 When someone is critical of you, they share a criticism about you. So that's the first one is criticism. The second one is contempt. When two people are in there, I would rather be right than happy. It's not demonstrating a level of love within the relationship because love would rather be happy than being right. Contempt says your point of view is wrong and my point of view is right. Then when you operate from a place of I'm better than you from a place of contempt, that will certainly destroy a relationship. Okay, number three, defensiveness.