 We all have friends that have been in relationships and You're on the outside of this relationship looking in and everybody outside of the relationship all of their friends or family members Like get out of the relationship person's crazy. They're not right for you Whatever it is and your friends like no, no, no, he's he's great like he's getting better all of these things and Then they get out of the relationship and they look at it and they're like what the hell was going like Why was I in that relationship for so long? Like that was the worst relationship ever But it's because the fact that they're in this relationship that they don't notice it They're in the day today They they miss all the other things when they take themselves out of it and they can look at it from an outside perspective They see all of the problems. They see all the things that they Probably should have left their reasons why they should have left the relationship before When you have a mentor it's kind of like having a person on the outside looking in and telling you about this bad relationship in your brain and all of the ways where they can if you give them permission like call me out on my BS when you have a Mentor that's out there of someone that you trust and you know that they can give you the tough love some of the best coaches that I ever have when I played sports were the ones that I I Hated some of the stuff that they said to me But they said it to me because they needed to give me tough love if you have a mentor They can give you tough love that person could be on the outside and you talk to them Daily or weekly or monthly or whatever it is that the mentor that you have They're kind of like the person outside of that relationship because you're in that relationship in your day-to-day And you don't notice your habits or your patterns a lot of things that I have with my coaching classes I just noticed patterns and habits where they hold themselves back and then once they hear someone say it they go oh I guess yeah, I probably do that is a pattern that I have I do allow myself to come up just a little bit short of my goals all of the time And so I think that the the benefit of having a mentor especially for me was was he would just call me out on all of my things