 This is my YouTube plaque for 100,000 subscribers Got it a couple of years ago now coming up to 180,000 come a long way It's doing good and in this video We are going to be talking about Something I haven't really spoken about before which is when the narcissist Realizes They will never Replace you because let's keep it real When they discard you it's because they've taken you for granted They don't appreciate you they think they can do better They think they can find Something else something greater than you And then they run off maybe they've already got supply lined up And if you see the new supply It's really obvious. They're just trying to make them into another you But they're looking for you and someone else They may even try to find someone who they think looks similar to you But then when you look at it It just looks like some cheap knockoff version It looks nothing like the real thing what you were it looks nothing like that at all and As I said, we've got to keep it real. It's like They're not just gonna go to a bar and just pick up someone who's like you I mean, it's a nice idea and this is typically how they think Well, that's just never gonna happen It's never gonna work out like that because of everything that you are Everything that you were to them I mean Especially after how they treated you You had a choice You could have been a total douchebag You could have been a prick you could have been an asshole But you chose not to do that And instead you continue to be loving caring You did everything you could to appease them To pacify them to make them happy You did everything you possibly could You were at their beck and call When they said jump you said how high and you got to think sometimes Why would someone just throw someone like that away like they're just nobody like they're just garbage Why would anyone do that to you and really the reason is They first targeted you because they thought they could get something out of you and Then you were providing these benefits and conveniences to them And then they started to drain you They felt insecure They felt like they could never measure up to you Like they were never gonna be on your level And that is when they began to devalue you Because think of it like this If something has no value you can't take value away from it You have to recognize that it has value first So when they devalued you that's what they were trying to do And it's because they initially Idealized you they saw you as perfect And then they felt inferior in comparison to you because they have a black away mentality It can't be Both of you who are on a similar level And you work together you cooperate to achieve a common goal They can't ever be like that with them They will feel inferior. They will devalue you. They will try to compete with you And then when they think they've used you up, they will just discard you Like you're nothing like a garbage like you never meant anything to them Like you never even existed And then they'll run off to go and try and find someone else Whether it's in a bar or wherever it may be Who knows where they go, but they're never gonna find anyone else like you ever again They're never gonna find another empath They're never gonna find anyone who actually cares Because I can tell you that something like that is very rare in this world today As I've said before Statistics show that only one to two percent of the world's population are empaths That's how rare you are and you've got a look at the way that they are Their addictions many of them are addicted to alcohol drugs Wherever it may be And you may not have known that in the beginning but you chose to put up with that Because you cared about them. You thought you loved them Who else is gonna put up with that? Who else is gonna want to deal with someone Who's going out every week getting drunk It'd be going to the bar every night While with you You weren't drinking You weren't doing drugs. You weren't doing any of that. I mean it may have appeared that way at times Because you had so much love and passion in your heart for them You cared about them that much To the point where it's like You were always on your toes. You were always on edge you were Waiting for the next demand the next thing that they needed from you so Of course against to a point where it's like People might look at you and wonder what are you on? What are you taking? Because you're over-exerting yourself That you're really doing everything you possibly can to try to make them happy, but that's the thing as Michelle leave said in one of her videos from what I remember She said that even if there was a perfect person walking the girth They wouldn't be able to please the narcissist They wouldn't be good enough for them and the narcissist would just destroy them And that's the truth and many of you you were pretty much perfect for the narcissist. I Mean just look at it like this. They trained you They groomed you they prepared and trained you for the purpose of being everything that they needed you to be and You became that You were that for a certain amount of time And if that wasn't good enough for them Nothing will be because you could have been anything that they ever wanted you to be and Many of you were that already So of course they're never gonna be satisfied with anything that they find The odds are that they're never gonna find another empath ever again They're never gonna find anyone else like you They're never gonna find that in a million years No matter how hard they try No matter how far they search They're just never gonna find anyone who does it like you do They're never gonna find anyone who satisfies them in That way they just never gonna find that ever again Because Who is it gonna be? They're not gonna find anyone else at that level So all they can really do is downgrade they have to go down They're gonna find someone who is less than you And you could be sure that that isn't going to last for long It's not gonna last for very long at all. They're never gonna find anyone else Who's anything in comparison to you and I know they may have targeted yourself esteem to the point where you may doubt yourself now But just write it down make a list of everything that you did for them all of the things that you did all of the things that you gave Maybe you gave them a place to stay Money you took them on trips Whatever it was whatever it is Write that down and look back at that list and then tell yourself Who else in the world is gonna do even a fraction of that for them? especially When you consider the way that they treated you and somehow You still manage to continue putting out You still manage to Keep doing these things for them Despite all of the things that they were doing to you and I can tell you that most people They wouldn't tolerate that They won't put up with it at the first red flag. They would already be out the door They wouldn't stick around They wouldn't continue doing more for them They wouldn't continue running endlessly on that hamster wheel in an effort to please them They wouldn't continue doing that at all and in fact what they would do is Stop and Realize that they're being taken for granted Realize that there's no reciprocation. There's not any call exchange And then they would take their arses out the door Yes, that's exactly what they would do they wouldn't stick around for long, but you did and That is why They kept you for such a long time Well knowing that they could never reciprocate any of that back to you They knew that they were never gonna be able to do that for you Even if a narcissist had a million years to live on this planet They couldn't even do a fraction of what you did for them and why I mean for one thing They are very weak and incapable They're ineffective They can't produce the type of effect that you did for them They can't do anything like that And not only that But where's the incentive? Where's the motivation for them to do that to begin with because they're narcissists they're not empaths they lack empathy and That means they have an inability To understand or share your feelings or experience That means they can't feel what you feel that means that your feelings Your understanding your experience That means nothing for them what you feel Doesn't matter It doesn't do anything for them because they can't feel what you feel They live in a separate existence from you Which means that there's no incentive for them to do anything right There's no incentive for them to do anything for you despite all of the things that you have done for them There's no incentive for them to do that at all but luckily for you like attracts like empaths attract empaths Which means that once They choose to leave or you get rid of them and Then you move on There's a chance that you could find another empath Someone who can feel what you feel Someone who can feel and share your experience Someone who can understand your feelings And when you find that You will realize why it never worked out with the narcissist Yes You won't you will realize why it never worked out with you and them Because I can tell you this If they were not a narcissist And if instead they were an empath It would have ended very differently It wouldn't have ended the way that it did It ended that way Because they are narcissistic Because they didn't have your best interest in mind If they did then they would have stuck a brown They would have done whatever they could have to made it work with you And is that a selfish mindset to have? Does that make you narcissistic? No, of course not Because just look back at everything you did for them You are always there for them. You have their back and call and it's not like with them How they give you these lies and future faking's they promise you something in the future This thing that never happens or then they go to discard you and find someone else it wasn't like that With you Because you are always on your toes Whatever they wanted whatever they needed you you were there And in fact They were never waiting for you. It was always you who was waiting for them Now tell me they're gonna find someone else like that ever again Of course not All they're gonna find is other fake people just like themselves People who use them take advantage of them exploit them People who don't care about them That's what they're gonna find And why they're gonna find that Because they took you for granted they didn't appreciate you They discarded you they got rid of you they treat you like we're nothing and of course That's how you should know But they're never gonna find anyone else like you ever again Because otherwise things would have worked out with you They would have just treated you right But no they're just gonna move on and find someone who's more like them Someone who they vibe with someone who they resonate with Because they never resonated with you They weren't about what you were about and that is why you should be glad that they are gone Because just think about it for a moment. You don't want that You want someone who's more on the same page Someone who's more on your level Someone who feels what you feel someone who wants what you want You don't want to be around someone Who doesn't share the same feelings and experience Someone who doesn't want what you want Why would anyone want that and that is why and again they didn't want you Because you didn't want what they want You didn't want it to be all about them. You wanted it to be a shared experience But they always make everything about themselves There's never any reciprocation They never make anything about you It's always about them and that is why in time they will realize that they will never be able to replace you They're never gonna find anyone else like you and in fact What makes this even worse Is that because they got involved with you Now you set the bar You are the measuring stick for everyone who comes after you and yet all they're gonna do is down grade They're never gonna find anyone else who is at your level They're never gonna find anyone else like that ever again and in fact what they will do is They would grow old and they will grow very bitter and resentful Not only towards you but towards everyone else where they come in contact with And you may have felt that as well when they were on their way out You may have felt how it was affecting you But envy that jealousy the bitterness that resentment It was taking its toll on you And that is how you know But that is how they feel every minute of every day 24 hours a day seven days a week that is The daily experience in life And lucky for you. You were only around it for a certain amount of time and now you've managed to get away Now you can find something better Because I like them you're actually gonna find something better for real Because you're about it for real and you're gonna find someone else Who's very much like yourself Someone else who is empathic Someone else who cares Someone else who was gonna care just as much as you cared about the narcissist Someone else who's gonna love you just as much as you love them Someone else who loves the way that you love and just close your eyes and think about that for a moment Just imagine it to yourself I know I do this sometimes as well Imagine finding someone Who treats you just as good as you treated the narcissist? But not only that there is an equal exchange This reciprocation on your end as well Just imagine what you could build together Imagine what you could create Because of course you could never do that with them They were just taken and taken and never given anything back You've got nothing back from them and yet you invested everything that you had and why Because they're low-value people There are bad investment of your time effort energy money and resources If that was not true, then you would have got something back But you didn't And you didn't get anything back because they are low-value. It's like stocks and shares If you invest your money into Something of high value You're gonna get something back There's gonna be an exchange of Value when you invest into a stock or a company That's not doing very well and it has low value You're gonna get little or nothing back And sometimes you've just got to look at a person's past to see how things are gonna turn out for them Just look back at the last few years of their life What progress have they made? What have they accomplished in that time and yet they want you to wait to give you these lies and future faking? I'll just wait a little bit longer Look back at what they've achieved in the last five years Do it do you want to wait for another five years to see the same amount of progress? Are you willing to wait that long? Because just look at it you could achieve far more than that in a fraction of the time On your own rather than being with them and this is why I would like to finish in this video by reminding you That where you put your time and And energy Determines what you're going to get back Don't invest that into the wrong things Into the wrong people Because if they're low value people you're not gonna get anything back Invest it in something of high value Just like the narcissist invested their time into you And look what they got out of you And yet they didn't really do anything for you Because you're high value Your value is not determined by what you keep for yourself or what you consume Your value is determined by what you give out and your value most definitely goes down And you become very and trustworthy very discredible if You've been involved with someone and they invested all of their time All of their energy effort money resources all of their value into you and for whatever reason you did not reciprocate At least that same amount of value back to them That then affects your value and it reveals that you are a low value person but of course It's not like that for many of you Because you did invest so much and it was you who didn't get anything back So they are the ones who are low value not you and you need to remind yourself of that That you are a valuable person The problem is that you put your value at the wrong hands Someone who didn't even know what to do with it It's like giving a hundred dollar bill to a two-year-old child What do you expect them to do with it? Of course, they're just gonna tear it up. They're not gonna save it They're not gonna truly appreciate its value And it's the same thing with you That's why you got treated that way That's where they devalued and discarded you and if they did that with you it should tell you How they're never gonna find anyone else like you ever again And even if in the rare case Well, let's just say that they did Even though it's very unlikely that they ever will But let's just entertain that for a moment. Let's say that they did I Just remember how they treated you Of course, they're just gonna screw it up Of course, they're just gonna use and exploit that person And they might get something out of it in the moment, but it's never going to sustain them And then they're just gonna go back to how things were before They're not gonna get very far with it and this is just how it is Because if you like something if you like what it's providing to you, you better take good care of it Just like a car if you own a car You better make sure that it's topped up with oil the tires are changed It's cleaned Because if you don't take good care of it Then how is it supposed to take good care of you and of course? This is a lesson that the narcissist is never gonna learn Because they never valued or appreciated you They never gave you the proper care that you deserved And that's why when you look at it They actually got the short end of the stick They settled for the crumbs rather on the loaf Because they could have got so much more out of you If they just took good care of you If they reciprocated back to you But as we know they have no in a sense of value so even if they wanted to they couldn't do that That's what they created a false character. That's where they manipulated and saved you They overvalued overestimated themselves They were grandiose they portrayed themselves as so much more than they actually were And that is why they could never follow it up with action Because it was fake. That wasn't actually who they were But that was who you are You were that for real And you can be that for real with someone else Someone else who will take care of you someone else who will treat you right Because after everything you've been through that is exactly what you deserve So that's the message for this one Because yes at some point they will realize that they will never Never replace you They will realize that for real Thank you all for joining me on another NARC survivor live video Hit that thumbs up down below if you found it helpful Let me know what you thought about it in the comment section below I read your comment every day Hit subscribe and click all notifications to be notified when I upload a video in the future And if you would like to donate You can leave a super chat the live chat a super thanks in the comment section Or you can go to my paypal. It is paypal.me slash NARC survivor You can also book a one-on-one coaching session with me By going to my website. 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