 Avoid sexual contact with a narcissist. I understand How tempting it may be especially If you're meant to be in a committed relationship With this narcissist You may desire to have sex with them That's understandable You're meant to be in a committed relationship with them, but let me tell you why that's not a good idea when the narcissist Gives you something They then have the power to take it away and They will take it away Especially if they know that you like it so All of the sexual things they're doing for you Whatever it may be for the men Maybe They're giving you blowjobs Maybe it's certain sexual positions for the women Maybe the narcissist is entertaining certain fantasies certain things that they know Will entice you and pull you in and lock them lock you Under their grip because they study you they study What sexual fantasies you have because there's a lot of power in Sex There's a lot of power in that But that power was meant to be used for something good But anything that is good Can be turned into something bad by the narcissist And that is why You should avoid sexual contact with them Because at any moment the very thing that they're given to you Could be taken away and then you're gonna be left with a sense of loss and grief narcissists know how to affect you They know how to be exactly what you want to see Exactly what you want them to be And they get you addicted to them so that when they pull away You're left stuck You don't know what to do and you may be thinking Sex brings me closer To the narcissist It's the only time that you connect but really For the narcissist it's just about their own self-gratification It gives them validation Feeds their ego It makes them feel important It makes them feel powerful and attractive That's all it means to them It might mean something different to you But that is not how they see it So when You do if you do decide To continue having sex with a narcissist Please understand That for them it is not about intimacy It is not about connection. It's just about them their own self-interest their own gratification Because they are self-absorbed and they lack empathy It's not about sharing anything with you They may be Performing a sexual act with you But it's for their benefit Not yours Here's the really Twisted thing about it all When the narcissist Sexually satisfies you You're thinking like They must really care They must really love me To put in all of the Effort to do that But no, it's not even about you It's like you're not even there. It just feeds their ego It just makes them feel important And that's as far as it goes It has nothing to do with you And that's why it's so easy for them to just forget about you and have sex with someone else Because remember it's all about them It revolves around their feelings about themselves They really have no ability to Connect or share anything with you But yeah, just to summarize this If you're looking for something meaningful If you're not just concerned with superficial things And you value love, connection, intimacy You are wasting your time Having sex with the narcissist Because you're never going to get that from them They have no capacity to deliver that to you It's only going to revolve around them and their needs It's never going to be about you They might trick you into thinking that It is about you It's about satisfying you But even then It's just their ego It's just about making themselves feel more important That's how they see it That's how they see sex It has no other meaning than that It's just to say to them I'm better than you I'm better than most people Because I can make you happy I can satisfy you And at any moment I can pull it away And have you longing for it Makes me feel powerful It's how they see it So yeah, avoid sex with the narcissist If it's difficult for you to pull away Just remember what I've said It's not about you They just use it to make themselves feel powerful And important That's really as far as it goes It's nothing more than that That's all I've got to say for this one Thank you all for joining me on another Narc Survivor Live video There will be more very soon So I look forward to talking with you all again You will have a good day