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I mean it's okay having friends but when it comes down to besties? No. Yeah. No. Probably because I don't know, most relationships develop from like friendships to more serious things. So I don't know, maybe I'm insecure but yeah, I wouldn't. Okay, this may sound controversial in any way but to my understanding that to men having a partner is being the best friend, being the protector, being everything to that person and having a best friend who's maybe in the opposite gender is filling those roles. So in my take, I'll say that it's not advisable maybe for a lady to have a guy as a best friend and for the guy, if you have a best friend as a lady, most likely that if they are trying to maybe get together with them or maybe to get them in bed and such a thing and that's something guys understand. So in my understanding, I'll say that having a male best friend, maybe not recommended, yes it's there but I wouldn't recommend it to maybe to someone who's in a relationship because the boyfriend is supposed to be maybe the protector, the best friend and everything. Yeah. It's nice but difficult because it'll make a lot of sacrifices to come say more. Yeah but with the right first one to touch control but with one of the ups and downs but I'm not going to work out, so it's all right. Yeah but it's not good, it's not good yeah. Well not exactly because a bestie from the opposite gender is always playing the long game so it's it's quite obvious the bestie is looking to like to get you out of the relationship so definitely not. They're playing the long game. Yeah. Yes why not? I mean they're just friends. How should they feel insecure? They're just friends. That's it. Eti, I have plans with my bestie. Bestie bestie taku bestola because explain to me why my partner has a female best friend. Ideally I am supposed to be your best friend. Because it doesn't make sense that I'm around but she's still doing my work. Otherwise call police or marry your best friend. Anyways on to our next question. What is your idea about monogamy? Are you okay with being with just one partner? Let me know what you think in the comment section. I think having one partner is actually okay because different partners will only create feuds in your relationship so I prefer monogamy. I think that's the right way to go monogamy. One person, one partner. They serve with multiple people. Not so good. That's like being in a monogamous relationship but cheating. A monogamy is the best for me. It's the best. Do you have the man 24-7? I think, okay this is my opinion. When marriage was first introduced, it was introduced. Till 80. I support monogamy but sometimes I don't think it's possible. Basically personally I believe in monogamy because why do you want to have multiple partners? It's just the same thing. So I'm a Christian as most people are and as we were taught by a Christian religion, having a partner is maybe the greatest achievement that one can achieve because we're here. We come as one but when we live we might say that I found someone and I was able to become two in one. So monogamy is such a blessing to everyone and whoever is able maybe even to achieve it is really blessed and she'll take it to heart that they're able to accomplish something even if other things in life didn't work out but they were able to get that one person then it's worth it. Yeah so I'm still a little too insecure it is me of course half often it's when these relationships are best friends who lead to me it was the feelings and so it's just a drama me. Well one partner is okay well as for me I think one can have maybe two I think two is enough for everyone because so long as you're loyal to each other then I don't think it's there's anything wrong because considering there are diseases like HIV and other STDs so if all of you are staying loyal to each other then it's fine so long as yeah so long as you can have one or two partners. And then the second thing at least emotionally you know you can confide in one person so if you need to cry I know I can come to you if you're my partner and cry with you in uh in what is it called I know that you will allow me to do that you'll give me space to do that but in a place where there are more than one person involved I will not want that so Monopoly is a pro monogamy. So as long as you're able to take care of her but in my opinion I feel like it's a non-negotiable issue it brings up the sense of not being enough because if I was enough for you why are you looking for other women period let's take a short break we'll be back with two more questions