 This is a serious one. I got a question from titled Magnicite in Need of Wisdom and I will give to you what I can brother. His question is a serious one. Listen to this y'all. He said that he was married for eight years and tragically his wife committed suicide. He said that he's been single for four years now and I guess he's been trying to get back into the dating scene. He said that every single woman that he gets with when he eventually tells them about his past relationship what happened seems to be the kiss of death for him and that relationship he says all of a sudden they they stopped returning his phone calls they stopped the text all of a sudden they don't have any time for him and you know it seems like being a widow is just you know fucking everything up for him so he basically wants to know how to fix this you know so here's the thing the easiest answer for me to tell you of course is to tell you don't tell him. I mean I personally maybe I wouldn't tell him until they were totally in for the long haul in love with you okay but some women may not like that they may not like the fact that you kept that from them. I think theoretically it's something that you could do and still in have a happy relationship with another woman like you could not tell them ever you know they have to find out by going to the library inserted through newspaper clippings and liking the movies and shit like 45 years later and find out like a mystery movie. I think you could be okay with that but for those that are kind of like nah you should be totally truthful you could be that but you could say she died you know I don't know how she took her life but if you say she died a lot of times people ask how did she die then you might have to tell them. I was thinking a lot about this man before I made the video they may also think that either you're damaged goods which I'm sure is probably the number one reason they think that you're damaged goods and you possibly are to a certain extent but from the way you wrote your letter to me I think that you're doing good I think that you're stable now at least you know you don't seem like a nut job to me okay. I think they think that you're damaged goods and they all of a sudden they're saying they don't want to deal with damaged goods I understand I mean there's situations in different relationships where you know like even with me I've been in certain relationships where I'm like you know this girl's fucking damaged I don't know if I want to deal with you know so I understand where the girls are coming from but another thing they can think is that maybe you caused it or maybe it scared them you know like what about the marriage made her want to kill herself is this motherfucker crazy did he do something to her did he treat her a certain way you know what I'm saying so you gotta this is this is a tough one because you got to kind of dance around it tip-toe around it walk on eggshells for a certain amount of time and you know the problem is first of all I could be trying to be politically correct as possible and not want to mess with anybody's feelings or views but this is my my motherfucking channel so I'm gonna tell you what I would do I personally wouldn't tell them straight up seriously in the neck in the last four years if you've seen if you've gone out with maybe three or four girls maybe more in every time that's the kiss to death fuck it I wouldn't tell them you know I mean now you could go through the process of elimination and just keep dating and dating and dating and dating and dating and telling everyone until there's one that sticks just just she's like it's okay you know things happen you know and that woman's probably definitely out there but some people are I guess maybe shallow or they don't think things through so thoroughly you know what I mean to the point where they're like okay maybe it wasn't him maybe he isn't damaged maybe she was troubled and that's the reason why she took her life maybe it had nothing to fucking do with him you know what I'm saying so I would I first of all I don't know how soon you're telling people okay I was you I just let them know that you know I don't want you to lie but I just don't know how to you know usually people don't pull away later on in a relationship if you have been seeing these women for a while a year or so six months even so you know you've been out they've seen who you are you've had sex you got a chance to connect and all that stuff and they're totally in you dropping a bomb like that is it's easier than because they're there they're there invested in you and you don't if they're like oh my why didn't you tell me it's because I didn't want you to think that I was damaged goods for other women left me before you you know they they they looked at me like I was just you know some not case or like I caused it and I didn't you have to understand my wife was troubled and she took her own life and I it was a surprise to me you don't understand we talked about everything she hid this from me you know I mean you got to come at them in a way that lets them know that you're sincere you're not crazy and that wasn't your fault now flip side is if it was your fault and I said that shit you know I'm saying like I don't know you maybe you you you proceed you know like you the way you type shit right shit and talk she seemed like you're totally straight you know there's a lot of guys out there a lot of serial killers and you know so forth that seem like normal guys in public but with total psychopaths so but I don't think you're the latter I think you you know what I talked about before I think you're straight so I hope this helps you out man and just take things slow with the women and don't tell them that so upfront just let them know that you know you're separated or you're not with her anymore she left you say that you she you know I mean like that's a way to kind of sugarcoat leaving you until you want to drop the bomb yeah I mean she left me and I haven't seen her since oh you know oh my god you know and you know that become woman become invested in you and then if you want to eventually tell us the list remember when I told you she left me well she left me in a particular way and I didn't want to tell you yeah yeah because alright don't want the video go too long hope this has helped like I said and got any more questions in box me talk to you later