 was you would think like in PUA terms like that's low value. That's supplicating. No man, what happened was eventually I saw people who really cared. You know, we're like, hey, well what's going on? What do you like? Okay. You know, all I can do is talk to you, but I think and it really showed me that there was a beauty in being social. I'm not saying that you guys have to work out of desperation. Desperation, if we're only working in that direction, it cultivates reactions and we don't want reactions. We don't want highs and lows. We want a constant. So you want calm and deliberate energy, seductive energy actually communicating through. But being social means to me today is to talk to somebody, ask somebody how they're doing, care about it, bond with a man, or part of the adventure of man. You know, if we want to have the best physical health, the best business mind, the best social dynamics, yet not partake in the beautiful experience of all of us interacting, you know, that's how economy works. That's how sexuality works. That's how all that stuff works. You know, we got to be a part of that. The next thing is be sexual. Everybody's like, what the fuck, man? You know, okay. So obviously, if you have a girlfriend, that's cool, but even then, you know, that may not be the right outlet to experience what I mean by being sexual. Being sexual means an exchange and it's an intimate exchange. It's an exchange with deeper parts of ourselves, you know, that have to do with our sexuality. If you're a heterosexual male and I think, well, there's probably like four or five of you in here tonight, but anyway, you know, then we should probably be doing this to women that we're attracted to, you know? We should be approaching women that we're attracted to. We should be men that can approach women and not rely solely on a technique. I got no problems with techniques. Every single technique that is discussed in the PUA world I'm kind of cool with. The motive behind it is where there might be a problem, but that technique's ultimate goal is to get for your self-expression and never forget that. That's the main idea. But we go up to somebody and we should be able to go up and simply say, hey, look, you know, I'm attracted to you. What else more is there to you? You know? A few key things when it comes to being sexual, you know, we go through principles of sexuality. Principles of sexuality might be showing intent. It might be, or we were talking and it's showing intent. It might be relaxing that intent. It might be eliciting that intent. It might be escalating beyond the intent that she gives us. There's all sorts of different dynamics and principles and functions that come into sex and sexuality. All we want to do is be the man that presents that. True seduction happens with a choice between two people. In fact, another great thing, like I said, there's few people that I respect, but Jason Savage and Hypnotica, Eric Vonsita, great, great dudes, will always say that seduction is a woman's game, you know? And I say it too. But I really actually got it from them. It's a woman's game. It's based on her choice. You know, and I was explaining this to a client of mine and he wasn't getting it, which is fine. You know, it might be kind of a hard concept or whatever. But I was like, look, man, you can go and talk to a girl that might not be all that attractive. First you're going like, shit, you know? She's not my type. But then she starts liking stuff about you. And she's all interested in you. And she's going like, man, Steve, you're like so interesting about, well, tell me more about, man, I want you. Or she's somehow showing that. That feels fucking good. And then I was telling him, he has a bit of experience with this. I'm like, let's say you get a really attractive hooker. And she's playing the game with you. And she's like, oh, man, she's rubbing your chest and she's getting your dick hard and all that sort of stuff. And he's like, oh, fuck. And she's like, no, I'll make you feel so good. And then as soon as you have sex, you realize she doesn't care about you. That exchange dies, right? That's not being sexual. So what we want to do as men is we want to look for that exchange where we can both pair and equally go. Yeah, sometimes we have to be dominant. Sometimes we have to lay it down. Sometimes we have to be aggressive. But at the same time, you always have to realize that you are serving this beautiful experience, man, of us being social and being sexual. The last thing I think is actually the most important and one of the, well, for me, right? Because everybody's is different. And again, with any of these, I don't tell people how to do them. You need to find your own way to do them. But the last thing, gratitude and purpose, things that we live in deficit of. Again, other words that are thrown around. But like all things, they're kind of simple. For me, I heard this for freaking years and resisted it. Make a gratitude list at the end of the night. It's like, oh, what's that going to do? It's kind of like morning meditation. What the fuck's that going to do, man? I got shit to do. I'm important, right? I'm doing all this stuff. Well, fuck, I like half meditated while having sex with that person. I was grateful and talked about it. But for me, when I actually sat down, and this is a really crazy thing, it never occurred to me, never occurred to me, how simple it would be. I'd be thinking about all this grateful stuff in my head. And then when I actually wrote it down, it was always like, I'm grateful that I have enough food. Like a month or two ago, my computer got stolen. Actually, before I worked with some people who are like junkies and stuff, and I've done my fair share of drugs, and one of my best friends, man, it sucks. Two days before I flew out here, she called me up late at night, and I was with my girlfriend, and she's like, man, she's a heroin addict, and I've done my fair share of heroin. I know that it's a crazy drug, man. It's not easy to get out, the shit stays in your head in a big way. And she was like, man, you know, can we talk? It's really crazy times when my boyfriend's out of town, it's Thanksgiving, nobody's here, yada, yada, yada. I'm like, man, I actually can't. You know, I'm joking around with her. I'm like, ah, but whatever. You know, dah, dah, dah, dah, dah. You know, and then she texted me the next day. She's like, hey, don't come into my work because we were supposed to go eat. She's like, man, I got loaded last night. It's one of the saddest fucking things, man, because what that shit happens, and this is why I really value the human experience and the message of seduction, the message that I promote, because if somebody gives a message of just kind of like, hey, I'll help you out with somebody like that, they fucking die, man. And I see a lot of my friends go through that stuff. And it's terrible, man. But how that comes into gratitude and to purpose is that there'll be times where we're at bad days, man. And I'm grateful about the simplest things. One of the things I was gonna bring up was the other day I was sitting at a cafe, typing away, went outside to talk to one of my buddies, being social and being sexual, and my computer got stolen. And shit, like that never happened to Austin at the cafe that said that hadn't happened in six years. And when that stuff used to happen to me, I used to like get so mad at myself and fucking hate myself and whatever. And actually they were like, the computer really isn't stolen, right? You're just joking. Like, why aren't you freaking out? I'm like, no, man. No, look, it really did get stolen. You want me to be mad? It did get fucking stolen. It was all my material. Anyway, but I remember that day, I went back and I wrote and it was like, man, I'm happy, like I have a backup computer. I have a roof over my head. There's many days where I went without, having enough money in my account. I had money in my account. I had people in my life and I had people that cared for me. And that was one of the most important things to write down. May not seem like a big deal when we think we're big deals, but I don't know. You get obsessed with what you want. You get away from being happy with what you have. And then the other thing is, it's purpose. We think about this stuff. Maybe our purpose is money. There's nothing wrong with any purpose that you have. It's just that you honor your life with it. Your purpose might be talking to other people. Your purpose might be spreading the message of the sexual life. In fact, that's not my purpose. My purpose is trying to be the best expression of myself that it can be right now. I get away from that. Decisions happen. I get a headache. I stub my toe. Somebody says something nice to me and I go, oh, man, I'm great. But I get away from what that purpose is. And I got to look at what that is at the end of every day and see how am I living that. And it's just the simple awareness of those things that help me out. That, to me, is probably one of the best and most important exercises that I've done. And like I said, man, I've had a lot of... Everybody has bad days, man. Everybody. The problem is, is years ago, months ago, whatever it was, is I thought that those bad days had to be a part of my identity. It was funny. I'm gonna actually open up in probably about 10 minutes for questions because I really like interacting with people. That's really how I teach. I mean, it's kind of like why come up here and present and just share my ideas when I can't share with you guys. I mean, you guys are right here. But one thing that I wanna say is how is it the convention in London, man? And I got there, it sucks, because I love interacting with everybody. I like talking to people. But I showed up there on Sunday and I was like the last speaker. There were like two speakers before I showed up. And I got rushed by all these dudes and they were like, man, we've heard all this theory stuff. And ideals, and we wanna hear some technique. And I'm like, all right, all right. So that's pretty much what we talked about. But sadly, the cameraman who's at all these conventions is probably one of my very good friend of mine, Mike G. He actually spoke at that convention and he talked to me before the speech. And I said, man, I really think I wanna talk about all this really spiritual stuff that I went through and not like religious stuff. And he's like, dude, please do it, please do it. These guys need to hear the evolution of it. We need to take the convention in different directions. He's like going on and on about all this crazy stuff. And he's like, man, it would help him so much. And I kind of backed out of it. But one of the things that I'd like to tell you is I've probably had one of the craziest years of my life, right? And in one of the most simple years of my life. And every year there's always crazy stuff. And like I said, it's all in our head. You know, I'm a father. I got out of a very long relationship that I had with somebody. There's been all sorts of, you know, just life problems and social problems that we have in terms of relationships. And one of the best things that ever happened to me was coming to a realization. I've always been somebody that promoted identity. But the identity of who I am and working on myself and really examining who I was as a person through these actions, right? And they're really, really important and they're important vehicles through sex. And I remember there was one time I was meditating. In fact, I don't do any drugs or anything like that. And it's like a real clear line for me. Like if I drank like seven Red Bulls, I might even like be like, man, you know what? Am I using this or is it using me? But, you know, and even with sex, you know, it can get like out of control. So I really want to kind of keep a balance of.