 So Jaclyn Hill is back after the whole lipstick fiasco and her disappearing and this is such a momentous occasion that we're back to the old setup baby. What is up everybody? This is Chris from the Rewired Soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel what I try to do is take different topics going on in the YouTube community trying to see what lessons we can pull from them to improve our own mental and emotional well-being. So if you're into that stuff make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell and yes before we jump into Jaclyn Hill's return real quick announcement go and check out my website www.theRewiredSoul.com. My brand new book cancelled is out now and oh my god like hundreds of you have already downloaded it. It's totally free go check it out if you do a five dollar donation or more when the audiobook comes out in the next week or so you'll get a free copy of that but anyways that book I analyze cancel culture on YouTube I share some of my own experience and I talk about other situations in YouTube and that's why I'm excited to talk about this topic with Jaclyn Hill like oh I'm gonna get some flak for it you might cancel me for it but her video I give it an eight or nine out of ten. So yeah if you are not caught up to date on what went down with Jaclyn Hill and her lipstick launch which I doubt that you're not caught up to date if you're watching this video go check out the videos from Spill she did a two part series so that went two or three parts either way go check that out their long videos but it will give you all of the details on it all right but anyways I think the last time I made a video about Jaclyn Hill she took a break from social media she was working on her mental health and now she's back so there's a few clips that I pulled but listen very carefully watch this whole video like my videos are for you the viewer like I was watching this I was you go girl like there's so much that all of us can learn from it everybody I mean it's it's just such an outpour of love and I am so thankful for you guys you have no idea and to all the influencers I know that when things get rough influencers don't want to jump out there and be be the person to stand up for somebody else because it's scary and you don't want to get involved you know it's like you're like oh gosh like they're going through hell like I don't want to burn with them you know so it's like you kind of like step to the side like oh it's kind of like watch it happen and I completely get that that first clip right there this is something that I talk about in my book um when you are being cancelled when the hate mob is coming after you a lot of your influencer friends will just scatter all right and like I dedicated a few chapters to discussing some of my relationships so I can definitely empathize with what Jacqueline Hill is dealing with maybe you've dealt with this in your own life if a rumor or something or maybe you just screwed up and people distance themselves from you but anyways like Jacqueline Hill said like one of the things that I'm truly grateful for was there were people who could not support me publicly because the hate mob would go after them but they were supporting me behind the scenes I have some people who still talk to me like every day you know and they see the improvements and the changes that I'm doing and they're just they're giving me some motivation and some inspiration but anyways if you want to learn more about that go get the book it's free I'm just terrified of seeming like a victim I'm terrified of saying the wrong things of people just you know picking this video apart because I know that's what's going to happen and I know that it comes with the territory of course like I get all of that but I'm just still really I'm just really scared I really I must be honest with you guys it's hard for me to say that because I'm sorry guys I know that I'm not like supposed to cry and I'm gonna try my best to edit any like tears out of course because that's not the message that I want to get across so that clip right there is very interesting to me it's really interesting because like throughout the video she has to talk she has to tell you all the things that she's not going to do and this is how cancel culture works like listen Jacqueline Hill massively screwed up I have massively screwed up anybody out there who has had the hate mob attack them has massively screwed up but but like when we make these comeback videos another and when any youtuber makes a comeback video or a video like it gets picked apart like it is insane and it lacks so much empathy to not understand that even though Jacqueline Hill screwed up like she's a human being who has emotions and the fact that you have to like edit out like you're crying and things like that in fear that someone's going to make a video saying that you're just trying to manipulate your audience is absolutely mind-blowing right like something I talked about in my last video is like like until you go through this you're never going to fully understand like I've been through it and I don't fully understand like my screw-up was not as big as Jacqueline Hill's screw-up you know what I mean like she has the right to feel crappy about this and it just sucks because I don't think youtubers should have to come on camera and explain all the things that they're not going to do just out of fear that people are going to dissect it and make videos about it like be a human have emotions but anyways I do think Jacqueline Hill you know she did great with this one like when she made her last video when it came back like I think when I talked about like she came off like kind of abrasive and I'm like dang girl why are you yelling at me you know what I mean and this video I feel she did much better but the reason I had to get away from social media and just fully delete it is because at that point I had refunded everybody there every single penny they had spent I was humiliated I was embarrassed and it was time for me to start picking things up and putting the pieces back together and rebuilding you know as a CEO as a boss as an owner of a brand you don't get to just sit back and be like like you have to start rebuilding right yes yes yes so if you're a loyal subscriber who's been following the channel for more than like I don't know five minutes you know that we start off every video with we talk about the problem but we focus on the solution and that's what Jacqueline Hill is talking about like this is the mindset that I had to get in and I hope to God that you get in it too like I had to get into this mindset when I got clean and sober seven years ago like I would just mope around I would just sit in self pity right and that's what Jacqueline Hill is talking about she was just sitting in self pity like oh my god I'm a failure everybody hates me and out of that like you can only do that for so long right like how long are you going to do that for like if you want to take what I call the pity party method like what I personally do I give myself a certain amount of time all right typically maximum it's like three hours three hours to just feel sorry for myself what was me everybody hates me and everybody's terrible oh my god right after three hours is up of me just wallowing in my own pity then it's time to get into the solution and that is one of the reasons why I was so excited to make this video because Jacqueline Hill she's like you know what I gotta I gotta fix this I gotta do something I gotta move forward and do this and if you guys don't take anything from her video except for this listen to me very carefully the fact that she's talking about how she is not going to give up on her dream like oh oh my god like I can't tell you like when I was going through this like the amount of people like delete your channel I still get people telling me to delete my channel right and like all I can think is like when I look at people leaving those comments I'm like I feel bad for you like I feel bad if you feel like when you screw up you should just give up you know what I mean like that's not what we should do so I'm super proud of Jacqueline Hill like to learn and hopefully grow from this and that's what this next clip is about it's a lot it's aggressive and I definitely was not prepared and I definitely was very ignorant in this entire process of thinking what it would actually be and for that I am grateful I'm it sounds so weird but I'm grateful for the fact that this happened because I immediately got to learn such incredible lessons on being a boss on running a company on how to talk to people on hire how to do all of this and I'm so grateful for that in this process I'm studying for my words I'm just my mind is all over the place yes yes yes that clip right there like the gratitude okay like you guys like this is something that I try to teach people all the time it's something that I had to learn as well be happy and grateful for your failures okay like there is no such thing as losses there are only learning experiences so what Jacqueline Hill is talking about is like she had this catastrophe happen on her first like solo brand launch right but she learned about so many things that can go wrong like she learned about it like yes it definitely sucks that so many people were affected by this and she's trying to make it better by she gave out refunds and all that other stuff right but she learned so much like she learned so much about the importance of quality control right she talked about how she fired a bunch of people brought in a new team so many different things so I want you to think about that with your own life too like you guys like when I come here and talk to you guys and try to give you suggestions that might hopefully improve your mental and emotional well-being I'm not coming from this place of all high and mighty like I'm this perfect human being like listen to me just mean you real quick I have literally made every single mistake that you can imagine all right but I try to learn from them and I'm still gonna make mistakes you see what I mean like you guys check it out when you screw walk like the only way to go is up like that was the beautiful thing about being a hopeless drug addict my life could not have gotten any worse you know what I mean so no matter what it just went up up up up from there you know that's how it's been for the last seven years so remember that like no matter what you've been through in your life my suggestion is to try to look at these things and see how it's made you stronger how it's made you better like a great example is relationships like so many people when you get out of a relationship with somebody so many of us are like oh my god I wasted so much time I wasted so much time no you didn't waste time you learn stuff like my beautiful girlfriend Tristan like even though she got she has to deal with my pain in the butt right like I've learned so much from screwing up other relationships that she's getting the best version of me baby she's smiling you can't see it but she's smiling right now at the end of the day I have to rise up it doesn't matter how much I don't want to film this it doesn't matter how anxious or depressed or whatever I'm feeling it doesn't matter I signed up for this gig I failed the first time I'm gonna keep going I have got to get back to YouTube I love it so much YouTube is one of the things that yanked me out of my depression you know the most depressed I've ever been in my entire life is shortly before I started YouTube so yeah that right there right there which talks about she just got to rise up and do this thing like earlier in the video she talked about how this comes with the territory like holy crap like like I get some flak sometimes and I get it because sometimes I get passionate like I am in this video it's not all scripted like my last few videos have been but anyways like what she's saying right there is just what I wish every YouTuber on the platform understood or or learned eventually and hopefully you don't got to go through the Jacqueline Hill situation to figure this out like this is what we signed up for like when we put ourselves out there in public like we can't expect to just get all of the good and none of the bad like and it sounds like she's become more aware of that like listen like if I screw up people are gonna say things people are gonna make videos people freaking biochemists are making videos about Jacqueline Hill right but she's finally becoming aware enough and losing that entitlement to say oh my god nobody should make videos about me like it's what happens all right like we have to understand the more we want to achieve in life the more stresses come they're not they're not terrible as they might have been before but they're new right like when you make a bunch of money you got a you got a bunch of new taxes you got to pay and things like that like when you go to college you have college problems instead of high school problems right no matter what we do there's going to be new things that come along with it and she's like now I just got to get up and go do the same and one of the reasons I wanted to talk about this right here is because you could tell she's giving herself tough love I give tough love we even got some merch in the store that says tough love but anyways like when I say it to you I can come off kind of like a dick all right like what I love about Jacqueline and this is just something I have to do too and I hope that you do too like you have to just at a certain point you gotta say all right it's time to get up and go go to work time to get up and go into the solution because we get all touchy and like sensitive when other people say it to us but we have to train ourselves to get up and go into that solution you know what I mean I try to be polite and try to be nice but still sometimes I'm just like not the way I should be and I'm out of line and I was out of line and I reached out to her directly and apologized to her and she was very sweet for accepting my apology but still just publicly I want to say that that wasn't cool for me to not sit back wait see if anything else happened do investigation I should have DM'd her privately and had a conversation I should not have done that and so for that I am very sorry and will definitely be more mindful of that in the future. The last thing I want to talk about is that clip right there because this is just something really fascinating about cancel culture all right so Jacqueline Hill had she didn't have to but she chose to she realized that she was in the wrong and apologized to that young woman privately in DM's right she apologized privately in DM's they're okay now but because of cancel culture Jacqueline Hill had to talk about it in this video you want to know why because unless the hate mob knows you did that thing then did it really happen you see what I mean like isn't that kind of interesting about cancel culture because then you're kind of in this lose lose situation because it can be really easy for people from the hate mob to say oh Jacqueline why'd you have to tell us that you messaged her privately if you messaged her privately why didn't she just you know leave a private right but if she didn't tell you people would continue making videos because it's brought up in almost every video about Jacqueline Hill about how she sassed that young woman you know what I mean so if she didn't tell you then she would have been screwed either way so much with cancel culture is lose lose right but I also like how Jacqueline Hill discussed this because this is something that I had to learn and I'm still learning right like for me I'm just me I'm just Chris the guy in my little apartment making videos but I have an influence now I have a following I have to be more careful with how I respond to things and if I'm being honest with you that's why I block so many people because I cannot respond in a calm fashion you know what I mean so anyways it's great that Jacqueline Hill was self-aware of that fact and she's trying to learn and grow from this experience all right but anyways let me know your thoughts on this like if you still want to cancel Jacqueline Hill my channel is the wrong channel for you like here at the rewired soul we are against cancel culture all right so make sure you go to my website the rewired soul dot com get your free copy of the book canceled or you can do a little donation get the audiobook for free when it comes out in the next week my editor Zach is working his butt off on that audiobook all right man anyways that's all I got for this video if you like this video please give it a thumbs up if you're new make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell because I make a ton of videos and a huge huge thank you to everybody supporting the channel over on patreon you're all amazing and thank you all so much who have donated who have downloaded the book like it is just blowing me away and I'm so grateful I love all of you all right thanks again and I'll see you next time