 Hello, I am Narc survivor welcome to my channel. On this video I would like to talk about the narcissist feelings of envy. This is a difficult topic for me to relate to as I am not an envious person but I have taken the time to research and understand the process which causes the narcissist to feel this way. Envy and jealousy are not the same emotions so let's begin by defining what envy is. Envy is a feeling of discontented or resentful longing aroused by someone else's possessions, qualities or luck. Envy is the desire to have a quality possession or other desirable thing belonging to someone else. The narcissist's envy leaves them wanting to take something or someone away from you. This could be a possession, a person, your job, your good qualities or your happiness. The narcissist will even resort to trying to steal your desirable possessions, your relationship partner or friend. They see that you have what they want but do not have. It makes them feel hateful of themselves, angry and of course envious. If you have a good job or you are generally happy or fulfilled with your life, the narcissist can be envious of this too. They want to be happy, they want to feel fulfilled with their lives but they are not and this will cause them to feel discontented and resentful towards you because you are happy, you are fulfilled with your life and the narcissist is left to lay in their pit of misery. So now they turn against you, they might have liked you in the beginning but now they realize that you have some possession or quality which they do not have and believe me, they wish they did have what you have. So at this point the narcissist is left with two options, they can either appreciate this great possession or quality you have or it could be the very reason why they turn against you. They will try to devalue what you have either verbally or in their minds. Suddenly this possession or quality you have isn't that great, maybe the possession is made in China or it's not that special because someone else has it, the narcissist will always find a way to devalue any possession you have. They will never appreciate the best they can do is to pretend that it's not a big deal or they are happy for you but deep down it's killing them inside. As I said before it doesn't have to be a possession, it could be a person you are in a relationship with or a friend. They will see how happy you are with this person or friend and they will begin to sabotage everything you have worked on. They will devalue you to them or devalue them to you. They want you to see each other in a different way, a negative way. They want you to believe that what you have isn't as great as you think it is. They might even spread rumors to make you believe that they are not the good people you think they are or they might spread rumors about you. Some narcissists will even go as far as to resort to cheating. They will seduce or trick your relationship partner into cheating on you with them because they are envious of what you have. They are envious of your happiness and your fulfillment. They do not feel happy or fulfilled in their lives or in their relationship so they have to destroy yours and it appears that everything the narcissist does is based on their envy towards you. They want to take everything away from you. Your relationship, your career, your friends, money, hobbies, your happiness, your peace, your satisfaction with life because they are not satisfied with anything in their lives. Nothing fulfills you when you are a narcissist. The only way you can feel even remotely better is by tearing someone else down or taking things away from them but of course the narcissist does not accept their feelings of envy towards you. They are in denial and they will project this emotion onto you. They will twist it around and make you believe that you are envious of them. They will pretend to be happy with their lives, flaunt their new car or girlfriend in your face pretending that everything is so great and that they are really feeling fulfilled with what they have but look at their actions. Look at how they have to flaunt this stuff in your face. Look at how they are abusing and manipulating you using manipulative tactics like denial, projection, blame shifting and gaslighting. I don't care how expensive their new car is or how good luck in their new partner is. I know for a fact that people who are fulfilled with what they have do not do that. The narcissist is full of envy and they hate this emotion but they also cannot control it. If I see someone who I perceive to be in better shape, wealthier or better looking than me I don't feel any hate, anger or envy towards them and I don't feel any hate towards myself because I am a mostly healthy person and I practice self love no matter how good looking, wealthy or muscular someone is. I can appreciate that. I don't feel envious and I don't feel jealous either. Jealousy is when you feel like someone is taking something away from you. Well, I don't feel any jealousy because I know that no matter what someone else has, it doesn't matter. They are not me so there's no comparison. I look to people that are superior to me in whatever area in life and I appreciate their success or gifts to see someone that is wealthy and successful or in good physical shape. This inspires me to achieve my goals and even if I fail to achieve my goals I'm not going to take it out on someone else who is doing better than me. I'm not going to feel any hate, anger or envy towards them because when you practice self love it doesn't matter what anyone else has. The narcissist cannot comprehend this though. They look to people who may be superior to them in some area of life and they cannot stand it. They are envious. They will then flaunt something that they are good at in an attempt to make you feel the same way that they do. They will try to project their envy onto you. They feel this emotion so they expect you to feel it too although I have never really experienced envy myself. I have noticed that narcissists repeatedly continue to try to make me feel this way and this is typical behavior of a narcissist. They want you to feel the same way that they do or worse. They want you to feel their pain. They live in misery daily, endless hate, anger and envy. You cannot win this game with a narcissist because whether you reciprocate those feelings or not it's still going to cause a narc injury. They're in a constant fight with themselves battling their own envious minds and there is nothing you can do to fix that. If they try to project their envy onto you and they notice that you do feel envious they are going to repeat this again and they know it is getting to you and even if they try to make you feel envious or try to hurt you and you remain unfazed this only winds them up even more and they will still continue the behavior. So just know whether their projection of envy hurts you or not it doesn't matter. They are still going to be stuck in this endless loop of trying to make you feel the same way that they do.