 I'll get a May 40 here. So looking at this story in the times of Israel, radi author, high and wilder, accused of serial sexual abuse, dies and apparent suicide. I think this touches on a lot of important issues. So number one, there's no connection between religiosity and being a decent person. And I think people are more likely to abuse children if they're religious. And I think they're less likely. I don't think people are more likely to be nice or kind or ethical or upstanding. Like all moral virtues are situation-specific, right? So some people are honest in business, other people are honest in their marriages, but there's no necessary accompaniment to these virtues. So all of our virtues. So I may be brave in one area of life, but in other areas of life I'm going to be cowardly, in some areas of life I'm going to be honest, in other areas of life I'm going to be dishonest. And that's how it is for everyone. Like no one's brave universally through all areas of life, no one is honest through all areas of life, no one is reliable in everything. All our virtues are just domain-specific. So just because you're religious that does not correlate with being a mensch, with being righteous, with being upstanding, with being someone who doesn't molest children or married women, right? So radiothra, high in water, accused of serial sexual abuse, dies in apparent suicide, celebrated children's right or found dead, a gunshot wounded by his son's grave in Petitikva cemetery day after fresh activizations came to light. So people will always try to make us choose between our integrity and our relationship with them. So people may threaten suicide, people may threaten to totally cut you out of their life, your spouse may threaten to divorce you, your boss may threaten to fire you, your best friend may threaten to never speak to you again unless you give into them on something. So we're constantly forced to choose between our integrity and staying in relationship. So I usually choose to do what I think is right that's cost me a lot of relationships. So you don't you don't sacrifice relationships lightly. Obviously if you can get fired, I mean that's that's very serious, right? So you don't just give things up, but man, my oppo phone just just not working as well as I do, but so he threatened to commit suicide if you know people kept up with these accusations and luckily people didn't didn't back off, but that's a very dramatic example, but it's also very common. People are always trying to manipulate us to get what they want. So we're constantly being tempted to sell out our integrity for the sake of staying connected to the people most important to us. So I'm not saying you always stick with what you think is right. Sometimes it does make sense to compromise on something that's important to you to stay in relationship. So according to reports he died by suicide was found next to the grave of this son who died several years ago of cancer. So people will often try to use their family to guilt trip you into doing what they want. So I remember this reform rabbi Sheldon Zimmerman when I asked him about accusations that he'd sexually misbehaved. He said if one word about my family goes on your website so you see this with politicians, you know Elliot Spitzer when he resigned held a news conference he went up and you know brought his wife next to him. So politicians always want to invoke their family so Australia's Prime Minister Scott Morrison he left the country when these bad fires were raging and he said well I didn't want to let down my family I'd promise them a vacation so he was in Hawaii when perhaps he should have been on the job as Prime Minister in Australia was in the country was going through a bad time so when he got criticized for it he invoked his family all right. So people will use whatever they can to manipulate you. They will use their family they will use their religion they will threaten to take their life. So he'd previously threatened to take his life over the revelation of accusations against him so when someone threatens to take their life I don't think you should back off on your integrity on speaking out on doing what's right. So the author of 80 books so these were inspirational books for Orthodox Jewish kids and just because someone's religious and writes inspirational books does not mean that they're a mensch that they're righteous. So he was 53 years of age. He'd hold up at his house for several days. He was accused last month by three women who said he had sexually abused them when they were 12, 15 and 20. The accusations were published in the alterates that's the leading Israeli newspapers like the New York Times of Israel and in the wake of these revelations several other women in the ultra-Orthodox Serenity community shared similar stories about high and water on social media. So when you're wondering whether or not you should do something always think about what would this look like if it showed up on the front page of Ha-Ada or the Sydney Morning Herald or ABC News or the New York Times right. To me that's my current favorite moral test like what would the words that I'm saying right now what would they look like if they were printed accurately in the Los Angeles Times known as an educator and therapist in the Haredi community. So this guy high and water used his popularity and his status to commit sexual abuse. So I have found that the most g'day Jim how are you mate good to see you. So I have found that the most charismatic rabbis have been the most morally unreliable as opposed to the most morally reliable rabbis I have found have tended generally speaking to have the least charisma so a lot of very charismatic people are very dangerous because they essentially you know form like court-like attachments and people use their power. People have power they use it right you give someone power then they're going to use it to try to get what they want and what other people want it's not always going to be exactly what you want. So we all are locked in an iron cage together and no one's coming to rescue us God's not coming to rescue you right. God is there it's up to you to connect with him but he's not going to come and bail you out if you're not willing to do the work. So you ready to go mate? Okay I'm just going to keep sharing my wisdom here on YouTube. So on Sunday a Haredi rabbinical court deals with sexual abuse in the community said it had 22 testimonies from people including young boys and girls saying that high and water had abused them when they'd come to him for treatment over the years. So more and more accusations are coming out about this bloke so the chief rabbi Shmuel Eliyahu heads the court posted Sunday on Facebook the court found the high and water guilty of the accusations. Before you go back to the US make sure you call me mate I absolutely will. I expect to be back in Sydney by January 5 and then I expect to leave for the US about 10 days after that. So the Haredi I've beat in the head of this court heard from witnesses who testified to high and waters adultery with many married women. So there are quite a few rabbis who use their power and influence and charisma to have sex. So I was reading about Rasputin he had a particularly strong connection with the Russian Tsar's wife and consequently with the Russian Tsar and many noble women married noble women would have sex with Rasputin to try to get what they wanted in the royal court. So we all usually have some power and how you wield that reveals your character. Yeah look forward to getting together Jim it's been great to meet you and thank you so much for your generous hospitality always appreciate those two mangos the first food that I ate on my arrival in Australia. We found him guilty without a doubt the rabbi wrote adding the court had heard from women and girls that he had harmed there is no doubt these cases are just a small fraction of the evil injury he caused. So someone can be charismatic and inspiring and religious and seemingly God-centered and they can be an absolute devil in how they treat you. So half of abuse has got to be on the people who get abused right because they're consenting Heimwalder was not hoarding people up at the point of a gun so what kind of person if it's an adult puts themselves in a position to to be abused and no one woman acquaintance of mine who tells me how she's been raped repeatedly or she keeps putting herself in positions to get to get raped she gets into bed naked with guys they're naked and then she's absolutely shocked that they forced her to have sex. So there was a report in a heart heart rates in Israel that Heimwalder could be heard on a recording telling a woman who had apparently told her husband that she had an affair with him that she should keep quiet about the matter. So he was heard saying that some things must be denied and that even if they bring a picture of me with you I would deny it I would say this is Photoshopped. Heimwalder says if their relationship was made public I would shoot myself you should be clear about that have no doubt about it because from my point of view that is the end of my life. Don't allow people to coerce you. If people shoot themselves that's on them so you say you fire someone and then they go and kill themselves that's not on you that's on them. You publish an accurate report about them on your blog and they kill themselves that's not on you that's that's on them. You kick someone out of your synagogue or your church and they off themselves that's not on that's not on you that's on them. Yeah now thinking of changing my name to Mango Jim it's a beautiful beautiful thing so the court summoned Heimwalder to give his version of events he refused to appear he claimed the verdict would be a foregone conclusion before he gave testimony so the police had begun looking into the 22 accusations assault brought before the court and Heimwalder had yet to be questioned by the police about any of the accusations against him so the media coverage of these sort of stories just totally glosses over the responsibility of these like married women adult women who engaged in this quote unquote sexually abusive behavior they chose to do it all right they weren't forced to do it at the point of the gun you know how much responsibility do people have for for this kind of abuse now we don't hold children accountable to the same you know level that we hold adults so some of these goals so the abuse started at age 11 at age 13 at age 20 right so age age matters as far as responsibility so the Heimwalder was employed warned him if he didn't take a leave of absence he would be fired and all sorts of other Heimwalder Jews completely cut ties with Heimwalder he's removed from his work at the ultra orthodox radio station radio called Chai the the voice voice of Israel and his books have been removed from all sorts of supermarkets and Jewish book stores and the Childress magazine said they'd stop publishing his stories so I always ask how is this going to look if it shows up on the times of Israel bye