 many times we go to extreme measures when life treats us too badly for way too long when I mean by extreme measures is having somebody say fuck life I'm leaving home I'm leaving everything I have I don't care anymore and you go to this kind of extreme or you get like the other extreme where somebody might be like fuck you know fuck entrepreneurship fuck business I'm just gonna study and various other extremes fuck working out I hate working I'm never gonna work out anymore fuck being lazy I'm gonna work out every day and kill myself till I become the biggest strongest person in the world you know fuck women I hate women I don't want to date any more women you know I'm off to men or something that's extreme or I have to have women I must have women all the time women are my reason for being alive that's extreme whatever you see somebody going through these kinds of extremes and especially if you're going through one it just means that you sort of gave up on the middle it means that you you the middle wasn't good enough your life is too painful so you go to some extreme some idealistic version to avoid the pain of it I was recently talking to a guy who was interested in working with me and for him that thing was business he was always very interested in business but he on one hand leaned towards learning he had a good potential future at Harvard on the other hand he leaned towards being this extreme entrepreneur you know take massive risks and and all that stuff well I told him that both are wrong and the reason they're wrong is because we tend to go into these extreme ways of thinking when we don't take action you don't see a lot of guys who take action on a regular basis and get certain results go to the you know the extreme version of like you know fuck it I'm never doing this again or I'm only going to do this all the time the people go to the extremes are always the people who don't take action because then they're like fuck this thing I'm never taking action again or they're the opposite like oh my god I can't take action so the only way for me to take action would be to go fucking extreme traffic go extreme and then they go extreme and yeah burn themselves out so anything extreme is inherently it's not a long-term solution sorry it doesn't last it's it's it's inherently a short-term thing because anything extreme anything too one-sided necessarily means that other things are getting neglected and whenever you neglect some parts of a system the system eventually has to die this is very similar to cancer where cancer is when certain cells simply multiply too much and this causes an imbalance and so you die anything anything extreme in life is bad unless everything is extreme quote unquote like if somebody is super fit super happy super rich super you know has a super life super relationships that's not extreme because everything is balanced for other people that may look extreme but that's only relatively to what they don't have so you you build us up you you build us up and you get to this kind of a situation that might appear extreme to other people but for you it's actually normal and and that's how you do it and again the whole extreme thing only comes about when you don't take action as long as you take action whoa shit second time this happened to me while making videos so as long as you don't take action you're gonna stay stuck you're gonna stay in the same place and you're gonna start developing these weird thinking things like oh yeah I need to go like this extreme needs to be crazy yeah so what I recommend instead and what I told that person I was talking to is look you know like moving out of your parents house going through the extreme path of entrepreneurship stuff like that you know as extreme not a good idea going to Harvard and completely focusing yourself on studying that's also extreme that's also not a good idea they're also always in the future you know it's always like as a future idea so tell him look you know what you can do now start working on both start developing the habits already for example if you want to be more successful women start already approaching women while learning more about it or you have the business learning thing dilemma again start already doing small business stuff maybe talking to successful business owners stuff like that while you still study so don't don't like always have multiple things going for you and see what works and when you see something that's working focus on that but don't never do it out of desperation always do it because okay this is working I like it I want to invest more in it but never do it like oh fuck it I hate everything so yeah that's my solution no because if you over focus on something that's not working already it just it just bound for more pain more headbutting to the wall if you're stuck in this situation this topic can definitely be developed further and I recommend you contact me because I can help you solve it in 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