 You're live? Yeah. Is it working? Hey everyone, this is Helena Hart and I'm here with my friend Anya Grace today. Hi. Hey, we're just waiting for people to join. Hopefully this works. This is actually my first time going live on this channel by myself and I don't see anyone joining yet, so we just have to make sure, did we hit public and not unlisted? Oh, two people watching. Can you guys hear us okay and see us and everything? I'm a little nervous. I haven't gone live by myself without Matt on this channel before. Matt's in Florida right now and we told him we might be going live. So today we're so excited. We're going to be talking about the five qualities that men secretly crave in women. We just did a live stream over on my channel and we thought we'd come over here and do one quickly over here too because I love connecting with you guys. Thank you so much for letting us know. Yeah, we love hearing from you too. So we're just going to jump right in. We don't have a lot of time today, but we just wanted to come and try this over here on this channel because it got a really good response over on my channel. So Anya, you want to kick this off the five qualities that men secretly crave in women? Yes, I absolutely will. So these qualities are really bringing us back to our true power as women ultimately. So we really want to start by understanding that our value as women connects comes back to our true energy and that we are actually source energy and this is not religious or it's really talking about that as women specifically, we are embodiments of this really powerful energy that can create, there's a kitty cat, that we can as women literally hold a baby in our body in our bodies and birth a baby and therefore we're one step closer to source energy like you can receive that soul into our bodies and and that's a soft, beautiful, penetrative, influenceable energy that we embody as women. And so what men are really craving is to feel that energy within us and actually energy is one of these qualities that the first one we'll talk about is transparency and truth. So men really crave, even the media has told us that, you know, we need to like show up and be a certain way. What men are really creating is to experience us in a raw form. So in a vulnerable, raw, transparent and honest, pure way. So anytime that we show up in our authenticity and are really unapologetic about who we are, how crazy we look sometimes and how emotional we can get that that rawness and the vulnerability is actually an aspect of our pure truth and that that beautiful energy of truth is what men are really craving to experience in love and relationship. Absolutely. If you guys have seen any of my videos on this channel, I talk so much about vulnerability and authenticity. Oh, hello, everyone. Thank you so much for your comments. We love connecting with you guys this way. When you're being authentic, when what you're feeling on the inside is being conveyed on the outside in a very congruent way, a man can feel that and that's how he feels safe to come close to you. That's how you build trust and emotional intimacy in the relationship. And that's something that men really crave. Even if they can't put their finger on it or put words to it, when you can really embody some of these qualities, especially this first one, a man's going to feel emotionally safe to come close to you. It's really, really powerful. If you're feeling something strongly but you're not expressing it, like if you're feeling really angry but you're pretending to be the cool girl or pretending like everything's okay or maybe you're pasting a big smile on your face and acting really sweet and understanding, when it's pretty obvious that you're feeling really angry or upset or triggered on the inside, there's a disconnect there. And men can pick that up in your energy, in your vibe and it makes them feel unsafe in that moment. If you've ever been around someone who isn't congruent in that way, it can be kind of terrifying to be in their presence in that moment. So what we're working towards here is total authenticity and vulnerability, which is where your true power is as a woman and that's what it's going to draw that man towards you. Yeah. And one more thing I wanted to say about truth is that when we're talking about truth, we're talking about being honest and being truthful and being trustworthy, but also knowing who you truly are. So knowing that your value and you are not just your physical body, like you are so much more than your physical body and the accomplishments that you've had in your life, that who you truly are is beautiful beyond belief. It's powerful beyond belief. It's love beyond belief. It's it's so much beauty and power that you hold. That's the truth of who you are. And when you, let's say, are on a date, I love doing this and I'm on a date with a guy and I'm talking to him and I'm engaging with him. It's like there's one foot on land, meaning I'm engaged in the external world, but I also have one foot remaining. I have one foot planted in my heart space and in this internal remembrance of who I really am. Like I'm so much farther. I'm so much more than the physical body in this moment. Like I am love. I am energy. I am power. I am and I bet that's my truth. Like that's who I truly am. So just by understanding and knowing who you really are, like, and I do this a lot through meditation to really embody these energies and get to know like who you truly are. It's that that's another part of what we're really talking about here. It's not just being trustworthy and honest, but but embodying your truth, your higher self and your truth in that in that elevated way. Yes, absolutely. Yes. And we do want to mention to you that we have membership on our channel now. So if you guys want your questions answered during these live streams, I'm hopefully going to be coming on and doing live streams myself and bringing on friends and other experts every week. So become a member of our channel. And we will post a link on exactly how to do that once the replay of this gets posted. So you ready to move on to number two? Yes. Do you want to start? Go for it. OK, this one's yours. So elegance is the second quality and elegance. We mean so much by elegance, but you just kind of imagine like to think of a big, beautiful ballroom or a big conference or something and a woman walks in wearing a beautiful outfit, just elevated in her truth and her power, meaning that her back is lengthened, her neck is long, her heart is open, her shoulders are down and she's composed and poised in this elegance. So the sense of elegance really shows up as a high value woman, a woman who knows her worth and that she knows that what she's bringing into her relationships is of a very high value. Sorry, Leo, my cat is like looking at us like he's about to jump on the couch here. So this self value comes from self love. And when we we hold self love and self honor, we really become elegant and how we walk and how we talk, we're composed and this elegance and people see it and really, you know, they treat us the way that we're asking to be treated because we can't they know that they if we're holding a certain expectation, then they must rise that level in order to engage with us. And so that really activates and initiates everybody to rise up to your level as well as to hold this elegance. And yeah, absolutely. I always say you kind of like hand people a script of how to treat you. And we all do this. So self value, self love, honoring yourself, valuing yourself. This one all goes into this second quality, which is elegance. And it's not about being entitled or or walking up to a guy and saying, you know, I'm a high value woman. You need to treat me accordingly. And here's my list of requirements, right? A woman who truly knows her value and embodies this elegance doesn't need to do that. She wouldn't need to say that. And we talked about this on our last live stream, you know, she would instinctively feel turned off if a man wasn't treating her well. She would not want to waste her time on a man who is, you know, flirting with other women or treating her poorly or flaking on her constantly. A woman who really embodies this elegance and knows her value would just instinctively get bored and lose interest if a guy wasn't treating her really well the way she deserves to be in a relationship, right? Exactly. And when a man feels like he's sitting next to or walking with a woman who is at this elevated frequency and this high self value, he knows that what he holds, like who he's sitting next to is so precious. And it's a gift and an honor for him to be with her. And that's when a man will really feel like, OK, I can't let this woman go. Like she's so special. She's so valuable to me. And that's what's really going to make him feel, you know, connected. Absolutely. I recognize Cat, Cat, where you have the five day training. Is that is that you? I think that might be you. Thank you so much. That's like makes me cry right now. That's so sweet. Tasha, yes, we'd love to have you join and become a member for everyone watching. There's a way to become a member on our channel. And I for some reason, I'm not able to post it in the chat. I tried before we started, but I will post it in the description for the replay of this. So if you're watching the replay, just click the description and we will include a link. It's joined only 499 to join and you get a free report that Matt wrote on 13 compliments that capture a man's heart. You can download that right away. And then you can be on these live streams with us every week where I'm going to answer your personal questions because I just love connecting with all of you guys that way. So let's move on to number three, which is your energy. Your energy is where your true power lies as a woman to really connect with a man's heart and make him crave you and want to keep coming towards you because he just feels so good every time he's around you. I know Ania has so much to say on this one. Yeah, so our energy, the feminine force is what we call shockty force. It's the Prana, which is the energy, the Prana shockty. It's the life force that is running through every cell of our body. It's moving through our it's the blood. It's it's the movement that has created life. And that's when you're around. Think about like going out. And this is why spending time with other women is really powerful because it ignites the shockty force. It it allows your shock to become stronger. So spending time with your girlfriends and and really, you know, having those girls nights is really powerful. Going to yoga, going to the spa, spending time on self-care really helps this shockty energy elevate and really be actually be alive within you. So you think about like just getting your your your arm tickled or your back tickled or rub like there is a gentleness that the feminine energy can can share and gift to the external world. And oftentimes it touches a really powerful way that shockty can be shared. And but just even being around like Helena and I hang out here all the time at her apartment, we're just like flooded. The part is like flooding with shockty force because there's so much heightened feminine energy in this place where we're creating and we're laughing and we're having fun. And, you know, that energy is it's so valuable and to a man when they're around a woman who is really in her shockty force, in her energy, they literally feel it's like little ripples and waves coming off of her that that can either soften and calm and cool and relax him or inspire him and activate him and keep him on his toes. So that's shockty can do all these things. It's not just one one thing. Yeah, I love something on you talks about a lot in her work is is how the mind or like the masculine side of us, which is a great thing, by the way, we're not saying just wash your masculine energy down at all. So kind of a common misconception. We can talk some more about that if you guys want, but it's electrical, right? It creates these electrical field, so to speak. I don't know if I'm saying that correctly. Whereas when you're in your body, when you're in your feminine energy and embodying some of these qualities we're talking about, you create a magnetic pull and you're really pulling like the whole world towards you, especially that man who's right in front of you, right? I am so beautiful. And I'll go perfectly into number four, which is depth of love. So your your ability to hold love in your heart and and what Helena was saying about that magnetic pull when we stay connected to our body, like what I was saying earlier when you're on a date, like be engaged in the outer world, but don't stop taking those deep breaths and staying connected to your physical body and how you feel because the more you like literally feel OK, I feel my feet on the ground. I feel my seat on this on this chair. I feel my heart beating. I feel my stomach and the more you just make those little anchor points within your own physical body, you'll stay connected to this this part of you that is creating a magnetic feel that can pull people in. So love by by simultaneously feeling connected to your body and then feeling love in your heart, literally like allow yourself to think about something or someone that you love. This energy of love will activate. It's one of the most beautiful things that we can gift anybody who's in our presence, man or woman or child. It's it's when we have love in our heart, when we are emitting unconditional love for our self and other people, we magnetize people into our field and into our lives that are it's just the most beautiful gift to experience and really everybody creates this. Men really crave this energy to that feel that feminine love coursing through the body and through our activated feminine hearts. Absolutely. Yeah, I talk so much about space and softness in some of my videos. It's kind of the opposite of what we all feel compelled to do sometimes, especially if a guy's pulling away or we're in a situation where we're feeling really triggered. Typically what we tend to want to do is figure it out. Okay, we want to lean forward and make something happen, like, you know, do whatever it takes to get him back and shut ourselves down emotionally. So what I talk about with space and softness that fits into this depth of love is doing the opposite, leaning back into your feminine energy and keeping your heart and your energy open to this man and really to the entire world, you know, anyone, anyone or anything that's showing up, keeping your energy and heart open to them and open to yourself at the same time. So that's what it is with this depth of love. And something I always say is that a man can't love you any more than you love yourself, just like a man can't respect you or value you any more than you respect yourself. So it all starts with you because you can't be more emotionally intimate with a man than you are with yourself first. So everything starts with you loving yourself, valuing yourself, feeling really good about yourself, and then radiate that out rather than feeling lack in one of those areas, leaning forward and trying to pull it out of a man to fill up this void that you have within yourself, if that makes sense. I hope I'm explaining that clearly. Yeah, so we'll go, I love that so much, and we'll go into the last one, which is surrender. Surrender is my favorite word of all time. It's so powerful. It is surrender is when you think about certain in two ways, we always want to know that, like, when we're talking about certain, we're not ever getting our power away to somebody, but it's really ultimately developing the sense of discernment, this divine discernment, where you know you're guided by your highest self, that your life reflects you. You are a high value person. You are divine. You are powerful. You are a love. You are pure. You are everything. You're so important. And when we have experiences in our life that don't reflect that, that don't make us feel good, then that's a sign that we're not actually working with this discernment because when we have divine discernment, I like to say it in that way, we have discernment. We can, yes, discernment. When we have discernment, we can basically be an instant filter for people who can match us and be at our level or people who are not at our level and no judgment is just like, OK, I expect to be treated in this way because I know I'm a high value person. Therefore, I'm going to let go of anything that doesn't respond and reflect that. So then we can really work with surrender and really surrendering in relationship to the divine masculine guidance. So I like to say that as women, we we really want, we really want to be able to surrender to the to the masculine, penetrating and pushing and pulling on us and and moving us in different directions and forming us and shaping us. And but we and we want to experience that we really want to experience that but only from a source of guidance that's really there to take us to our highest potential that's really there to to see our value and our beauty and our love and our work and to elevate that and to hold it as so sacred that we as women are so sacred and the divine masculine energy that comes in and penetrates us and guides us is really reflecting that high value. So so surrender is something that men really do crave to experience within us. And that's not just I'll say it and then I think after you talk to. But but that this surrender, it's not just in a physical way, but you know, it's like there's a reason that it feels so good when a man puts their hand on our waist or our low back and just gently guide because when they feel that we surrender to that guidance, they feel that we trust them and for men to really feel like they thought we trust them, that's such a gift that we can give and really craves that. That's so true. Yeah, yeah, so much of this operates on trust, so much of the relationship. Surrendering is such a feminine energy quality for those of you who are familiar with some of the concepts I talk about in some of my videos. It's all about surrendering. It's kind of the opposite of trying to make something happen constantly, either on a date or in a relationship. So surrendering to the moment, surrendering to what's going on within you, like accepting and loving all the feelings and emotions that are coming up in you. Someone says yes, trust. Absolutely, yeah. So it can be really difficult, right? It can be challenging sometimes. So you want to start in baby steps, start in lower risk situations. And do you have an example of what surrendering might look like in real life? Because some of these are big concepts. Yeah, so let's see, surrendering in real life. So let's just say like something happens where a guy doesn't text you back or he's not responding the way that you wish. Like rather than feeling like, rather than thinking that you have the answer and that you know that why do we think that that's the right thing to happen? If he's not responding to you, why don't we just trust that that person is not the right person for us and just very gently let that go? Because surrender and letting go, like literally letting go, they're very connected. And it's really about putting our trust in something higher than our own personal preferences and saying, okay, well maybe what's best for me is for me to like let go of the situation right here, right now, surrender my ego, surrender my desire to cling and control. So anytime you feel like you wanna control, like think about any situation that you have right now in your life where you don't know the outcome and you wish you did and you want to control that outcome, like take a deep breath and just like let yourself soften and maybe just practice surrendering the outcome and let it go for a little bit, stop trying to figure it out and releasing your attachment to the results of any interaction you have with a man or anyone else, releasing that need to know how everything's gonna play out or control the outcome a certain way. Yeah, very feminine energy place to come from, super attractive as well. So I know Anya has a call in two minutes. So we're gonna recap these five qualities for you. And of course, if you wanna become a member of this channel and get your personal questions answered during these live streams, we just kind of wanted to tell you about that as well. It's 499 to sign up, you get a report. You can download a report right away that Matt has written for you guys. It's called 13 Compliments that capture his heart and then you can get your personal question answered by me and all of my friends and experts on these live streams I'm gonna be doing hopefully every Friday if we get enough people signing up and I would love to do that. So hopefully you guys will, I'll post a link to that in the description right after this video publishes. Yeah, and I'm about to do another live training of feminine activation training level two. We just finished level one. So if anybody's interested in doing that, it's about bringing these concepts and literally embodying them so then you can work with them in your ex in your life. You can really know how to be powerful as a woman in a feminine way, not just in your head but literally embodying that energy and just moving through your life in that way. Yeah, where can people find that? It was such a powerful training. Everyone loved it. I was there participating. It was life changing for me personally. So is it eastwestinterviews.com? Yes, yeah. The eastwestinterviews.com is signed up and there should be an email. There will be an email that's sent to you. If it's not in your inbox, just check your promotions or one of the other folders because sometimes they go to the other folders but the next training is starting October 30th. So it's gonna be super powerful. And yeah, so just recapping here the five powerful energies and aspects and qualities that you can embody that men are really craving and really secretly craving is this truth, this pure truth, this honesty and transparency and raw vulnerability. It's really huge. Yeah, love it. Number two is elegance. That looks like valuing yourself, honoring yourself, loving, embracing, accepting all the parts of yourself even the parts that don't feel so good. Sometimes when a man sees that you can do that, that's how he knows that you're going to accept him and some of the things that he might have a hard time sharing with others. So when you can embody some of these things, that's when you'll see a guy starting to open up to you and confide in you, which is really important when it comes to making him just wanna keep coming towards you more and more. Beautiful. And then embodying your divine feminine energy. So your energy, your fireiness, your calming coolness, that energy that you emit just in your presence, that is so valuable and really what a man craves to be around is really the energy that you're emitting as a woman. Yeah, I love it. Number four, we're just naturally switching off, it's so funny. Number four is the depth of your love, right? This looks like creating an environment where a man feels emotionally safe to come close. It looks like creating warmth and distance at the same time, right? Creating that space and softness simultaneously and radiating that out, which is what's gonna draw that man towards you. Super important, kind of the opposite of what we all feel compelled to do sometimes. So it's leaning back into your feminine energy, opening yourself up, both to yourself on the inside and to this man who's right in front of you and drawing him in that way with your warmth and your inner light, right? Beautiful. And lastly, surrender, surrendering not only, surrendering to your highest guidance, to your true self and knowing that there's perhaps a greater plan that's available for you. If you really let yourself just step up into your true power and then, oh, and coming back to that trust, like that deep trust that your life is going to work out the way that you desire, as long as you connect with your true power, which is coming from your heart and your breath and your connection to your true desires and that ability of once you find that trust, then surrender to those people and the men and the man that comes into your life that really has your best interest in mind and you can surrender to him and open your heart, open your body to really let him experience you at an elevated level, surrender to his guidance that is such a beautiful and important thing to embody that man are really, really craving. 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