 Hello everyone, welcome to another NARC survivor live video. I am live from my room at this boutique hotel and I wanted to do a video outside today but unfortunately there is a storm so I couldn't do that today but yeah in this video we're going to be talking about how no contact affects the narcissist and it does affect them it really does get to them when you go no contact because then you've just cut off their supply they're no longer getting that attention, that validation, that stimulation from you so it creates a void, a void that they will of course try to fill. I mean a narcissist is not just going to sit alone at home and just by themselves without any external stimulation without any attention of course they're not going to do that they can't do that they need constant attention and validation they need to be praised and admired so when you go no contact it will affect them but they will quickly find new supply they're not going to stay on their own for long you know that's how you really know how much you've mattered to them how much they cared about you because if they can move on that quickly with someone else and just forget about you then you couldn't have been that important to them but then that's just how it goes with narcissists they can't be alone for long it's a bit different with sociopaths and psychopaths they will stay alone for quite some time regardless of how many options they have if it's not the type of supply that they want so that's an advantage as well the difference between a narcissist and a sociopath and psychopath is that the sociopath and psychopath can be alone for a longer time with narcissists they can't even be alone for a day and that's why they've already got the new supply lined up before they even leave you or before you even go no contact because they're very good at that they can sense it they know when you are about to leave them and what they will do just as you're getting fed up of them they will go and leave you first they will beat you to the punch because they are very sensitive to rejection the last thing they want is for you to reject them first so they will try to beat you to that and they will try to cut you off first because of their pride and ego they ever need to feel important and they can't deal with the shame and the embarrassment and the humiliation if you were to reject them but I know many of you who are watching this right now that's exactly what you did you rejected them first you went no contact and yeah that will affect them especially if they're struggling to replace you and find new supply because if they are struggling to do that then it's really going to get to them and it will cause a huge narcissistic injury they will be very angry and they will want to punish you they will try to get revenge and they might do that by gossiping about you starting a smear campaign and enforcing their flying monkeys or they may stalk and harass you they may try and get you in trouble at work they may try and get you fired from your job there's so many different things they can do and yeah at that stage up until then they may have been very predictable but when you go no contact there really is no telling what they will do I can give you my ideas for my research and experience of what I think they might do when you go no contact but you never know they might do things they've never done before they might do things that you don't expect so you need to be cautious because they can be very unpredictable at that point a narcissist without supply is very dangerous and you will know when they don't have supply because they're very angry and it's like no matter what you do you just can't make them happy they're just always miserable with you because they haven't got that supply there's nobody validating the illusions of their false self but if there is if they do have new supply you don't even need to see it all you've got to see is the look on their face and then you will instantly know whether or not they have that new supply because you will see that they are always smiling they're always laughing they're happy because they've got someone new and it's giving them that adrenaline rush it's making them feel good so that way that is how you will know when they do have new supply and yeah I mean if a few weeks or a few months have gone by and they're still like that they're still coming after you they're still trying to make your life hell well I don't know what kind of narcissist you're dealing with because normally they get supply sooner than that but if they're still coming after you then that does likely mean that they still haven't found a suitable replacement for you which is very rare that doesn't usually happen I mean narcissists they're usually very charming and charismatic it's not difficult for them to find someone new a lot of narcissists they are very attractive people physically so they can normally replace you on the same day most of them that I would say but yeah I mean I mean those narcissists that just keep coming after you and so much time is gone and it's like they still haven't forgotten about you those are the ones who just can't find a suitable replacement maybe they have replaced you already but their replacement isn't good enough and that's why they keep coming after you and that's why it's affecting them so much but that's how you're going to know if they have moved on and they've forgotten about you because they're just not even going to be affected anymore if they haven't got anyone else they're going to be very angry and you can test it you can reach out to them send them a text see how they respond if they respond angrily that means they have failed to replace you they haven't got new supply but if they reply and you can tell they just don't care they're not bothered that you're gone or maybe they don't even respond then in those cases you've been replaced they found someone who they think is better than you and that's why they're not chasing after you anymore and you shouldn't worry about that really I mean that should make it easier for you to move on if they have moved on and they found someone who they think is better than you then that's good because it just means they don't care about you and that's what you should want if they don't care about you then why should you care about them doesn't make any sense you see the the most difficult situation is when the narcissist is still there and they're not leaving you alone and they're not trying to find something better that they think is better at least they're not trying to do that instead they're there pretending that they care pretending like they're trying to help you that is probably the most difficult situation to deal with because then you just can't let them go because that's exactly what you want you want this person to care just as you cared about them and when they give you that they feed you the illusion just pulls you right in and you can't let go you can't go no contact then makes it very difficult so I know those of you I can understand you may feel upset that the narcissist has moved on they found someone who's supposedly better than you I can understand that it hurts but trust me it's a lot easier that way than if they're still there pretending like they care pretending they're cooperating with you that makes it a lot more difficult for you to move on and then you could be in it for a long time so yeah the narcissist has moved on they've forgotten about you they're not responding to you they're unaffected by your no contact that's great that should be exactly what you want it's a blessing in disguise and then you can move on you can find your freedom you can live your life how you want to live and yeah hopefully they'll stay away they won't hover you they won't come back we'll just forget about you and move on to someone else and then someone else again because as we know that's what they do they go from one person to the next one home to the next one job to the next they just can't stay in one thing with one person they just endlessly move through this cycle love bombing devaluation discard hoovering and sometimes they go back and forth they will do I can say this they will do whatever they think is going to work whatever they think is going to get them what they want and what they want is attention validation admiration and praise that's all they care about people validating the illusions of their false self and if you're not going to do that good riddance they don't need you they don't care about you so that's what you've got to do you just treat them like a normal person act like you don't give a shit about them they're not even there because as soon as you do that if you treat them like they're not special like everyone else you know these narcissists they're all on social media dating apps they've got so many simps telling them they're this they're that they're amazing they're beautiful they're wonderful and if you're that one person who doesn't want to validate the illusions of a narcissist's false self they will cut you off like nobody nobody's business they will get rid of you because at that point you're a lost cause you're worthless to them they don't need you all they need is for you to validate the false self and if you ain't gonna do that then you might as well get lost that's how they think that's how they think and that should be exactly what you want anyway that's how you should want them to respond because as soon as they do that it makes it so much easier for you it makes it easy for you to go no contact it makes it easy for you to go and walk away and then you could just focus on yourself focus on your own life the things that you are passionate about the things that you are interested in and that's that it's all done you don't have to worry about it anymore like i said the worst part is when they still pretend like they care when they're still using their manipulation on you because that can really pull you in that can really mess you up in the head and it gives you that cognitive dissonance those two conflicting beliefs where you don't know who they really are you don't know if they're Dr Jekyll or Mr Hyde that's the worst part when you know exactly what you're dealing with it's so much easier to move on just relaxing in this boutique hotel for a few days enjoying myself having a good time as i said i wanted to make a video outside but unfortunately there is a storm so can't do that today but tomorrow i think i will be doing a video and hopefully i can do it at the beach or somewhere nice like that it will be great it will be fun you'll have some great scenery so yeah thank you all for joining me on another Knox 50 live video if it was helpful please give it a thumbs up down below it helps youtube algorithm it helps to support our community let me know your thoughts down in the comment section i read your comments every day subscribe what i want coaching sessions you can buck from my website it's narcsurvivor.co.uk and check out my instagram it's narcsurvivor youtube and instagram new pictures and videos every day thank you all for joining me and i will talk to you in another