 Hey guys, today. I'm going to share with you the reason for every goal failure. I've ever had So it's February. Sorry. It's March. It's March now So whatever time you're watching this video the reason I bring that up is New Year's Eve resolutions are now a distant memory For almost everybody right because they don't work. They don't work. We know that they don't work but the theme of this video the idea behind it is Very simple. It's not to go into every single failure. I've ever experienced and by failure I mean really what I mean by that is a broken promise That's my definition of failure Because a broken promise a promise we make to ourselves is something that's very important as I've spoken about in other videos Really what happens when we break promises to ourself is that trust goes away the trust you have with yourself So I take that very seriously. I've come to take it very seriously There was a time in my past when I was a lot younger when I didn't even see it as an issue Well, it was an issue and I discovered that But the reason for every goal failure I've ever had has been Taking on too much Taking on too much the goals I make are too big and They're too long-range. Okay, so what I'm talking about here is I'm inviting you I want you to get some value immediately from watching this video, right? So what I would say is it's very simple. Okay? You identify the areas in your life that you would like to see progress in Okay, not in five years time. We're talking about maybe five days. Okay five days. What's it and? You basically you identify those areas so there could be one area in your life. It could be two three Four maybe don't go over that. Okay, because then it gets to Micro managerial. Okay, you want to keep it down to maybe four things that you would like to see consistent growth in over the next few days, right and So what you do is you say, okay, well, what do I need to do each day for those areas? Yeah Now your first impulse here's a trick your first impulse for setting out tasks in these areas is usually wrong Okay, and by wrong, I mean too big too big What we generally do is we take on too much for each one. So what I'm saying here is Okay, you want to experience positive feedback incremental baby step Progress every day that you're doing this. So what you say to yourself is you take that initial a lot amount of time or task whatever you had laid out for yourself originally and maybe one of your areas and Take away from it. So say if you for instance, if it's fitness or something like that, right? And you're saying over the next five days. I will work out for 45 minutes, right as an example Now if you have been failing to do that for the last while and it's been making you feel bad Okay, that's an indication that that's a way too much way too much So you start scaling it back until you get to the point where you're saying well, that's ridiculously easy Ridiculously easy. Okay. So it could be something like I work out for ten minutes Okay, what we're looking for now. You might say ten minutes. What's the point? The point is you're going to become consistent with it and you're actually going to achieve something Okay, and you keep a promise to yourself, which will make you feel better Okay, because it's the breaking promises to yourself that hurts yourself So and you do that with all your areas whatever they are so that when you look at it and your your Daily tasks for that day. You say well, you know what if I can't do that There's something else at play, okay Usually to be honest with that is is emotional. There's an emotional issue. It's going on. Okay, and that's something else But give yourself the very best possible chance Of addressing those areas in a very very easy way because as I've said before the one emotion that has people Really hinders our progress. One emotion is feeling overwhelmed. Okay, if people feel overwhelmed They should up shop. Okay hit this stop Investing this stop trying, right? So give that a go but don't do it for two weeks or a month my monthly goals Do it for a few days because what you're going to do is just try this as like an experiment in self-trust Okay, and that's the real that's the real prize of all this It's not that you're going to actually achieve these things which is a nice happy pie product But it's more of an investigation into How honest am I with myself? Okay, can I trust myself? So that's what you'll learn and after five days you'll say, okay, what did I learn about myself this last period? Okay, how close really am I and it's if you fail. It's not a matter of oh my god How bad am I I can't trust myself? It's basically you go smaller again smaller again, right until you find you know What I can trust myself. I can trust myself with these baby steps and that's kind of like, you know It's self-compassion itself love. It's cheesy. You probably hear it all the time, but on a practical level That's what it looks like. Okay being honest with yourself and doing things that you know are in your own best interests, okay? So guys give that a go and I hope it helps and I will talk to you very soon. Take care