 Hi, she was seven and know it's been a while. I'm so sorry. I haven't been putting out videos I have been super busy. Y'all know it's the holidays Okay So I wanted to come on here and just make a really quick video saying a Couple things. Thank you. First of all to Cemetery cat. She sent me this beautiful beautiful Mac lipstick in the shade Ruby Woo And I love it. It's Matt. It's beautiful. It's so pigmented It it goes on really good and it matches my skin tone really well, so Thank you so much. I got on red. I'm rocket light So I'm feeling very Christmassy and holiday-ish or whatever you call it So thank you so much and thank you so much for watching too. I wasn't expecting that gift So it was a surprise to me. Thank you Okay, so today I want to talk about Knowing your words as a woman a lot of women are tricked and Told that they're they have to bring something to the table They have to do this. They have to do that a man's not gonna want you unless you pay half the bills and Before you know it, you're gonna be paying for that man. You're gonna be paying his bills. So it's very Important that you know your worth. Okay Then the thing that they used to sell any product in this world The number one thing that they used to sell any product is sex Beauty in a woman. Okay cars They use women to sell cars clothes jewelry Anything you can think of they use a woman to sell it, okay Sex they use that to sell everything why because it gets attention why because men are attracted to it why because It's the most sought-after thing in the on the world Okay People will say it's money, but why do people want money? Especially man, why do men want money? Do men want money to impress other men? Do men want money to be able to Drive a nice car, but why do men want the nice car to attract the woman, right? so This is why you should know your worth know that you don't have to bring anything to the table. Well What you are okay? What you are is already worth more than the table itself. Okay? so If someone asks you, well, what do you bring to the table? You say well, what have you set out for me at your table? Why are you inviting me to the table? If you're inviting me to an empty table, why should I show up? You know, I thought you know when someone Courts another person Asks another person to marry them You know, they don't ask you go by the way bring half your stuff. Oh by the way This is a partnership, you know, even though I'm asking you to marry me, you know No Anyway So when the man doesn't ask you remember you bring nothing nothing nothing nothing Now if you're chasing a man, you're gonna you're gonna be Expected to give give give because you're taking on a more masculine role. Sorry y'all a more masculine role You are now taking the role on of a man because men chase women and if women chase men the men say hmm She really likes me I can I can do do whatever I want and I can get over on her You know, it's flattering at first because women don't chase me That's why it's so flattering and then when the woman becomes like, you know, too much The guys I have her in the palm of my hand. I can basically tell her anything and she'll do it So that's where the games begin so ladies never chase after me I don't care how much you want him. Don't chase after him because men only go for what they want If they're not coming after you, they don't want you and they don't want you enough Okay, what men will chase after what they want. They are very competitive. Okay, so Unless Unless you're one of those women who don't go by these rules and just want to play and just want You know to be with somebody no matter what You're gonna end up getting your feelings hurt in the long run because You're gonna fall for this guy. He's not into you. He's just he's just playing you. You're gonna fall for the guy Thinking that he's gonna grow to love you, but he never chased after you. He never did so You're just convenient. Okay, so y'all keep that in mind never chase after me. I don't care If he gives you a hint or a clue that he want he likes you but doesn't pursue you then you just ignore it You keep moving on you go you move on to the next person who is going to pursue you because you're worth it. Okay now a Lot of women are stuck on the one they love Versus the one who's best for them. Okay. Well, I'm in love with him. He just he's I'm very attracted to him This is his neck with this guy over here. I know he'll treat me right But I just not attracted to him and he said But he's okay, you know When it usually end up marrying this guy the guy that's okay the one that you don't look at first Those are the guys that get the wives, you know what because after the other ones break your heart move on Leave your hand get you know get someone else pregnant while they're supposed to be with you cheat on you do whatever This guy's still here He hasn't gone anywhere. So most times women end up marrying this guy. Why? because they now see This first guy that they really like did not pursue them Therefore, he never really wanted them ever So don't learn this too late ladies get the good guy before You go and you know get heartbroken have a couple kids by the bad guy. I'm just saying okay Because the good guy sometimes is not going to say oh Will you marry me with the four kids from the other guy? No, he's gonna be like well I you had your chance and now You know wait it for you. I was here. I never changed So ladies don't bypass those good guys, you know what? Because those are the ones that's gonna give you good Christmas gifts those are the ones that are going to surprise you and Take you somewhere out of town. Those are the ones that are gonna think about you first Not an afterthought those are the ones that are gonna text you back Those are the ones who are going to make good fathers. Those are the ones who are going to show up to school plays For your kids. Those are the ones that are going to get down on one knee and ask you to marry them You won't have to beg them. Those are the kind of men you want to marry because They love you more Than any other guy any other type of guy would why Because they're into you. You are their dream woman. Okay. Now just because that's not your dream man Doesn't mean you can't have a good marriage. I mean think about this You have a man who will cook you breakfast in bed bring you gifts pay all of your bills Say you don't have to work Make a good father show up for every school event take you and the kids on vacation That's a dream man. Okay Not when you have to chase and worry about and check in his phone and be like, oh, is he doing this? Is he doing that? I know he was doing that when we were there Your dream man is a man. You never expected And I'm telling all this because a lot of women will waste their time on loser men Just because they think he's the one because they feel a certain way There's a meme that was floating around on Facebook and it said something like When you look at a man and you feel butterflies and giddy and excited, that's not the man for you When you look at a man and you feel secure safe calm and Happy That's a man for you. Okay. You're not supposed to feel all this Inxiousness around this guy because this means you're a bumbling fool. Okay When you feel calm safe secure and happy around someone and comfortable around someone Able to open up this is the dream man Okay, don't worry about looks because looks are gonna fade man get man look better as they get older Y'all know that right? So if you're his dream woman if he worships the ground you walk on now He will always do that. Why? because To him he put you on a pedestal. You're immortalized in his mind as the perfect woman. Okay, this is why You have to marry someone like that that likes you way more than you could ever imagine, you know you got basically find someone who worships you okay and You know a lot of women don't like that at first because they like challenges But as soon as you get married you don't want you don't want a challenge Okay, when you get married you don't want your husband saying. Oh, well, this is how it's gonna be and What you think I'm gonna do what I want. I'll be home when I want. I'll call you I might not come home You don't want that when you're married. You want a stable house a stable father figure a Stable husband figure. Okay, you don't want your neighbors looking at the car. That's not in the driveway for three days or Hearing y'all argue outside or him not answering his phone when you call You know, that's not what you want in a marriage. You want a happy peaceful environment of two people that that Can coexist together love each other treat each other correctly. Okay, you don't need all that drama Okay, and that's what a lot of women forget. Okay You want to be able to brag on your man about what he can do for you What he can do for your children what he can do for his family not how he looks, okay? Okay, because I've said this in another video cute does not pay any bills cute does not make anyone happy Okay, and the same thing goes for men a lot of y'all may or bypass in these females. I won't call them females um a lot of men are passing by women Because They don't fit this description of their dream woman But how can you? Passing by without even giving them a chance, you know makeup There's makeup there's stuff that you can do to improve women's looks They just might not know it, you know, you ever see one of those makeover shows You just get this plain average looking woman and you give them this makeover and they look totally beautiful Okay, a lot of women can improve on their looks and they just have it So you got you have to see what you're working with, you know if you are a guy on looks You know if you can if you can get a woman who is not You know of the world and all materialistic and things she deserves the world like, you know A lot of women do if you can get one of those women to get with you and she she'll be home She'll help the kids at homework cook clean Be a supportive wife love you be honest and faithful with you Don't ask you to buy her every latest trendy thing out there, but just want a good man, right? You pass her up for other women who don't want that you go around chasing women that are out of your league I know a lot of men get mad when I say women are out of their league But it's true if you can't afford to buy a woman a Gucci purse every holiday And that's what she wants then she's out of your league Okay, if you can't afford to get hair nails done Gucci purses and stuff like that and The woman that you're chasing expects that from any man. She dates. You're she's out of your league. Okay. I'm not talking about looks I'm talking about standards. Okay, because you can have the most beautiful woman in the world and She don't want any of that. Okay, and she'll work with you because You know, she'll live in a two bedroom apartment, you know But as soon as that man comes along with a little bit more money after she's been tired struggling with you She might have second thoughts So, you know, y'all still be careful with with certain women, you know, because they will figure out their value sooner or later but right now what I'm saying is Sometimes women are women are out of certain men's leagues and they still pursue them and they shouldn't be doing that Go for someone who's gonna love you more Go for someone who's gonna treat you right. Okay? It doesn't have to be equal. Okay, it's better if you marry someone who loves you more than them. Okay, it's true There's so many men who are married to women who who their women love more than they they actually love them But they're cool with it, you know This they've made the sacrifice. There's certain sacrifices. You have to make it live But you want beauty or do you want stability love? nurturing Loyalty which one is worth more to you, you know, is is the outward appearance worth more than the inner than the inside That's your choice, you know, and I know you say well, why can't we have it all? Well, that's why I say get you an average-looking person Give them some money. Tell them to go get a makeover Tell them to go get fixed up. Tell them to go buy some new clothes Tell them to go get their hair done. Tell them to go try some makeup Tell them to watch some videos and makeup tutorials and how to look better, you know Sometimes women just need a little help to look a little bit better and sometimes men You know, they just need a little push In order to you know climb to the next level of their career, you know Sometimes they're afraid of responsibility and they won't you know try to get a promotion or they won't try to get this job here You know, they're afraid to fail Sometimes you got to push them to the next level by saying hey, you know what I want a better lifestyle Go for it. Go for it. I believe in you. You need to go for it because we don't we're supposed to be living better than this Okay, but sometimes you got to push that man to that next level, okay? Even even though he's good. He can be better And if he doesn't if he's not, you know fitting into the the lifestyle that you thought Y'all would have he's gonna push himself even further. So y'all remember that and happy holidays Thumbs up and I'll see y'all later. Put some topic video Ideas below and I'll see what I can do for 2016. Okay You