 Come to sister powers part two, your vibe attracts your tribe. The commonly understood meaning of our tribe is those people who are like us think like us enjoy the things we do work in similar roles. In similar circumstances, our tribe would cheer us on celebrate when we succeed and commiserate when we don't get there helps us feel confident. It sounds quite comforting doesn't it. Welcome back our special guests. Thank you for having us. Yes, I'm honored to be back. Yes. Yeah, we did we did receive a lot of buzz about your vibe attracts your tribe. I just want to hear starting with you, Gail, and then you, Ella, tell us sister viewers being with your tribe since our last episode. My tribe never leaves me my tribe. They're always with me. I can always count on those women to support me, even when I'm going through like the worst time or even to share things that are very embarrassing. I'm ashamed to share this but girl I've got to let you know what's going on with me because I need prayer I need your support. They are always there. Everybody needs that that support, you know, someone there and I have several of them. And that's a blessing to even be able to say, but they definitely hold me up I hold them up. And what we don't do is we don't bash each other. You know, you know, no bashing know we don't talk about and we don't they if they say, if I say listen don't share this the these are my tribe they won't share it they will just stay with it and stay with me they won't go back and blab about it. So those are my girls that's my they know my vibe is love to always care to inspire and encourage. And that's what they do for me. That's my tribe. I love my strong. I love it. Yeah, you know, it's not about women today we can't be we can't be we don't need to beat each other up. We have so much in common. It's just just like I mean I love everybody thinks Ella is my sister. I am. And it really is a sister thing. Yes, you know when I first heard when I first did this show on Sharon show. It was the first thing I heard her say was that you got to come back and do sister power. And I was like, Oh, I like that name. You know, because it's, it's a girl's world. To me, it's a girl's world and we have to hang together. Absolutely. We're strong. We're strong like that. Yeah. Well my vibe tracks my tribe and I first of all I want to just say I love that title. Like that is so good. I it's just it's refreshing. My tribe is is all over the place I have people in Africa, people in Alabama, Georgia, Florida, everybody that that surrounds me, I love those people that keep me grounded. I love those people that remind me of my story, because it helps me stay ground because honestly, that is the vibe that attracted them, the realness, the real Ella, the person that loves to help the person that loves to love the person that loves before she leads the vibe is all about the vibe. Yes, that's how you attract those people that was powerful to because you know what you end up doing is you you collect people from all over the world because like Ella I travel the country. So I've got women in Brazil and in Cuba. I've been everywhere and you attract those people and I collect them. I don't some people just meet you for right now but I keep I collect friends that's why I friends from all over the world and they're they are my vibe attracts my my tribe. They really are that so that is an awesome awesome title that you came up with Sharon I love it. There she is there you go. Oh no it's just my internet is unstable. But yes, um, you know I I just believe in collaborating to with people, because I just believe that we all have something to offer. And so with my tribe. I love getting their ideas I love getting their stories that's why I love doing my show as well, because I like to hear true stories because you never know who's listening you never know who you're going to attract even more. Sometimes people are attracted to me that are nothing like me, and I like that assignment to because you know sometimes God puts us on assignments. So I love the vibe attract your tribe I love it and that's what we've been doing since the show is we've been vibing even more. And I like what you said about some because sometimes people are very different from you. Yeah, I still am attracted to those people because I'm a true people were all three of us are we're people. You know, and that's a genuine thing like we were talking about on the last show, you know you really have to be you are genuine when you genuinely love somebody and they're there for them and you want to support them. I'm totally in a place to attract people. Yeah, I go I'm going, you know, sometimes you've met a person and they're just not friendly. They don't really want to be friendly. It is a reason. That's right, but you go you're going to love me before you get done with all your hatred, you're going to be happy that because I'm going to share so much love love is more powerful, whatever the problem is love is the answer. You know, oh yeah, because I think sometimes we're led into that, you know, because we're we're we're led to be unloved and to be unlovely sometimes. Yes. You said something interesting about that you know your tribe and my tribe is the same way we don't blab we don't tell secrets. Yeah, my mother administers wife in later on she was a principal, and she sit us down at the dinner table and say you know whenever someone tells you a secret, forget it. So this is how I live my life and I said, I should have told you that. Well, you did. So, you know, that's having the best your sisterhood that you trust. Yes. How are you nurturing and building your tribe Ella and building my tribe by constantly reminding them of who they are. Because what happens is that in life, life will cause you to doubt yourself cause you to doubt God, and I'm constantly reminding people, because I have conversations with people and I'll remind them of something they said to me on a good day. And I'll say God hasn't changed. You have to realize that you got to be able to trust God, even when you can't trace him. So don't think he has left you just because it feels that way. Don't go left just because things don't seem to go right. So I nurture that by reminding people of who they are and who's they are. That's holding them responsible. Right. Yeah, accountability. Yeah, accountability. Exactly. Yes. And they do it to me too. They do it to me too. I'm having a rough day. They like Ella, didn't you just say on your show. I'm like just say no more. Say no more. I got you. You know, so yeah. And that's what comes from any of those people. Yeah, that is what he does. Yeah, that's right. They all have that likeness together. You know how you see those tribes, and they had their certain jewelry on and they have all their little gear on and like the like in the Africans and you know that. It's amazing, but they stick together where there's Indians or Cubans, it doesn't matter they stick together. They sure do. They have that calm that thing that's in common. And that's their, their vibe. Yeah, they're vibing the same way that you buy. And you have to think about the body to the body needs every single thing for it to work. You know, I mean what good is the head if you don't have the arms what are good of the arms if you don't have the fingers. You know, you have to learn that you have to depend on each other. And let me tell you something one thing I've learned with people from being manager and anything I've ever done in life. People want to feel needed. They want to feel that they have something to contribute. And when you allow them to do that. They feel like okay this is great. I we've established the problem and now you've allowed me to be part of the solution, and it makes everybody feel good. You know, I love that. I think that's this. That's what this whole thing with Sharon I think that's the whole concept of this sister power and your vibe your tribe. You know, everybody wants to be loved and they want to be a part of something. This is one of these things where you want to continue to do it, because the more you do it, everybody's going to have a moment that you know I think I'm tuning on that today, because we all have those times where we're in the valley. And this is everywhere. Like Ella said, you don't feel nothing. You don't see nothing. And you want to believe circumstances tell you God is gone. I mean it's all along. But when you got your tribe, they're never going to let you forget who you are your purpose for being here, and that we got your back. Amen. Amen. That's why you have to be real. That's why we have to be real. Now about attitudes. So let's talk about that, you know, how does an attitude affect your tribe, because we all have different stress levels. So let's just chat about that. Well, listen, I one thing I one thing I like, and I mentioned this on my broadcast seven night I said you know, attitude is like a flat tire. You're not going to go anywhere until you change it. Yeah. Oh, think about that. Yes. That's so true. That shows up in a room before you ever open your mouth. And that can change a person's life, or it can tear them down. Yeah, you have to always check that. That's why you have to stay. You got to always stay prayed up. Yeah, you really do. Yeah. Yeah, yeah, you just will do better because attitude is, it's, it's powerful. And they can change a whole atmosphere very quickly. So, so when you have an attitude, even if you're a great, great musicians that I work with, but if they have an attitude, I refuse to really work with them because you, I can't have a bad attitude in the studio is to is to delicate in you know, but people with a bad attitude, nobody wants to be around a person with bad. Right. And you can be smart is all our doors, but no one will listen to you. Yeah. Not if your attitude is bad. That's right. Check your attitude. Check it like a flat tire. That's right. You're not going anywhere. This is why we have such wonderful people around us. Because if I feel good, you feel good. And you want me to feel good, even when we're having a bad day, there is something to be grateful for always something to be grateful for. Well, let's talk about friends versus acquaintances because we I have this conversation when they said oh my, my best friend ghosted me and I have no, that's not your best friend. She's not going to just ghost you and be done. So let's talk about friends versus acquaintances, Ella. Well, I think that what happens is that we pray to God sometimes and then when he starts answering those prayers, we think that he's forgotten. Sometimes God's answer to your prayers you may be saying God in large my territory bless me and God may be thinking yeah but I got to move some people out of your life first. And just because some people are going by the wayside, you think the guys forgot you know he's actually looking out for you. Some people aren't your friend just because people follow you, don't mean they favor you. Okay, there are some people that just don't like you and they're just around you, just because you know they can. But when you have acquaintances, those are the people that are there. You know, to see if they can get someone's like a hitchhiker. Okay, I love comparing things. You think about a hitchhiker hitchhiker gets in your car. They know that you're going in their direction they just want to know if you're going in the direction. They don't care if you get to your destination destination they're using you to get to theirs. So some of y'all have hitchhikers in your life. Get them out of there. Yeah, get them out of there. That's right. And I'm not talking literal hitchhikers. I'm talking about the sense of the word hitchhiker. Yeah. Yeah, they're just hanging around. You know, they just hanging around to buy up all your take up all your time. That's right. Because they're bringing they're really bringing nothing to the table. Right. They're just coming to take from you. Friends don't do that. Friends do not do that. Even when you're low, low, low, and you might come in the room or come to work that day with an attitude, your friend is going to help. They're going to be going to help you get they're going to make you feel better. That's right. Because like my son's always telling me, Mom, just look around you. Just look around you. There's always something grateful about. There's always something thankful about a friend will tell you that kind of stuff. Ditch the hitchhikers, because some people in your life for a reason, some people in your life for a season, it's our job to make sure to determine which ones are our friends. That's right. Because friends are going to be there with you at all costs. They're going to be there. No matter what, no matter what, no matter what, no matter what, I'm still gonna be your friend. We spoke about the table and I love this quote from Shirley Chisholm that we've heard so much, you know, the first black woman elected to the United States Congress. If they don't give you a seat at the table, bring a folding chair. I love that. Sometimes that, you know, some people just have that when they enter a room. They just have it. It's there. People are intimidated by this. They don't want to give you that seat at the table. It's okay. Bring your folding chair. What's your take on that, Ellen and Gail. I love it. First of all, I've never heard that. What that sounds like to me is if you're there at the table, you don't have to eat what's given to you. Get up and move. Build your own table, even if it's a folding chair at the time. Get up, be ready to move. And sometimes we just want to eat something even in the natural. I don't eat everything on my plate. If I don't want it, I'm not going to get there. I don't answer if it's not me. Like for example, if someone called you right now on the phone and they say, hello, may I speak to Natalie? If your name is Susan, you don't answer to that because that's not who you are. But in life, people are going to call you things and react to you in ways that don't relate to you. And you don't have to respond. Same thing if I'm sitting at a table and I know they're not feeding me what I need. I'm getting up. I'm taking my folding chair. We're out. That's confidence too. Well, you know, a lot of times you get at these tables and like you said, there may not, there may be some people there who really don't like you. They're just jealous of you or whatever the case may be. But God, God always makes a place for you at the table. You know, your gifts always makes room for you at the table. And if people don't like you, that's on them. Yeah, that's their loss. That's their loss. You just, but you still have a space and you still have room at that table because God has, God has purpose you to be there. Amen. And that's why it's so important to know who God is because he's the one that leads you and opens the doors that nobody can shut. Amen. And causes, goes into your future and prepares a place for you already. Yes. This is the future that God has already prepared for us. Ella, Sharon and Gail. This was already planned. We didn't know it three months ago. Right. We didn't even know each other. We didn't even know each other. And it's like we're family now. I know, right? It's a beautiful thing. So he always makes a place for us, a seat for us at the table. But he also said, be aware when you're at the table that you are around wolves in chief's clothing. You know, you have to be careful who the presence that we're in. Most of the times, I mean, you guys already know most of the time you have these meetings and all these people you meet, a lot of them are full of it. Listen, you know, one thing I learned to, and this is something someone told me a long time ago when I first started leading and getting involved, they said, you know, Ella, God will call you to go into the room to change the room. But now when you get in the room, don't let the room change you. Thank you. Yes. Remember that. That's it. So you always know your place. That's right. You know who you are, even when you get in that bad. That's right. You know, you just know who you are. So that makes all the difference in the world. You know, you're like, yeah, that's why God opened the door and allowed you in the room because he knew he sent you in there to change it. But we get caught up. You're going to stand, you were going to be the one to stand up and that's right. Yes. But we get in there and look at those dollar signs. So we're like, look at him get distracted. Yeah. Did you hear that guy? You know, next month, from this conversation, sisters and partner by E, we're having your vibe attracts your tribe power luncheon for women. It is just blowing up and it's a small group. It's like 60 handpicked women and we're going to sit at the table what we're doing and we're celebrating women of character. Commitment and courage and if I had a private jet I would fly you Queens out here for because it is on and popping. Saturday, September the 10th. Saturday, September the 10th, it would be right and ocean view is going to be at the club is going to be one. We need to be at that. You want to sneak on a plane or something. But the reason why did bring that up. Start your power luncheon for women there. It's just with the tea parties. And because this is something that we need now and moving forward. I wanted to ask you ladies, you know, your tribe sees the best in you and keeps you humble. They see the worst in you and still love you. Give your viewers your thoughts on this. Well, appreciation comes to mind first when I think about how, you know, these people who really love you, they know you, and they accept you the way they are. They understand you first of all, but they also see your bad side. They know you out. They still love you and still that they're still they are so many and a lot of some of them are men friend. Yeah, you know they just still because they know who you are. You know, but and so when you do something crazy, or you make this horrible mistake, you share it with them. There's there's no that's the most comforting thing a person can do when you are filled at your lowest moment, that person sees your horrible attitude, and they still love you. They still love you. They're like, girl, come over here, you know you crazy come over here. I believe that, you know, good in gives good out and whenever you empower people, they will be the same ones that will have to turn around and empower you. And I think that's good. I like people to see the flaws I like people to see that I cry I like people to see that I have those moments, but I also have to remember that they also need to see the other side of it also. Okay, I'm not different than you. I still doubt guys sometimes to I love him. I'm not going to stop, but I have my moment so I'm just like you. You know, we're going to help each other with this thing. So I think it's, it's powerful for people to see. I do. It is, it is, it's so powerful, because that's real. I think as soon as people see that, that you have your flaws, they like you more because that because then they can relate. Yes, that's a very good. You're relatable and you're approachable. Then you are seem approachable and you seem like me. So when you like me, that's a likeness that's sameness. People like that. I do that in my just girls, you know, show them sameness, as opposed to them being at each other's throat and fighting and all that violence and all that. We have so much in common as women. And I think that's so powerful. I love being a woman. Oh, I tell you, we got power. I know, right? More than we know. More than we know. That being a woman, we can change our mind whenever we want to. And do. You know, that's what you know, she changed your mind. Now she wants it. It's wisdom though. It's wisdom. And that's what we pray for. We ask for discernment. We ask for wisdom. Yeah. And we have to be able to recognize what God is saying to us. No. And then we have to in turn turn around and say, no, that's a woman of wisdom. That's the kind of woman I like to be around. If she changes her mind and she says God told her to listen, I wish I could have done that more in my past, but now I got it. Now I understand. But that is true. My father always told me, say, when somebody asks you to do something, say, no first, because you can always change your mind and say yes. But if you say yes and commit yourself, then you kind of making yourself like that. So, so we have to learn how to say to accept the fact that it's okay. It's okay to change your mind. That's right. It's good too, because you find out where they're coming from. Because people show you they're behind after you say no to like, oh, okay. It was like that. You really didn't care about, you know what I'm saying? So it's, it's not a bad thing. I think that we, our steps are ordered. And we just got to truly understand and believe that God orders our steps. You know, even when we don't understand sometimes, he's always in it. Yeah, most of the time it looks real bleak and we don't understand, you know, that's how we, that's what this whole, this is a faith walk. It's all about walking in faith. You know, and trusting if you see, God shows us everything. We would be crazy. We would run. That's right. That's right. So he wants us to learn to trust him that way. And I honestly, it's a really exciting. There's never a dull moment. There's always a moment though. There's always something going on. But you know what, Gail, there are a lot of people, Gail and Sharon, there are a lot of people that think, well, Ellie, you know, it's hard to trust God. I just can't trust him sometimes. Okay, well, let me show you that you do have faith and you do have a trust. A lot of us that work for companies still. Uh, guess what? You have to trust them because you're going to work those two weeks before you get that check. Right? Hello, somebody. You are going to work those two weeks before you get that check and we trust them. And we don't question them. We don't say, you sure you're going to give me this check? Are you sure I'm going to get this? We trust them going in and we have to do the same thing for God. You know, Queens and closing. We need a part three, I'm sure. Historically, black women have taken the lead towards truth and justice. What future outcomes do you see for our community and I want to start with you, Gail and then Ella. Now, pose that question again. Historically, black women have taken the lead towards truth and justice. What future outcomes do you see for our community? I see a bright future. Sometimes it looks a little bleak. At times I wonder where we are going when I look at our young people, our young women, which is why I try so hard with yes I can with my organization to encourage them and inspire them to keep them on the right path. But it's hopeful because there are so there are many, there are many women out there who really are trying to do a good thing. They just need to be, they need to understand the sister power and your tribe and your vibe. That's why I like that there's because there's so many out there who are really trying there in the political arena, they're in their in colleges, there's their teachers and lawyers and counselors and everything and they're really trying to do a good thing. I see our future as black women as some of the most powerful one of the most powerful women on this earth. That's the way I view. I think we are so powerful as women, black women. We're just a strong people. We're just a strong race of people. Whatever we do, we do it so well. It doesn't matter what it is. We do it well. So the future looks bright for me. It looks bright for my the way I view it. And I think that as women, we have to find out and make sure that we're picking and making sure that we're building up the right leaders. Because some of us look at women on Real Housewives of Atlanta, not to knock the show, but we try to use that and build upon that as our future as our leaders. We have to make sure that we're championing the right people with the right motives, the right agenda. And when we do that, I believe that as women, we will be good. We just got to learn how to support each other and stuff all the blabbering and nitpicking and name shaming and body shaming and all these kinds of things. We got to get back to the things that God put in us when we were young girls growing up. Yes. We're all learning how to work together. If we can get back to that, we'll be more powerful than we've ever been. More, more powerful. I love that. Gail Moore, Ella Johnson. Thank you so much for your wisdom and your expertise, your beauty, your love. I'm just thrilled my heart is overjoyed and in closing, there is a saying that like attracts like, which means that the same energies will always be drawn towards each other. That's why your vibe attracts your tribe. You will always make friendships with those who resonate in a similar vibrational frequency as yourself. I'm your host Sharon Thomas Yarbrough. Thank you for spending your time with us. Thank you so much for watching Think Tech Hawaii. If you like what we do, please like us and click the subscribe button on YouTube and the follow button on Vimeo. You can also follow us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and LinkedIn, and donate to us at thinktechhawaii.com. Mahalo.