 Hey Psych2Goers, and welcome back to another video. Your ongoing support has helped us on our mission to make psychology and mental health more accessible to everyone possible, and we want to thank you for that. Now back to the video. Has anyone ever told you that you're too nice, or that you're kind and generous to a fault? While being an inherently nice person isn't a bad thing, there can be a problem when you're too nice for your own good. You can be a little too selfless, or too trusting, or too self-sacrificing. If you're not careful, you can be easily fooled and manipulated, blinded by your own good nature. Being too nice can hurt you in a lot of ways you may not have realized. Here are eight common struggles of people who are too nice for their own good. 1. You don't know how to say no. Do you have a hard time turning your friends and family down, no matter how tired or busy you are? When your friends ask for your help, you rush to their side without a second thought. Or when a family member asks you to run some errands for them, you jump at the chance to lend a helping hand. You're sure you can find a way to fit all this into your already jam-packed schedule somehow. You're too embarrassed to say no to anyone who asks you nicely. 2. You attract the wrong kinds of people. Do you find it difficult to know for sure who you can trust? Have people manipulated you or exploited your kindness in the past? You may find yourself surrounded by lots of fair-weathered friends who only stick around as long as they need something from you. Because the matter of the fact is, you can never really know if someone truly cares about you until you have nothing more to give to them. 3. Everyone keeps asking you for favors. Do your loved ones often turn to you for help, comfort, or advice? Do you find yourself always trying to fix their problems or doing unwanted favors for them? When you're a nice person, people feel comfortable asking for your help or telling you about their problems. And while it's certainly nice to be seen as supportive and dependable, it can quickly get tiring when everyone seems to want something from you, even people you barely know or you're not even close to. 4. Some people are suspicious of you. Have others asked you, why are you being so nice, or what's in it for you? Some people might be suspicious of you and misjudge your kind gestures as having ulterior motives behind them. They think you're just too nice to be true and can find it hard to believe that someone else would be so polite, selfless, and good-natured for no reason. 5. You're afraid to speak your mind. Because you're usually so patient and easy going with everyone, you're afraid to get upset, cry, or yell even when you have every right to. You don't want others' perception of you to change, and you feel pressured to do what's expected of you. You hold back on your emotions, are hesitant to assert yourself or share your opinions because you want to stay the nice person everyone feels so fondly about. 6. You forgive people too easily. When you're more soft-hearted, you tend to be too forgiving of others. You trust people too easily, and you give second chances to those whom you shouldn't. Even if they've hurt you or betrayed you in the past, you still can't help but show them forgiveness because of how difficult it is for you to bear a grudge against them. And while you know deep down inside that your kindness is better spent on more deserving people, you're still willing to see the good in others and give them the benefit of the doubt when they need it. 7. You feel guilty putting yourself first. Do you struggle with feelings of guilt when you try to put yourself first? There are so many things you want to do for yourself, but you just can't unless you've taken care of the people you love first. Even if it's something simple, like turning down an invitation to go out in favor of getting much needed rest and relaxation. It can be hard for an overly nice person to think of themselves for a change without feeling like they're doing something wrong. 8. You forget to be nice to yourself. Do you find that you routinely put others wants and needs before your own? It's important to remember to take good care of yourself just as you care for others. And while it can be challenging to balance your time, energy and attention between the ones you care about and yourself, you need to remember that you owe yourself the love you so freely give to others. If you're not careful, you may end up sacrificing all your effort, attention and emotional well-being into relationships that aren't good for you or people who aren't worth it. Set healthy boundaries for yourself and don't be afraid to say no every once in a while. You deserve love and happiness too, just like everyone else. 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