 You and every woman Welcome to every wig woman. So at what point is saying I'm sorry past being polite I've noticed that women are apologizing for everything. Is it too much Amber? I think it's too much I had a friend that apologized every second of the day. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry I'm sorry, and I just got tired of it and I told her one time I said stop saying sorry and she was like You know applaud by the fact that I told her to stop saying sorry Well, I think even apologies. The I'm sorry has lost the actual meaning of right I'm sure and being sorry because we hear it so many times. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry I think it's okay. I have to say I'm sorry because of my clients when I do hair make-up I do something they don't like it. I'm sorry. Let me change it In a relationship Know it look good. Are you gonna say like I'm sorry? I wouldn't what is that cut off that limit part? I'm an instructor and I did have a student approach me and say you know for someone who teaches us to be confident And to believe in ourselves and put ourselves out there. I noticed that you say you're sorry a lot and That called you out. Yeah, and it took me back and I had to think about it like Whoa, and then when I was hearing myself and then I was so self-conscious about it every time I said it And so I think yeah, definitely. I was saying it too much without really being conscious Cheryl see I don't actually volunteer that many of them unless it's something that is truly sincere, right? I have no problem admitting when I've done something wrong, and I will definitely apologize for that But in terms of just peppering speech with them. Absolutely, that comes from your expertise as a human relations Professional, you know what? Maybe maybe it does. I mean I can think of a perfect example There was a person at my church who asked me if I would be willing to volunteer to sit on a particular committee I told her I would get back to her because I wasn't gonna just you know commit to it right away And ultimately she came back to me and for that I did apologize because the answer was no, so that's No, and I'm sorry And I had left because it was for kids and when I came back one of the teachers came up to me and said Your daughter my niece but she was so your daughter won't apologize to this child and you're and she has to leave And I said okay. Well, let me tell her that she needs to apologize You need to say you're sorry and she said no I said why not you have to say you're sorry and she said why I'm not sorry. Why should I have to say I'm sorry and I didn't really fully get the full story of what happened But I noticed years later. I ran in the same situation with my daughter And I thought maybe it was just that child, but he was also my own child No, I don't want to say I'm sorry and I said honey, you have to say you're sorry And I was teaching her that she needed to say she was sorry even though she was not sincere about it Well, right So should we do that to children even as ourselves to force somebody to say sorry to us if they don't necessarily mean it I would do that to get out of situations. I mean, I'll admit it I will give an apology even if I'm not really sincere about it in a way. I know I'm just servicing myself Absolutely No, I'm good actor I'm just kidding. I'm just kidding. All my sorrows have been sincere to you But you know what that actually brings up a good question because how do you because obviously we need to teach You know our kids our daughters, you know our little girl, you know But our kids in general we need to teach them, you know, how to how to give us a seropology But then is it is it, you know youthful stubbornness or is it a custom that we're teaching them It's customary to say I'm sorry I'm gonna make them long and try to abuse them Oh, I'm sorry. I'm sorry You know, and it does sometimes that the more women apologize the more vulnerable or weak Sometimes will appear and a wise man once told me you said a woman shouldn't apologize for nothing Who wise men is that? But listen to the point in that is you shouldn't apologize for who you are No, and I think I think so many people do that. They'll apologize for being successful They'll just apologize for their situation and like as a way of sympathizing with somebody But that's something we should be, you know ashamed of Anna. What do you think? I think like I said in relationships I'm sorry because it is why I mean if you can't accept me for who I am, but Why do you deserve a check with me? You're so strong enough. I really are But did your did your mom teach you that? I mean what in you? Yeah, she told me to be myself But sometimes I have to admit the real part inside of me, you know when I am alone It's like man, I'm like why are they like are they intimidated by me or what? Like they have to play dumb or something to get a good guy like you know, so it brings out almost like an insecurity in me It does it does but then I stop for a minute there. I'm like I'm not sorry I mean, okay, but on their subject of apologies Is it appropriate to ask or demand an apology from somebody? Yes, you know, absolutely. If someone has treated you in a manner that you know is unacceptable for you Then you need to let them know about it and you need to let them know It's like hey, we need to start fixing this and here is how I expect you to fix it Yeah, you know, I obviously own whatever part of it you need to but Well, then if you know, it's okay, it's okay not to have friends all the time not everybody has to be your friend Right, and I'm on the same page with you because at some point if you tell if you don't tell somebody Hey, you need to apologize to me because you hurt my feelings You may not know why but it happens and but let me explain to you Absolutely, so it's got to be followed up with an explanation No, there's a lot of wisdom in that because I'm you know, I'm in a situation now where I'm I have a friend He's a young man and I'm I'm somewhat displeased with his behavior And at one point I almost just threw in the talent said, you know what screw it. I'm out And then I said, you know what I haven't given him I haven't informed him of what the actual problem is So I need to give him the opportunity to make it right before I just check in the tower Or have you ever done the classic apology where you don't know what you've done wrong, but it must have been something I am so sorry for whatever I did But I'm sorry that you're upset by it. Yeah, yeah, absolutely. You don't do that, Amber. No, I don't You're not wrong. I'm sorry when I'm needed Okay, well lesson learned. Apologize when you need it. Stay tuned for more everyway woman when we come back from this break Thanks for watching Coming up next more everyway woman You and every woman As women we take care of everyone else Well, we often choose to forget to take about our take care of ourselves Dr. Sherry Thomas is here to talk to us about the importance of checkups and taking care of ourselves Thank you. Dr. Thomas for joining us I'm gonna be the first to say I don't take care of myself. Why should women go to the doctor? Well, if you don't take care of yourself, you can't take care of everybody else That is true. That is true But again, so when I decide to go to the doctor, what should I be asking my doctor since I've taken so long to get there Well, if you haven't been in over a year, you need to think about just a yearly exam a yearly checkup So women over 21 need to check their blood pressure They're cholesterol have a pap smear and a pelvic exam And then the doctor should go over different screening risk for you your family history Do you have a family history of high blood pressure diabetes? Are you up to date on your immunizations? And then Uh ask you about other things such as do you exercise? Do you eat well? And do you smoke now when you ask all those questions? That would mean that a woman would need to know her body What how can we educate our women on knowing their bodies? Well, think about your body in terms of anything else you maintain Think about what you've heard And what your other girlfriends say and also online you can look online in terms of recommendations based on your age Of what you should have checked We all know once we hit 20 we should start doing breast exams We all know once we become sexually active. We should start having pelvic exams and being screened for sexually transmitted diseases We all know once we hit 50 or we should know we need screening for colon cancer Right a very common cause of death in women So In in knowing your body and I'll use myself like the other day I did an exam for myself and I felt the lump and I still haven't gone to the doctor Because I'm making those excuses of you know not going too busy, etc When I get to the doctor Usually they have me come in and out What are some of the questions that I can ask the doctor to let them know I need your time I need you to spend some quality time with me Right, so you want to be specific you're making an appointment just for This lump right okay and not for your yearly exam Okay, so focus on your breast and not oh, I also have a here earache and I might have a cold today Can you look at that focus on your lump in your breast? Tell him or her how long it's been there You have a family history of breast cancer. When was your last mammogram and that I do breast exams every month and this is new or you know I just saw a show and I saw on this breast exam and this has been there maybe just a week or two But you know dr. Thomas and again, I have to use myself sometimes it's so Difficult going to the doctor because you don't feel like your physician is an advocate and you feel like they just throw you in there They feel on you and they send you out How will I know if I'm with the right doctor or how do I find a doctor that will be an advocate for me Oh, that's an even better question Then what to focus on for that little appointment find a primary care provider It may not be a doctor. It may be a nurse practitioner a physician assistant But find a primary care provider Who you feel comfortable talking to that you can tell this person everything You can tell them all these intimate details that you're going to need to tell them Things that you might not tell your mother or your sister or your best friend Because they need to know that and they need to listen so that they can help you Get through whatever it is you're going through So my daughter's going to go away in college and we're starting to have this conversation about you know when you're away Mommy's not there anymore What do I tell her when she's in another state about looking for a doctor? Should I be involved in the process or should I just let her handle it? Well, one of the things she'll ask is her friends, which is what we do Yes, you have a doctor you like and so they've been screened. There's also ways online We can look at credentials of the doctor and then meet the doctor and see if you like the doctor or the Nurse practitioner or whomever you've chosen with your daughter going to school a lot of times They will have a clinic and the clinic has several different health care providers Oh, but that's so impersonal, but you know actually you get some great Doctor I've I've had some friends that have Worked at different university programs and you get some great doctors too, but they have a lot of the nurses and The the their friends will say oh go see this person They'll go get this taken care of and it's actually geared more towards students and not somebody My but I think the message is the most important thing is that she needs to go to the doctor And not be like her mother and wait to the last minute, right? She needs to take care of herself There you go. Know where it is know what their hours are right when if they're not there you need to go to the emergency room Know where the local emergency room is or or find a doctor in town that everybody else calls when they're closed on Saturday or Sunday Okay, well, I have to tell you you've inspired me. I am going to go to I'm going to go to the doctor I'm going to make an appointment We take care of everyone before you can take care of others. You have to take care of yourself women Go to the doctor. Don't be like me. Go to the doctor Stay tuned for more Everyway woman. We will be right back We'll be back with everyday fitness All right, so clear some space in your living room because lisa is going to show us how we can do circuit training in your very own home This is every way woman Some of you don't think you can get a good workout at home But it's easier than you think and there are a lot of benefits. So lisa snow is here to tell us all about them Lisa, so what do we need to get a good workout at home? Well really at home? You already have your equipment. Okay, and so I don't have this thing. Well, you can go out and buy one This is a bozu And the great thing about working out at home is you can buy your equipment if you really want it And then you can make a one-time payment and then you can do anything you want with it Is this something like this expensive or no, it's not compared to a gym membership or there you go Yeah, you it's a one-time payment and you can use it however you want. Okay. So what do I do with it? So this is a bozu and you can use it Standing this way you can flip it over you can do it ever but right now we're going to work on our abs with it okay, so A good exercise for the bozu is you can have see it's a little wobbly So it makes you use your core and stabilize you put your hands on the floor and you just extend your feet out And bring them in tighten your core as you do it And you can do So many reps you can do until you have a burnout or you can do three sets of 10 You might be a little less reps than you think I mean how advanced do I have to be let me figure this thing out You don't you it's all to your level so if you need to put your hands down flat on the floor You can do that just until yep. Yeah, cool. It's definitely wobbly. Yeah, so Okay, do you want to put my hands down? Yeah first starting out you can put your hands on the floor Tighten your core and just make sure you're contracting every time you pull your knees in. Oh every time That's all I need to do Exactly and the cool thing is that when you're at home and say, oh, I can't really buy a bozu right now I don't know how to do it You can just grab some pillows off your couch and I'm sure you have pillows on your couch I sure do. I usually lounge in them, but I could try something else. Why not? So it's basically the same kind of thing as you did with the bozu because it's raising you off the ground And you can still do this and when your feet go out They're not on the ground like they would be if you're flat And you do the same thing contract your core And since you have two pillows on each top of each other, it makes you have the same resistance Now is this an alternative to this or do I need both things? It's an alternative Okay, yes, if you don't feel like buying bozu right away you and you want to work up to the bozu Start on the pillows. This is pretty hard too. Exactly That's the whole point But look at me go. I know you're doing great. That's awesome So just as long as you keep contracting the core and you have your stabilization you're also you're all set Okay, what do I do with the weight dumbbells? I love dumbbells because you can work out any part of your body. You can do the normal curls talking to me You could do the normal curls. You could do the shoulders You can even do the legs. You can lift anything you want Cool thing with dumbbells is If you don't have them You can actually use kanda soup. You can use water bottles And even if they're light the more repetitions you have the harder the workout Okay, so you're gonna grab the dumbbells. What's a good like standard weight for people to have? Should I do starting off? You can yep buys up curls Soften your knees a little bit make sure you're not hyper extending and there you go Okay, you already got it. You can you already use pickle jars I'm already advanced. You're already advanced once you hit the pickle jars. You're good. You're you're big time at pickle jars Okay, good time So and if it's light and you say you ask what kind of weight that you start with you can start with five pounds You can start a little heavier if you want But the lighter it is you have to up the reps. Well, that's what I'm thinking I mean you say soup cans. I mean how many reps do I have to do like I would be doing it for like 100 200 reps Just you're at home. So turn on some soaps or turn on a good tv show and just keep curling And once you start to feel it Just keep working at it and also you can take a break. Oh good I like to bring that put it down But you know what if you don't think you had a good enough workout drop do some push-ups Pick the soup cans back up. Keep going. So you never sit still That's that's how you get that right up. Yep. Keep the heart right up and you're all good Okay, what else should I do with these dumbbells? So what else you can do is you can probably not bounce them together Well, if you're feeling musical go for it. Okay, you can put them on your shoulders Just like that keep your elbows up when you keep your elbows up and makes your chest stay up And you're gonna work on our legs so you can squat down and push back up Exactly and when you're squatting you make sure that your knees don't go past your toes and it's almost like you're trying them cracking Yeah, I'm old and you can actually if you're just learning how to do this you can use a chair So the goal is to like you're about to sit in a chair you put your bottom back and down And you keep the elbows up. How far down I mean do I have to go all the way down? Yeah, I mean ideally you can get a 90 degree angle with your knees But um if you're just starting out again until you feel the pressure and just push right back Okay, well, these are some great tips and you know if you can't make it out to the gym You have no excuses to pull out the soup cans. We'll be back with more every way woman. Thanks so much Every day kitchen is next with every way woman She is a young professional and a woman in a man's world. So today we're interviewing manji Urias Welcome to the show. You're running your family's business. Yes gas. It's it's a lot. That's a lot of pressures So how old were you when you you know started working with your family? I was probably around 17 or 18 years old right out of high school Was it always expected that you would step into this role? I think so I think my dad's always kind of had that feeling in the back of his mind That he's always wanted me to take over for him one day when whenever he decides to retire Which is probably gonna be never but what about your mom? My mom um, she helps out with the businesses But she's more of like the homemaker and stuff But she definitely is there to help out whenever we need it I can only imagine they'd be very hands-on. Does the business ever turn off? Is it just family ever at the dinner table or a holiday? I think there's there's spurts and moments when it happens, but not all the time I mean business is always on our mind branding is always on our mind So everywhere we go everything we do the brand is the first thing that just pops to mind And it's always the first conversation starter But was it always what you wanted for yourself? Um, not in the beginning at first I was like I want to be a lawyer then I went to school got into the whole justice system And then I was like I really want to get into probation and parole I interned at the probation department and everything Yeah, I was I was so into it. I love the justice system. It's always been a passion But you also love tequila. Yes Exactly you chose to become the marketing director of you know your family's business instead And it's a man's world the spirit industry. It is it is it's it's it's very different You get you get a lot of those stairs and you know little snark remarks here and there But I I mean I've never really had anybody say anything directly to me, but you just know they're saying something Yeah, you know because I mean it is such a male dominated category and I I haven't been down personally to Mexico To put the recipes and stuff together my dad did all that himself But from what I understand even that process was so hard Especially considering the fact that we aren't mexican and we're not any type of latinos and let's talk about that for a minute So I love us that community embrace You know a non mexican tequila. I think it comes from Mexico Yeah, it comes from Mexico. So it is made in Mexico But I think initially from when my dad tells the stories you hear all the different hardships he went through And it was hard because people people laughed at them They're like an indian in mexico trying to make tequila to sell in america. Like what what is going on? Nothing My head is spinning just trying to put those pieces together And I can only imagine then how you must feel as a woman walking in who's you know a woman indian you're young You have all this responsibility How do you navigate that? Um, I I'm a very I guess you could say I'm a little ocd when it comes to things sometimes and so most of us are Yeah, I'm very organized I always like to be in control and stuff and so I like to have my stuff planned out And I I like to see it all scheduled and and I'm sure you approached it that way But there must have been you know your first mistake that you made when you stepped into the role And it's your family's business. I mean the pressure's on right. I think I think one of the probably the biggest Things that I did in the beginning was maybe I walked into it and I was like tequila. Yes. All right We're gonna drink and have fun You know Especially being younger we started this business four years ago. So I was in my almost late 20s So I was I was more in like a party mode and I was ready to just go out and celebrate sell tequila Get everybody to drink and get the party started and I think that's where I needed to kind of step back a little bit And be like, okay, this is business. I need to be a little more professional At what point did you learn that lesson? Um, I think just kind of starting right into it because like you said being a female in the industry being a young female And not a latina. It's it's difficult because was there ever the point you partied a little too hard Not not and work events. No. No, I have not so anything we've done with tequila has always tempted me and The next stage shows I don't know how I could you know step into work without it showing on my face Yeah, I I'm I'm sure I've done it plenty of times when I was younger But what would you advise for you know a woman stepping into a man's world like this? um, I would say stay strong just stay focused and remember that There's there's a lot on your plate and you want to show the boys that you're better, you know, so Absolutely. So what's next for you? Well, um recently I started a nonprofit So I'm getting into that full time as well on top of everything I do with the tequila company So I have I have a lot of different goals and ambitions and things I want to do and I'm getting started Okay, so you're going to take your next steps and in this nonprofit. What about, you know, family business Family family. I love my family. We are all very very close. So you're going to keep it going Yes All right Well, I want you to come back to the show and we're going to include you in a few more segments because I cannot just talk about tequila without tasting Definitely, you have to try some all through a premium sophisticated and always a good time Yes, always Stay tuned for some really great segments with manji. Thank you so much for being here We'll catch you next time for more information. Go to everywaywoman.com. That was great. I mean and how cute I'm an everyday woman and never we wear