 Hi Welcome to Sunday morning coffee with Bridget, that's me. Thanks for watching my podcast here on above life channel. I appreciate it today. We're gonna talk about Deserving it This has been something that has come up a couple of times for me this week This has been a reoccurring pattern for me over the past seven months about feeling It's it's kind of connected to the energy of self-worth Or being worthy it's also connected. It has undertones of self-worth so personal value and also enough being enough and I think it's in part connected to this heart chakra energy Which is why I'm wearing my my like light pink like my mauve hoodie and it says I it says I am love on it And it has a little heart Because it's really about like self-love loving ourselves enough More than we love other people and that's not selfish But we've been taught that and I got to talk about this in a way that is connected to our being empathic the way that we're in relationship with people is emotional and Energetic we think that everything is about our emotions and how we feel with people and how they make us feel but the truth is Those feelings are also influenced by energy and we don't always have the terms to talk about energy in that way It's like sensing. It's like knowing in your gut having intuition It's like that energy reading energy picking up on energy is kind of feeling energy But it's different than emotion emotion is connected and articulated through thoughts in addition to body feeling That's how I would describe it now. I'm not a therapist I don't do somatic therapy. I don't do things like that But I'm experiencing this or I'm sharing this from my experience as being a life coach since 2006 certified And also being a psychic and intuitive since was it 2004. Yes like Oh my gosh, this year is 19 years you guys 19 years in october. Oh my goodness So that that's where I'm coming from. So when I share information with you like this, I want a psychic and an energy and intuitive I want you to use your discernment and feel into your body and what feels right for you Use it take it integrate it. What does it just set it aside? It might make sense at another time Three weeks from now three months from now three years from now 10 years from now. It doesn't matter It may never make sense It may not be for you might be for the person next to you and you might be saying something about it to somebody And saying I don't get this and they're like, oh my gosh And that's exactly what they needed because you are also a messenger because we're all connected. We are all connected so self-worth and being enough empathic energy And this concept of deserving it So in my personal life, I think going through a lot this last year and a half year year and a half You know because especially if you watch the last podcast of sunday marine coffee, you know, I talked about depression and having depression recently situational depression being able to Try to manage that now with the help of a professional But also like part of that it has been like i'm in my office right now This space used to be my office and now It's also my room my bedroom so I have been living in a separate part of my house my home since august of 2020 so last august was seven months I've been living downstairs and i'm blessed with a beautiful home and I plenty of room down here and actually there is a bedroom here that is empty That's one of my college kids bedrooms and I just didn't have the heart to move into it didn't feel like mine, you know Although I did clean it up and I thought about moving into it but as a whole thing and i'm like, you know So I decided to turn my office into my bedroom space because for a month. I didn't feel like I deserved to have a bedroom I felt like it was my choice to move out of the bedroom that I I shared upstairs the master bedroom And because it was my choice I felt like I didn't deserve an actual room or I didn't deserve to be comfortable And I know many many people have found themselves in these exact types of situations In different ways, you know different kinds of circumstance But feeling the same way like you don't deserve that And it might be something that you were taught when you were younger Like you don't deserve that attention because you have six other siblings and it's all about scarcity And you don't deserve more than the basics or it might be from Your first marriage you were maybe um taught certain things about um How you should act or how you should behave in different circumstances, etc And maybe valued based upon how you looked and showed up in those circumstances or situations That's not my personal experience But for example, you know what I mean like the expectations and things Like you we're pretty smart people and we have brains and we figure it out pretty quick and adapt That's what you do as an empath You read the energy and you adapt and you even anticipate expectation You anticipate all other people are going to feel about your behaviors and actions or about your videos, for example Because that's what's happened to me. My videos have created Conversation in my home now where they didn't used to before but because of the the shift in Um Me and then moving downstairs and then I was sleeping in like a common open space in the living room Which was cute because it was a little bed nook There's a little nook and it was comfortable, but then it started to get really annoying Like I have a kid that walks back and forth from their Their bedroom to the bathroom and walks right by my space and it's like doesn't have a door or anything and then um And then all of a sudden the furnace started making these loud noises I'm like, this isn't just not comfortable for me anymore and the counselor was like, yeah, you need a bedroom I'm like, I know but I don't want to upset the apple card at my house because it just seems like I'm moving farther and farther away So it's upsetting You know my people and my family particularly my Yeah, so I I felt like I didn't deserve it A bedroom a room with a door I felt like I was causing somebody else pain. So I deserved to hurt and be uncomfortable myself So it was like a form of punishment self punishment Seven months you guys what would I tell you? What the fuck are you doing? You're the fucking bedroom doesn't even have a closet, but that's okay I have a huge closet in my kids room that I can use, you know So creating space for yourself you deserve it Even if other people don't like it or makes them uncomfortable, it doesn't matter. They don't have to understand You deserve it You deserve to carve out space on your day if you're a busy mom and you've got so much going on You deserve to carve out some space in your day to just read a book and sit by yourself You deserve one day a week at the coffee shop by yourself You deserve to get lost at the mall and not tell anybody where you're at You know what I mean like you don't have to Make sure everybody around you is comfortable and knows what's going on with you so that They can take care of you better. It's like you can take care of yourself And you deserve to know that you can You deserve it. We deserve it This is a sunday morning coffee about respect for yourself This is how we love ourselves. We show up for ourselves In our integrity We don't sell parts of ourselves for other people's happiness. We don't trade away the just the core basic needs So that other people will not be uncomfortable We don't put ourselves in on discomfort so that other people will be comfortable. We can't do that How are we leading by example for our children? Truly How are we showing them how to live? We're showing them to sacrifice themselves For other people because that's what relationship is about Other people's feelings matter more than your own and that's not true And the thing is is this and can be the experience you both can have feelings and emotions and they're both valid And neither one of you has to fix it for each other This could be in a family unit. This could be in a relationship It is really hard to come to terms with this for me personally, especially caring so much about others knowing feeling empath feeling the pain and the hurt that it feels like I'm the direct cause of when truly I've been in pain for a very long time and wanting to hold that or keep that for myself thinking that I can somehow keep it off of other people By trying to still be the person I have been or show up in the same ways. It's really difficult to do that And what I've learned is I have to love myself more And deserving is a part of that deserving is a value statement. It is about worthiness. Yes And it is about judgment when you don't feel like you deserve something. It means you're judging yourself Oh my god, it means you're abandoning yourself For what somebody else's temporary relief Of emotion of bad feelings. You are not a buffer As an empath we feel like that is exactly how we've been trained as a buffer to ease other people's pain to To comfort other people and we're so rewarded for the comfort that we provide aren't we? Yes, we are in all of our relationships In fact, many people have chosen you to be in relationship with because you are the comfort But the truth is they have to provide that for themselves as do you There's no substitute for your own brand of comfort for your own showing up for you for your own love for self Somebody else can't love you more than you love yourself You can only receive the love to the extent of what you allow yourself to love yourself for So let's think about that for a moment. That's not very much Is it that is sad That is sad you guys You deserve more This isn't about being unhappy in relationships. This is about being unhappy because you are not connected to yourself This relationship internal your heart and your soul Your energy and your brain and your incredible body That is such a tuning fork Yes, it is. Yes. Yes, it is It's time to value yourself you don't have to put in another people's faces you start by valuing yourself inside first By asking for what you need by seeking out the resources you need And if one person can't fulfill that then you go to the next resource and you you have a web That holds you that can catch you when you're falling that can bounce you back into place Into the alignment that is you and your love of yourself We don't know how to love ourselves. We think it's baths and spas and weekends away Yeah, it can look like that in a tiny little step toward Being with yourself, but you have to be with yourself and when you're with yourself You're not alone. You think you are but you're not that's the problem We feel super disconnected from ourselves. So when we're alone away from other people We think we're alone by ourselves. We are not We are not alone ever. We're never alone. Like I'm my own best company. I'm telling you. I think I'm freaking hilarious I had a friend of mine on tiktok and she posted A video about I don't know what you people are talking about like I'm freaking hilarious. Like I think I am so funny I don't even just the fact that you guys are here. That's just like whatever, you know, it's fine. Good for you But I think I'm hilarious and I'm like, oh my gosh same high five same same I'm like, yeah I do think I have a great person and I'm gonna keep reminding myself of that and I'm gonna suggest that you do the same Because that's what we need right now. We need less self criticism and less self judgment and less comparison You can't compare yourself to who you were 10 years ago because you're a different person now And if somebody wants you to be that person, they're mistaken That's coming from a place within them that they have needs that they get to identify with them themselves And think about how they can fulfill those needs for themselves And it's not finding another person to take that place. That's not what it is. It's not about that at all That's not at all what this deserving piece for me this moving piece for me. That's not at all what it's about It's about me is about me finding my space as me Here now here here now now as I am now here in march of 2023 And I would love for you to experience the same kind of value for yourself kind of worthiness for yourself and Maybe a way to start with that is to acknowledge when you're not being kind to yourself When you're judging yourself when the first thought when you look in the mirror is look at all these wrinkles Or it's one of my eyebrows higher than the other these are things I think or oh my gosh my hair It's so fuzzy or oh what is going on with the skin is so dry or what is half is my hair line is it like just the simple stuff like that or Wow, I wish I was in college or like I wish I was I wish I was a therapist I wish I went to college for being a counselor. I wish I like stuff like that like when you're like kind of digging on yourself acknowledge that and be like Turn it turn that conversation into something that is More aligned that gives you value that adds value not takes it away not criticism not judgment not oh, it's too late always have this this internal Kind of ability to kind of turn a little bit and look at a different perspective and be like Wow, a lot of people do come to me for advice and advisement Hmm. I am kind of a counselor at my core aren't I yeah and find some way to Connect with maybe what that desire is about what does that desire about I should have done this What is that a desire about is it really wanting your life to be different? Or is it maybe wanting to feel like you're in a place where you have choices? Maybe that's what's about maybe it's really wanting to feel like you have opportunity And maybe you don't feel like that right now And maybe at that point in your life when you were in that college scenario and set up and choosing your major or Or maybe you left college Maybe you had a baby and you left college and got married Maybe you had a whole different life path unfold At that point of your life is really the place that you're being brought back to To kind of feel into the choices that you had and it's not to criticize yourself It's to recognize that you have so much power now looking back and seeing how life unfolded to make different choices in your life now To make choices that are more in alignment with whatever it is that you want now You don't necessarily want the same thing Or would have really wanted to make a different choice Because your life would have been so different that you wouldn't even be here right now with this new choice That you have opportunity, but you might not be able to see the opportunity. I told somebody today I had a session with somebody who's in deep deep grief There were two clients that I had a husband and wife and I met them both and he recently died like super sudden unexpected and accident and It's so sad because they were like such a couple, you know and We were talking about um grief A lot of grief. She had a lot a lot a lot of grief and part of what came up was you know, there's feeling of regret or of looking back over life and being like wow, did I really You know, what if I would have done things differently and I think that's a natural piece That's a natural part, but I think right now I'm getting a lot of information coming in. I'm just gonna say Let me just bring in let me bring in an archangel here to help soothe some of your energy If you guys have a lot of energy around grief that as soon as I mentioned that it came right in um archangel hannel h-a-n-i-l. She's very Pink She brings in a lot of compassionate energy vibration a lot of help for that Hopeful heart a lot of support for whatever it is you're grieving, you know that disconnect from yourself Maybe you're sad because you're missing yourself Maybe you're in this deep grief because you feel like such a loss because you've lost physically lost somebody Has died or maybe you're in a place where you're losing a relationship or maybe you've lost a job or maybe you're afraid You're just so scared you're in a place where So much has changed and you just don't even know what to do and the truth is The source that you need or the resource that you need comes from inside yourself first You've got to believe that you are worthy of deserving of a good life deserving of a good a decent job deserving of a decent home to live in Deserving of a good relationship or someone treats you kindly you have to believe that you deserve it And I think the problem part of the problem is is most of us don't so archangel hannel comes in and softens our heart Brings in an energy of compassion to support you and love you. I see a light pink energy and a light blue energy Yes, I do. I see both of those colors. And if you've watched a both light channel You can feel that is a nod to our friends in the trans community so love compassion archangel energy healing bringing in The opportunity right now is for you to connect with yourself to learn About yourself to support yourself in ways that like you can do it Not judgment But inspiration and empowerment that's where you Can make the best contributions in all of your relationships and your job and your community with your kids and you for yourself Please This is your time You deserve it So this is bridget. Thanks so much for watching this Sunday morning coffee podcast with bridget on a both life channel I look forward to chatting with you and connecting with you every sunday here as we take an intuitive topic and a life topic and we apply spirituality and energy And psychic information to that be a life human topic Thanks for being here