 Hello, my dear human friends Scott St. Marie here welcome to the depression to expression podcast Now are you listening to my voice right now, or are you thinking about the future? I caught ya. I caught you you were You were thinking about something else even though you just press play you're like I'm gonna sit down I'm gonna have a nice tea. I'm gonna listen to Scott spew some stuff out of his mouth But you're already thinking about the future and a lot of us do I do too This is something I'm working on all the time or even if you're in a state of optimism my friend You're thinking about the future. It's like oh, I can't wait till I get there I can't wait for the thing thing. So you're thinking about the future, but then in difficult times When we're worried and overwhelmed by that thought of the future were we're in that future moment We're like, what if that happens? What if life plays out that way? What if I end up doing this? What if I end up doing that and of course our mind plays games And we do this with the past I should have I could have why didn't I? You idiot you stupid idiot. Why didn't you do that? You could have done that, but you didn't you suck And oh if you get there you're gonna be a failure So help me God Scott if you end up doing that you better not do that with your future. You better not These that our mind just plays beautiful games doesn't it? It's about time. We we get our minds on our sides at least to the best of our ability I want to talk to you about You know how we always overthink our lives and this topic comes up all the time with people I speak to because you my friend listening if you're human You have high expectations of yourself. Don't you me too like high? Expectations because we love to compare with other people scrolling through Instagram Seeing all the stories of people living their best lives watching Hollywood movies and wanting that Fantasy life that perfect life that where everything just ends up being all right We want that we thrive on that we want to be our best selves enough the best life Possible this is what hustle culture is telling us that the more you work just work hard keep at it Keep grinding you're gonna get that car. You're gonna get that house, then you're gonna be happy self-help Shares this this idea that we are lacking something in our lives and the self-help you buy the book you're gonna read You're gonna learn more about yourself, and you're gonna be happier. I've read all the books Ten steps to happiness ten minutes to happiness the Buddhist approach the Christian approach The Joel Olstein approach the Dalai Lama approach the Eckhart Tolle approach It's relatively all the same the more books you read But we over complicate and overthink this whole life thing and I just want to make it real simple for everyone listening real simple and You know I had to Really face a few massive challenges, especially recently to be forced to think of life this way Yeah, you kind of have to have no other option so Life is just this That's all it is. That's all it ever will be. I Know it's cringy. I know you're probably pissed at that message maybe because it's so obvious, but is it really obvious? If it was so obvious, wouldn't we just recognize that reality more? That this is all life is and we keep running away from the present moment We keep running away from these mundane and tedious tasks throughout the day in our routine So we can finally get that thing in the future be a better person have that act have that car have that house Have that promotion be somewhere else in life Looking forward to the vacation and the traveling but here in the moment. Oh, this isn't life There's no eventful thing that even requires me to pay attention The things we do most days aren't worthy of our attention and admiration and praise It's just Making breakfast I'm just commuting to work I'm just watching TV I'm just looking after the kids I'm just having the same old conversations with my wife or husband Well, that's my message to you today my friend And a message to myself today actually as I woke up Just consumed with this idea and thought in need of productivity and getting a podcast out and responding to all the emails and having the coaching calls and then Upgrading the course and reaching out to people in the course and making sure everyone's okay And then getting a little dose of the news and of course I got to go for the jog and I got to work out And then I home my goodness Already woke up and plan my whole damn day in my head So my message to myself and the message to you is that this is life Life is you waking up and making breakfast Life is you going for a walk with the dog and picking up shit Life is you getting dressed doing the dishes mopping the floor cutting the grass Small talk with neighbors small talk with strangers Chasing pleasure and avoiding danger. I love just putting rhymes in there You know We push all that away though But that's 99% of life. I don't care who you idolize maybe in the public eye Maybe a celebrity maybe someone that you that you recognize on TV movies. It doesn't matter how rich how famous How well-known someone is Their life is relatively the same in that regard that they still got to eat breakfast You still got to put on a pant leg one leg at a time But we have these thoughts and we admire the future so much and we want to get out of the present moment as much as possible But we need to realize that you don't have to have these massively high expectations of yourself like Enjoy a little bit. I Was addicted to the self-improvement and all of that and let me just be clear here like setting goals Wanting to get to a better place if you're not in a great place right now. That's really important That's really really important and really good You're not in a great place now. Where do I want to go? What do I need to do to get there and let's start chipping away? Goal by goal day by day moment by moment develop a solid routine and work on your physical shape and build some mental muscle That's awesome, but it can't consume us to the point where we only want that and we forget what life truly is And that's all life is it's the small things in in the day That's all it is The eventful the massive things in life don't happen every day. Sometimes they don't happen every year It's up to you to create the small wins and live in awe at just the small things That's what I've had to do Especially with food I would just rush every meal because I'd be pissed because I'd be like I spent all this time I'm eating now. I just got to eat again in like eight hours. What a waste of time I'd literally ask Kyle my buddy at university. I'd be eating and be like he's like what's wrong I'm like I'm pissed because then I got to make a sandwich again in like four hours Stupid body inefficient with food Then I discovered like how little your body really needs as far as food to be super healthy Like what's with this three meals a day stuff like oh my god It's so weird But anyway, whoa, whoa, whoa, that's way off topic. Anyways, that's a new podcast But do you know what I'm saying? Like we always chase these things and we forget just like the simple stuff that makes up 99% of your life Why would you rush through that? Why would you throw that away when that's literally life and you don't absorb that? You're not aware of that then you're throwing away what life is offering you You're throwing away the majority of it, but no we got to rush I Got to rush through life. We got to buy more things We got to save up money to get that house when we gets the hut once we get the house We got to get married these eventful things and then we're just gonna rush through until we have kids Then we're gonna rush through until retirement get that pension, baby. I Already told you about a few people I met who just like rush through life just to get a pension Man, it's crazy But then ten years down the road five years twenty years you look back and you're like well, this is what I wanted I'm finally here, but goddamn I kind of regret not appreciating where I was at the time Are you gonna appreciate what you're doing right now ten years from now? If you look back are you gonna say yeah, I really soaked in those moments. That's how you live with no regret You soak in the small stuff While still setting goals while still wanting to be a better you learn more have that curious mindset explore going adventures But you still got to make breakfast Still got to make tea So I gotta wipe down the oven in the countertop still got to clean the fridge once in a while Stuff to babysit Stuff to take in the car for an oil change Stuff to wash the car still need to go for a walk watch the clouds go by sunrise sunset These chores this work that we do that we think is just getting in the way of something What do you think it's getting in the way of because I did the math for me and I realize that I'm rushing through food. I'm rushing through meals. I'm getting up. I'm being so productive I'm rushing through the shower. I'm getting changed. I'm getting on calls right away in the morning Trying to help the world with their mental health. Whoo. Look at me. I'm rushing through I'm rushing through getting through work so productive And I'm rushing to get to the point where I'm not working and I can finally sit on my ass and watch TV or play a video game That's what I was pushing away the whole day rushing through getting so much done to get to that moment hmm So do some math for yourself and really figure out. Okay, why am I getting through 10 things today so fast? Why am I not really enjoying the moments here? What am I running towards am I running towards that end of the day feeling where I just sit on the couch and play Candy Crush? Am I sitting on the couch and finally playing my new PS5 and that's why I rush through the day you rush through 12 hours of the day to have one hour of pleasure What if we live in awe of the things that we do every day and really? Just do them simply do them slowly do them mindfully that's what mindfulness is all about It's not about being upset that you have a hundred dishes to wash. It's about the reality and Knowing that you can only wash one dish at a time So just keep washing one dish at a time keep putting one foot in front of the other I've had to force myself to do that and you have to realize when you have that future thought whether it's optimistic or not Play in the future for a while, but then come on back To the present moment and put one foot in front of the other with everything you do and you put the left foot forward and you See if the stone is wiggly or wobbly and it's good Okay, you put your weight on that and then you lift your right leg Check the stone check the branches. Are they safe to safe to step on? Okay, and we're gonna put our weight there And then that's all you do through the day Because eventually when you get that fancy car that new promotion when you actually get to that end point that you've always desired Well, what are you gonna do? You're still gonna have to go from A to B again step by step. It's the same thing So you may as well be in the present moment while you're here because you're gonna get to that point anyways But you don't have to overthink your life and you don't have to overthink every single thing that you do to make Sure that you finally get to that end point. Don't forget about the present moment and that's not to put pressure on you That's not to to make you feel guilty for thinking thinking is a beautiful thing very powerful Especially when you're on your own side with it But eventually the more you think about the future the more you ruminate about the past you don't get anywhere closer to a solution Maybe that's another tip in this podcast here. That's something I realized the more you think about something Like eventually you're gonna hit a point of diminishing returns where the more you think you're not getting any closer Nowhere near as close you finally have to take action and that's about chipping away at these goals that you want But still absorbing that moment and realizing that all life is All life is is these daily things these habits that you have every day What are you doing? You first wake up What are you doing in the shower? What are you making for breakfast? How's the commute to work? You you chatting and doing some small talk with co-workers smiling at your neighbor shelving the driveway When you know that this is the majority of your life and you have the willingness and you can change that and set goals in the future But in the moment you may as well be in it In these daily tasks you may as well be in that moment You don't need to compare with anyone else because they're doing the same stuff anyways But we have such high expectations of what life should be Like where do we get these? I'm gonna do another podcast on like the effect of Hollywood and It's just that whole industry on how we see life and How we're conditioned to constantly want more and think that the more stuff we have status fame money materials We just think that'll make us happier. It's so wrong. It's so wrong. When is enough enough? Set goals, but don't forget how simple life can truly be my friend It can be really simple if you want it to be just put one foot in front of the other Stay strong keep being you express yourself and I appreciate you listening all of you listening I appreciate your ears. I really do and I hope you maybe didn't think about the future too much You're past while you were listening to this because I know it's easy to I know man. It's so easy Even when I'm speaking about these like doing a podcast because I have a theme when I when I press record And then I just kind of go for it and you can probably tell because sometimes it's all over the place Sometimes the podcast episodes suck. Sometimes they're great, but this is cool practice for me too for public speaking Because you don't have a script really and you got to feel the audience and see what they're looking Looking for looking at and are some kids dozing off when I'm doing presentations at schools or employees What are they doing? Are their eyes rolling? What are they looking like? You got to kind of go off the cuff a bit This is cool practice. So thanks for letting me practice on you and Seriously, you're all doing fantastic work. I don't know if anyone's told you that But yeah, life is complicated. It's complex We want so much out of it because we're here for such a finite time. I get it But don't forget to enjoy what you do on a daily basis You're always chasing but just be okay with where you're at right now Like you're gonna get to wherever you want to get if you put in the work you are But right now the things the inevitable things that you do every day. It's good enough You're good enough Keep up the great work. Bye