 Okay, so recently I've gotten a bunch, I've been looking at a bunch of the questions in our community and I've been noticing that there's a pattern going on in a lot of the questions. And so I wanted to take some of the confusion that is going on in some of these questions and I kind of put together a list of different things that you should probably know based on all the questions that we've been getting recently in our community. And so I'm gonna go over each one of them and there's a lot of different things here and these are 15 things that I think that you should know, that all women should know about men and dating. And so if this is your first time to our channel, make sure that you subscribe. My name is Matthew Coast. Welcome to Commitment Connection. Those are all the things. Anyway, there's another one. If you're really serious about getting into a relationship where you feel seen and loved and cherished, make sure that you go over to thegoddaskommunity.com and check out joining our community there for free. You'll also get free access to my new program, The Forever Woman. And so that's it there. Let's get started here. So what are some things that I think that all women should know? One is that men want to be loved for who they are, not evolved into what you want them to be, right? This is true for everybody actually. Like I get all these women that come in and they're like, oh, well, he'd be so perfect if, and guys feel the same way when they meet women, right? They meet women and they're like, oh, you know, she'd be so perfect if. And it's one of those things where it's like, okay, am I going to try to fix this person and try to make this person into who I want them to be? Or am I going to accept them for who they are and love them for who they are? And the thing is, is if you can't love a man for who he is right now, not, you know, who he's trying to be, not his potential, not falling in love with his potential, if you can't love him for who he is right now, then you probably shouldn't be dating the guy and you should probably go find some other guy. If, okay, so if you're here right now and you're in the chat, make sure that you say hi in our chat and let us know where in the world you're watching this from. And we will continue on with that. Yeah, so, so, you know, a lot of guys, they'll, you know, they're, they're probably over here like, oh man, she'd probably be so perfect if she'd just leave me alone and stop trying to fix me, right? So, so men want to be loved for who they are. And if you can't love them for who he is, then you should probably find a different man. So number two is just because you feel that he's the one doesn't make him the one. And I know there's a lot of confusion here because, you know, we get a lot of women that come in and, you know, obviously I'm not a woman. So I don't know some of these kind of womanly things that women have going on, but women have kind of this like supernatural intuition thing going on. And sometimes I think the wires get a little crossed, right? Like the wires get connected to things that shouldn't be getting connected to. And they kind of, a lot of women will confuse things where they're like, okay, I'm, this guy is the one. I'm in love with this guy. He's perfect. We're perfect for each other. This is going to a match made in heaven, right? And they kind of throw that onto the guy. And the guy's like, I don't even really like, I'm not really that into her, right? And she's over here like, oh my God, like this is the most amazing guy. And this happens with guys, with women as well. But it's one of those things where it's like not, you know, just because you feel that way doesn't mean that it's necessarily that way. I actually had a bunch of experiences like this in my past actually, not where I was thinking she was the one that there was, the first time I ever felt that way about a woman was actually when I was in high school and I wanted to marry my high school sweetheart. She cheated on me with a bunch of people. It's a really sad story. But when I was in my mid-20s, I had a few women that I dated had told me that I was their one, right? They were like, you know, I had a couple of women where they were like, yeah, you're the one for me. You're the one, right? And I was just like, I remember hearing them say that and I had been dating a lot at that time. And I was just like, I don't think I'm the one. And guess what? I wasn't the one for any of them. My suggestion is that even if you feel really, really heavily for a guy and you think he's perfect and you think he's the one and you guys think that you're gonna have babies and all that kind of stuff, stick to the game plan, right? I put together a game plan for you specifically in the forever woman program. If you wanna go check that out, there's a link in the description. My suggestion is no matter how you feel for a guy, make sure you stick to the plan and don't get caught up in this kind of idea of fantasy that he is the one when he might, he may or may not be, you know? And if he's not feeling it the way that you're feeling it, it might be a really kind of painful experience for you. And like I said, guys run into this as well. Okay, number three, even if you're right for each other, the timing might be off. So there's a lot of reasons why two people might not, it might not work. Even if things are, you feel like you guys are perfect for each other, if the timing isn't right, it might not work out, right? I know a lot of people that have been in situations like this where they found somebody and they had really, you know, everything was really great, but there was something that ended up happening. Like, you know, one person was like, I have to move to the other side of the country or to another country. I have to move to this other country and it's something that I absolutely have to do. And the other person's like, well, I can't move there with you, right? And so the timing was just off. Or for instance, sometimes guys will be in really bad financial situations and he's perfect if he could be there present for you in your relationship, but he can't be because the timing is off and his financial stuff is messed up. And for men, most men feel like they need to have their financial stuff situated because it's a part of being a man, having kind of your financial things and being able to take care of things and being able to be a provider and all that kind of stuff. And so sometimes, you know, if things aren't right, you know, it seems like everything's perfect between you two, but if the timing's off, it just might, it might not happen. And my suggestion is to continue dating if this happens and be open to someone who is right and the time is right. And so because, you know, for that guy, it might never come back where the timing's right or it might and you just have no idea and you don't wanna be just waiting for that to happen. And so stick to the plan, stick to the plan. That's what you should do is stick to the plan. I mean, if there's something else that's going on and you don't need to stick to the plan and it's better to not stick to the plan, don't stick to the plan. But my suggestion is that when in doubt, stick to the plan. Stick to the plan. Does everybody hear that stick to the plan? Okay. Okay, so the next one is physical intimacy is not the path to a man's heart and neither is logic. And I have so, we get so many women that come into our community and they're like, you know, they like try to convince a guy, right? They're like trying to convince a guy that he should get married and they try to convince a guy that they're perfect for each other and they're trying to convince a guy. You know, all these different things and they use physical intimacy as a path to trying to convince a guy to be with them. And it's like, yeah, that doesn't really work, you know? And it will end up making you, because what, and I'm gonna be talking about this a little bit later, but one of the things that we experience is that a lot of people kind of project onto others what they have going on within themselves, right? And so a lot of times we'll look at other people and we're like, oh, you know, like, the first time I actually realized this was when I was dating this girl back when I was, I think it was 23 or 24. And she was like massaging my back. Like one of those like light kind of like fingernail massage things on my back. And for me, I'm like, why are you doing this to me? But she would do it all the time, right? Cause I like really strong kind of like deep massages and she would like do these fingernail things. I'm always just like, this is so weird, right? And then one time I was like doing it on her and she was just, she loved it so much. And I was like, and like it occurred to me all of a sudden I was like, she does that to me because she likes it. And so she thinks that I'm gonna like it like she likes it. And so she does that to me. And so my point is, is that a lot of times women will fall in love through intimacy and they don't realize that a guy's not gonna do that. Most guys aren't gonna do that. And so the path to a man's heart is through your heart. It's not through physical intimacy and it's not through logic. It's through connecting to your heart and connecting to him through your heart. So the next one is many men have standards for a partner that are higher than the standards for themselves, right? So I was talking about this the other day where I have, I know this guy who, he's a pretty coolest friend of mine actually. And he's overweight, right? And he's like in this space where he was telling me how he wanted to meet a girl that had been, you know, he's in his fifties and he was like, yeah, I want to meet a girl that's been, you know, working out for the last 20 years of her life. And I'm like looking at him and he's like, got all these like skin problems and stuff because he hasn't ever taken care of himself ever. And I'm just like, I don't know if, I mean, it's possible, obviously, but I don't think that that's the, I don't think that that girl is gonna be wanting you, you know, like she's probably gonna look at you and be like, yeah, I want somebody that's been working out and taking care of himself. And so it's one of those things where it's like, one, my suggestion is that, that if you're going to raise your standards for the men in your life, which I do think you should, I think you should also raise your standards for yourself and becoming a person who deserves those types of people that you want in your life. Let me know if you get it. Let me know if you get what I'm talking about in the chat. Let me know if you get it. And if you don't get what I'm talking about, ask me, ask questions about what I'm talking about and ask questions about what we're talking about. And I will explain things at the end. So the next one is if you don't talk about whether you are in a relationship or not, you should assume that you are not. So here are some things that do not mean that you're in a relationship. One, he has you meet his family and friends. Two, he gets jealous and doesn't want you to date other people. Three, he takes you out on dates. Four, he spends lots of time with you. Five, he takes you on vacation. Six, he likes your posts on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or whatever social media channel. Seven, anything else that's not you guys communicating that you're in a relationship, okay? So if you haven't talked about it, just assume that you're not in a relationship. Stop looking for clues. We're gonna be talking about that one next actually. Okay, so let's move on to the next one. The next one is if you wanna know what's going on or what something means, ask, communicate, stop looking for clues. You're not Sherlock Holmes. We get all these women and they're like, okay, what's going on here and is it this? And I've looked for all these different things and he did this one thing, but he said this thing and then he said this other thing and it's like, whoa. Like ask, talk to him, communicate, have a conversation with him. Why are you trying to go around and try to figure out what's going on with him when you could talk to him and communicate and build a stronger and deeper relationship through communication? I know it's really intimidating. It can feel kind of scary to like actually ask what's going on and how he feels and all kinds of different things like that. But it's better than getting a bunch of clues and then finding out you're wrong because many times those clues are wrong and many times you're only paying attention to certain clues and not other clues and you're missing out on the important clues and then you like throw that out at people and they're like, oh, well this means that and then you get all these opinions and it's not what you think it is and so the best thing to do is ask. The next one is if he cheats with you, he will cheat on you. And so this goes back to, you know, some of the videos we've done recently and we keep getting these women that come into our community and they're like, hey, I'm dating this married man. Hey, I'm married and I'm dating a married man and you're just like, oh my God, how many times do we have to go over this? You know, and I get it, you know, things happen in marriages and you get bored and things aren't always going right and then you find this other exciting thing going on and all of a sudden you're like, oh my God, I'm in love again and you know all this other stuff but it's not with my husband and maybe I made a mistake or whatever, right? And it's just one of those things like here. So first I'm gonna say my suggestion, right? Which is stop dating guys in relationships, stop dating guys who are married, stop investing in these people and if he really wants you, he'll figure out everything with the other person before you guys get together. And so don't get involved in something that's messy. For the most, for most people, you don't need to get involved in something that's messy and you know that it's messy, so don't get involved in it. And sometimes I get women, I got a woman the other day and she was like, oh well, what if I didn't know until, you know, three weeks in until a month in of dating this guy that, you know, he was married and it's like, yeah, but you know now, right? Like just because he didn't tell you, it doesn't give you an excuse to start to continue seeing a guy that's married. Like that doesn't make, it doesn't make any sense. Just stop it, just stop it, just please stop it. Just please stop it, please stop it. All right, I didn't turn it off today. Okay, please stop it. Okay, stop it, stop it, stop it. Okay, and so the next one, continuing off of that, is he probably won't leave his wife for you. It's possible that he will. And if he does, don't be surprised when he leaves you for another woman. And it's going back to that thing where people have patterns and notice what pattern you are in of another person's because that's what happens. And usually when people are in these patterns, they're really good at shifting kind of perspective on things because they're in this perspective that they've been doing over and over and over again. And so if they're a cheater and they're in a kind of thing where they've been getting into relationships, cheating, getting into another relationship from cheating and then getting out of that one into another one, what they'll do is they'll shift the perspective and they'll be like, okay, look at it from this way, right, like, oh, he tricked me and we were so good at the beginning and then he turned into the devil. And now he's the devil and you're the sweet kind angel that I'm dating now and you're amazing. But one day you're gonna end up being the devil and it's gonna be the same thing over and over and over again for that person until that person is dead or fixes their pattern which they probably won't. So it'll probably be until the rest of their lives. So my suggestion is that you stay out of bad patterns and only look for good patterns. Look for good patterns and disregard bad patterns. Next one is if you're thinking about it a lot, you're probably overthinking it. Although if you're feeling, if you're feeling something's there, don't ignore the feeling. But if you're overthinking, if you're just thinking about lots of things, if you're just like, oh my God and you're sitting there thinking about it all the time, just like, there's so many women that come to us and it's just like, they're thinking and it's usually like little things like this just not, you know what I mean? Like, oh, he sent me a smile at the end of his text message. What does it mean? And they're like asking all these questions. What do you think? But he sent me, you know, it's just like, just stop it. You're like, you're killing yourself. You're hurting yourself. You're hurting your own brain. You're driving yourself crazy. Overthinking will drive you crazy. The next one is not every man who wants to sleep with you will want to date or be in a relationship with you. And this is, I think this one's really important, especially in kind of the age of Tinder, because there's a lot of women who, they like match with this dude and they're like, oh my God, he's so amazing. And then they go and they keep kind of getting into these hookup situations and falling in love with these players and stuff. And it's like, you know, maybe you should be looking for some of the other things that are going on there, right? There's a saying out there that goes, just because he makes a good date doesn't mean that he makes a good mate, right? And you want to make sure that, I mean, you know, like players, they're really good at making you feel good, right? Like players can make you feel really, really good about yourself, narcissists do this as well, right? And it's one of those things where it's like, you know, if you're just looking at how does he make me feel right now in the moment and not looking at is this guy a good person for me to actually be with long-term, then you might end up getting yourself into a lot of trouble. The next one is not every man who wants to be in a relationship with you will want to marry you. And this goes back to like men have issues too, right? And upbringing is really, really important. And you want to learn a lot about his relationship to his parents and his parents' relationship to each other and how he feels about all of that. And just kind of take a look, like especially if you're getting into dating a guy, you're thinking that he might be right. You know, just start asking him about some of this stuff and ask him about his relationship to his parents and their relationship to each other because he has an imprint that he got from when he was a kid in his relationship to his mother, which is a reflection of a lot of his relationships to other women in his life. And then how he feels about his relationship to his mother and father and his mother and father's relationship with each other because it will tell you what's normal for him. And what you may be experiencing if you end up getting into a real relationship with him because sometimes it's good, sometimes it's bad, sometimes if it's bad, but he has kind of a negative outlook on that and he wants something different then it might be a better situation. So you just want to learn a little bit about what's going on there. Okay, what's the next one? Next one is if a man acts like he just wants to hook up, he's more likely to get a relationship with you. And so this is something that is, I keep seeing it on like social media channels where these women will say things like, oh, if you just want to hook up with them, go fast and if you want a real relationship, go slow. And it's one of those things where like a lot of men are kind of onto this mentality and it's not a fake mentality. Most women that I know about kind of have this mentality and it's a mentality that gets them into a lot of trouble because most women, if they look at a guy and they're like, okay, well, he's not like relationship material, but I'm kind of, I'm horny and I want to meet a guy and I need to get these needs fulfilled. And then they end up just going really fast with him and then later on they end up catching feelings and they're like, oh yeah, but I love him. And it's just like, ah, you know. And a lot of guys know that this is how it works. And so a lot of guys out there are like, well, I'm more likely to have anything with this woman, anything at all. If I pretend like I'm just looking for something casual and that I'm not this provider relationship material kind of guy. And so a lot of guys will like just make it seem like they're not relationship material so that, you know, if you are attracted to him and you do and he, you know, you have kind of this physical attraction form, you feel a lot of chemistry form that you will kind of let down your guard. Cause what a lot of women do is they, when they see a guy and they're like, oh, he's relationship material. They put up this guard and they start qualifying him and trying to figure out if he's the right kind of person for her or not. And that slows things down. She slows it down to, you know, being a month or a, or three months before she ends up getting physically intimate with him. And what ends up happening is for most guys, it ruins things because she finds little things she doesn't like and she's like, oh, well, you know, we're not going to be in a relationship at all then. And so, you know, it's usually easier for him to focus on being a really good date instead of trying to prove that he's a really good mate. And that usually makes it so that he's more likely to get any kind of relationship with a woman. And so my suggestion is that you stop sleeping around altogether because it just gets, so it's, we have a community filled with women, just absolutely filled with women who are just looking for something casual, friend with benefits with a guy and now tons and tons and tons of them are all like, I'm trying to get into a real relationship with this dude. And it's just like, you know, you don't even know if he's really a good guy now because you've got all this oxytocin and all these love drugs going on in your mind. And you're just like, ah, you know, and it's like, okay, one, you set everything up the wrong way. Two, you don't know if there's a great guy or not. Three, you know, he's got a whole bunch of power in the relationship now and you're kind of in this spot where you're kind of doing things and trying to convince him and all that kind of stuff. And it's just a bad way to go. So my suggestion is that you stop just hooking up with guys and find other ways to take care of your needs. So the next one is, the next one is most men don't want flowers. This keeps coming up in our community where women are like, hey, I wanna send this guy flowers. And this goes back to what we were talking about earlier where I was talking about projection of things, right? Like some guys, I mean, it's, you know, if you're a guy and you get a flower from a woman, you're like, like, cool, like that's really awesome. Like thank you so much, but it's not like, I don't know what women experience when they receive flowers. And I was mentioning this in one of the other live streams, I was walking down the street the other day and I was listening to these two guys that were next to me. And this one guy, he was like, he's like, yeah, women, they love flowers. So you gotta buy them flowers. And the other guy was like, well, well, why do they like flowers? And he's like, I don't know. Women like flowers though. So we buy flowers for him, right? And that was, and it was like a perfect demonstration of this, right? Like, I mean, yeah, it feels good to get gifts. It feels good to have somebody to know that somebody likes you and all that kind of stuff. And at the same time, the flower gift, whatever it means to women, I can assure you it does not mean that to most men. For most men, they don't understand the flower thing. And it's not like they, they don't particularly want flowers. My suggestion is that instead of kind of projecting that idea of men want flowers and then buying a guy flowers, that you, if you're gonna buy a guy a gift, that you find out what it is that he actually likes, like actually talk to him, actually find out what are the things that he likes and find something in alignment with that and preferably make it something that is consumable or dies, right? Like that's one of the good things about flowers. If you buy flowers and she doesn't really like them, they die in a couple of days or whatever. And you know, for most gifts, this is what I found is that you buy consumable gifts like things like something to drink or something to eat or something that isn't used in a little bit that way they're not trying to find a place to put things that they don't like and then you get all mad that he didn't like it and he hasn't put it up on his refrigerator, whatever the situation is. And the other one is go read the Love Languages book. There's a book called The Five Love Languages and my suggestion is that you read that book because it's got a lot of really good information in there and it's a really good story. I've read it before, it's great. And the other one is watch what he does with you and this is going back to what we were talking about before where I was saying that people do to other people what they want done to them, right? And so like if he's like, you know, touching you in certain ways, that's probably how he wants to be touched if he acts a certain way around you, right? Which is one of the reasons why I think you should go read the Love Languages book because it teaches you about how people express love and what kind of love they're interested in and that's the best way to go about it. In my personal opinion. The next one and the last one here is it's a man's job to push things physically. It's literally his job. And I keep getting these women where they're like, oh, men just wanna hook up. And you're like, well, how do you know how do you know that he just wants to hook up? Well, he was pushing for physical intimacy early and it's like, it's his job that that's literally what he's gonna do if men waited for women to initiate around physical intimacy, like everybody would just die off, right? There'd be hardly anybody, there'd be hardly anybody procreating in the world. And so it's a man's job to push things forward and it's a man's nightmare to be stuck in the friend zone. And so for most men, they know that it has to be, he has to make the relationship, the frame of your interaction, a romantic frame. And the only way that he can do that is to make sure that he's pushing things physically. That way, if you're not interested and you're just interested in being a friend with him, he knows that quickly and he doesn't end up going on three months of dates with you, taking you out to dinner, doing all those things and then feeling like he's been used by you because he's done all these things and he's not gotten anywhere from it. And you're just enjoying it because you're like, oh, he's taking me out, he's buying me things, yay. Which is what happens a lot. There's a lot of women that use men in that way and men don't wanna be used in that way. And so yeah, tell him and set a boundary around it, right? So if he's pushing things and you're not ready, set a boundary and just tell him that you're interested in that, you want that and that you're interested in having it with him, but that you're not ready for it for whatever reason you don't feel it or you're just not there yet or you're not comfortable enough yet or whatever it is, that way he doesn't feel like you're hard rejecting him when you do reject him around this. So that's it, all 15 things. I hope you got a lot out of that and next we're gonna do a question and answer. So if you have any questions for me, make sure that you throw them in the chat. And let's see. So also, and if you're, and by the way, if you're ready to get into a relationship where you feel loved and cherished and seen by a man in your life, then make sure that you go to the goddesscommunity.com and join our community for free there and you'll also get a free copy of my new program, The Forever Woman, where I teach you how to get men to see you in a way that he wants to be with you forever. So, all right. Let's go over the chat, see what people are talking about here. Hello, hello, hello, hello, Romania, I was just there. Canada, Spain, Australia, South Kakelaki. Hello, Bunny Bundy, good morning. South Wales, Vancouver, Kuwait, Virginia Beach. We like to drink. Okay, Botswana, Cameroon, Swingers Club. I don't know what you're talking about. Gales, okay. Boys night out, dinner at five. What are you talking about? Doreen says, hi, watching from Birmingham. Hello, are there any questions? Anyone have any questions here? Meeting a guy that has a lot of girlfriends. We have been on a few dates, but he's bad at making dates and communicating with me, okay. Sissy gets it. Helena's on the live stream. Hello, Helena, thank you for being here. Helena's my favorite. So, Angie said, once a cheater, always a cheater. Yeah, I mean, most likely, once a cheater, always a cheater. There are people that grow. It's just really rare for people to do anything different or grow or evolve in their lives, and it's just the truth. God's girl says, mother died, boyfriend and father, and he emotionally abandoned kids. My ex is always on the prowl. What is he missing? Lydia says, I don't get it either. Why would guy want flowers? Yeah, I don't, I don't know. Uh, Julie Tree says, fake flowers work for me because they never die, okay. Bunny Bundy says, we like jewelry better, okay. Cheta says, most men just want sex. I understand it so fast. Most men don't just want sex. Actually, most men want a real relationship that will end up in getting married. That's what most men want. However, if they don't think that you're the woman for that job, they will settle for just hooking up with you. Gina says, what if he blocks communication constantly? What do you mean by he blocks communication constantly? Like he's blocking you? What does it mean if he blocks you constantly? It means that there's something really weird going on over there. Means that there's really something weird going on. Maybe there's another person there that is seeing those or that he doesn't want to see those or maybe he's weird or something. I don't know. There's something real strange going on there if he's blocking you all the time. Bunny Bundy says, my guy waited to prove to me that I was not just a booty call or a friend with benefits. That's awesome. Good for you. Good for him. I mean, for most guys, if they're not coming from a space of neediness or insecurity or any of that kind of space or coming from their wounded child within themselves, most guys, they're like, okay, as long as they don't feel like you're using them or they don't feel like you're playing games with them or something and you're just communicating with them and you're like, look, I just need to make sure that I'm getting myself into a good situation and I think you're really awesome and I'd love to have a real relationship with you if things end up working out and if we're right for each other and we just don't know and we're just having fun. But if it's better, if we find out that we do like each other and that everything's cool and everything's awesome, then that's great. But if not, then I don't wanna get myself into a weird situation. Most guys will be cool with that. Most guys that are actually looking for something real and they're not coming from that wounded child will be like, okay, cool. Lulu says, if a guy keeps fantasizing about me every day, he send me voice message that she's sleeping. What are you talking about, Lulu? What are you talking about? What you talking about? What you talking about? Jeanette says, what do you say to cut it off in one of those messy situations when he has a girlfriend? Bread crumbing, but too busy for me but doesn't want to cut it off either. But I feel I need to get out of it. You block him, that's what you do. You are not contingent on what he does, right? Like if you want to get out of the situation, get out of the situation. Block him, stop responding, stop talking to him, you're not interested, that's it. You don't have to deal with people bread crumbing you, you can block people, you can stop responding, you can just not talk to him, that's the best way. If he knows and you know and everybody knows that he's in a relationship and you're not down for that, just stop talking to him. Santa says, how and when can I communicate to a guy that I can't and don't want to have more children? This is something that I'm scared of telling that I will scare him away. I have a daughter already, she's 12. Are you with somebody already? Because if you're dating somebody and you're seeing somebody and it's some, because one of those, what you're talking about right now is a deal breaker. It's a deal breaker for a guy, right? And so it's not one of those things where you want him to really get to know you and like you a whole lot and then try to convince him that he doesn't need children or he shouldn't have children. A lot of guys, if they want children, if they're like, hey, I want children and they talk to you and you're like, I don't want to have any children, then that is a total deal breaker for most people, right? And he needs to know pretty early on that that's one of your deal breakers. Otherwise, you're gonna get yourself into a situation where he's gonna be like, well, I think she's really awesome but I also wanna have kids and it's just gonna turn into a situation where you're gonna both have more heartbreak the more that you string it out and don't tell him about it. And so you want to communicate that earlier on because if it's something that's a deal breaker for him then he has to, then he has to know. He has to know. Lydia says, what if I mutually got broken up with recently and this guy, you mutually, you mutually got broken up with? Okay. And this guy that is attracted to me asked me out but since the breakup, I'm not ready for a relationship. So I told him, I would consider going on a date with him in March. Is that too long? Well, I mean, if you're like, I'm a guy and I talk to a woman and I'm talking to her and I'm like, and she says, it's mosquito, and she says, I'm, hey, you know, it's like September, right in August right now. Like I'll consider going out with you in March. As a guy, I'd be like, she's blowing me off. That's the first thought that would come to my mind. She's completely blowing me off, right? Cause guys experience this all the time where women are like, oh, you know, I'm really, really busy and they're just trying to be nice. And really what they're saying is, I have no interest in you at all, right? And they're like, oh, get back to me some other time. We'll talk when I'm less busy. We'll hang out when I'm less busy, when I've got less things going on. And so most guys are like, okay, she's blowing me off. I'm not even going to waste my time with her at all anymore. I might delete her and remove her completely from my stuff because she's blowing me off and a guy wants a woman who is, you know, it's the same thing with women, right? Like we get all these women that are like, yeah, I want a guy who's as, you know, in love with me as I am with him. And then, you know, it's the same thing with guys, right? A guys, most guys, most healthy, like well-adjusted, valuable men. They're like the things that don't work with them, games don't work with them, right? Telling them, blowing them off doesn't work with them. Ignoring them doesn't work with them. All those things that you do, like all those tactics, not saying that this is a tactic, but all those tactics don't work with them because they're like, I want somebody that likes me as much as I like them. And I want something that's gonna be easy and fun and I'm going to enjoy. I don't wanna have to convince this person to want to be with me. Why would I want to do that? I want somebody who's really into me and is excited to see me and is excited to date me and all that kind of stuff. And so will he lose feelings? Quite possibly, quite possibly he'll find somebody else completely, you know? And it's one of those things though that you have to, you know, coming from, that's why it's important to come from a world of abundance because it's like, it's not a big deal because it's like, there's lots of people out there, right? And so my suggestion is if you're not ready for it, that's fine, is it too long? Probably, will he lose feelings quite possibly? And will he find somebody else? There's a good chance. So, you know, I wouldn't bank on it. You know, you have no idea what's gonna happen and so I wouldn't, but you need to get yourself together first, otherwise you're gonna have problems and you're gonna create problems in the situation, in the dating situation, in the relationship situation. Ashley says, how do you get through to a loner? He's older and so different than other guys. At first, he was a big flirt, but now he's cooled down. How do I make him hot again? Well, you create scarcity for yourself. That's how you get him hot again. If that's all you're trying to do here is get him hot again, then the fastest and easiest way is to create scarcity for yourself in the situation with him. Talk about that in detail in the Forever Woman program. Go check it out. There's a link in the description below. Or you can go to thegoddiscommunity.com and join there for free and you'll get it as a part of joining for free. Okay, so Susan says, I have watched your video for a commitment for a man. If he doesn't commit after eight months, should I ask the question or cut off his time with me to a few days a week instead of being there all the time? Yeah, I mean, if he's been with you for three months, he knows for a fact, no, it's six months. So three to six months, he knows for a fact exactly what kind of a relationship that he wants for you. They've done studies on this and they found that unanimously men know at the three to six month mark what kind of a relationship they want with you and whether they see you in their future and all that kind of stuff. And so by eight months, he knows, he already knows. And so my suggestion is that if he's still wishy washy, then what it is that he knows is something that he doesn't wanna tell you. And so yeah, I'd pull back, cut it off completely, start dating other people and exactly, exactly. Make it so that he's scared of losing you and if he really wants you, then he'll step up to the plate and if he doesn't, then you'll find that out. Lily says, what if he says he's married, says he married the wrong woman? Are you talking, are you, are you, first off, are you the same person that was, that was complaining about my singing last time? And it, and either way, are you talking about trying to date somebody that's married? This is one of the things that we talked about in this live stream already. You gotta stop dating people that are married. That's what you wanna do. That's my suggestion. You know, if you wanna do that, you can do that. Just realize that you're getting yourself into so many problems with that. There's so many problems that are gonna come up and if he wants to be with you, then he will figure that out before he comes over to you. Ashley says, or is it too late, how are loners different? Well, how loners are different is that most loners have an attachment style that revolves around kind of avoidance, right? Like pulling away and like, which is why a lot of avoidant attachment style people can be like really interesting, right? And they're good because they need that human interaction because it's one of their needs. And then after a while, they kind of pull over into this cocoon, right? So people with this kind of attachment style, what happens is that most of them come from a family where they didn't experience a whole lot of affection and love when they were growing up. So they had parents that usually didn't say that they loved them. They usually didn't hug. They usually didn't show a lot of affection or connection or maybe their parents were completely off in another world. And for a lot of those people, or maybe that's what they experienced. And for a lot of those people, they end up becoming loners in their lives in the future. And so it's one of those things where it's like, you have to give them a lot of space and you have to realize that you're gonna be in a situation where they're gonna be taking a lot of space whenever they need help or whenever there's something that goes wrong and that their attachment style, what it does is that they end up when things are going wrong or whatever, they pull out and pretend like they don't have any need or desire for human connection. And it can be really, really painful for people that get into relationships like that. And as long as you're okay with doing it then, and somebody having that kind of an attachment style, then that's fine, but it's something that you need to think about. Lulu says, so if a man keep fantasizing about me, is that love? He said he loves me. It's a long relationship. He's 60, I'm 49. It can mean that he loves you. It can also mean that he's infatuated with you. My suggestion is that I've got another live stream. It's called something a man will only do, something things a man will only do if he really loves you. And my suggestion is that you go and watch that. Ashley says, I'm trying to develop a relationship with him. I meant hot as in flirty and like, yeah. Yeah, that's what I was talking about. That's what I was talking about. Santa says, I dated a guy for four months, but he don't call me, right? To me often, maybe once a week, maybe. Feels like he doesn't want to be with me. Should I cut him off? He's hot and cold. Well, yeah, I mean, I would pull back a bit, right? And start, start looking at dating other people. I mean, it's one of those things. You need to communicate what your needs are, right? It's another one of those things where if you're in a situation and this person, I don't know anything more about your situation other than this one sentence that you put on here. But a lot of people, they have their own ideas about what relationships look like, what they want. I don't even know if you're in a relationship. I don't know if you're physically intimate with him or not, let's assume that you are. Let's assume that you're physically intimate and that you're not in a relationship because that seems to be a common theme these days in our community. And so if that's the situation, what you need to do is you need to communicate with him and find out what's going on. It's been four months, which is a pretty long period of time. And if you need certain things in the relationship, you need to talk to them about it. You need to communicate. You need to find out why he does what he's doing. Why is he only messaging you once a week? Calling, especially in this day and age, isn't actually very common. Most people, men and women, prefer texting because it's easy, it's quick, it's short. And if you want him to call you and if you want him to message you more than once a week, and I don't even know if you're meeting up with each other because it doesn't say at all whether you're even meeting each other. So it's one, I need more information about your situation. And two, you need to communicate what your needs are and what's going on with you and find out what's going on with him and communicate with him and talk to him about what's going on in his life and what his outlook is on all this and that's really what you need to do before you start cutting things off or becoming scarce or doing any of that kind of stuff because he's already scarce. So if you go scarce, it's gonna be no communication at all. And so if this is somebody that you really like, which it sounds like, otherwise you wouldn't be talking about him at all, then you need to have real communication with him. Nothing trumps real communication. Asha says, what if the guy is going through financial issues you've discussed and established a relationship, he is promising a special future. What about it? What if he's going through financial issues, right? So one of the things that you need to know about men is that a lot of times they do, if they are going through financial issues, they may end up kind of pulling back and not doing certain things in the relationship because they need to feel like they can provide and they can be a man in the relationship which a lot of women don't seem to understand. And so I don't know, I don't know what else, I don't know what else you want to know about it. Tell me, tell me what else you want to know about it? Ashley said, how do I break through that wall of a loaner? And can you tell if a loaner is interested and how can you tell if a loaner is interested? Maybe I need to do a whole video on loaners. So how do you break through the wall? It's, there's a lot, really I could do a whole video. I think I'll do a whole video on how to break through walls because that's a big topic. Julie Tree says, I know how that feels, Matt. I was severely abused mentally and physically when I was younger, but God, yeah. Subba says, hi, how you doing today? The families, I'm in London. Thank you very much. Glad to have you. God bless, okay. Rita says, you didn't read my comment. When I was, when I meet with him, he is okay. Talks nicely, have attraction, do stuff together, meet every week, but then when a day pass or two, he just stopped talking. He sort of ignored talking on phone. Okay, so every week, so you meet every week, but a day, yeah, I mean, it's one of those things, like I was saying before, if you have a situation where you need to communicate with somebody every single day, that's something you have to communicate with that person, because that's not normal. It's not normal for most people to be communicating every day all the time, right? Like people have lives, they have things going on. And in my opinion, my personal opinion, I suggest that you don't talk every single day because you want there to be some mystery. You want there to be some question about what it is that you're doing and what you're experiencing and how your life is. That way, when you guys get together, you have something to talk about, right? If you're talking to each other all the time, every single day, it's like, when you get together, what are you guys gonna be talking about? So my suggestion is that you don't do that. And so I don't know if you have a question there, but that's my suggestion. Lee Lanny said, I had a beautiful affair for two months with a man who travels the country for fun at the moment, okay? He occasionally texts with flirty or sweet thought messages but nothing else. What should I expect? I wouldn't expect anything. Doesn't sound like you guys have any, doesn't sound like you guys have any kind of, anything set up based on your one sentence thing, the one sentence that you put up here. I don't see, I mean, so there's a guy and he travels around the country for fun and he's probably going to different places and meeting women in all these different places. That's probably what he's doing. And he occasionally texts with flirty or sweet thought messages but nothing else. I mean, it sounds like he's a player who travels around the country and meets women wherever he goes and you probably shouldn't expect anything from this guy at all. That's what you probably should do. Yeah, like Bunny Bunday said, he probably has a woman in every port. That's right. That's right, probably does. Gina said, men do not really like to communicate. Men communicate in a different way than women do. Women tend to, it's just, it's a different and kind of that masculine and feminine kind of energy, right? Like women are, they're the communers. They're the ones that want to be connected to people all the time and the masculine energy is not. It's kind of this hard direction focus, working my butt off and then, and there are connections, right? Like as men have that feminine energy as well where they do connect with people and stuff like that. But it's usually different, right? Because women tend to be able to talk a lot about a lot of different things. They did a study on this a while back about what men talk about and what women talk about. And they found that women tend to talk a lot more about like all kinds of different things, especially around relationships and connection and just kind of talking about stuff, right? Whereas men tend to focus just on talking about work and they specifically mostly just talk about work. That was part of the study was they were looking at where men and women tend to talk the most. And men tend to talk a lot at work. They talk almost as much as women do but they tend to just focus on work and talking at work and talking about work. And women tend to talk more in relationship and being in relationship and about all kinds of things in regards to relationships. And so it's just different, it's different. So Lily says, okay, now we can do with some singing. Oh, you want me to sing now, huh? Gina says, you didn't answer my comment question on what to do when he consistently blocks important conversations. What do you mean he blocks important conversations? Like what important conversations are you trying to have? What do you mean by he blocks conversations? Are you having these conversations over the phone? Are you having these conversations over text message? Are you having these conversations in person? What are you talking about? I don't know what you're talking about. Yeah, Bunny Bunday says, blocks or ignores your communication. Yanny Hill said, thank you. All right, so it looks like that is all the questions for right now. How much time, where are we? Where are we at? I don't even know. I don't even know anymore how much time we've been doing this. I just want to get on these things and hang out and have some fun and talk and chat about some stuff. Just see how everybody's doing. And let's see how long this has been on here. How long have we been talking? Oh, 59 minutes. Look at that, just hitting it. So, I guess that's it. If you guys, if you're serious about getting into an amazing relationship where a man values you and loves you and treats you like an amazing woman that you know that you deserve to be treated like, make sure that you go to thegoddiscommunity.com and check out joining our community there. For free, for free. That's my singing. It's my singing for today. I'm just singing for today. I usually go and do karaoke. Does anybody wanna hear me do some karaoke? Maybe I'll get together with Helena Hart and we'll do some karaoke together and videotape it. I don't know what we gonna do with that karaoke. Yeah. Alexandra, thank you for being here. I'm so glad you like my videos. Okay, I won't quit my day job. So thank you everybody for being here. Again, we're all about helping you, helping empower you and helping you have the relationship that you've always wanted and giving you as many resources as we possibly can to doing that and making it as affordable for as many people as possible to get involved in what we're doing and help them and all that kind of stuff. And that's why we have the Goddess Community that you can join, the Goddess Club that you can join at thegoddiscommunity.com. So go check that out if you're interested and maybe we'll go out, maybe we'll all go out and do some karaoke. Maybe we can do like a live stream karaoke and we can get some of the women in our community on and we'll all just sing some karaoke together. Yeah. I don't know. Yeah, okay. Gail said, wait, there's questions. There's more questions. Hold on, what do we have? Kathy says, Matt, is it different for older couples? Yeah, there's some different things going on for older couples, absolutely. This is true. What are your questions about being an older couple that you're looking to find out about? Gail says, I set up my situation yesterday when I signed up. How can I get your advice on what I sent? I know it was a book. I set up my situation yesterday when I signed up. Okay, well, if you signed up yesterday and if you went into the members area and you posted your question, we have an amazing, an amazing, amazing coach that will answer your question for you and it's fantastic. You're gonna get a great answer and it's gonna be great stuff. And you can talk to her about everything and she is absolutely world-class. So she will be answering your question. She'll be answering your question. If you post stuff in the Facebook group, then other women in our community will answer the questions. If you post stuff in the inner circle membership area in the question and answer forum, then that's where that will be answered by one of our coaches. And so I think that's it. So thank you, everybody, for being here and I will see you in the next live stream. Peace out. I'm like, how do I end this? What do I do with my hands? What do I do with my hands? I don't know what to do with my hands.