 So what are some of the reasons I think that it's a really bad idea to be a part of this hookup culture that's going on out there right now? So the number one reason I think that this is a really really bad idea is that most women fall in love with their casual hookup that they're hanging out with and a lot of women have they they have kind of this idea where when they fall in love they're like oh well that's all that matters and so they like get kind of single focused on this guy and they're unable to really separate their physical intimacy from their feelings of falling in love and wanting something more and so it can get really really messy really quickly because they might have an agreement that it's just going to be something casual but they're she's falling in love and she wants something more our our community that we have is filled to the brim with women who are in it in friend with benefit situations trying to get something more out of a guy and what they find and what the studies have found is that that usually only happens when people try when people are actually trying to do it it only happens one out of nine times that is a very low number for people that are trying to do this and so a lot of the women in our community will end up finding that they don't end up getting into good relationships with these guys because they the guy's not interested in that because he's better at separating his emotions from physical intimacy and so he's like hey i'm not interested you know we had this agreement and she's like well maybe you know if i if i keep doing he he shows me that he loves me and he he acts like he wants to be in a relationship and he has me meet his friends and his family and he buys me things and he takes me on vacations and stuff like that and what we've found is that guys will do all of that stuff and still not feel like he wants a relationship or that he thinks of her as anything more than a friend with benefits and that's why you shouldn't do it because if you get those feelings which most women tend to do then you will end up having this situation where you're just going to be really really heartbroken and so if you do end up getting into a friend with benefits casual situation my suggestion is as soon as you start feeling anything anything really deep that you leave which can be really really hard to do because it feels so good right and so i mean i i just i can't tell you how much i suggest that you don't do this it's just such a bad idea in so many different ways just from that one standpoint