 Hi y'all, she was seven. Okay, so someone wrote to me on my page It was a guy on my Facebook and he was telling me the story about this girl that he you know met and asked her out to coffee to Starbucks as like I guess their first date, but he called it a meet-and-greet and He says that the girl met him at Starbucks ordered her coffee and he only had $23 and And So he ordered her coffee paid for her coffee and she told him that she's used to going out to dinner on her first date she was hungry and You know, he told her to buy herself a sandwich and then she proceeded to say well I'm used to guys taking me out whining and dining me my ex-boyfriend. You know paid everything took care of me And You know, I I Don't understand. I can't date you because my family's gonna think you're broke because you you know You're not gonna be able to pay my bills or take care of me or you're not gonna be able to you know, take me out to dinner and This this and that So of course he saw that as a negative thing and he says can you believe that I told You know, so basically they're not talking to each other anymore because of that because she said her standards So Let me tell I'm gonna read y'all what I wrote back. Y'all can laugh Let me just reach all the thing so y'all can get the whole story. I gotta put on my glasses. Okay, so here's the story I have $23.99 in my pockets went to meet up with a younger chick at Starbucks Paid for our iced coffee during our meet-and-greet. She kept talking about how She's about the club life About having fun. She normally don't do dates at Starbucks Could we go out to eat? I'm like shorty. This isn't a date. This is a meet-and-greet. If you're hungry. They sell sandwiches. You can buy your own Food I'm not hungry. I told her after work. I mostly go home and take care of personal business I don't have time for clubs. I have a bar in my own house Shorty says I sound born as if Found out she didn't have a job She let her ex-boyfriend Take care of her Now her parents says I sound broke What woman wants to do that can't pay for dinner, I'm like be you're 22 years old You have no job. I have my own place And you aren't nowhere near the same level as I But hey, take care of your little a No, take your little a home and eat your parents food That's what he told her Okay, so y'all want to hear my response Okay, my response was lol Well, the sad and funny thing is that next month She will probably meet a man who will wine and dine her and take care of Her because she expects that and will eventually attract the type of man who wants to do those things for a woman Believe me lol. I met the man who I married when I was 22 He wine and dined me paid all my bills Brought me bought me a car and took me on trips. We are still married to this day Most women know what they want in a man and they choose And they choose not to stray or let down their standards because they just might meet the man that they that will cater to them I would never suggest that a woman lower her personal standards men. However have more time Than women to get their money up and have a family Women are on a schedule and a time clock to have kids and a family So we have to be sure and direct in the direction We are going in life wasting our time with a man who does not meet our standards It's pointless Not to say that you are not a great man Just saying that when a woman seeks a man to take care of her she cannot waste her time on one who is not willing No harm done. She was just not the one for you and you were not the one for her Okay, and then he writes back lol. Yeah, that's how a lot of men think today I feel sorry for these young girls Don't feel sorry for them. They end up like me So I don't want to let y'all know how these guys are thinking They're trying they're trying to take you out on a date with $23 in their pockets are approached by somebody And they ask you out on a date knowing that they only have $23 in their pocket What kind of planning is that you know, what kind of husband he's gonna make Not a very good one. You don't ask someone on a date when you only have $23. No How do you know this person, you know Was not thinking it was gonna be a real date and that she was gonna get to eat and you do all this, you know What if she built you up to all her friends and family and say oh, I got a date I got a date. Oh, he's gonna take me out and then you take her to Starbucks with $23. No, okay I know a lot of women who say well, I will do coffee dates. Well, that's y'all I don't do coffee dates unless I'm meeting my friend. Who's a girl or Gay guy, whatever. I don't do coffee dates with me unless I'm married to them and we're going there together, you know, I Don't do coffee dates because coffee dates is like, you know what? Basically, it's what we're saying. I don't know if I'm ready to spend money on you yet Meaning I don't know if you're worth it yet If you don't know I'm worth it by now, then you'll never know You got to take that chance, you know ladies when you have that self-esteem about yourself You don't do coffee dates darling. You do you see I can meet you at the bar. We could have a drink Because when you get up and leave because you can't afford to buy me drink number two somebody else is okay That's what I'm saying. Don't meet at a coffee bar meet at a real bar If you're gonna just meet out meet at a real bar So so they can see all the man Google and grovel over you. Don't meet at no damn Starbucks. Okay, I love Starbucks God knows I love Starbucks. I would never have gone on the first date there You're gonna take me to a real restaurant and a real bar so you can see other man wanting me Okay, so you can know my value and my worth. You're not gonna take me to Starbucks. What a bunch of people staring at laptops and Hipsters. No, you're taking me somewhere where I want to go. First of all, if you ask me out second of all You're gonna get to watch other people watch me and Empty you so you can feel good about yourself because of me. Okay. Now. I know that sounds conceited as Get out But that's just the truth. Okay, that's why I'm do Starbucks coffee dates never had Never had to I've had someone ask me. Oh, you want to meet for coffee? And I was like, you know, I already had some coffee today Already had my coffee today. How about we beat for a drink a real drink and they'll laugh like Okay, well, maybe That means they got to go to the ATM or something. I don't know but Ladies don't sell yourself short. Don't sell yourself for a cup of coffee. Don't do it. It's not worth it and Somebody asked me this before if you do accept a date to Starbucks Make sure you bring your friend So they know it's not a date either. Okay It's a meet and greet and I want you to meet my friend, too Okay, it's someone if someone has the audacity to invite you on a first date for coffee bring your friend That way he knows This is not a date if you want a date if you want me alone If you want me to take the effort and time to come out of my busy schedule to meet you Make it worth my while because I'm busy shopping with my girl And we both need a coffee right about now because we are pooped. Thanks for buying our coffee meet and greet Thank you. I'll see you later if you want to go on a real date. Give me a call when you get some money, okay? I don't y'all I'm just I'm just having fun, but like seriously Coffee dates if you if if you're seeking someone who You want to really be in a relationship with who you want to really You know Get to know You have to back down all of their approaches That don't please you Because otherwise you'll just be wasting your time And when a real man steps up to you he's going to have reservations To a place that has ballet If not ballet just to a nice place at least that the person who works there opens the door for you in the restaurant You know So don't sell yourself shortly. I don't care how desperate you are, you know I don't care how desperate you are. Don't sell yourself short Sorry y'all I got cut off. Okay, so let's just break it down This was an African-American man an African-American woman now Let's just pretend this was a Caucasian lady or a Latina lady Do you think that he would have invited her to Starbucks to meet as well? I'm not trying to be racist or anything because I drink Starbucks. Yeah, I've been drinking Starbucks, but Typically, you know a person who goes to Starbucks every day and gets their coffee because they can afford it It's not gonna be impressed with Meeting at Starbucks for a date Because it's like a daily thing. It's like a daily routine. It's like, okay, I gotta go get my Starbucks Okay, I'm gonna go get my Starbucks. I gotta get my Starbucks day after day after day Now some guy comes up to you and he's trying to impress you and say, oh, do you want to meet at Starbucks? I'm like, no, I've already been there today. Let's try somewhere else. You know if this lady would have You know frequented Starbucks on the daily. She would have automatically said, you know, I've already been there today You know, can we do something else? Can we go to a bar? Can we go for tapas sushi something? You know what? say all that and He'll be like well, you know If he tells you how much money he has first off and that he can only afford this cut him off That's it. Don't even He might have been honest, but he was honest in in a way that let you know to cut him off Okay, if some if a guy It means to you that he only has $23 to take you on a date Cut him off. Why? Because he's setting you up He's setting you up to to To accept his mediocrity or his less than He's setting you up to accept that if you go on that date knowing he only has $23 you have set yourself up Because the next time he's only gonna have $10 and then the next time he's only gonna have $5 and then the next time You're paying. Okay. No You know what I would say I would say well, you know what? That is so nice of you to invite me to coffee and you only have $23. That is so sweet. I'm gonna I'm gonna build him up, right? But you know, I would rather us go on a nice date At a nice restaurant and have some drinks so that we can really get to know each other a lot better So, you know when you get paid My number will still be the same and we can meet out But I really don't want to go out with you and spend your last $23 because what if you need that for an emergency? I'm just I'm gonna be like super embarrassing him while being nice at the same time. It's called nice nasty Nicety so I'm gonna be like well, I don't want you to be without for the week You know, and I don't want to I don't want to dip into your rent money or anything just to take me out You know, I would rather just wait until you can afford it You know put him in his place because that's where he needs to be and that's what he needs to hear He doesn't need to hear. Okay. I'll meet you in Starbucks. Even though y'all only have $23 I will feel guilty meeting somebody at Starbucks and they only had $23 to their name until payday I don't want to take your money. No, I would be like, you know what? That's okay, baby. That's okay I don't want you look twin. I don't want your Starbucks, baby Why don't you wait until you get paid, you know, and make sure you pay all your bills first Get your rent get your lights And let's just see what you have left after that and maybe we can go out to eat But I don't want to take your money. Okay? That's why I could never broke that's why I never could date broke guys Because I felt guilty, you know, they try to spend all their little Change their rent money Trying to impress you which they're not doing and then they expect something in return because they just spent half their rent On you and you're just used to that. That's normal So you feel obligated they get mad frustrated and it's just like you're not you're not equal You know, I can't date you because I feel guilty for spending half your rent money on dinner You know, I need to date someone who's gonna afford dinner, okay, so I know I just like you know went off left field, but seriously girls You if you're going to coffee date for the first date or meet and greet Don't even go for coffee. So you know what? Let's just meet at a parking lot because that's the same thing They say, you know what you let's skip Starbucks. Let's just meet in the parking lot And he's gonna be like really you don't want any coffee like no, I'm good. I had some this morning And I just had some while you calling me, you know, I have one right now It's like I have a coffee right now. I just came from Starbucks So it's gonna go. Oh Okay, so y'all are gonna meet in the parking lot and You get to see his car too girl. So you already know You get up to so you get up to the parking lot and meet him see what he's about Okay. Well It was nice to meet you Maybe we can do it again. We have some money Anyway, I'm gonna let y'all go cuz I know I'm gonna get a lot of bad comments in this video And I'm just I'm ready to bring it on