 One thing narcissists don't expect you to do it may always seem like the narcissist has the upper hand It may always seem like they have the advantage as Though they have power over you But that's only because you're giving your power to them you're giving them the ability to control you You're giving them the ability to manipulate your emotions But there is one thing they don't expect you to do Which will allow you to keep your power and that is to not react to them Not reacting is your greatest power against the narcissist if the narcissist cannot trigger you They cannot control you the narcissist devalues you They dismiss you as unimportant They give you coded messages that are intended for you and Can only be understood by you and they do it to get a reaction out of you Because your reactions give them power They cannot control their own emotions So they try to control you They try to control your emotions So that they can feel better about themselves They can't feel true happiness or sadness So they try to do that for you So that they can experience it by curiously through you Which is why they love bomb you Which is why they try to make you happy sometimes Because then they can experience your happiness through you And they can gain further control of you Which is why you need to stop reacting to the narcissist Set boundaries Because they will push and provoke you To get a reaction out of you Until you finally explode Which is why you need to stop reacting to them Use gray rock Observe don't absorb Respond don't react If the narcissist is arguing with you Just agree with them They don't have to understand if you're right You can be right and keep your truth Even if they don't understand it You don't have to engage They want you to engage with them They want you to feed into it So that they can suggest that you are not intelligent And then they can feel superior to you But if you don't engage with them You shut them down So just agree with them Don't engage Don't react Because when you react And you tell them things that you don't like They do it again and again They keep repeating it Because they know it works They know it gets a reaction out of you And it makes them feel good when you get mad So do not react Because they will keep pushing your buttons They will use your past trauma against you Nothing is off limits to a narcissist But do not react to it Because your anger and frustration is the goal That's what they want from you So control your reactions Your reactions are your power Take back your power By taking back your reactions The narcissist has been studying you The entire time that you have been together They are addicted to people They love to know what makes people tick They love to know what causes people to behave a certain way The feelings and ideas that govern someone's behavior They have a strong desire for power But if you control your reactions you control your power And when you control your power they can't use it against you Thank you for watching I hope this video isn't it with you Please like, comment, share and subscribe If you would like to donate My PayPal link is in the video description Coaching inquiries You can email me at coachingatnarksurvivor.co.uk Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon