 but okay here we are coming up right now coming from Texas Steve Maeda el Topo three years he's spoken here this is his third year and he's always got exactly yeah he's got quite a following thanks guys I'll pay you afterwards very good and doesn't need yeah exactly what then till a little bit fucked up this year but doesn't need much of an introduction but give it up for him he's gonna speak for an hour it's always great so here Steve El Topo yes hey thank you thank you um Peter I want this to be as interactive as possible because nobody ever people aren't interacting enough and I wish they would so let's keep that mic somewhere where we can put it and if somebody can like help pass it around maybe that's you be usually standing back and all this stuff so look there's a lot of stuff first off worth a 21 convention I love this convention it's organic it's an experience it's all this stuff where we can we can exchange ideas and it's a community and man this it gets better and better every year whereas we have speakers on health nutrition you know business stuff and of course women and everybody has all this you know amazing women advice unfortunately you would think in three years I'd get more time but I get less time this year I only get an hour so check this out alright you're cutting into my time dream okay so check this out first off you can find my stuff at this amazing site which every marketer will tell you is a horrible you know website and there's a dot and there's a calm but look that's it you can find all about me and I would definitely say go there get on the email list all that fun stuff and because the majority of all the stuff the experience of working with me is not going to be this hour here or whatever you're seeing online and all that fun stuff but what I wanted to do is I wanted to talk about a few things I gave a layer talk last night and I was like I didn't know how to start off the layer talk because coming here I was talking to a lot of my friends in Austin there's a lot of guys in the community and the community is just like so saturated and can get so kind of like fucked up at times that that's what I wanted to talk about so first off how many guys are like brand new to this like brand new in the sense of we got two under six months oh we got a few more Greg yep you know so under six months cool and then how many guys have been in it for like a year how many guys have been in it more than that god damn all right so most of the people have actually been in been in this for like more than a year which is pretty cool but we see the pickup community oh man I need like a napkin or something or my shirt huh you guys want to see me whatever whatever tough crowd we'll use the hands right Peter Murphy that's a cue for me to for you to get you know right oh shit all right have Steve look stupid on stage dot com there you go okay but see so what I want to do is actually I want to talk about what defines the PU fuck dude have Steve look really stupid the PUA and slash seduction community all right so what are some of the things that might define this and I'll help you you start off what would make a pickup guy good you California oh wait I guess you first fake it till you make it and what did you have to say oh good fake it till you make it see I'm writing kind of like text language what else do we got balls risk balls integrity all right nobody else what is some what are some techniques that go into let's look at this because part of this is part of my problem with the pickup community is that it is it has no definition to it and yet it has now become defined by the marketing you guys have been in this thing for over two years you guys know about the emails and like you're gonna fuck 10s in one night or whatever so stuff like that what is it like we'll say dominance touching Jesus touching Kino routines escalating well what dancing was that you Greg I got some great video of this guy I want to see that in the bathroom later all right I wait we'll say dancing huh that wasn't really my angle here but nonetheless okay so look all of this and this is for like pick a part of stuff it's like how to be cool you know how to better yourself you know improve all that fun stuff in it and sadly a lot of it is about the quick fix right and then when we get into to the selection industry when we're learning about sex when we're learning about how to be better with women and all that sort of stuff we're gonna learn about like orgasms and we're gonna learn about like quick sex and we're gonna like when I first came to the community first of whatever's came to the community when I spoke here well it was a little bit after that but when I spoke here probably like in 2008 it was like man the opener was still kind of like jealous girlfriend was getting a little bit saturated and now the opener is like man you're adorable I just had to come talk to you which is getting a little bit saturated yet nobody really does the stuff after that which is important but when I first came here to be a pick-up artist when I first came to the community to be a pick-up artist I had to actually you know what was it like you know go on a day two and fuck a chick if I did that that means that means I was a poor and then it became like you know and then then I was in Dallas right and so in Dallas we came up with the term SNL because it didn't exist in 2007 an SNL did not exist until CJ coined it because it was called a fool's mate and then it was the same that way and then you had to get sex like within four hours then you had to get sex within 20 minutes then you had to get sex like you if you're not a fucking pick-up artist if you are did you fuck the chick in the bathroom of the club man fuck you dude you got no like you went on what three dates with her and you didn't fucking dominate her pussy man Jesus all right I took her to fucking Mecca when they're walking around the thing and then I fucking sodomized her and said that's a fucking pick-up artist and she said I worship your dick I worship I mean she got all into it and that's that's what game is guys you want that I'll give you the techniques and that's the problem it's because this this all that we define ourselves by it has no definition everybody sits there and says you want to be a better man everybody says you want to be somebody that that can live a life which is full and that can be complete you know when you signed up for those email lists and you're typing on it and whatever it was with me it was like Thundercat and David D'Angelo and you know Swing Cat and those fools you know and I'm writing on there and they're like man you could get any woman I wanted I wanted that power but really what was happening was like dude I was lonely I wanted to connect with a woman I wanted all those things and somehow because also I'm pretty fucking crazy right you know my end goal got distorted by all this interference right in here check this out all these things are actually good things but defined or not defined they're going to rely purely on the action all right so let's take a look just really quickly if we're a man if we are looking at the actions of what a PUA does a seducer somebody somebody you know who's good with women so those actions would be what you know they're going to be people let's do some techniques you know we'll say some nags that's great you know nags can be great we'll say you know qualifiers what else what else we got FTC baby that's not the federal trade commission that's false time constraint all right what else touching cold reads oh yeah oh man I haven't heard that one a long time but that's a good one that's a good one I'll put touching there future event projections all right FEP don't mistake of that with EFT guys all right what else we got what else we got there's yeah you laugh or leans all right tap that out in the bathroom you and me later with Greg all right so because that's where really that's the best place to tap anything but all right so what else good with women seduction seducer PUA is what are some of the actions come on there's more of them there's owning the club you know I heard I hear guys say all the time like the key to attraction you know what women are gonna find attraction is if you walk in the club and everybody fucking knows you man let me tell you something I I fucking drove out here my car is like popping out of gear and all this crazy there's nothing special about my shit right but at the same time the reason why were all these like on the mattresses because my friends own this company you want to cut the line at like the best clubs in the world all I have to do is call them and they will have me cut the line with 16 guys or whatever and it happens many times happens in Vegas all the fun stuff but that don't mean shit that doesn't mean anything because look when I do that I am defining myself by my actions yeah some chicks give me attention but they don't fucking like me so check this out the pickup community the seduction community now and what I mean by that is like you know all those guys selling you sex and all those guys selling you techniques all this stuff it is defined by its marketing it's defined by its act it's its actions and when we have a solid definition which we forget many times is to maybe be better with women maybe connect with people maybe actually to experience with people all right one more framing when I gave Larry talks around the country quite a bit which I should probably do more of framing was what everybody wanted to know about and let's do sexual framing right sexual framing all right so when we define ourselves purely by those actions we're left to be defined by this and how many guys out there we go out there we went out there last night we're all bragging about it or whoever's bragging about it all that shit and you know probably not nobody got laid and who gives a fuck but the thing was is what you hear everybody talking about it was like oh man I dominated that chick I dominated that set da da da da da and it's not the experience oh my god man I had frame control I was frame controlling the woman you know what frame control means and that's great you know I think frame control is a great tool but when that becomes my God or that becomes my definition what is it it means I'm a fucking afraid to experience with somebody right and what this was all about and what this really should be all about hopefully should be all about is experiencing with somebody and maybe having a sexual connection in those things and building that sexual confidence and having the and being proud to be you if you live by this what's the outcome man if you live by what are the true roads and it's not anybody's fault who's teaching this stuff it's the mechanism that we put it in we put it in the level of you know routines hey here's a customized map here's well nobody's offering a customized map but but here's here's here's a structured map for you to do these things if you master this technique if you master this technique if you master touching if you mask their escalation you will be good with women and that's not true man that puts you in a template of evolving towards something where you cannot be proud of yourself and when you're not proud of yourself you don't get results because the mechanism doesn't work you think there's something wrong with you and that leads to shame