 Software developers will always be in sales. Listen to me again. Software developers will always be in sales. Before you attack me, let me explain why. And also, we want to prevent you guys from getting what you want out of life because of this problem. That being said, if you don't know who I am, my name is Rod, the IT guy. I helped take software developers career in their life to the next level, and I really put things in perspective for you. So, I want to help you guys out. That being said, guys, we are software developers. I'm including myself in this because I experienced this earlier on in my life, and I made the change to really put myself in a position so that I can get out of life what I want, relationships, money. I have fun with my kids and all that good stuff, and I expect you guys to do the same. I know you're in a dark place right now and you feel like, hey, life is getting to me. I don't have access to what I want. I'm not getting out of life, and things are not that good. You can change it, guys. I used to feel this exact same way, especially after college. It's like after college, you didn't get the job you want. You don't get the ladies you want. You was promised that you're gonna get a software development salary that you want. You're not getting any of that. And plus, the ladies don't want you, which is crazy, guys, because you've done everything you need to do, and life's still treating you like you are an outsider. And guys, yes, it's hard, but we can change this. That being said, before I get started, I wanna plug a few things for you guys. I have links in the description box where you can get access to my free community so that we can help you with this. And also, I have a seven-step guide that's gonna take you through your software development career and help you not only with software development, but anything outside of software development that could affect your career too. And if you already signed up for my seven-step guide in my community, I have premium courses below, guys, so let's support the channel so that we can reach more people and we can help you guys really take your life to the next level and don't be an in-sale. But, guys, I'm gonna tell you this first of all. I used to be an in-sale. And I'm gonna tell you why. I always leaned on technology, technology, technology. I don't have to communicate with nobody because I provide value and I can be a nerd and all that stuff, which is okay. That's not the issue. The issue is you're not willing to improve the other areas of your life and really put yourself in the position so that you can be more sociable. I went to this work event early on, guys, and it wasn't until later on I really kinda realized and started to really kinda see how to navigate life and business and technology. Cause when I used to go to work functions, I used to be in a corner by myself, didn't talk to nobody. I didn't wanna be here as a work function. They paid me from nine to five, not after, so I'm gonna just not do anything. Which, if that's what you wanna do, that's okay. That's have consequences and you're willing to take those consequences that good. I'm not asking you to kiss nobody's butt, but I'm asking you just to play ball, just to be nice and just kinda go with the flow and not necessarily go out of your way to kinda make people happy. Just do the standard things and everything to be good. So I met the company function guys and I used to be awkward sitting in the corner and people in other departments and even the ladies, they think IT guys are just weird because we don't talk, we're looking down and then when we talk, it's all about something that they don't know anything about. So they automatically put us over here in this box, which we love to talk about technology, software and all that stuff, but guys, there's a time and a place in a context for it. You're not talking to other software developers. That come across as being creepy because not only they don't know who you are and how you dress and all this stuff, it's become a problem. The way I treat this as is first of all, you treat is situational. There's a time where we, also with the guys, with the nerds, we're gonna do our nerdy stuff, but there's a time where you have to be professional and speak to your audience or whoever's in that vicinity and that situation, guys. So you're not gonna treat your wife like you treat your kids. You're not gonna treat your kids like you treat your brother. You're not gonna treat your brother like you treat your mother. So why would you treat your coworkers like technology professionals? No, don't do that guys. This is why you come across as being awkward because we gotta get our social skills. This is what ladies do so much naturally than us. They just naturally more sociable. I'm not asking you to be the best social person in the world. I'm just telling you not to be bad at it. And it's easy not to be bad at it. You just gotta just do some basics that 20% that's gonna give you 80% of the results. That's all I'm asking. If you do that in the areas that you need to improve in your life, oh man, you get what how I am now to where things are just happening for you guys. And I'm just gonna tell you my personal experience. Now I go to a company event, so I'm kinda in an in crowd now, even though as an IT guy, people feel comfortable talking to me. The ladies feel comfortable talking to me. I can wholly engage in conversation. Am I the best social person in the world? No, will I ever be the best social person in the world? No, will I be the best dresser in the world? No, but I'm not awkward. I'm not bad and people feel comfortable around me and that's the key. You wanna make people feel comfortable around you. You don't wanna be weird, come across as being creepy and this helps in all areas of your career guys. In an interview, same thing. When you're trying to buy something, convince somebody on a project, same thing. When you're in front of the ladies, on a date, the exact same thing guys. So this applies throughout your life. So if you get this, this is the foundation of you not staying in sale and really putting yourself in a position to be successful. And this is the kind of stuff that I've been working on for years. It took me probably five or six years to really understand it and probably another three to implement it to the point that I am now and that I get what I want. I'm happy. All areas of my life is good. I'm good interview at the job with the ladies. If I'm trying to convince people or something, this actually helps across the board. And the good thing about it is guys it's not hard to do to implement. You just got to identify your weakness and plug the plug in the gaps so that you can be a well-balanced person and you check off a lot of boxes for a lot of people. You don't come across as being creepy guys. We are software developers. The benefit about us being software developers, we did the hard part. Most people don't have a skill that's gonna allow them to make the type of money we make. So from a financial money perspective, you manage it right, we're golden. That's the hardest part. Most people can't get that. So you got that checked off. Now you got to take that and start plugging in the other gaps that we're missing and then you're gonna come across as being that idea person, that person that people want to be around, the people that liked and they just see you as a really good guy or a girl if you're a software developer. So we got to get that guys. We have to be that. And I'll probably do some premium stuff later on where I kinda, it's not gonna be as PC as I'm making it on camera because this is a YouTube edition guys. I can't go into the nitty gritty details of it. So I'll sign up for the community so that whenever I decide to do the premium content, I'll let you guys know. But till now we're gonna keep it PG. And there's some benefits about being a software developer if you actually do this guys. I want to help us really kinda plug in those other gaps and improve our life so that we not only we have success in our career, we have success in our life, we have success with our relationships and across the board guys. And there's some just a few easy things that we can do to really take things up a notch. And a lot of guys think that, hey, I gotta be great at social skills. I gotta be great at careerism. I have to be great at this. And that's just not the case guys. This just takes a little bit of work to get that 20% of the result or do that 20% of the work that's gonna give you 80% of the results. And that'll put you either average or above average. That's what we're going for guys. We're not going for great, but we don't wanna be bad. That's what we're going for. And that's gonna really take things up a notch for you guys. So I made some notes here for how to make sure I don't miss anything. So number one, you have no social skills in presence. We gotta work on that guys. We can't be awkward. We can't be creepy. All that stuff. We gotta work on that number one. Number two, I'm not asking you for the world. I'm just asking you to be average guys. Not great. Cause we're good at software development. Don't get me wrong. If you can be great, be great. But I'm not asking for great right now. I'm just asking for average. But I don't want that. You have to work. You have to just completely not do anything to be bad. I just need average guys. So number two and number three, let's just fix our weak points. You have to identify this guys. You have to look yourself in the mirror and say, Hey, I need to improve in this area, this area, this area. And I guarantee you most of us software developers, we look at it from a career perspective. I made the right choice for my career as far as just skills, projects and all that. But I need to work on my social skills and I need to work on my presence. Those are the two that we really need to work on as software developers. And guys is not going to take a lot, you know, I don't want to go into this whole big personal development thing because it's not that hard. We want to keep it really, really, really easy and straightforward. That means that guys, your social skills is really going to help take your software development career and your life to the next level. So let's go ahead and do that. If you haven't already, go ahead and sign up for our seven step guide, get access to our free community by signing up for that guide. And also if you have already signed up for that guide, check out our premium courses guys, our premium courses, you're going to help support the channel and it's going to really take things up and not for you guys in a really focused way. So if you agree with me, comment below, tell me how things been working for you. If you disagree with me, comment below and tell me why you disagreeing with me. Like, subscribe to the content. I'll see you guys in the next video. Peace.