 What's going on you guys? My name is Lloyd. Welcome to the single guy channel. I am not the single guy but on this channel we talk a lot about dating subjects for men and We're gonna talk today about hypergamy, okay kind of my thoughts on the matter and Hopefully I can take a kind of more positive spin to it than a lot of the other things that I've seen written about it because When you get into this kind of red pill area, you know, I find that men can get they start feeling a little Negative towards women. They start feeling negative towards dating in general and it shouldn't be you know, like dating should be fun Dating should be happy I would hope that you guys could get to where I am where I truly enjoy going out and meeting women Interacting with them dating them and just having a good time So hopefully after watching this video, you know, you can get closer and closer to that point Not saying you can get the whole way, but hopefully you get closer So for those of you who don't know what hypergamy is hypergamy is basically Marrying or having sex with somebody have a higher socio-economic status than you okay the classic example of this is Cinderella okay, you know, she's a commoner and then she ends up marrying a prince and You know that obviously she becomes royalty, but when she was just a commoner So what you what people take from this is that women are always looking to date up They're always looking to go to go for a higher a guy of higher socio-economic status Whatever it is. I would say it's not so much socio-economic status as it is of like mate value mate value encompasses a lot of other different things as well as well as your socio-economic status, but you know, I would say That's kind of true Women are not trying to date down. That's definitely true They are trying to date at the same level as them or above and even when it comes to hooking up that I would generally see this as being true The only time that they will go down is if the guy is like especially good-looking or They're really really horny or something like that Or maybe that's just you know, they just love being promiscuous and they just use guys as as toys Which can definitely happen So why do guys get upset about this? Men get upset about this and I understand why I used to get upset about it too Which is where if women are all going for the same top guys and that leaves so many guys out there That are just gonna be you know, women aren't gonna want them Women aren't gonna want them to be their girlfriends Women aren't gonna want to sleep with them and they're just kind of left to the wayside and we're actually seeing this to a Certain extent with our today's society, you know we have I think like 30% of the male population is like basically, you know in involuntary celibate, you know they call these people incels and They get kind of very bitter about it and they decide that you know Their life's not fair and you know things are working against them And so I'm hoping that this will kind of maybe inspire them or or maybe get them to think about in a different light So they can stop the negative spiral that's happening to them because it breaks my heart when I see people in in this area And you know, I used to be in this area too. So I can definitely relate to what's going on all right, so the idea behind this is that women are always trying to date up and You know, some guys get upset about it because they feel like they're going to be left to the wayside They feel like they're just not gonna get any love from women For me, however, when you know as a motivated and positive thinking guy didn't always used to be I actually saw that as a positive the reason why I saw it as a positive because it's like hey look if I work hard I go after the goals. I improve myself. I achieve the things that I'm that I'm out there to do I learn how to be appealing to the opposite sex, dude I can get a lot of different opportunities. I can better myself It's possible when it comes to maid value. It's not just things that are already set in stone You know, you can definitely change your socioeconomic Status in today's day and age is very possible. I'm a testament to this, you know with this business flourishing I used to be a guy who had no money whatsoever I had negative two thousand dollars in my bank account when I started this business and a negative two thousand dollars anymore I'll tell you that so it's possible for you to improve that and it's also possible to improve who you are in Terms of your mate value, you know, you can learn how to talk to people You can learn how to be a better person you can learn how to have better style You can learn how to like have game and create friend groups and create and raise your social status It's all possible like I when I saw this it was kind of like I was like I can't believe this is the You know, I have the ability to be so great with women. They don't have as much wiggle room That's kind of the difference between men and women I think in today's society and I've lately been talking a lot about the differences between men and women I think it's fun But you know you see like think about the richest people in the world You know almost all of them are men and even the women that are up there a lot of them You know because their husband died or they're the heir To like a fortune. I think the Waltons are one of these people. So you see them a lot I think they're worth like 50 billion each and some of them are women Okay, not saying that women can't be aspiring entrepreneurs. They definitely can But what you'll see is that men are at the top and the bottom of society If you look to say if you look around a city, how many of those homeless people are guys It's like 95% or I'm not saying there aren't any homeless women out there They definitely are and I've been yelled at and spit at by them, but Most of them are men as a guy. It's kind of like you have these extremes You know, you can you can either be like left to the wayside and nobody cares about you or You know, you can be you know, a very successful person that everybody looks up to It happens with women. There's definitely a lot of variability with women as well, too Especially as times change, but I'd say for a guy, you know, that's the kind of that's the Either the benefit or the pain to being a guy It's however you choose to look at it With a lot of these issues because you can change them and you do have the ability to change them It's basically a message. It's saying hey, look, listen, these are the two possibilities of your life You can either be somebody who ends up becoming part of the bottom 30% who ends up getting left to the wayside or Or you can be part of the other side which does have a lot more options with women who Does have the ability to date the girls and women that he wants to date and create the sexual And relationship life that they're looking for so which choice are you going to make? You know, I offer you to think about this in this video Is there a way that I can improve my circumstance to make myself more appealing to women? I guarantee you the answer is not no I guarantee you there are things that you can do right now And you might not be in the physical and mental state to be able to start doing this and that's okay I wasn't either but what you can start doing is you can start improving the little things improve your mental physical State to a level where you can start actually Making improvements in your life and then from there you work your way up and then I can tell you guys the Benefit of being at the bottom and then rising to the top is so immense on your soul on who you are as a person It's so gratifying That you have a Appreciation for when things are going bad and when things are going good, you know I know guys that have always been at the top that are the hypergram is guys that were born into wealth that were born into good Looks that were born into all of the things that people in the forums They envy so much and they talk about how they how it's not fair how these guys are getting all these same things Being a guy in that position, you know, I see the pain in their hearts and in their souls They don't know what it's like to live a meager life They don't know what it's like to be passed up and treated as dirt or vermin They don't know what it's like being in your shoes But I do because I've been there and I can tell you when you come out of that and you're able to raise and go up to I'm not not at the top, but I'm definitely a lot higher than what I was It's so gratifying you get a look at your life and you have a general appreciation For what happens with you You know what it's like to be on both sides of the same coin and the benefit to being a guy is that you know We're not operating on lost time here You know, we're able to improve our circumstance and we're able to go after the things that we want So I understand that hypergamy once you learn about it can be a very Disempowering thing for some people who think negatively about themselves who think they won't be able to achieve it But I'm telling you if you don't believe yourself believe me I know if you're watching this video you have the ability to do that You've already gone out and looked for the answers You're already going out and looking for explanations as to why your life is the way that it is stop looking for Explanations about why it isn't and start looking for explanations about why it could be better about why you can Change your your your own circumstance people who believe they can and people who believe they can't are usually Right and I find that the guys who fall in the bottom 30% who complain about hypergamy who like Mone about it and bemoan their situations like I used to be They are in the camp that doesn't believe that they can change their lives for the better Who doesn't believe that they can succeed and because of that it's a disempowering thought for them So when I think about it I actually get happy when I think about hypergamy because I know I'm gonna be getting a lot of opportunities and Yeah, sure it does sadden me that some other guys are gonna be losing out But I know what it's like being one of those guys and I know that it's it just takes a Decision a decision every single day to not be a victim and actually step up and take charge of your own life And start being the kind of guy that women go for it's a call to action It's good that women do this because if they didn't men would slack off men would not take care of themselves Men would just kind of go to the wayside and play video games all day and not better the world So thank God women keep us honest and make sure that we're going out there And we're doing the things that we need to do to better society and I know some of you are watching this video and thinking Hey, but I work hard at my software job or whatever it is and I'm not getting any love from women and Basically, you have a great product women see it you just need to work on your marketing and so there's plenty other videos where I talk about how to market yourself to women how to Show that you are one of the guys that they want to get with and you know This you're not gonna find in this video, but I have tons of stuff on that subject So I would encourage you to look at that. So yes, hypergamy for some people can be very disempowering But for me, it's very empowering and hopefully after seeing this video if you're one of the guys who see Hypergamy as a disempowering thought as something that's a you know to to motivate you to not do something Why should I even bother trying? Hopefully I pushed you a little bit more into the direction of yes I can change my circumstance and it is possible and you'd be surprised man like the hypergamy is not as bad as people think It's not just like women are going after rich dudes all the time like they look most of them would like a guy around their level Dating somebody so far outside of you know They're realm someone who's like way more wealthy or way better looking or you know got way better game or whatever it is Is a little bit the compatibility is gonna be an issue and women really care about compatibility So they usually end up with a guy who's who's around whatever they are perceived level is to be so yeah I wouldn't I wouldn't worry about it too much in terms of that respect But again, it's a it's an invitation. It's it's not a death sentence, and that's how I hope you choose to think about it in the future You guys thanks a lot if you made it to and consider subscribing. Tell me what you guys thought about this I'm you know hopefully trying to put a positive spin on a lot of negative things I see in the when it comes to dating advice and the the man of sphere community. So hopefully this will improve in the future This is something that I teach my clients. This is something that I teach people who are in my coaching programs And so hopefully you've got a little taste of that in this video. Thanks a lot You