 Are you an a**hole for charging your friends for dinner at your house? Well, it depends. If you send them a Venmo request after dinner out of the blue, then yes. Actually, the polite thing to do according to etiquette experts is to let your guests know that they're paying well in advance. Even so, they might still be resentful that you're charging them at all. So don't be surprised if folks turn down your future invitations. I'm sure you're a great cook, but you're not a Michelin star chef. That being said, if you want your guests to contribute more than a bottle of wine, etiquette experts have these suggestions. Make your dinner party a potluck instead and ask all your guests to bring a dish. You could also make your dinner party more collaborative. By asking your guests to chip in and cooking the food together in person. Or, just save the debate and order in.