 I think investing and dating have a bit of a parallel in that they both require a kind of a process that works for you as an individual and every person is going to be slightly different in terms of their preferences and perhaps what their goals are. You have to have a bit of knowledge so there's some red flags in dating that we're laying out and there's also going to be red flags in investing as well and you also need a degree of self-confidence to even begin in the process because just by engaging as you said with that subject matter for some people dating means oh my gosh i'm going to be rejected this could be mortifying i'm going to be emotionally exposed i'm going to be let down so when you have that fear before you get started it's about developing a process where you can engage with it in a way that feels safe to you and gradually develops your confidence