at all, that tells you a little something, right? Like it's like, okay, do I want to be in a relationship with somebody who's not into physical touch when it's something that's incredibly important to me. And so maybe you end up deciding that you don't want to be with somebody that's not into physical touch or you meet a guy that is into physical touch and you're not into physical touch. It's another thing. It's like, okay, well, one, you can kind of learn about them. And two, it's like, if it's not something that naturally comes to you or something that you really like, it's like, you know, if you're early on in those stages, it's like, is this something that I someone I really want to be with. And so there's other things as well, kind of caressing the hands where I was talking about kind of playing with the hands, but just kind of like lightly rubbing the hands or just lightly rubbing kind of the fingers or whatever. And then there's also kind of like kissing, right, like you can kiss hands. And it's it's kind of like this old like thing that guys used to do back in the day, right, where they like pull up your hand and kiss your hand or whatever. And it's kind of a sign of of like valuing somebody or appreciating somebody. And I think I think kisses in general kind of do that, right, like whenever somebody's like kissing somebody and it's not like a you know, we're kissing each other kind of thing, but one person's kissing the other person, I think there's a kind of an air of this being like an appreciation kind of a thing. And then there's also like kind of like if you're you're going into more of the sexual realm, which is kind of sucking on fingers, right. And it's it's kind of a phallic type of a symbol that you can use to turn a guy on and get him ready and kind of like whoa, like what's going on here. And you're just kind of having fun with him or teasing him or playing with him when you're doing that, even if you're not in kind of an intimate setting or whatever, it can be kind of like a little bit of a shocking thing where you like kind of like lick or like suck on one of his fingers when you're talking to him. Okay, so number four, number four is the chest. And so this is another early date kind of connection thing that you can do as well. It shows to a man that you're not just friends. And it can be a very, very intimate kind of connection. It's like for a man, his chest is almost the way that you can think of it is almost like a shield, right, or a plate of armor, right. And so his chest is like the shield this this plate of armor that he's like walking around the world with. And as a woman, you can come in and putting your hand or your fingers on his chest is almost like putting your hand through the armor and touching the inside of his almost like his soul or his heart or something like that. And so it shows that that you like to touch him and that you can touch him and that you're comfortable with touching him, which can lead to other things kind of evolving from there, if that's something that you want to do. And so one of the ways that you can do this is just like with real light kind of scratching or touching. And it doesn't even necessarily need to be in a scenario where you're doing maybe you just got done kissing or something and you can just, you know, you're both facing each other and you just like kind of put your finger like on his chest right there and just kind of like rub your finger down his chest a little bit. That can be really powerful and kind of make him feel it can make a guy feel really vulnerable. You know, like I said, it's kind of like his plate of armor and you're like putting your hand through it, right. And you're like putting your hand down his chest and it can be really kind of interesting or you can kind of do like light circles around his chest. It's kind of like this really flirty kind of playful thing where you're like talking to him and you just you like, you know, just discussing whatever with them and you start like putting your hand around his chest and just kind of doing like circular motions around his chest. It can be it can be kind of intimate kind of flirty kind of kind of interesting kind of make him feel like you're kind of girly, right. And then another one is kissing him there, right. If you're in a scenario where you you're kissing or you guys are kissing each other's bodies or something like that, this can be a really powerful intimate place to kiss a guy. And then obviously during during physical intimacy, there's you can go back to the whole kind of rubbing or scratching or there's this thing that that can make a guy feel really strong and masculine where you kind of like put your arms together like this and kind of like rest them on his chest, which kind of is almost like a submission position that you'd put yourself into that makes a guy feel really strong and really powerful if you guys are physically intimate at that time. And so the fifth one onto the fifth one here is the inner thigh. And so again, this is a very intimate spot. And at the same time, it doesn't necessarily need to mean intimacy. It's almost kind of like a place where you can send like secret signals to the fact that you're together with each other or show them that everything's okay or all right. If you know, things are quiet or maybe you guys went through something where you were kind of like angry at each other or something like that. It's a place where you can touch him and make him feel kind of a little bit calmer or like, like you get him, right? Because it's another one of those kind of in the armor type of areas, right? Like his outer thighs and his legs are kind of like these places where if you're a fighter, which I am, it's like if you're fighting somebody, it's like the places that you get hit are like your chest, right? It's okay for you to get hit in your chest. And it's okay if somebody tries to kick you or something where you pull up your leg and you let them kick your leg, right? Like on the outside of your leg. And so if you're putting your hand on the inside of that, it's kind of like this vulnerable space because it's a place where it's kind of tender and raw and it's not like if you got kicked on your inner thigh, right? Like if you're in a fight and somebody kicks you on your inner thigh, it's like it could like drop you to your knees right then, right? Because it's really, really painful and really vulnerable right there. And so just putting your hand right there, like while you're like, let's say that you're walking together for instance, this is a time that you can do it. And you just kind of like you're like swinging your hands back and forth, right? And you just like kind of like accidentally like slap or like hit his inner thigh real quick. And you can always kind of like, and it's kind of this playful thing where it's fun. You're kind of creating this physical intimacy. And you can also kind of do like this accusation thing where you, you like hit his thigh and then you like accuse him. You're like, what are you trying to do? You know, I'm not ready for that, right? Like just kind of this fun playful thing where you're accusing him of like hitting on you or making moves on you, where you're actually the one hitting on him and making moves on him. And it can kind of be like this confusing, but kind of exciting, fun, kind of playful tease thing that you're doing with a guy. And so it's so another way that you can do this is you can touch him there. Like let's say that you're sitting at a party or something like that. A lot of guys want one thing that a guy will do to it's not necessarily like a test, although it can be a test is a guy will take you to like a party around some of his friends and see how you interact with those people when you're there, right? Are you staying with him? Are you coming back to him? Are you showing everybody that you're with him or are you kind of going off on your own and pretending like you're on your own and you're not with him at all, right? Which is the red flag for him. And so if you're like hanging out at a party or something, you're hanging out with his friends and you just like put your hand on his, his inner thigh, right? Like not even not like in a like sexual way or anything like that, but just putting it putting your hand there. It's kind of like this signal that you're giving to him and to the rest of the room that you're with him and that you're there together and it can be really, really powerful from a standpoint of a guy feeling like you're really with him, like you're there with him, like you're loyal to him, like you guys are in this together, which is a really powerful thing that a lot of guys want to feel. And then another way that you can do it is you can do it in situations or scenarios where you're not really supposed to touch him on the thigh, which can be really exciting and fun and kind of a huge turn on for him. And so areas times when you might do this might be like a time when you guys are like in the car or something and you're like kind of reach over and let's say he's driving and you you put your hand on his thigh, right? That's kind of like a it's kind of an interesting time to do that because it's like there's nobody that you're showing this to and you're it's it there's almost kind of like a possessive kind of nature to it, but it's also kind of like an intimate nature and it can make him kind of feel like he's starting to get himself into them into the mood because you're doing this in a scenario where it's not supposed to necessarily happen, right? And you can do this also like let's say you're at the mall or something like that and you're talking and you just like put your hand on his inner thigh and it's just it's kind of a tease, right? It's like a tease for more to come. And I've talked about that a few different times. I'm going to do a whole live stream on teasing and how that works and how you can do it from like a really high macro level and kind of on a more technique like this is exactly what you say and this is exactly what you can do to really tease a guy and turn him on and make him really excited and passionate and desiring you a lot. So that's it for the the five. The first one was touching his head. Oh, and by the way, if you guys have questions about anything make sure that you put them in the chat. And after this, I will go through and see what kind of questions everybody has and answer everybody's questions. So let me know if you have any questions in the chat either about this or your life or anything that you want to ask me questions about, I will answer questions about whatever you want. So the first one is touching his head and his hair like the back of his head, right? Or you can touch the top of his head. Number two is the neck. Number three is his hand. Number four is his chest. And number five is his inner thigh. So let's see what do we have for questions here. Hello, hello, hello, everybody. Hello. Oh, and by the way, if you if you're really serious about getting into a relationship where you're loved and seen and cherished by a great guy, then make sure that you go to the forever woman formula.com. There should be a link above or below this in the description to get you there and go check that out. So all right, let's see what people have to say here. Washington, Tennessee, Philadelphia, Alabama. Hello, hello, hello flower child. Sue. Hi, how are you doing? I'm doing fantastic. Thank you. Thank you for asking, Sue. I agree with you about that. I am watching your video right now. Well, I hope you're watching. This is a live stream. This is a live stream. I hope you're watching my video right now. So Mona says even he doesn't show that he wanted to be touched, right? Well, like I said, it's like, how does a guy show that he wants to be touched? Like what does a guy do to show you that he wants to be touched? Right now, we were like I was talking about earlier, we're kind of in this place politically around the world actually, mostly kind of in the West where there's kind of this weird thing going on around touching women. And so a lot of guys are kind of very, very hesitant about touching women. I've talked to a lot of women that are like, yeah, I've gone on dates with guys and they're like freaked out and scared about touching me and they don't touch me. And it's kind of this thing. And so touching a guy can be really powerful and it kind of gives him permission and makes it so that he feels like he's allowed to touch you without it being kind of this weird thing where he's coming across badly, right? So touching can be fun. And if you want to get into touching and you want to make it more normalized, you can just touch everybody, right? Like be a touchy-feely kind of person and just touch people, you know, when you're talking to them, touch them on the shoulder or whatever, touch them on their hand, grab their hand, shake their hand, hug them, give people hugs when you talk to them, if you know them, or even if you don't know them, I like to give people hugs. I'm a big hugger. I like to give people, everybody that I talk to, that I even have even slightly or remote kind of like friendship bond with. I'm like, yeah, you know, like, give me a big hug, right? It's fun. Selena says, took a break from medical lessons, found another one here. Nice. So Saudi Arabia flower child says, thank you. Mona says, I found out he does like to get touched, but he might be shy because usually I am the one who starts touching and flirting. Yeah, like I was saying, there's a lot of guys that are very kind of shy or timid about touching this day and age. And so it can be powerful just to give him kind of, you know, touching him just to give him permission to start touching you back. Ashley says, what if I'm nervous about kissing my sweetheart in public? Well, is he nervous about kissing you or is it just you that's nervous about kissing him, right? You can always start light, like if you want to do like public displays of affection, you can always just start light and start something that's not super heavy and just do things that are lighter and kind of build up and get yourself more comfortable, right? Like when you're not, when you're nervous about something or something makes you uncomfortable or you're afraid of something, the way to get over that is to do it. And so even if you're kind of doing it in small chunks, you just do a little bit, a little bit, a little bit, eventually you'll start becoming comfortable with it. And then at some point, everybody will wonder why you say that you used to be afraid of it because they'll be like, oh, wow, it's amazing. You're very comfortable with this and you're very confident in this, right? And that's, that's how you build confidence and become comfortable in something is to do things that are uncomfortable. Takesha says, not sure, not sure how to be flirt with my guy. Some tips, please. Well, I just gave you some tips about flirting kind of with your hands and touching, but you can also flirt with a guy with kind of, there's a ton of different ways you can tease guys, right? Like one of the best ways to flirt with a guy is to accuse him of flirting or hitting on you, right? Like it's one of the best, it's one of the best ways that you can do it because it's basically showing him or telling him you're creating a frame, right? I talk a lot about framing, especially in my Love Frames toolkit. If you're interested in getting that, I think there's a link around here for that as well. And in framing, you basically, what you want to do is you want to frame yourself as being this really valuable person. And how do you frame yourself as being a really valuable person? Well, one way to do it is to accuse him of flirting with you or hitting on you, right? And so if you're like, you know, like, are you like, like what I was talking about before, where you like hit his thigh and then you're like, whoa, whoa, what are you doing? You know, I'm not ready for that yet, right? You're accusing him of kind of hitting on you and like making advances towards you. And he's not. And it's kind of this fun, playful, kind of flirty thing. You can do it in a whole bunch of different ways, right? Like if a guy says something to you, and you're just like, you're like, is that your best pickup line that you have for me right now? Like you can just accuse him of trying to hit on you, accuse him of flirting with you, accuse him of trying to, trying to get into a relationship with you, accuse him of trying to be your boyfriend, right? If he talks about like, like going home or something, be like, you know, whoa, I'm not ready to go home with you. Like, you know, I like you a lot, but I'm not, I'm not ready for that yet. You know, like we, we need to be a lot more comfortable with each other, right? And he probably wasn't even meaning it, right? But you just switched kind of the, the conversation from being this conversation about like this boring topic of going home to this topic of like, he's trying to hit on you and he's trying to get you to go home with them. And he, you know, he might kind of backpedal with it, or he might kind of have fun with it, you know, like, oh, I know you'd want to or whatever, right? And it can be a kind of a fun, flirty kind of way to have a conversation with a guy. There's a lot of different ways you can compliment men, right? Complimenting men is a really great way to flirt with them and just, just saying just things about them, right? Like just talking, even if it's kind of more of a superficial thing, if it's something that he's kind of worked on for himself, it's a great way to flirt with them where you're just like, hey, you know, like you just, I don't know, you're, you're, you know, it looks, you're, you're billed. You have just amazing muscles. Like, wow, that's just, it must have taken you years to, to get strong like that. That's, you know, a good job, good job on that one, right? And just doing stuff like that, just saying, just giving them compliments and just complimenting them on things, especially that he's worked on, right? Like the build thing is, is a good one because it takes a lot of time for a guy to like build himself up strong. If that's something that, that he, he does. So Sandra says, is it a good groan if I've kissed his neck and he groans or is it discussed? Well, it kind of depends on what kind of a groan it was, you know, was it like a, or was it like a, you know, like, I'm not sure you know, like it depends on what kind of, was it more of like a, like a satisfaction kind of thing? It depends on what kind of a groan you're talking about. You'd have to, you'd have to like record a groan, record him groaning and then send the file to me and I'll listen to it and I'll tell you whether it's a good groan or a bad groan. So IMCT says, what touches don't men like? Um, what touches don't men like? Men don't like, so like I was talking about before, it depends on the man, right? There's, there's different men that are into different things. And if you date a guy and he's really into something, right? Like let's say that you date a guy and he likes to wrestle and he's just into like wrestling and like choke holds and like messing around and you scratching on him and stuff. And you date another guy, he might be totally turned off by that. And so you got to like experiment, right? You got to experiment with him to kind of find out what he likes and what he doesn't like. And an easy way to do that is to just ask different things, right? Like just ask them, it's, it's, I talk about this in, in actually the forever woman program. If you want to get that, you can go to foreverwomanformula.com. Links are up above and below here. Had to throw the shameless pitch in there. But one of the things that you can do is, oh man, what, what was I just talking about? Touching? What touches does he not like? He doesn't like, oh, so you have to find out what he's into, right? So one of the things that I talk about in that program is the, is the would you rather game. And it's a game that you can kind of play when you guys run out of things to talk about or you want to kind of do a flirty thing or just have fun. And you just ask him a bunch of different questions that are like, would you rather this or that, right? And so you can say this or that you don't have to use the would you rather, you can just say, you know, like tea or coffee, right? Like hot or cold, you know, beaches or mountains, right? And you just kind of play this game where you learn about each other by just asking each other questions about either or. Well, you can do that with kind of touch as well, right? You can say, you know, like, do you, would you rather this or would you rather deep, you know, would you rather light touch or would you rather deeper touch? Would you rather, you know, I touch you here or would you rather I touch you there, you know, and just kind of ask him questions like that. And you can learn quickly what kind of things that he likes or that he doesn't like. Chrissy says she's in the Bahamas and there's a hurricane there. Well, I'm sorry to hear that. Ashley says, well, we never been around each other yet, but I want it to be special. Okay. Flower Child said I am touching. I am a touching person, whether it's the arm or a hug. I love, I love touching. It's my favorite thing. Literally my favorite thing in the world. Barbara says kind of hard to get the shoes for my girl, even though I get some, but not a big deal. But I don't know what you just, I don't know what you're talking about there. Yayay says when I, when I asked him why he said I should delete my Facebook and he will delete his as well. And we'll no more talk with a girl. I don't know what you're talking about there. Yayay. You got to give us some, some context here. You guys are on Facebook and he thinks that you should delete yours and he should delete his. That sounds ridiculous. All right. So Takisha says, thank you for the tips. Love these videos. You are welcome. Barbara says hard to get a check from the prices. How could you picture? What? Hard to get a check from the prices. How could you picture? I don't know what that means. Camila says, Hey, Matt, I would, I like what you did with your hair. You look like a Catholic schoolboy in a good way. I don't know. I don't know what that means. Camila, Catholic schoolboy. Okay. Well, I appreciate that you like my hair in a good way. So Camila says, is there a way to touch a man specifically that can reveal whether or not he is into me by his reaction? That is. Well, I think that if you touch a guy, it's, I mean, it depends on the guy, right? Like it depends on what's going on with him because touching is more of like, Hey, I'm interested in you, right? And if you start touching him and you're giving him permission to touch you back, a lot of times what will happen is he'll start touching you. And so it'll become like this thing where you can like he'll, he'll start escalating. You'll both start kind of escalating touch with each other until you get to a place. And so if you start touching a guy and he starts touching you back, right? If you start, you like touch his hand and he like squeezes it, right? That's an indication that, that he wants to touch you. Or if you, you touch his hands and you put your hands up next to his hands and he puts his fingers in between your fingers, that's an indication that he likes you. If you touch his hand and he touches you back, that's an indication that he likes you. If you're hanging out with a guy and it's in a non-work environment and you touch him, he will probably touch you back and he probably likes you in general. In fact, here's what the rule of thumb should be, Camilla, is that if a guy is hanging out with you, you should just assume that he likes you. That is the assumption that you should make. If a guy spends time with you and hangs out with you, just assume that he likes you. And it doesn't matter whether he's touching you a lot or not touching you all that much, you should just always assume that any guy that's hanging out with you is into you. It's very rare that guys just want to hang out with women as friends. I mean, it does happen. And for most guys that have tried to do this where they hang out with a guy or with a woman and they're like, hey, I just want to be friends or whatever, what they found is there's always somebody, there's always whenever you're hanging out, guy and girl together, there's always one of them that usually likes the other one. And if a guy is the guy that's not into you and you're into him, that can happen. It's happened before. It's happened with me. I've hung out with women that were into me and I've just been like, yeah, I want to be friends. And then we like go hang out somewhere. And they start showing me that they like me by doing things like acting jealous and kind of like getting rid of other women that come around us and like all kinds of other things. And I'm like, oh, okay, she likes me, right? That's why she's hanging out with me. It's not because we're friends. It's because she's into me, right? And that's typically the scenario almost all the time with everybody is there's at least one person likes the other person. And if I were you, I would just assume that he likes you if he's spending any time with you. And if you want him to like you, then you should assume that he likes you and you should do the things that we talk about here where I'm talking about not just kind of touching, but also kind of creating that frame around the situation that you're in and accusing him of like flirting with you and hitting on you and trying to get with you and trying to be in a relationship with you, because that in a man's mind triggers this thing that says that that's what he should be doing or that's normal behavior that most guys have, which makes you more attractive to him. If you can kind of understand that, if you if you get what I'm talking about here. So Camilla says, so basically, if he touches me back, then I'm good. Basically, you're good in general. If he touches you back, you're really good. Camilla says, she loves my laugh. Thank you. I love that assumption of liking. Cool. Camilla says, I meant more in like a work or school situation, not dates. Okay. So yeah, like I said, if you touch him and he touches you back, you know, like it's difficult in a kind of a work environment. And I don't recommend that you mess with people in work environments because it can get messy really quickly. And if things go bad, then it can it can blow up in your face really quickly, although a lot of people find their spouse at work. So you know, you can kind of take that as you will. So Diavolesimia says, can you talk about jealousy? Good, bad, uncool. Well, jealousy is a normal natural feeling that people have, right? So everybody should feel jealousy, assuming that you're not like a psychopath or something like that. You should experience the emotion of jealousy. And if a guy, I'm guessing you're talking about a guy experiencing jealousy, or maybe you're talking about you experiencing jealousy. But if you're talking about yourself experiencing jealousy, then my suggestion is that you don't act on jealousy, right? You can feel jealousy, but my suggestion is you don't act through the emotional experience of jealousy, because that gives off an impression of neediness. And you don't want to give off an impression of neediness because that makes a guy feel less attracted to you. And making a guy feel jealous can work in your advantage, but most women take it to the extreme. So I don't teach about that because it's a really bad tactic from a standpoint of trying to make a guy feel jealous, because one, it's really manipulative. Two, it can hurt a guy a lot. And three, if you don't do it the right way, which most women don't, you can completely destroy your relationship with a guy and make him not trust you and feel like you're a horrible person and not want to talk to you ever again. And so my suggestion is that you don't deal with that at all. Don't try to make a guy feel jealous. Flower Child says, if you're on a date, chances are they like you and touching is all good. Yeah. Debbie from South Africa, cool. Jasmine says, do men have to be taller than women in a relationship? No. No, they do not. Absolutely not. I know a lot of guys that are into taller women. In fact, I was actually just talking to a friend of mine about this two days ago because he was telling me about this girl that he met and he was just like, oh my God, you got to see this girl, right? And he like shows me this picture of her. And this guy is like maybe five foot 11, something like that. And this girl is, she's got to be like, I don't know, like six foot one or something like that. And he's like towering, she's towering over him, basically. And he's like, yeah, you know, like talking to her and stuff in this picture. And I'm just like looking at it. And I'm like, I'm like, that is awesome. Like that's the coolest thing I've ever seen, you know, and he's just like, he's like, yeah, she's so hot. And I'm just totally into her. And it's so awesome. And I love girls that are so tall and, you know, all that kind of stuff. And so a lot of guys are into it because from a kind of like a genetic standpoint from and just to let you know, like in the world, this this whole there's a lot of kind of genetic things in the marketplace of like sexual behavior and attraction and being attracted to one another, one another. And being tall is an indication of healthy good genes, right? Because you're a tall person. And in a guy's mind, and he might not even necessarily logically think about this. But what he feels from that is he feels he looks at you and and like in his mind is biological like primitive mind is immediately like, Oh my God, having babies with this woman would be amazing because I'd have these giant like football player kids, right? And it would make the kids taller and being tall as a man is a biological advantage in terms of finding a mate. And so if a guy's a little bit shorter, he might look at women that are taller and be like, I need a, you know, like it would be like he's really he can get really attracted to that just because he's like, Yeah, you know, like we could have awesome kids and like it would be awesome. And, and like I love women that I like that. And it just, you know, and I don't want you to get too caught up in the idea of like him just thinking about it in terms of kids. But it can be really, really attractive, right? And all of these things, all the things that men and women are kind of attracted to each other for are usually kind of these primal biological things, right? And it like there's kind of areas of like dominance where guys will be attracted to shorter smaller women because they're into kind of this idea of dominance and being a strong man and and wanting to be in a relationship where they feel that way. And then there's kind of like this woman that's taller and you know, and it's the same way with women when they look at men, except it's not as kind of instant a lot of times with women, although it can be, it tends to be more like women tend to gauge men's value in terms of their like replication value as a mate through their behavior and being a guy that's strong and capable of reproducing and having great offspring and being able to take care of those offspring and stuff. That's the biology, right? So anyway, all right, I hope that answers your question, Jasmine. So Portland Girl says, hey Matt, I told a guy I'm dating that he sounds wheezy. He told his doctor, he said he told his doctor that his girlfriend said this. Then he said, girlfriend equals you. This was over text. What is this? What does he mean? Well, basically what he's saying is that he's comfortable calling you his girlfriend and he's kind of testing the waters with that. That's what he's doing right there. If he's like, hey, I told my doctor that my girlfriend said this and girlfriend is you, right? Basically what he's saying is I'm comfortable calling you my girlfriend and it's kind of a lot of guys will do that when they're kind of testing how a girl feels about it because as much as we talk about like commitments and men being commitment phobic and men not wanting relationships and all that kind of stuff, there's a ton of women out there that are the same way. And if a guy starts talking about relationship stuff too early in interactions with women, a lot of women will just ghost on guys who do that. And so guys have learned that for the most part they can't do that when they meet a woman. They can't just start talking about wanting to be in a relationship or wanting to be married or calling her his girlfriend or any of that kind of stuff because they found what guys have found is that women will run off and disappear as soon as guys start talking like that. And so a lot of guys won't do that. And then they'll kind of slowly bring it up if that's something that they want to do. And so he's probably just testing the waters. Jasmine says, I am taller than my boyfriend. I feel like we're told men should be taller. Now, generally speaking, most women don't want to date guys that are shorter than them. And just because of kind of those biological triggers, right? Like a lot of women are like they want a guy that's bigger and stronger and like all those kinds of things. And that's it, right? That's it. That's where it is. And some guys want to be the bigger and stronger one. And they're really turned on and attracted to women that are smaller. However, if you find a guy and he likes bigger, taller women, just be okay with it. It's no big deal. Like a lot of guys love that stuff. Mona says, how can I change our conversation subject? He usually talks about work and not about ourselves. I want to know about what our position at this point right now is. Oh, yeah, I mean, it's that's what guys do is guys talk about work, right? That's what guys always talk about. And women like to talk about relationships. And so that's not a topic that men typically want to talk about. So I wouldn't expect him to start talking about your relationship. If you want to change your conversational topic, you can do that at any point and talk about whatever it is that you want to talk about. The real question is, how long have you been seeing this guy? What kind of a relationship do you have right now? And why haven't you talked about it up into this point? That's really what the question is. And if it's been a while or a long time, then that's that that should be that should be a red flag or concerning for you, because it's like it should it should give you pause. It should make you pause and make you think about things and go, okay, you know, why have we got to wherever we are and not talked about. And I haven't said because it's really, for the most part, it tends to be up to women to talk about this because it one, it's your responsibility because a lot of guys will stay in a relationship forever and not want anything more. And so you need to protect yourself because of that, right? If women were like that, then guys would need to protect themselves. But since guys are the ones that can be in a relationship forever, or in a situation ship or a casual friend with benefit situation forever and not really care for it to go anywhere else, you need to be the one who brings the topic up and discuss whether you're exclusive or whatever it is that you need and figure out what your needs are and why they're important, right? Like, do you need to have a label? Do you need are you looking to get married at some point? You know, and those are questions that you should be asking yourself because that's the kind of thing that you need to know about because for a guy, most of the time, a lot of the time, unless he feels a threat of you walking away or not being there forever, most guys will get comfortable with getting all their needs met without the labels and without exclusivity and without marriage and without any of that kind of stuff. And if you feel like that's not enough for you, one, you need to figure out what that is. Two, you need to figure out where you are together with each other. And three, you need to make sure that if you communicate what it is that you need and if he's not willing to talk about those things or not willing to give that to you, you need to be willing to actually walk away from the scenario and start seeing other people and dating other people and become less and less available for him so that you can be available for a guy that actually does want that. And I talk all about that in my forever woman program and how to do that and how to make sure that you're in a great situation where you are seen and loved and cherished. And so my suggestion is you go to the foreverwomanformula.com shameless pitch. If you want to learn about that, you can get the program for free and get my best stuff for free there. So go check that out. Robin says hello from Chicago. Thank you for these live streams and videos. I love them and I'm trying to learn from them. I am just not sure if I am ready to ask my question yet. Okay, well let us know when you are sure, Robin. Sabine says my guy called me his girlfriend to strangers in front of his siblings because it was easier to explain our connection. What does that mean? We live in separate countries and are not exclusive yet. Well, it could mean that he wants to be boyfriend, girlfriend, and it could not mean anything because it's just easier to introduce you to them as that. And he probably wants to feel like you guys are together and he wants them to know that you guys are together. And it shows that you're not embarrassed of each other, that he's not embarrassed of you, which means that he trusts you, that he likes you a lot and he wants and he's proud of you, right? Like he's proud to be seen with you. And so he wants people to see you guys together and he's okay with that. And the real question is what is that, you know, what does that really mean? You know, and we talk a little bit, I talk a little bit about labels sometimes here and there. And really the idea of labels is like, you know, there's only so much real meaning that it has. You know, the meaning that it does have is that he feels comfortable and that he likes you and that he's proud of you. And it's kind of this kind of like possessive thing, right? Like we're together, we're boyfriend, girlfriend. And there could be an implication of exclusion in there. For most people, there is unless he's somebody that's into open relationships. But most people that are into open relationships usually let that person know beforehand. So Mona says, oh, she's stuck. I'm kind of stuck. Okay. Flower Child says, tall men give me a sense of security and the protector. Exactly. Just like what Flower Child said, Mona says, it's been two months. Yeah. And what have you guys talked about, Mona? Have you talked about being exclusive? Have you talked about being in a relationship? Have you found out where it is that he wants to go with things? Have you talked to him about any of that kind of stuff? Because those are things that you absolutely should have talked to him about way before now. Are you guys physically intimate with each other? Because you definitely should have talked about every single one of those things before now, if you guys are physically intimate with each other. Jane says, I have this guy I love. We both have great sex together. I feel something deep for him, but I don't know what he really wants. Well, you should let, you know, I keep talking about this and I get it. You know, I get that what ends up happening is that you see somebody you're attracted to them. You let things go. You want it to be organic and natural, but we have a, just to let you know, Jane, we have a whole community and a lot of women in that community are stuck in situations where they were just hooking up with a guy and they ended up falling in love and developing feelings. And next thing you know, they're like, you know, how do I get to a relationship from here? And I'll just, I'll just throw some statistics at you real quick so that you get what that means, right? Because you haven't really said anything outside of you guys have been hooking up together. And so if you're trying to go from a casual friend with benefits type of scenario to something real, something committed, that happens when somebody tries to do that, it happens one in nine times. And so you need to be having conversations about what he wants and like, whether you're going to be exclusive or not, you need to have that conversation before hooking up. And I know that you're not there now, right? So that might sound a little bit like, okay, who cares? I'm not there now. Well, what it means is that you need to find that out immediately. Like immediately, you need to have a conversation with him. You guys need to hang out meet up. And you need to have a conversation with him where you find out what he's looking for. Because if you don't find that out, what's going to happen is you're going to fall deeper and deeper and deeper in love until the point where you're like totally head over heels in love. And if he is not looking for something real with you, what's going to end up happening is you are going to start freaking out and be like, oh my god, I've wasted months, weeks, months, years or even decades in a situation that isn't leading to the type of relationship that I want. So that's what you need to do. You need to talk to him. Okay, so Mona says, unfortunately, as you say, I'm always there for him. Thank you so much, Matt. Okay, I don't know what you mean by always there for him. So Jessica says, hi, watching from Mississippi. Hey, Indiana. Jasmine said, how can I stop my relationship with others? Oh, comparing your relationship with others? So how do you stop comparing your relationship with others? Well, what you do is you spend more time connecting with yourself and connecting with how you feel and connecting with what's going on with you presently in the moment and with whatever it is that you're doing. Another way that you can stop doing that is by looking at where you've come from. You know, I don't know where you are in terms of anything, but a really powerful thing to do when you're kind of comparing yourself with other people is to look back and look at what you've done, what you've survived, what you've accomplished, what you've created for yourself in life, what you're working on and how far you've come from any of those standpoints, whether it's health, wealth, relationships, or whatever. Just taking a look back at it and saying, how far have I come? Where was I before? And where am I now? And how can I be grateful and appreciative of what I have and where I am and what I've experienced and what I've learned and how strong I've become as a woman right now instead of trying to see what other people are doing, right? Because who cares what other people are doing? Who cares what's going on with other people? And a lot of the times, especially what's going on with other people, is that you don't understand that a lot of people's situations and scenarios aren't really what's really going on there for them. That's not really what's going on there. A lot of times people, it just looks like they have a ton of really awesome stuff, like they have a great relationship, they're making a lot of money, they're doing it. Who cares? That's probably not what's really going on with them. It might seem like it from the outside. They might say things like my relationship's perfect. They might be in these pictures in Instagram and Facebook, holding each other, swinging, doing whatever they're doing, dancing and stuff together. But that's kind of what we're expected to do to the world. And what's really going on with most people is we're all pretty much the same. We all have issues. We all have stuff going on within ourselves. We all question whether we're doing the right things in our lives and whether we're with the right people or not. And we all have fights with each other and we have problems. And people that pretend like they don't usually have the worst fights and the biggest problems of anybody. So okay, so we reached the top of the hour here. So I got to get going. But thank you so much for being here with me right now. Again, if you really want to experience an amazing relationship where you're loved and seen and valued by an amazing guy, make sure that you go to theforeverwomanformula.com and check out getting my program there for free. And thank you so much for being here with me today. I really appreciate you coming on these live streams and supporting me and what I'm doing and allowing me to be on your journey and helping you attract a great guy and get into a relationship that you want to be in. So thank you so much. I'm really what I'm doing here is I'm trying to help empower you and help you have the tools that will allow you to create a relationship that you really love and create a life that you really love and experience love and joy, not only in your relationship but in yourself and with yourself. So thank you so much for being here. And I hope you got a lot out of this live stream. Thanks for asking questions. I actually love doing question and answer. It's one of my favorite things. I talk to so many coaches and a lot of coaches they like don't they don't talk to the women in their community. And I'm just like, why not? It's like I love you guys. I think the women in our community are amazing. I think you are amazing. I love interacting with you. I love just having conversations with you. I love finding out about what's going on with you and hearing about your struggles and in helping you. The thing I love the most is the testimonials and watching women go from struggling to a place where they're feeling amazing and having great relationships and in love and a guy's in love with them and everything switches around. And all of a sudden a guy is stepping up and in acting the way that they thought that was just something from fairy tales or something like that. And it's so cool to see that and see women go through that. And so thank you so much for being here. And I will speak with you again soon.