 Well, Taty Westbrook just came back and released her video titled Why I Did It, explaining why she made the video about James Charles, and there were some very valuable lessons we can learn from this situation. What is up everybody? This is Chris from the Rewired Soul, where we talk about the problem, but focus on the solution. And if you're new to my channel, what I like to do is take a look at the YouTube community drama that's going on and try to take this mess and turn it into a message. So if you're into that stuff, make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell. And in case you missed it, I just uploaded a video because I keep getting all these requests to make a video about the Tricypatis and nicocato avocado situation. So I just addressed that and why I haven't made a video about it. So go check that out, it'll be linked up in the info card and everything like that. So yeah, I want to talk about this situation with Taty Westbrook and I'd open up a larger discussion around this, alright? So as I discuss this, I think it's, I think the most important thing to do in this situation between Taty Westbrook and James Charles is realize that she never thought this was going to happen. I mentioned this in a few videos. She never thought that this was going to happen. In her original video, she talked about how she thought in her mind that she was going to be on the wrong side of this thing and get a bunch of hate and everything like that. Sometimes us creators, when we make a video, we're like, alright, you know, is this video going to perform well? Or how's it going to be? What the reaction is going to be like? For most of us creators, there's a lot of thought that goes into what we're about to put out. Right? Obviously, there are some very impulsive videos that, you know, all of us put out and we're like, oh, shouldn't have done that, right? So I think it's important to start out the video by talking about that. But as I watch this, I couldn't help. I couldn't help but relate this to my own experience being somebody who's in long term recovery from drugs and alcohol, working in an addiction treatment center and everything like that, because it is very reminiscent of like an intervention, right? An intervention for somebody that you love. And like, there's different ways to go about an intervention when somebody's addicted to drugs or alcohol, where, you know, you kind of talk to them about it. You talk to them about it. You talk to them about it. They don't do anything. You got to do something a little bit more drastic. If any of you have seen the show, Intervention, that is a formal intervention and that is like a last ditch effort to get the person to go and get help, right? So in Tati's perception of the situation, it seemed like that's where she felt that she was, where she has tried to reach out to James Charles and talk to him about his behavior, what he's doing and everything and she's like, you know what? The only way I'm going to get through to this kid is if I make something very, very public, you know, and she talks about in her video about how she was worried that if she didn't do something drastic, James Charles was going to get himself into a lot of trouble. Now one of the issues is, is that us as viewers, not knowing the people involved in this, what else is going on and throughout making these videos and everything, like I try to run through these scenarios and just the way my brain works, I run through worst case scenarios. Like what could possibly be going on that we don't know about, right? Especially because I've made a lot of videos about Jeffery Starr being hypocritical throughout this whole situation and Jeffery Starr saying like, Oh, James Charles is a predator and a danger to society. I'm like, what could it possibly be? Like it would have in my mind, it would have to be something so extreme unless to be honest, you're just being kind of extra about it. But perception is reality. Tati Westbrook and something I don't want to do to Tati Westbrook is she talked about Gabriel Zamora, like minimizing her feelings. Okay. Like I do believe, I do believe that it's important that we respect everybody's reality and their feelings. And like I'm glad Tati Westbrook talked about that, but at the same time and going back again, like she never knew this was going to happen. At the same time, it's like, am I making a bigger deal out of this than I should be, right? Because yes, we are entitled to our own feelings. We are entitled to our own emotions. We are entitled to those things, but as somebody who has had personal mental health struggles and I try to talk to people and educate people about mental health, you know, from my own, you know, my own research and learning and my own experience is this. Sometimes our perception of a situation, sometimes the emotions that we're feeling around the situation are not necessarily the reality. For example, how many of you out there have ever had something happen to you in a day like maybe at the beginning of the day or whatever it is? Something happened to you and it just felt like the end of the world. It literally felt like it was the end of the world, the end of your existence was happening. And now looking back on that situation, you're like, eh, that wasn't that big of a deal. This is why I preach to people about meditation and mindfulness and everything because it helps us regulate our emotions and say, okay, are my emotions justified for this situation? Because we are very emotional creatures. Oftentimes we react to situations rather than respond and something that I have to do for my own equanimity and emotional regulation is look at situations and say, okay, is my perception of this situation actually reality? So circling back to how this was very reminiscent of like an intervention for somebody, that's Tati's perception and none of my business what her perception of the situation is, but I'm like, what was James Charles doing that was going to lead him on a path of destruction? And maybe it's based on my own experience and my own reality. When I hear things like that, I come from a world of life and death. I come from a world where in my over three years working at the Drug and Alcohol Treatment Center, I've had 70 people in that time span die right from relapsed overdoses to suicides and everything like that. So when I interpret that I I'm sitting here. I'm like, okay, is James Charles like addicted to heroin or something? Is he doing something illegal? Like what is he doing? What is he doing? What is this path of destruction that he is on? Because when I hear the situation, like I'm just like, okay, like maybe he's just a dick, right? And yes, that should be called out. So going back to like why Tati Westbrook did this, like some people need this, like, and I think she did a very good job addressing this of like, I think James Charles needed to get like, you know, the metaphorical like slap in the face like, boom. Hey, bro, time to straighten up like we all need that like hell, I just went through my own thing a couple months ago, not to this magnitude, but it was a slap in the face for me and I'm like, okay, Chris, you can keep doing what you love and whatever. But like, obviously, there's some things that you need to work on. But the question I want all of us to be asking ourselves is when when is it our place to say something? Right? This is something I struggle with all the time doing like commentary and everything. Like when is it my place to step in to say something about a situation to bring awareness to bring attention to a situation like when is it my place because Tati Westbrook felt like it was her place to do this right like James Charles has you know, has a mother right and then Tati Westbrook was like his mentor a mother like figure right but was it her place to put James Charles on blast publicly like that right because something that's helped me with my own sanity, especially with people in my life and people I've had to cut out of my life like I can definitely empathize with Tati Westbrook and what she's been through and just having crappy friends like there comes a certain point where I'm just like, you know what it's it's not my place like I don't I don't need to I don't need to put this person on blast and tell them a little something about themselves like somebody else in their life can do that for me for my own sanity. I just need to step away from the situation. So that's what I want all of you to ask not just about your own personal life but also in this situation. Do you believe that Tati Westbrook being such good friends with James Charles it was her place to call him out on this or should she have just gracefully backed out of the situation and I will say this in closing because I just made a video about Anna Khanna like watching Tati Westbrook I feel like I'm a pretty good judge of a character like when you when you work in addiction treatment center you gotta like you gotta have a pretty good radar for BS right and watching Tati Westbrook like you can tell that she is being authentic like when she's telling everybody to stop the hate to not you know blow this thing out of proportion and like pick sides and everything like that you can tell she really means that and really feels that and that's just that's just my opinion on the situation because I've dealt with a lot of people who have tried to BS and everything and plus right now on YouTube with all the apology videos that come out everybody's like sitting there analyzing critiquing and everything like that but the last thing I want to talk about is is that I do think it's important in just in my opinion that Tati Westbrook needs to take a look at her relationship with Jeffrey star like more and more videos are being made about that and like I just really think that and I think in this whole situation a lot of people have to ask themselves like what how much of an influence was Jeffrey star on James Charles and people who continue their relationship with Jeffrey star kind of have to sit back and ask themselves that same question and say like what what was Jeffrey stars role in creating James Charles you know but at the end of the day like my my opinion on or just even what I think is going to happen I think these two are going to make up I think it would be the best for both of them I do think they need a break from each other like some of you with your own friends like I've had to take friend breaks and just come back later and say listen I wasn't in a place to pursue this like friendship so hopefully everything works out for James Charles and talk to Westbrook alright but anyways anyways I would love to know your thoughts your experience and everything like that down in the comments below if you like this video don't forget to give it a thumbs up if you're new make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell because I make a ton of videos and a huge huge thank you to everybody supporting the channel over on patreon you're all amazing and if you would like to become a patron support what I'm doing here get your name in the credits I'll see you next time