 Now in your 20s is the time not to mask personal debt to be chained to a car payment or a mortgage Maybe even chained to a career that you're really not sure about Now's the time to travel the world a little bit You'll never be as free as you are right now to go and see things and do things you can travel so cheaply on your loan on your own Nobody mind. He's not here today He lost his job and he went on unemployment It was a commercial real estate company that went out of business. He had a good job with him He claims unemployment. He's like I can stay here and look for a job Or I got an employment business for a few months, so he actually went to Columbia and lived for like a month, you know experienced culture Now's the time to do it if you had a wife kids Car house payment couldn't do it those things chain you down. You say hey, I want to go there But stuck with this car got to sell it stuck with this mortgage can't move So don't limit yourself by Chaining yourself to things that really don't matter in life Trowel is the big thing when you go when you go to other countries and you see how people live you see simplicity and happiness You see how women and other countries treat men who come back to America and go How did we get so far off, you know? Feminism that was a big one and then you know the feminist movement came along and guys decided they were going to be emasculated or Probably our grandfathers and great-grandfathers would look at us these days and just shake their heads and go man as I said in the community tapes back then Men knew their role and women knew the role and it didn't cross very much, you know and Women will say watch this and go well, that's really crap because we deserve as much opportunity But you admit that most of the problems in American culture come down to Women trying to fill roles that are traditional men. It's very politically incorrect good and then Men Convalescing acquiescing their role as leaders and accepting that and say oh, it's really cool that my wife works How great is that? You know we got a nanny for the kids and do this and do that. She's so independent Yeah, wait just she's tired of your ass, okay It's painful it will happen it will happen to many people in this room So I don't know I've got friends that have made it to almost 40 they haven't been married No kids and say what do you think you want kids you and I'm like You know you have to decide that it's not it's not a bad. You got to take your life and define it how you want So number 10 coming down to that Mistake to making your 20s And I stole this here's a question. Oh another guy On that list of people get anything you can get your hands on by gaining Jim Rohn Rohn He just died last year brilliant man. He's a businessful American business philosopher His stuff is golden Probably the most he was a contemporary of Zig Ziglar everybody's heard of Zig Ziglar if you're in sales you've heard of him He's a great guy Jim Rohn was contemporary Zig Ziglar always said that hey it's It's got to be attitude and Jim Rohn was always about education He's like you know if you take somebody you get them all hyped up and charged up They're just a really excited idiot. You got to educate them too So they got to be charged up excited about life and going after these things But they got to be educated too, so they're not just a fanatic about it And then you can't have somebody who's just educated and doesn't have the attitude to go with it because you know They're the stodgy technician that doesn't get along with people and difficult so So Jim Rohn reads Zig Ziglar's books too if you went in sales everybody eventually makes a deline of sales You've got guys in all different Variety walks of life, but everything will get down to sales You know when you go out and you do pick up it's really sales and the stuff I'm not chasing actually translated into In the sales that I do you don't want to be the salesperson. Hey trying to chase the customer the client Man get with a product or a company or somebody that has value and then you introduce yourself and you step back And you know confidently. Hey, I got the best thing going you can come to me So many times you see sales people chasing but anyways back to that There's a guy a famous sales trainer called Brian Tracy if you get a hold of his tapes he does a lot of DVDs and audio files that you can listen to but anyways he asked this in his in his seminar What is the number one waste of time in your 20s? What's the number one waste of time? Answers Facebook Facebook. That's pretty good. What number one waste of time? TV it's good. Generally a waste of time Sleep too much, right? Yeah, I'll sleep when I'm dead Those are good things number one waste of time is staying in a bad relationship You could just ingrain that in your brain. You will save yourself so much time energy effort I See my friends and bad I've seen them in bad relationships and you all know somebody's been in bad relationships You may have grown up in a home. There was a bad relationship and what is the old saying is that every kid would rather Be from a broken home than live in one. It's kind of the same way Why do you want to stick around in a broken relationship that doesn't work? Oh, well, you know She moved in to help me pay the mortgage payment. She moved in to help me pay the rent, you know, it's cheaper to Then the things go souring now stuck with this person. So here's the signs I'm gonna hit a bullet point that will do a Q&A Red flags in a relationship. I've got a lot of this stuff in my blog This is my and in my blog archives you can go back But if you see yourself in this anytime or you see friends say and wake up these are red flags Arguments poor communication or lying of any kind One of my early business partners I used to say this with clients You get a difficult client right out of the gate and you're like and we would always say if this is the honeymoon I Can't wait to see how the marriage is going to be so if it's really bad in the first stages in the first few months personal experience you can have a relationship with a woman for Two or three years and never have an argument there are women out there like that So don't think we have a healthy debate about things. No, not really Okay, so arguments poor communication lying bad Jealousy or suspicion if she doesn't let you have boys night out if she just tries to keep you from your friends You say hey Friday night boys night out. I'm going with my friends. We're gonna hang out We're gonna talk trash solve the world's problems. We're gonna get drunk and flirt with girls if Seriously, you may not say we get drunk with girls. You say what we are we're gonna drink We're gonna drink some Irish whiskey. We're gonna do some Jack Just a couple guys who've seen me on that downtown Maybe not say hey, I'm gonna flirt with girls, but they know they know you're gonna hang out with your friends If they're single friends, they know what's gonna happen. It's implicit. They'll accept it It's a good woman. She'll accept it if she's like jealous and doesn't want you going out with your buddies or tries to keep you to herself Huge red flag. It's because it's only gonna get worse someday We decide to get married and have kids whether you want to go play golf on Saturday with your buddies. Guess what? No, you're not she'll say I worked hard all week. Here's the kid Your turn. I'm gonna go have breakfast with my girlfriends. She'll say and you like what? You know, I'm gonna go to the YMCA and take a long run and work out You stay with the kids, but it's got my friends. No, you set the stage for it So don't you know snip that in the bud. She's gone jealousy or she's suspicious of you physical or emotional abuse of any kind I Mean that's gonna say but you know what so many guys get so wrapped up in a woman that they'll put up with that You know if there's ever any slapping or hitting me. It's just red sign red flag You think it's crazy, but there's some there's some, you know, really hot chicks out there I think you're crazy, you know, and maybe that's not on you But she picks up a vase and throws it across the room and crashes, you know, she's upset in a tirade and a red flag It's only gonna get worse from there You can't change or you can't change people what you see is what you get. She may mature some but she's gonna be the person She is look at her mom. That's how you tell I'd love to meet your mom When can we meet your mom? You get serious about a girl find out. That's as soon as you want to do If I want to hang out with a girl more than one occasion, I'm like with Tim Tell me about your parents. How's your relationship with your mom? I hate her can't stand her. All right, we don't talk. Oh My mom's crazy. She's been married three times. I'm like, thank you for that information The acorn never falls far from the Tree exactly look at your dad. You want to figure out what you're gonna be like 10 minutes You want to know what you're gonna be like your dad, you know, if you grew up in the household It wasn't absentee dad scary You're in your when I turned 40. I'm like So my dad I said I didn't think 40 was I used to think 40 was old. He's like I used to think 70 was old I'm like, you know what 70 is not old anymore to me. That's only 30 years away. Then it's closer now. All right I'm back to this red flags Just so important this probably lack of proper boundaries for the management of time and or money you take any person male or female The way they manage time is exactly the way they manage money If they are hairy scary, they show up late. They're never on time They over commit to things guess what they do with their money It's the same the same things people manage time and money in about the same ways. They really do Some is tight protects the time. They're probably really good with protecting their money So you look at that woman if she has really issues with time management or money management And if a woman ever has any if she is like in debt to her gills. She's materialistic, you know You don't want to stick with her. She may be fun girls are fun You girls watching this You like to play games with guys as much as you like to play games with you is so true women do that Surprise surprise any woman has extreme need for approval same thing go back to what her parents how they how they raised her