 Today I am with Margoliet Fox at Chelsea Market. One of my readers wrote to me about Margoliet, quote, she is by far the best writer of amongst all those employed by the New York Times. She is arguably the most humorous writer, has the best sense of irony, and the most inventive writer. She is in fact one of the main writers of obituaries for the New York Times. She also has written very well-reviewed books, has a book coming out about historical true crime in Edwardian England, and I'm here to talk with Margoliet Fox. Welcome. Thank you very much, Tyler. The fact that you write obituaries makes you especially interesting, and my first question has to do with human lives. How well do you feel family and friends actually know a person? You get to know them fairly well when you write there a bit. How well do others know them? Those closest to them? Well of course those closest to them are the ones by definition who know them best, and so for various reasons, including just one of basic reporting smarts, we are obliged to spend time on the phone with families and close friends where there are such people to be had. But how often is the family or the close friends surprised by what's in the obituary? Divorces they didn't know about, children they didn't know about. They may have been an alcoholic when they were in their 20s, something they did in their career. Well remember that we the reporter are starting almost always from an agnostic state. Of course there are essentially two categories of obituaries that The Times does, and one are the marquee names, the presidents, the kings, the queens, the captains of industry, old-time Hollywood film stars, and so on. People who are in the history books, people whom everyone has heard of, their lives are well documented and so there are rarely any surprises either for the family or for the reporter working on the story. On the other hand, there is this whole other category of people whom I call histories, backstage players, these unsung men and women who are not household names, but who because they invented something, had an idea, wrote something, you know way back perhaps in the 1940s they put a wrinkle in the social fabric and changed the world. I've done for instance the inventor of the Frisbee, the inventor of Etch-a-Sketch, the inventor of the plastic lawn flamingo, of stove-stop stuffing. Now about those people, although clearly they did something that changed the culture, was transformative in some way, we reporters are almost always going in cold. We very often never heard the name, much less anything about what this person did and so for that of course we're obliged to rely to an extent with appropriate double checking and backstopping on family knowledge because their knowledge is better and a far, far longer duration than ours. What's the most surprising thing you've learned about an ordinary life writing one of these obituaries? Not a famous person, but here's one. I brought one with me. There was a very good photographer who worked for The Village Voice for many years, a man named Fred McDara and he died in 2007. Now his work as a photographer for The Voice alone would have been more than enough to get him a news obit in our pages, which it did. He took for instance a very famous photo of Bob Dylan, a young Bob Dylan, all in black in Sheridan Square Park in New York, facing the camera and saluting and that photo has been everywhere. That was taken by our guy, Fred McDara and because of when he worked in the 50s and 60s, he was famous for documenting photographically the beat generation to my surprise and delight when I started pulling old clippings and researching the obit, we found that not only did he document the beat generation, but he enterprisingly started a business called Rent a Beatnik for these society matrons who wanted to be au courant, wanted to have a beatnik play the bongos or read poetry at their fancy parties in Scarsdale, but didn't quite know how to go about it. So. Rental markets and everything, I would say. Exactly. So the lead of our obit, we say Fred W. McDara, a self-described square who was a longtime photographer for The Village Voice, documented the unwashed exploits of the beat generation and as an enterprising freelance talent agent, rented out members of that generation, washed or unwashed, too wide-eyed suburban society gatherings died, etc., etc. So that was great fun. Now one thing I find interesting when I read obituaries is how much subtle humor is in them and how much of an attempt is made to make the first sentence be especially interesting and often the last sentence contains a kind of nugget or surprise or twist on the story. Now the other parts of the newspaper typically aren't like this, be it the New York Times or elsewhere. So why do obituaries have this special status where there's room in them for this kind of humor and invention? Or alternatively, why don't more parts of the newspaper actually copy this if it works, which I think it typically does. Well, as to what more parts of the newspaper do or don't do, I can't speak, but of course as you know there are very ironclad conventions for the structure of news articles and historically obits were no exception to that. These conventions actually have been in place during the Civil War and it's worth digressing about them quickly because they're quite fascinating. Anyone who's ever taken journalism 101 has heard about the inverted pyramid which is this upside-down triangle that's supposed to be the model for the lead paragraph of any news story and in fact for the structure of the new story as it flows along. Broad-based information first and then finer and finer, finer grain detail down to stuff at the end that you could possibly dispense with if you're short on space. And that model is an information processing model. It has endured for over 100 years because it's cognitively perfect. It came about during Civil War battle coverage when they had the medium of telegraphy for the first time available to reporters. Like much new technology it was bulky, lines went down and reporters learned in a do or die sort of way get the broadest information through first so if the lines go down at least your readers back in Boston or Baltimore will have something and your editor will have something to put in the paper. That model has endured because it's how we process information. It's cognitively perfect. And so obits too were behold into that model plus way down further by all of this boilerplate that has to be there so and so died when, where, of what illness, at what age and that is why historically obits were considered one of the most boring sections of any daily paper. Happily in the last 20 or 30 years particularly we at the Times have realized that underlying all of that potentially very leaden boilerplate is a pure narrative arc because what does an obit do? It's charged with taking subjects from the cradle John Doe was born on January 1st 1900 to the grave John Doe died yesterday and that gives you a built-in narrative arc and indeed obits turn out to be the most purely narrative genre in any daily paper. And so the reason we have these great leads and we hope great kickers as we call them at the end is that we are exploiting very happily this inherent narrative potential that is a news of it. In terms of the structure of the newspaper certain rules and procedures have not been imposed on obituaries that are imposed on other news stories. What do you, what do you think it is about the nature of obituaries or maybe the role in the newsroom that has allowed that freedom to evolve because people who report on crimes you could imagine I'm talking to one of them and they would say well this is the perfect narrative arc and we developed all these freedoms but typically not. There's a pretty rigid structure to a crime story. See I don't know that I agree with your initial premise because there is also a pretty rigid structure to an obit. It's there to put it in Chomsky in terms in old-time Chomsky in terms it's the deep structure. It's there undergirding everything otherwise the story wouldn't cohere. There's a birth and a death right. But all of the stuff is there the trick is if you want to make it good art but also have complete fealty to the tenets of journalism which we must adhere to the trick is to disguise all of that infrastructure all of those girders and to make it where thematically appropriate to make it kind of light and frothy and dancing and a really good read. Now if I look at a lot of British obituaries it seems to me they often have a different structure and you can tell me in a moment what you think that difference is but often I see the death buried in the middle of the British obituary. There's maybe a greater tendency to poke fun at the person who has passed away and often the obituary won't be printed say several weeks later which is not say how the New York Times typically operates. What do you think are the differences between British and American obituaries and how have they evolved? What accounts for that? Well that's a huge question and because I'm not a historian of journalism I can't account for how it's evolved that's beyond my can. British obituaries and British journalism generally it's that Fleet Street model are more catty than news stories in almost any section of an American paper. Again we have to have complete fealty to the truth we have to have complete impartiality we have to be disinterested in the pure sense of the term where we are detached observers and an obit is no different but at the same time because we have wonderful marquee name writers in our section, Biff Grimes, Bruce Weber, Sam Roberts, Margalitha. We are able to put a really interesting gloss, gloss in perhaps both senses of the term on top of this basic structure that has to be there. Edward Lowe he's the man who invented kitty litter I believe you've heard of him you feel he should be more or less famous in American society as a whole you feel the fame incentives for people like Edward Lowe are too strong or too weak? Edward Lowe in 1947 as memorialized in the famous obituary by our late great obit writer Robert Nick G. Thomas was the man who because he had an idea one day invented the product that became known as kitty litter and it did indeed cause social change because it made cats much easier to keep indoors than formerly for the first time a few decades later cats actually passed dogs as the most popular American pet so again here's somebody who did something spontaneously because he was inspired and who put a wrinkle in the social fabric he changed the culture no he wasn't doing it to get famous I don't you know Andy Warhol hadn't yet said in the world of the future everyone would be famous for 15 minutes I think very few people about who we write do things for fame the fame comes post hoc you know applied by people like us in the news media so I don't think there's any incentivization of fame for the vast majority of people about whom we write in fact it it never even occurred to me so you're one of the gatekeepers of one of the world's most exclusive clubs so numbers I've seen of every year about two and a half million Americans pass away and in that same year the New York Times might run about what a thousand obituary for space reasons and I realize some of this process may be confidential but apart from the obvious candidates former presidents and the like how is it determined who gets covered who gets entrance into this highly exclusive club what are the standards and what kinds of discussions do you have and what are some features about a person that maybe wouldn't be so intuitive to our listeners that actually are quite dispositive for determining whether you let them through the gates there is no one hooky cutter model for who gets in and who gets out how could there be lives are so different and indeed apart from the people who are the shoe ins the president the kings and queens there is this whole other 90 percent of the iceberg that's hidden but which we may want to expose in our pages and these are these fascinating backstage players the inventors of kitty glitter and the lawn flamingo etc what we look for generally and the question that's asked by our three section editors who agonize every day over the volume of submissions we get from families from funeral homes stories we read in out of town papers foreign papers the wire services things come flooding in and these decisions have to be made every day indeed it's like the meeting of the admissions committee of the most selective university in the world and and it's what three of you five of you there are our section head bill mcdonald and his two deputies jack catten and peter keep news the editors are charged first and last with the responsibility of deciding who gets in every day and roughly the length to whom it's assigned they often do it in consultation with the writers my original training was as a cellist i later trained in linguistics so if they have questions on classical musicians linguists they say is this person important is this person doing i'm worth doing i may weigh in my colleagues weigh in similarly in their subject areas the criterion we look for if we had to pick a single question that can be asked of every applicant at our gates is did he or she change the culture so who invented the lawn flamingo a very interesting man a Massachusetts man with the wonderful and appropriate name of don featherstone and he trained as a sculptor he got work in the post war years at a plastics factory it's that like that wonderful famous old line from the graduate i have one word of advice for you plastics well he took that advice and the plastics factory made all sorts of three-dimensional ornamental pieces for the home he had the idea and again just in a stroke of inspiration of making a creature that would connote the ongoing pleasure of endless summer i think we say in the obit the saturated pink promise of endless summer and it took off in ways that he never imagined sold millions and millions and millions and literally changed the landscape of America but now we have the saturated pink promise of endless summer because of him we do i mean perhaps had he not done it someone else would have but the point is he did and he was transformative enough albeit in a perhaps can't be way when viewed through a postmodern lens the times put him on page one now say take his obituary was a version of that written in advance because you were thinking my goodness the lawn flamingo you know that fellow has to pass on sooner or later we're going to be ready or is there some other process through which you learned his passing maybe a local paper or a wire in his case it was a ladder and i believe it was both the local paper and the wire it is indeed the case that obits for many of these major historical figures presidents supreme court justices members of congress old-time silver screen stars those are indeed written in advance and the selection criterion is does this person have a life that it was so long in the public eye so rich so complex and so deeply documented that we wouldn't want to get caught short writing his or her obit on deadline of course very often we do because we're a small department and things happen right things happen rockers od planes go down things happen but in general we try to have a certain level of preparedness with the major figures so we do indeed have the advance obits all but the top as it were written edited on file we have about 1700 that said the vast majority of what my colleagues and i doubt in the trenches do probably 90 percent of our working life are daily obits that are found out about reported written edited copy edited put in the paper all in the space of a single day just like any other article in the paper so of the thousand times obituaries over the course of the year how many of those have some early draft ready to go of course it needs to be modified but there's no way to predict sometimes we can literally have a day where three of our advances drop at once and the editors get very busy trying to find either the original reporter or if that person's unavailable someone else in the newsroom who can call the family call the funeral home get confirmation that indeed this person has died sometimes you can go for six months without having an advance drop it again this is all in the hands of fate and we are only men and women but on average below half above half half i've never kept track of it because it's it's not quite in my wheelhouse this is the editor's headache i have other headaches but there's no certain half of all the ones we have on file half of all the ones we run no a very small percentage i would say of of those we run in the print paper every year our advances a number i couldn't tell you i'm sorry now this is not at all true of your work or the times today but it used to be a long-standing joke that in the obituaries pages women and black people never die because there was an emphasis on white males say 30 40 years ago but remember think about what an obit is it is not only the most narrative genre in the paper it is the most retrospective we are writing about the movers and shakers who made our world i think of obit's obit writing as the act of looking through a sliding window onto the past the kind of window that slides back along the rails of time and when i first started the job in 2004 we were writing overwhelmingly about the people on either side of world war two we edged up into the cold war we're now writing about the vietnam and the civil rights era and no matter how we feel about it in light of modern sensibilities the stark reality of our world is pretty much the only people who were allowed to be actors on the world stage in the 1940s 50s were overwhelmingly white men i'm happy to say that in the 12 years i've been doing this job as that window has slid up into the civil rights era and even the women's movement that page of ours has started to diversify i had the great privilege for instance of writing our page one obit of betty fridant knowing full well that it had not been for her writing the feminine mystique in 1963 and launching the modern women's movement i would not very likely not be in the newsroom of the new york times writing a page one story but do you have a sense which by the way i would completely favor that somehow other people's notions of history are not diverse enough but that with obituaries by choosing a wiser selection or a deeper understanding of who is important to bring a greater balance to our understanding of history by deliberately trying to introduce greater diversity to the selection of who gets covered again i'm the wrong person to ask the our section editors make those calls because we can write about so few people we are writing by definition about newsworthy people who either made news while they were alive or who quietly did something that made news again and i will repeat myself until i'm blue in the face through no fault of anyone's who is active in the world today those people regrettably were overwhelmingly white men we are not in the revision business we can't revise history no matter how much it may be painful to look on it with hindsight are there obituaries of economists that stand out in your mind or maybe some you've written well interestingly there is one as i said my original training was in classical music and so my editors almost jumped out of their skins with excitement when they discovered they could assign me the obituary of a Harvard economist named Richard T. Gill now why did they give that to me because as we say in the lead of the obit Richard T. Gill in all statistical probability the only Harvard economist to sing 86 performances with the metropolitan opera died etc etc i remember reading that one that was before i knew that you were you i was me then you just didn't know it correct and in fact he it's again one of these wonderful unexpected twists for all concerned no one more so than for Richard T. Gill he discovered when he was in his 40s that he had this really good voice started taking lessons and amazingly was good enough to sing at the men while teaching at Harvard some newspapers don't seem to run obituaries at all i think one example would be the well street journal what determines the level of interest in in a newspaper obituaries the journal does and again i can't speak to that because i'm not in newsroom administration i'm not a publisher but of course you're an economist it's economics i mean sadly even many major papers are scaling back or even eliminating their obit departments in this age of retrenchment in the age of the incredible shrinking news hole in the age where heartbreakingly newspapers are dying i mean i i fear the last one to turn out the lights will be writing the obit of whatever is the last newspaper standing do people whose obituaries are being written those where the draft is written in advance do they engage in much rent seeking trying to sway what the paper will do how they will be covered they ask to see a draft there are publicists elbow people in the obituaries department that they try to manage their reputations or does this really not much occasionally although of course we would never let them and it is absolutely verboten for anyone to see a draft of his or her obit the times is not permitted to comment on or divulge the contents of any forthcoming news story and of course if you think about it an advance obit is kind of the ultimate forthcoming news story so famous people for reasons of ego perhaps can make an educated guess as to whether we have an obit of them on file but they're certainly never going to see it but if they say well would you let me send you my bio you just turn them away or do you know because it may be useful to us for study purposes we are not going to tell them whether we're going to use it or not and we do get not for advance obits so much but for daily obits on deadline where the subject has actually died if a person has been in public life all of his or her life and we usually see this for either politicians or particularly hollywood people and he or she has had a publicist in life that publicist will occasionally send us this glossy press kit and I find it quite fascinating that there is this one last act of spin control attempted in death every now and then and especially tragic event happens obvious example I guess for New York would be 9 11 and my sense is an especially high proportion of well-known people died on 9 11 and when there's a large number of deaths you might be covering all at once how was that handled well I was not involved with that in any way nor was the obituary department directly I would beg to differ with the contention that a large number of high-profile people died on 9 11 they became in a sense high-profile people because of the way they died but very very few of them were famous in conventional terms you know that was one of the great heartbreak it was these ordinary working men and women the people who had to be at work at a quartered aid here in New York the Times of course did this marvelous very moving series of little capsule obits on almost all of the 3000 cold portraits in grief but that was not handled out of obits a special team was convened in metro to deal with that and this was long before I was on the obit desk in any case two individuals who are clearly obituary worthy so to speak one would be Thomas pension the other JD salinger both disappeared from public view for decades on end so if one has to write the obituary of those individuals what is it that one actually does there are blank decades or you know things already the rest of the world doesn't know or well again I've not been involved with either but I can make an educated guess as to what one would do one would comb the clippings this would be an advance over where the reporter would be given the comparative luxury of time which means a week or even two weeks instead of four or five hours to put something together combs the clippings of course makes every attempt to get to this elusive person which is probably going to be impossible but you have to try and then you interview around them you interview their editors you interview friends you interview neighbors you interview old lovers you interview anyone and hope they haven't been forbidden to talk or if they have been they don't take it seriously and you assemble the best you can while of course explaining to readers this famously incommunicative person made sure that his life was obscure here's what we know that's all you can do it's an interesting question you know people who knew them and maybe who were told not to talk you think there were any privacy issues with the vituraries that we should worry about so in general we believe in the public's right to know correct absolutely there's a political candidate a historical event but when people have passed away obviously in some key ways they matter much less and especially people who are not historical figures but nonetheless there's an outline of a life that may involve drug addiction or alcohol problems illegitimate children strange things that happen to them that maybe they want to keep secret do you think for a person who's passed away there are privacy rights of the sort that we should not tread on no we're not in the veneration business you know if this were not eulogists we will occasionally get families particularly families who are not conversant in dealing with the press who say oh please put in he died surrounded by his loved ones please put in he touched the life of everyone he ever knew and apart from the fact that we would never use such hoary Victorian cliches we know that's the first thing to go on the cutting room floor it has no place in a modern news orbit a modern news of it is a news article like any other and the particular subtype it is it's a profile and just as a profile of a living person you'd read in a newspaper or magazine has to be balanced so to do our portraits indeed you sometimes get families who withhold information on dad's earlier marriages other children and you'll get children calling you up the day and all that runs understandably in tears saying how dare you write me out of my father's story and the only answer you can give us we were never told you existed so we learned to ask all kinds of preemptive questions to try to forestall omissions like that so part of your job must in a sense be as a therapist that you're handling grieving family members or non-family members people who have agendas maybe people jostling over the well or having that in mind some occasionally may even be happy but more often than not they're tragically bereaved and all of these individuals you talk with you have to manage you get them to cooperate so in a sense you're a psychologist of sorts well my oldest childhood friend actually has two degrees one in journalism and one in counseling and she says the elicitation of information that process is identical where they diverge of course is what you do with the information once you have it and indeed we need to be very careful we're calling families at vulnerable times they're grieving they're exhausted their sleep deprived they have a million things to do and we need to be very careful that we not however unwittingly present ourselves as their friend their advocate their grief counselors now that said it behooves us both journalistically so they feel comfortable enough to talk to us and be candid and in purely human terms to treat them as well as possible within allowable professional limits doing all this what do you think you have learned about the psychology of death that say maybe I wouldn't know I don't think there's anything I've learned that any of us wouldn't know what I've learned is death sucks but I think I pretty much knew that before and I think you pretty much know that too but worse than than maybe you thought 15 years ago before you were doing this actually no the reverse if anything I'm very often asked oh you write obits you're around death every day isn't that depressing and I must admit when I started the job full-time in 2004 I worried about that a little bit going in and to my great joy and great relief I found out right away it's almost never depressing for all these reasons we've discussed in an obit of perhaps a thousand words where you're writing about someone fascinating who did something really interesting often really wonderful maybe a sentence or two will be about the death and the other 98 percent of the story is about the life so in a strange way with rare exceptions writing obits is a kind of very life affirming thing to do and also wonderful because my colleagues and I are paid to tell stories and it doesn't get much better than that so it's often said for instance that the greatest works in the theater are tragedies family one king leary two examples of many and maybe we're attracted to tragedy because in a sense it's life affirming or it's somehow cathartic and writing about the deaths of individuals you feel it gives you a better or maybe healthier perspective on life in the same way that going to see a tragic work in the theater might but again think of what was just said it's not tragedy that's that's my point writing about it's not the case that writing about obits is life affirming because it's tragedy writing about obits is life affirming because it's not tragedy there's a custom in some cultures often eastern european that if an individual has a terminal disease they don't tell the patient that and so the person gets sicker if it doesn't know he or she is going to die do you have a view of this i have never encountered that if you think it could possibly make sense could you imagine say that a person might prefer not to know he or she is going to pass away and i would have to be a physician a psychologist a philosopher a cultural anthropologist to answer that again that's beyond my can i'm not going to take on something that's beyond my can it would be horribly inappropriate and is there any way in which you feel writing so much history you know put aside the obituaries side of it but just so much american and international history has it changed how you think about your own life what you should do with your time well it does give one a sort of carpe diem sense often when i lecture particularly to young people they who are so far from death are kind of obsessed with it and they always ask me what's the weirdest cause of death you've ever had and i say well one of my colleagues had a man who was eaten by a crocodile and um indeed he was a naturalist going down a river a crocodile just leapt up and grabbed him it's a pretty horrific way to go but it for me it became kind of a metaphor you never know as you go through life whether or not that crocodile is around the next bend in the river so you might as well try to live as good a life as you can and enjoy the hell out of life before you get to that crocodile and you ever think of what you're doing in any kind of theological terms so for instance i went back i looked at a very good book by your husband it's called essential judyism by george robinson that's him it's a wonderful book and there are two quotations from that book i'll read them one is a dying person should not be left alone the other is escorting the dead is one of the basic acts and not just those who are jewish but i think many people would view this as an appropriate philosophy for thinking about death dealing with death you ever think of what you're doing as a kind of written version of carrying out some of this sort of is escorting the dead in a literary way and being with them and having society process that in a manner which has a dimension which is not just news reporting but hide interviews of the sacred and higher values was that totally separate for you well again i'm not a colonist so i'm paid to have no opinion which means but your personal opinions which means i'm paid to have no discernible politics and also no discernible religion and whether or not i am a religious believer in my private life is is not germane sure but metaphorically indeed there is an aspect of writing obits that where one feels one is charged with the rather weighty responsibility of ushering people out now these are not always people to whom you know flights of angels will sing to rest we are obliged to write news obits not only of the great heroes of history but also the great villains i wrote the obit of jim clark sheriff jim clark the great enforcer of segregation in jim crow alabama was his billy club that was coming down on demonstrators heads as they tried to cross the edmund pettus bridge i've written obits of nazi war criminals so we run the whole gamut again the salient question is did this person make history for good but also for ill and so we have to usher those people out too and in those cases uh you don't have a warm fuzzy feeling you feel like you want to go home take a shower and have a good stiff drink afterwards but it's part of the job has to be done right now there's a segment of all of these conversations it's called underrated overrated i mentioned a name or a thing i ask you if you think it's underrated or overrated you're free to pass on any of these but i'll try just a few uh the pet rock overrated or underrated well i'm coming from a position of extreme bias because i again did the obit of the inventor of the pet rock a man named gary doll and it was neither overrated nor underrated it was a beautiful example of what it was it was a totemic thing that caught the fancy of this kind of cheesy salmony pop culture so with hindsight overrated perhaps but had it not been overrated we wouldn't have gotten the story out of it now you have a background as a chalice i understand so paulo casals overrated or underrated wonderfully rated i mean i think he can never be rated highly enough but it was he and this is well documented through his series of televised masterclasses around the world in the very early 60s who really caused the instrument's popularity to soar but most people had really not conceived of the cello as a solo instrument before it was just sort of going um pa pa at the bottom of the orchestra so um i mean he was rated magnificently but by the same token uh you can never rate him too highly because he was wonderful but what if i say well casals was a bit like schnavel he had incredible profundity but there's just too much scraping on a lot of his recordings and in some ways they're hard to listen to today he was path breaking but if you were to sit down and put on say the Bach cello suites actually very few people including cello lovers would pick casals right they pick jenna starker they pick uh heinrich schiff or do you agree or not it's true in light of modern sensibilities uh you can certainly hear uh squeaks and uh occasional bits of strangeness in the casals cello suites i suspect he was older when he recorded them he lived to be of course almost a hundred uh recording technology has improved since then and i think he uh was on such an exalted plane that he gets a buy you he he can be and should be forgiven any of these little transgressions that make him seem mortal if you had to pick a favorite cellist i know what's hard to do but do you have a pick oh it depends on the genre uh i like different cellists were different things the uh the great uh doomed jackal into prey of course uh was a wonderful cellist um ross republic starker uh who's all that i wrote you have a wonderful book called the riddle of the labyrinth the quest to crack an ancient code where you study the world before ancient greece fantastic book it's a story of how after cracking the code we learned a lot of it was actually about accounting economic themes but i'll ask you homers odyssey overrated or underrated oh again can't rate it highly enough can't rate it highly enough we agree adverbs overrated or underrated overused overused so they're overrated in a sense more recent doc the author of famous children's stories where the wild things are maybe the wild things are the children right overrated or underrated oh again uh can't rate him highly enough and his legacy will endure again his over that i had the privilege of doing times put it on page one that's you know when is the time's ever going to put a picture big book author on page one that's how magnificent he was and how newsworthy was there something surprising you learned about him doing his a bit i think just uh what a melancholic he was now that's far from unusual for creative people but it was um his personal story was rather painful he was someone you know as someone who grew up poor jewish knowing he was gay in this very repressive era um he was a deeply deeply melancholy man and of course it comes through in the work as well studying all these different lives from so many walks of life different countries to some extent different eras what in life do you feel is underrated or overrated say by your readers there's various cliches like oh i spent too much time in the office not enough with family so many people say that i don't actually believe they necessarily really mean it but what do you feel on that after studying all this history what in life is underrated well i think list questions are overrated if you'll forgive me um what in life is underrated silence stillness reading real books on paper those are all underrated yet having real human contact rather than the um social media that's become in our atomized postmodern lives a substitute for real contact how important do you think dear abbey was for american life dear abbey and her twist twin sister and lander's both of whose obits i had the privilege of doing were fascinatingly important and and remain so retrospectively as barometers of the way the country was going to go they were both these very pragmatic women who while not being firebrands in any sense were just a little bit left of center uh because they embodied a kind of progressive mid-century humanism and so they were a very very interesting index of the direction in which progresses were trying to nudge the country country in those years now you have another book it's called talking hands it's about the sign language which developed in a bedouin village in israel correct is that a fair way to describe it absolutely so you have these two books there's also an e-book of your obituaries which you can buy for your kindle and then there are the obituaries you write do you see any underlying unity to your writings including your next novel on it it's kind of edwardian crime story what ties it all together it's a nonfiction book my next book which is my third after these two is narrative nonfiction i'm capable only it seems of writing nonfiction i wasn't born without the fiction writing gene alas uh so what underpins the two of my books that are out the third book that's coming my work at the times is narrative i care passionately about narrative i care passionately about storytelling and the privilege of telling stories albeit in the nonfiction genre somehow the idea of cracking a code or unraveling a mystery to me seems to run throughout all your work there's a kind of mystery of a life which you're never going to state that may be very subtly hint at especially with those first and last sentences talking hands is about figuring out a sign language and how it came to be riddle of the labyrinth is very explicitly about cracking a code so is that a common theme in your thought or yes solving this edwardian mystery i haven't read that book yet but i think that's right i'm passionately interested in heuristics when i was a kid my friends and i you know back when kids engaged in real play and didn't just sit with their palm devices we used to make little treasure hunts for each other and so it's all about heuristically following clues from a to b to c to get and you know the goal is not the thing itself the treasure was just some silly little prize or nothing at all but it was just the chance to work through all the clues and see if you were on the right lines and here too unpacking a sign language that's never been analyzed in riddle of the labyrinth unraveling this angian script that was unearthed on clay tablets in 1900 not solved for 50 years because they not only didn't know what the tablet said when they were unearthed on crete they didn't know what language they were in so it's a black box how do you penetrate and in all this too what are the heuristics of a life that allows someone to get from a to b to c to t all the way to z when i get them in his or her life how much of that is free will and how much of that is determined by pure blind fate so i get that you may not have that much spare time given all that you do but if you're going to read something for fun in your spare time what's that likely to be research aside narrative nonfiction the great contemporary masters john mcfee tracy kitter plus the wonderful old masters of sas eb white red smith twain of course always twain people twain is is completely symptomatic for the people i love to read uh because you not only get you know the paramount stylus the non-parade of stylus but you can also see through the writing it's a window onto how the man's mind works and that i love it's a final question i know this is a tough one but someone comes up to you and says i so much admire your work i would love to write obituaries for a living i know there are not many paths into this but what advice would you give them i would say don't feel you can or should specialize the child has not been born who comes home from first grade clutching a theme that says when i grow up i want to be an obituary writer be a journalist first go to journalism school that's what i did when i was 30 i chucked my uh unfulfilling jobs in book and magazine publishing and went to columbia journalism school got a masters and have been in newspapers ever since so uh go to journalism school be a journalist writing obits and here we've come nicely full circle writing obits is just one way of doing journalism a very satisfying narrative way thank you very much and we all look forward to your next book coming out next summer thank you our pleasure