 So I got a lot of backlash from some parts of the beauty community and it actually made me insecure and I was like, whoa, like, did I make a mistake? Like, I believe in this so strongly but like, people are making me feel weird and like, I didn't feel proud for a minute. Yo, so even Jeffree Star gets nervous and is self-conscious but that's precisely what makes him so successful and that's what we're gonna be talking about in this video. What is up everybody? This is Chris from the Rewired Soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution. And if you're new to my channel, what I try to do is take different topics going on in the YouTube community, try to see what lessons we can learn from them and I am covering Shane Dawson's entire beautiful world of Jeffree Star series so make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell, all right? So first things first, those of you who are new here, hi, those of you who are not new here, you've seen what I've been doing lately. Every video that I'm doing now, 20% of the ad revenue goes towards a charity organization and I will be doing a formal announcement of it later this weekend but if there are any charities that you think would be good to do this with, let me know down in the comments below, all right? But this video, 20% of all of the ad revenue is going to the ADAA and that is the Anxiety and Depression Association of America, all right? That is a phenomenal organization. A lot of people struggle with anxiety and depression and yeah, make sure that you share this video because the more views that we get, the more ad revenue and then we can give them some money, all right? But anyways, let me know down in the comments if there's any organizations that you can think of that would be good. Anyways, loved the first episode of the beautiful world of Jeffree Star, make sure you check out my last video I talked about Shane Dawson, his fear of flying and some things that we can learn about it, all right? But in this episode right here, I've been reading some amazing books lately and I loved, loved, loved this part right here so much. For, so I got a lot of backlash from some parts of the beauty community and it actually made me insecure and I was like, whoa, did I make a mistake? I believe in this so strongly but people are making me feel weird and I didn't feel proud for a minute. I fully cried and was so nervous. I even cried to Nicole, I was like, Nicole, did I make the wrong choice? So definitely, it's scary. You don't know if something's gonna sell or not. I'm gonna keep my glasses in here. But there's so much silent support and I think maybe me and you forget that sometimes. So why do I love this so much? There are so many different reasons and we're gonna be talking about anxieties and fears and nervousness, kind of like Jeffree Star just talked about. And by the way, how sick was that thumbnail? That came from Kadri Milk. Make sure you go follow her over on Instagram. She is a phenomenal artist and just an amazing, amazing young woman. She's gonna be helping me out with thumbnails and everything throughout this entire series. So make sure you go give her a follow. It'll be linked down in the description below. But first, here's something that I try to do, all right? Something that helps me with my mental and emotional well-being is looking at people who are like doing phenomenally well and realizing that they go through this stuff too. So like the first thing that I think we should acknowledge is that even Jeffree Star, right? Who's like a badass, all right? He still gets nervous. He still gets self-conscious when it comes to his launches and everything like that. If a dude like Jeffree Star is still getting nervous, like why are you judging your emotions so, so much? You see what I mean? Like one of the issues that we all have at times is judging like we say I shouldn't feel this way, right? I shouldn't be nervous. I shouldn't be afraid, right? The reality is, is this is a very normal part of life, all right? It's part of our evolution. If you didn't have anxiety, you would do some dumb stuff, all right? We need to be afraid. We need to be worried, all right? It is part of our evolution. It's what kept us from being eaten by saber-toothed tigers back in the day. But something that I learned. So I was diagnosed with a generalized anxiety disorder many years ago. But anyways, not only am I on a medication, but I have to do a lot of other things to keep this thing in check. Because if you're on medications too, like you know they only do so much. And a lot of it is our thinking problems. So the first thing with Jeffree Star specifically, I want to look at the fact that this is what makes him so successful, all right? Because if you're not like getting uncomfortable, you're not moving forward, right? Like being comfortable and just sitting stagnant, that means that we're not progressing. Like when I saw Jeffree Star talking about how he gets nervous and afraid and scared and reactions and everything like that, I'm like, good, that's good. Because it means he's pushing himself. It means he's trying something new, right? Like that's something that I try to remember. I'm laughing because I didn't even have this on my notes. But anyways, for example, those of you who don't know, I write books and one of my recent books, Rewire Your Anxiety. I remember that launch, I was talking to my therapist and I was telling her how nervous I was. I was like, how ironic is it? I just wrote a book, Rewire Your Anxiety. And I'm talking about being nervous to my therapist and stuff. And she's like, well, what? Like you think a book, like launching a book shouldn't make you nervous? Like what are you talking about? And that's what I love about therapy, by the way. Like she snaps him back into reality. I'm like, oh yeah, like you're supposed to be nervous. So when we see Jeffree Star launching like new products and everything like that and being nervous about it, it's like, yeah, that's normal. Like if you're nervous before like speaking in front of your class or doing a presentation at work or doing a toast at your friend's wedding or whatever, like you're supposed to. But that is a good thing because you're getting out of your comfort zone. All right, so something that I try to do, I try to celebrate those successes. You know what I mean? And something that I always try to remember. Like I try to get inspired every day by other people who are just being awesome. And I try to remember like nobody, nobody in the history of just human existence has done anything amazing without taking risks. Like when I'm afraid to do something, when I'm afraid to like make a video that might not go with popular opinion and things like that. Like I just remember like you gotta take risks. You know what I mean? And remember like taking risks is a good thing. Now, here's the other thing that we need to learn from Jeffree Star. Like he talked about that product launch with I believe it was the Morphe brushes, how it wasn't like as amazing and it had some negative feedback and everything like that. But here's the thing. We have to learn that there are no losses. There are only learning experiences. So when we take these risks we have to manage our expectations going into them. Oftentimes I try to keep my expectations like not negative expectations, but just like at zero, right? But something that I was taught by one of my meditation teachers was to go into things more like a scientist rather than our normal state of being like expecting good or bad. Because scientists when they're experimenting with things like they just get curious like oh, why didn't that do what I thought it was gonna do? Let's break this thing down and see what's going on, right? So no matter what you're trying to do in your life no matter what it is like see what you can do to learn from it, all right? So now speaking of that I wanna bring it back to a guy I mentioned in the last video, the amazing psychologist Albert Ellis who came up with REBT, Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy. All right? So one of the famous stories about learning REBT was sitting down at a bench in a park and like he asked just like or he tried to have conversations with like 100 women like if anybody sat down he just tried to have conversations with them, right? Because he was very like introverted and socially awkward and everything like that but he kept doing it and it's kind of like exposure therapy but part of rational emotive behavior therapy is being rational, right? Like that's why it's one of my favorite therapies because I fancy myself a logical human being and when you just talk rationally to yourself so something that he started doing was saying to himself like what is the absolute worst that can happen? And I think he only got like one date out of the 100 women he asked or whatever but the thing was like our brains they imagine something so bad and oftentimes it never happens. I'm gonna put a quote up on the screen right now from Mark Twain but he said something along the lines of like the worst things to ever happen to me never even happened or something like that because our brain goes nuts. So anyways, this trick that Albert Ellis talks about this is something I've been doing for a long time like since I got sober seven years ago but it's something that I still practice to this day. So even when looking at Jeffree Star like ask yourself like what is the absolute worst case scenario, right? So let's use Jeffree Star for an example he releases a product that's not good. What is the absolute worst thing that can happen, right? Like what I do to trick my brain is I think of something so insane that it would never happen like that involves like aliens or dinosaurs coming out and like destroying stuff, right? Like what's the absolute worst thing that can happen? Like is his career gonna be over? Is he never going to recover from it? Like absolutely not, but if you push the limits to worst case scenario something that Albert Ellis actually talks about is you can often imagine something worse and it gets a little cryptic but it really helps from what I've seen from my experience to do this. So for example, say Jeffree Star's product failed, right? On launch. Well at least he still has Nathan. He still has his friends like Shane Dawson and everything like that. Like they're safe, they're healthy. You see what I mean? Like everything bad that can happen it could be much worse. So something I do to overcome my own anxieties is I do the same thing. Like what's the worst that can happen? And the beautiful thing that Albert Ellis talks about is let's say the worst case scenario does happen. Well after that, then you get to look back at it and say, huh, the worst case scenario did happen and I survived it, right? And what that does is it gives you resilience and it strengthens your ability to take more risk because you can call back to it. You can look at it and say, oh, remember that last time I was freaking out and worst case scenario did happen? Well, I made it through that. You see what I'm saying? So anyways, like listen, like a lot of people watch Jeffree Star for a lot of different reasons, but I'm always trying to take a different angle and see what we can learn. And this is why this guy is successful. He takes risks, all right? So if you want to be successful, it's gonna involve getting out of your comfort zone and taking some risks, all right? But anyways, don't forget to show this video because 20% of the ad revenue is going to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America. All right, but if you liked this video, please give it a thumbs up and make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell because I am covering this entire series. 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