 But we can't change the waves, but we can learn how to surf, which means if you already know that I'm an inherently selfish creature, then start asking me what it is that I want. What am I trying to get out of this? And once you've done that and I've told you, now you can put me in a position on the team that I'm going to be getting what I want at the same time I'm helping you get what you want.