 makeup artist James Charles just confronted Tristan who is a vocal coach here on YouTube and there's a lot to take away from this and it wasn't really a confrontation so sorry for using that language but there's a lot to take away from this and I think there's a lot that we can learn from it too. What is up everybody this is Chris from the Rewired Soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel my channel is all about helping you beautiful people improve your mental and emotional well-being so if you're into that kind of stuff make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell because what I like to do I like to pull stuff going on in the YouTube community and pop culture and try to see what we can learn from it to improve our mental health. So before I jump into this James Charles video man I just recorded like an 18 minute long video that was going to be highly edited and I was really excited and amped up to make this like all day and halfway through the video my mic stopped working and I'm just like you know what maybe tomorrow maybe tomorrow I'll do that video but like you know this has been one of those days you know I'm on you know new medication and I think I've been getting a little irritable as the day's gone on and just dealing with traffic here in Vegas and all that kind of stuff and then that but like what we do is and this is just you know a side mental health tip like we just got to kind of go with the flow and a part of me was like forget this I'm just not going to record another video I already did a video this morning but you know with the extra time I do have I want to produce more content so we just kind of kind of you know accept things as they come and adapt and change and just do stuff you know what I mean but I hustle as much as possible so here's another video for you beautiful people there's something that people have actually been asking me to do my girlfriend has been asking me to do it I think my girlfriend's friend wanted me to do it there was somebody even in the comments asking me to do it so here we go so a little bit of a backstory James Charles he is a makeup guru for those of you who don't know but he also loves to sing this is something that he likes to do it's actually something that he was doing long before he did makeup well anyways he did a cover of Ariana Grande uh god as a woman all right well there's another youtuber on the platform named Tristan and uh my girlfriend Tristan spelled differently she got me into this channel and like we watched him we watched his reactions and stuff like that and it's really interesting I've always been a fan of obviously music I hate when people are like I really like music it's like who doesn't like music anyways but I've been a fan of that I love like singing competitions and stuff like that but I'm really interested in like the way you can train your voice too like I think for a lot of us or at least me I'm just like oh it's just natural and naturally happens but there's techniques you can use and things like that but anyways this guy Tristan he's been to school for it and everything like that and so he watched the James Charles video and one of the reason he watched James Charles cover of this is because James Charles was getting a lot of flak for his cover a lot of people coming at him about his cover and everything and James Charles got super defensive he put up this whole rant up on snap track just losing his mind just saying this was on pitch and this and so Tristan decided to you know watch the video and he critiques it right despite what every single comment may think there's not a single note in that cover that is wrong every single note is perfectly on pitch there's one that's sharp or flat this is where I've got to stop sister over here sister's being a little bit what's the word sister's being delusional as well anyways I thought it was really cool because James replied to him he was like hey come out here and you know give me a vocal lesson you know and I'm like that's awesome like it's cool seeing a larger creator you know doing something with a smaller creator and and things like that even though in the grand scheme of things like Tristan's channel is way bigger than like somebody like mine but that's besides the point but anyways I thought that was cool so that I've been waiting for this video and they finally released it was about what was it like 30 minutes long something like that but anyways what I want to talk about like in the in the first like a lot of this was James Charles talking it was kind of split up into thirds like there wasn't as much with Tristan that I thought there was going to be um anyways a lot of this was like James talking about how like singing has just been a passion of his and he's been um very self-conscious about his singing he was calling kind of always in the in the background and he was always getting outshined by his friend and everything like that and he knows this so um I think something that we need to take away from this is like he talks about how he gets naturally defensive and a lot of times like when people get defensive especially youtubers especially anybody who creates anything like I've seen a lot of creators talk about this like sometimes they get defensive because that thing might be true or it's it's right on point with those voices that we have in our head that say these things about us you know but James Charles like I can really empathize with him because I'm a very defensive person I'm very defensive like it's crazy it's one of the reasons so many of my past relationships never worked out like I just could not take criticism like my my girlfriend and I Tristan we've been together for almost like two years now and we've only had like two arguments right over two years we have an amazing relationship and one of them was like me just getting really defensive you know and it was completely insane it's just I have this brain that has a screwed up mental filter sometimes and you know I work a lot on my mental health and things like that I know a lot of it stems from childhood but that's part of my mental health is I gotta work on that like you guys like when I read your comments like it you man if you can see the thoughts going through my head when I read your comments and I gotta sit there sometimes I have to have other people read it and see what you know like what do you think they meant by this right like it's just it's craziness this thing's crazy if you're on my channel right now watching this video and you're a subscriber you know what I'm talking about you know what I'm talking about like if people could see what was going on in this mind like anyways I like understand what James Charles is talking about but one of my answers for this that helps me with my mental health that I recommend you do is you know the practice of mindfulness mindfulness is about being very aware and present and things like that so I notice more often that my brain is doing this that my brain is getting into defense mode you know what I'm saying because my brain the way it goes when it gets into defense mode it's not usually flight it's usually fight right I used to get into a lot of back and forth online and things like that like sometimes if any of you like read the comments sometimes I'll get into a pretty lengthy debate with somebody in the comments because part of me is still there but like I do it in a much more mature way but anyways James acknowledged this about himself you know what I mean and so he invited Tristan to come out because he knew Tristan was right that there were things that he needed to work on and him and Tristan you know they uh they do this whole like vocal lesson and everything like that he goes back and he uh tries to redo one of his first covers which was uh chandelier and like they do that and Tristan's showing them these different techniques and just like the repetitiveness of it and training your tongue to do certain things or your throat or your nose or whatever and like that stuff's all really interesting to me um I was telling that girl from like dang it now I have that song stuck in my head because I go over it and over it and over it and over it and stuff but anyways at the end of the video um I really like how James talks about how like you know there's a way to criticize people without like bullying them if you will and I think that if you're if you're somebody with clarity if you're somebody with empathy like listen to this advice the reason I say that is because we have a world of online trolls and people are just trying to get a reaction people are just going to say terrible things to you but aside from people getting defensive I would ask you to be a little bit more mindful of what you are saying and how you're saying it you know what I mean so that brings me to the next point I got this comment right here that was telling me to you know do a James Charles video and and this comment was telling me basically to talk about how like James Charles should have never invited him and you know Tristan was being mean to him and things like that and I'm going to address that because I actually disagree um the reason I disagree is I I have trained my mind to look for similarities rather than differences that's another mental health tip for all of you out there to look for the similarities rather than the differences right so Tristan is a vocal coach me I'm a mental health professional I've worked in a mental health treatment center um primarily specializing in addiction but also mental illness and I've been doing that for three years but going back six years to when I first got clean and sober I've been working with other addicts and alcoholics right so like I have some experience doing this and I'll tell you this one one thing that um maybe I'll put this on a shirt sometime in the merch shop but I always say this the best friends that you will have are the ones who tell you what you need to hear not what you want to hear okay now I will link up a video in the top corner there was a very short book by Sam Harris called Lying that I recommend all of you read it is like 40 pages it is very short but part of it talks about this like you need people who are going to be honest with you like I can empathize with Tristan in that sense because part of his job is to criticize people and tell them where they need improvement and it takes a very strong person like James to accept that criticism and know he needs to grow like me I have to talk to people overcoming addictions or struggling with mental health issues and I gotta give them that tough love I gotta say listen you're making excuses listen you are deflecting listen you are not addressing the real issues I have to tell people a lot of things that they really really don't want to hear now a lot of people get defensive about that and stuff I've had people like straight up cuss me out for the things I've had to tell them I've had people tell me how much they hate you know uh the treatment center I worked at and things like that and like a month later or something like that they come back and they say thank you thank you so much for being hard on me thank you for telling me this and stuff because they know I'm coming from a good place you know because a lot of people a lot of people surround themselves with enablers I don't know about James Charles like friend group but you look at people like Tanimojo foosytube you know these are people surrounded by yes men and women who are like yeah yeah yeah that's great that's awesome and then you as a person you can never grow if you surround yourself with these people so while I do think like Tristan did make some comments in there uh in his review that were kind of sassy like the overall tone of it was Tristan was coming from a good place you know what I mean like sometimes we do shove in some jabs like none of us are perfect all the time but sometimes there are some jabs in there and some like poking fun you know what I mean but I'm glad James Charles saw past that he's like listen this guy is trying to help me do something that I love but anyway so in this video like James talks about like don't be afraid to do something you love because of the criticism like don't be afraid to do that like work through it and learn from it and take the criticisms learn how to filter out that the haters you know what I mean I'll link another video up here about how to deal with your haters I've done something new on Instagram I haven't posted as many as I could but I get a ton of haters right I get a ton of haters but like look at this one right here all right all right cool like I just I turn it into a funny situation you know what I mean some days I'm able to handle it better than others and stuff like that but like I just turned it into a fun situation I filter out the nonsense I take the constructive criticism you know what I mean I've had some of you say that I talk too fast in my videos but I don't know like it's something that I try to work on but I get very passionate and energetic and the caffeine you know isn't doing me any favors in that department but anyways don't be afraid to do something that you love or are passionate about and like and like put it out there you know what I mean like do the thing that you love and don't let anybody stop you like wait for you know the the the market if you will to decide on whether you are good or not but filter out the haters do not focus on only the negative comments so I'm glad that James made this video it looks like it was a learning and growing experience for him I'm glad that he helped out a smaller creator like Tristan James hit me up let's talk about mental health help me out I'm a small creator but anyways I would love to know your comments down below like especially like let's talk about being defensive like are you someone who gets very defensive and how do you work on that you know like have there been situations where maybe you get a text right or a DM or a message or someone says something to you and you get really defensive and maybe later you had some clarity and you're like oh maybe they didn't mean the thing that I thought they meant all right let's talk about it down in the comments below and provide each other with some support okay but that's all I got for you today if you liked this video please give it a thumbs up and if you are new I'm always trying to help you out with your mental and emotional well-being make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell and a huge thank you to everybody supporting the channel over on patreon you are all amazing 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