 Felly, wrth gwrs, yn yw ychwanegd ar gyfer Hadar Jayzarni, ychwanegfair gwasanaeth y dywar yn ysgrifion fynigau a'r cyfebeth hyn yn ysgrifes. Os yw phen am los cyfwunio'r dywar yn ysgolwch chi wedi'i gweld ac mae'n gwybodaeth ymlaen i chi'n ei gwyntau i ddynion. Aselawn i gynwedd yr ysgolwch, a fwrdd i'n gwybod i'r hijabau a'r mhleidydd. Nid oedd ymchwyl sydd gyda'n bwysig y bwysig o'r cwmpas fawr Ffyrwyr. Y rhan oedd ymwysig e wedi'i gweithio'r hwyliaf yn oedd y bwysig eisiau mewn llawer. Fe yw o'r hwyliaf yn y bwysig o'r simple cwmpas mewn i fynd yn y cwmpas, allwn cymdeithason eich loeddau o'r cychwyneddau. Ac eich bod yn cyffredinol yma hwnnw i feddiwch arall i bwyllwyr, Mae'n gydig i'r cyhoedd, rwy'n digonwys ei aelodol i'r ffordd o-rodd yn Cyflawn-y-dwy-r. Gwydig i'r cyflawn o-rodd yn gyflawn. I stabilize bydd yn gwirionedd. Wrth gwrs y bydd yn hynny'n meddwl. Rwy'n meddwl yn cerdd. Yr eich f Maker, ym mwrdd yn bach yn digos. Mae'n ddysgu'r cerdd yn cael ffyrdd yna ei weld o'r holnau, o'i gweithio'r ydyn nhw'n ei chymig, mae'n wediто bynnag i bach o ffordd o'r hoffi. my [#EA in our head-side! Why do you think we've done that?] I think, um, the scarf is the thing that is out of the norm, wearing it on your head, um and I think that's why everyone seems to focus on the scarf rather than the actual clothing. Forget about the inner hijab, where you know it's like we're so focused on the physical clothing and for those who choose to wear western clothes, the scarf is the only thing that actually makes you stand out Dw i'n meddwl bethysgol ar y swyddi, hyd yn rhaid iddo yn goll grindd. Ac yn gwleidio nes cyfryd, ac mae'n meddwl ar gyfer y wahanol yn cof viewpoint yn oed yn yr hwn. Fe dwi'n golygu fy ffordd a'r hoffi a'r hoffi. Y y ffordd y hwn yn bollasxfyddi a dwi di yn hoffi a'r hoffi yw'r hoffi, mae'r gole a daid hwn yn golygu i gyda mewn safnidol yn bethwyr fel hywbwys. Felly rydych chi'n meddwl yn ei hoffi ar y hoffi ac yn golygu'n bollw ar gyfer y hoffi. A ond dweud hynny tychol yn cael ei wneud. Cos o'ch pobl sydd yn rhaid. Ond ond fyddai yn fan, ond dwi'n funnugu rhywun wedi bod eri'i ei hoffa iaith. Efallai e'ch hoffa iaith a'i hwnnw wedi bod y bod yn y bydd. Felly fel efallai a'r honan, mae'n vaith o'n wno'r bod. Gweld gan 2 euchynach. Gweld dwi'n ei wneud ryngwbodd. A wneud bod yn bwysig hebwn gweithgol. Ond yna dwi'n fyrdd o wneud dei, you know sleeves rolled up or tight clothes where you know the body shape showing um or you'll have those who say no it's about modest dressed and it's not about covering your head and again both are wrong it's about yes it's about modest dressing which is covering your body so the shape of your body doesn't show but it's specifically about covering your hair as well because that is part of the beauty of a woman yes yes it's it's the ultimate beauty of a dyna yw yw i fewn i'r bwysig, dwi'n gweld i'r sysgu'r hynny i'w brifysgol, i fewn i'w gwirionedd ym Mhijab, i'w gwirionedd ym mwyaf, a dda'r amser yn ei wneud i ddim yn ei ddweud, i fewn i ddim yn ei ddweud i ddweud i'w cyfnodol, fel y rhai ddim yn ei ddweud i'w ddweud, dwi'n ei ddweud i ddweud i ddweud. Rwy'n fyddo, a'i ddwy'n gwaith, y gallwn dod yn gofynu rhai, ar hwn o'r ysgol o'r gwaith yma, rwy'n gwaith yma, yn ysgol yma, rwy'n rhaid i'r gwaith o'r gwaith a'r bwau o'r athgwrs. A twmp yn ysgol i ddechrau, felly, yw'n syniad o'r bod yn dda, ac rwy'n cael ei'n cael ei ddweud o'r oedd i'w ddaeth bod weithgareddau i'r hwneth, i'r bod yn modestynau ar y nai. Y ddiddordeb i'n cael ei bod yn gwybodio'r blaenau. Yna chi'n meddwl i'r beitio ar y dda, i ceisio i'r bod yn ei wneud, aleysgrifio eich bod yn cael ei ddweud yn y cyfwylliant ddaethau ac i'w gwiriem. Er deviceu ydy, a mae ydych chi i'w ddweud. Mae'r bod yn nodi gyd-ddiwedd, mae ydych chi'n gyd-ddiwedd i'w wneud. iddech chi'n bod, mae'n ddigwetheidio'r lleol yn y maesad? Nawr i ddechrau, gallwch am allan iawn yn ymddangos? Ond os y gallwn ils a'r ddau, rydyn ni'n meddwl ymddangos fel rydyn ni'n meddwl ymddangos, ond nid ymdrygu ei fod mewn meddwl ymdangos, rydyn ni'n meddwl i weld yma ni'n meddwl a'r ddau byddio'r dim byddio'r pas ymdiddangos a'r byddio i loadeniaid a'r ddod. Felly rydyn ni'n meddwl i weld byddio'r dd ấy ar hynny, a mae'r llwyddoedd yma i'r cefnogaeth, a mae gennym ni'n gwybod ar ydych chi'n gwasanaeth, mae hynny'n gofio. Felly mae'n gwybod fel eich gweithio, dwi'n gweithio fighor o gwneud o'r mynd o'r tyfwydd, oherwydd rydw i'r ddweud, oherwydd rydw i'n gweithio, dwi'n gweithio, rydw i'n gweithio. Felly mae'n gweithio'n gweithio. Rydw i'n gweithio'r dwylo, A fe blwys i chi ddaeth, pan wrtha'n gweithio am falch o ranolion, a nad yw'n gweithio am yn y gwir o'r hwn. Dwi'n gweithio am ymddorol whizurau ac y byddwch yn ddweud yn holl gwrs, felly, felly, maen maen nhw'n ddod a chymaen iawn i gael cyfleu sydd wedi cael ei bod yn teimlo llciodau cyfrifiadau yn cael amlirol y blaen, felly wedi cael amlaen y gwir, ac yn yw ei bod yn gradd-fod mewn ddeithas. Felly, gallwch chi'n gweithio i'w bobl arweithio eich ddweithio i'r hyn. yw ysgafol y'r olygu. Mi eisiau ystod yn fwy o'r sgafol. Yn ystod, mae'n gobeithio'r dwy ddweud. Yn ystod? Yn ystod. Dwi'n arwinech, gyda'ch ysgafol yw chi wedi gwneud y fan o'r genedlion, dwi'n gobeithio'r mosg i'r Rhameddawn, o'r Moharam, o'r Wilaiad yw'r Shahrdurth, o'r masgwmyn. Yn ystod, mae'n gweithio'r mosgwm yn gweithio'n gweithio'n gweithio. I guess it's quite a sensitive thing... ... talking to a sister about the hijab. At the end of the day, it can come across as criticising the way they're dressing. It's a very personal thing isn't it? I suppose what's the best way to approach a sister about trying to encourage her to improve her hijab. Is this something that we should do privately? oes yn cael ei wlad yn gweld, rydyn ni wedi gweld i'r gwaith, yn gwybod, gyd y siosto'r rydyn ni'n gweld i'r pwysig o'r Instagram, oedd yw'n gwybod, ymlaen ni'n cael ei ddweud, yw'n oed yn gwybod i'n swyddfa ar y cyflogol, i'r bobl hwyl sy'n gweithio sydd yn cael eu cymdeithasol, ond mae'r amser yn gwneud eich cyflawn, mae yw cael ei ddweud yma? Fy maen nhw'n gwybod i'r cyflogol a'r argynnu'n gweithio i'n fwg y cyfnodd yn gweithio a hynny'n bod hwn yn gweithio i chi. Oni, nid yw hi'n olygu y gweithio. Ond, o'n gweithio. Un o'r ddweud yma,公ra complex o rhan o'n ch Naruto. Mae rhaid i ddim i chi i gael offeniol. Cymddi'r adegon, ond dyw, rhaid i chi mewn i chi. A rhaid i chi ddim i chi gael ofeniol, rhaid I'n holyu i chi. Rhaid i chi gael ofeniol. Rhaid I'n cyfnodd eich gael ofeniol, I would want someone to come and tell me because they love me and they cared about me. And it's only because I care about you that I'm telling you. And I think it's really important to get that across. I remember, it reminds me of when I do these lectures at mosque and there's a girl that comes to the lectures and proper hijab, fully amazing hijab, everything. And I was out shopping one day and I saw her and she wasn't wearing hijab, no headscarf, no nothing. It was just normal dress, normal clothes. And I was just so shocked because I assumed she wore hijab. And I saw her and I was like, oh my god. And she said tolam to me and I'm one of these people who can't hide my reaction. It shows on my face. And I sort of said alaykum salam and she could tell I was taken. And I was like, I'm really sorry. And I said, look, I'm really, really sorry. I'm not being rude or anything, but I honestly saw you wore hijab. And she sort of smiled and she didn't know what to say. And I said to her, let's go for a coffee. And she said to me, no, no, I'm busy, you're busy. And I'm like, no, no, I want to go for a coffee. I don't want to go on my own. Why don't you join me? And we sat and I bought her a coffee and we sat and we talked about it. And I actually came from the perspective of, you know what? You're like a daughter to me. Just like I would tell my daughter I'm telling you. I'm not even telling him to ask you. What is it that I can do to help you on your journey in wearing the hijab? What is it that's stopping you? Just talk to me. I'm not going to judge you. I'm not going to, you know, in the end it's up to you where you want to take this, but I'm just letting you know I'm here to help you in any way that I can. We sat there and we talked for a while and, you know, at the end when we let, you know, when she got up to leave, I said, I asked her if I could hug her. And she looked at me and she said to me, why? And I said, because I want you to feel the love that I feel for you. And I think that can only happen if I hug you because I don't think you're understanding how much I love you at this moment. And it's, you know, and it's trying to get across from that perspective. And I truly did love her and I really wanted to help her as my daughter. As I wish, you know, if my daughter was doing something wrong, if I was doing something wrong, someone would help me because they cared enough about me to take time out in their day. That's a really beautiful reminder. Like, well, we're just not affectionate enough with each other. Like we really need to spread the love. Definitely. And I guess just like if we look at this situation from the other person's perspective, when a sister is being given advice from someone who's coming from a loving place, you know, I know myself like in the early days when I started to wear hijab, my hijab was not correct. And whenever like someone pointed it out to me, even if they were doing it from a good place, like I would instantly get defensive. It was, it was just like an ego thing within me. And just like, I'd just be like, oh, you have no right to do that. Like only God can judge me kind of thing. Like which is a bit of a daft statement really because like that should scare you. The fact that Allah is ultimately the judge. But how should we as sisters respond to another sister giving us loving advice? I think it comes from both. I mean, you mentioned your ego coming into play. I think also when I'm giving the advice, my ego may come into play. So if I'm giving the advice, expecting her to take that advice, then I'm doing it from an ego perspective. If I'm giving her the advice, knowing that that's what Allah would want me to do and in the end Allah will guide and it's up to her to take on that guidance if she chooses to and that's not my journey, that's her journey. So not having my ego in place where now I feel bad because you know what, I spent, I don't know, three quid on coffee for you. I spent an hour talking to you and yet you're still walking out and you're not going to put on hijab. That's my ego coming into play as well. So it's realising that the ego is in both perspectives. So it's from you and from me. And so it's taking a step back and saying, you know what, I'm here just to be there for you. I'm here to, you know, to sort of, maybe Allah chooses to use me as a tool to guide you and I would welcome that. But in the end it's your journey. You're the one who's got to answer to God. I've got to answer to God in how I guided you and it's up to you. It's like, you know, when the Holy Prophet was told, you know, yours is only to tell them, lead the rest up to God. And God will guide everyone. It's a matter of whether I choose to take that guidance or not. So I think, again, understanding that my journey is about getting closer to Allah and, you know, guidance comes from all different ways. So when I'm ready for that guidance, it's there. Yeah, yeah, absolutely. Yeah. It's amazing that the Ahl al-Bait al-Ahmas they're the perfect examples of this because every day they would be advising people about how to get closer to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala but they never let arrogance take over because what minute they would be giving advice to the people and the next minute they would be on their prayer rugs crying over not their sins, but like what they thought that they were lacking in as such. You only have to hear some of the duwas from, for example, Imam Zeynol Arbidin, alaihi salam, and you just that humility that you can feel radiating from those words is just absolutely phenomenal and I know myself, I remember the last time when a sister wanted to give me advice on hijab like my first instinct was to kind of turn around and be like mind your own business love, you know I'm covered, literally. But then I remembered the words of wisdom from Imam al-Ahmas when he said the most beloved person to me is not the one who praises me but the person who points out my faults to me and it's just an incredible way of seeing things like well, these are moms they're just on a different level to us all together. But I think also again I think you mentioned this that hijab is a very personal thing so again realising that each one of us is on a journey and you know we're on different places in the journey and hopefully the journey is continuing but I shouldn't expect your hijab to be like my hijab I can explain to you why I wear what I wear and you know encourage you to sort of better your hijab but again if you feel you're you're comfortable with the hijab you are on and again it's a journey you'll slowly, hopefully better it my hijab when I was younger to when I was a little bit older to now it's constantly changing and it's sort of realising that I'm the one who's got to answer to God my hijab, no one else and I need to be comfortable with that I need to be okay with telling God why I chose to dress the way I did and it's not necessarily that if someone does it a different way it's wrong so for example I'll give you a simple example it's like I only wear black scarf on my head I don't feel comfortable with any other colour scarf that doesn't mean a colour scarf is wrong my daughter, my daughter in law everyone that I know wears coloured scarves and that's fine but for me I feel uncomfortable I feel it's against my hijab and that's a personal choice that I've made and you know I would not push that on anyone else because there's nowhere in Hedith that says you can't wear a coloured scarf but again it's a journey that I have taken and where I'm deciding what's right for me because I'm the one who's got to answer to God so again like some people decide that they have to wear the child door and they feel uncomfortable with that again that's their choice and again nowhere does it say you have to wear the child door I can still cover myself without the child door if I choose to so it's different for different people and understanding that it's a very personal journey but realising that it has to be a journey which doesn't stop that's really really important and I think when someone then tells you choose whether to take that advice or not but question yourself whether your journey is still continuing or whether you've stopped that's fair enough and your opinion is absolutely valid and like if you're not pushing it on others then what's the harm of holding such an opinion finally sister I would just I'd like to relate the physical hijab to the inner hijab also known as the social hijab let's just say we've got the physical hijab ticked like that sorted like how should we how should our social and inner hijab be how should we act with not only the opposite gender but also non-muslims as well I think it's important to look at the way that Allah swt introduces the hijab in the Holy Quran so he doesn't start off with the physical dress or the men before he talks to the women which is really really powerful and he tells them to lower their gaze and that's not lowering it and don't look at the women at all it's lower the intensity of your gaze so don't look at a woman with that sort of intense lustful way you know a lot of people will turn around and say well you know what in the west you're told that when you're talking to someone you should look at them in the face and talk to them and again Islam doesn't say you shouldn't Islam says lower the intensity of that gaze so don't look at them in a lustful way look at them with respect and then it talks about you know covering your private parts and then it turns to the women and talks about lowering the intensity of your gaze again for the women covering the physical hijab of covering your beauty as well so we concentrate on the physical hijab but we don't concentrate on the the social interaction so the way that we look at each other the way that we interact with each other and in some ways isn't that more important than the physical hijab in some ways I think they both go hand in hand I think the physical hijab is a barrier there to remind you and the other person that there is a barrier there and then for me to then decide what that barrier should be when I'm interacting with you and again that should be dictated by God so you know it's not that I can't interact with you but there shouldn't be any unnecessary interaction what is considered as unnecessary again very personal to me myself because I'm going to have to answer to God was that banter and joking unnecessary or was it something I felt I had to do for whatever reason yes absolutely really thought provoking thought provoking conversation and I thank you once again for joining me for hijab and etiquette next up my dear viewers your fit questions answered inshallah