 Welcome back to the 21 convention of Orlando, Florida 10 year anniversary special event. Our next speaker has been a long time coming This event for a few different reasons Personal professional all kinds of interesting things. He's also the first black speaker. We've ever had at the event He's also the best-selling author of mode one which you can get on Amazon calm And he's also known as the godfather of verbally direct game without further ado Please help me welcome Alan Roger Curry to the stage So See when you get familiar with me I Would loosely and I mean very loosely compare myself to the speaker Joe Navarro Who reads people Not constantly Read people Primarily women but men as well the reason why a lot of you all are here is because you want to be inspired You're looking for that breakthrough moment that breakthrough moment confidence breakthrough a backbone breakthrough Motivation breakthrough first. I want to give credit to Anthony. I thank him most sincerely for inviting me here and Extra special thanks to Rolo Tomasi For referring me and recommending me Now Rolo He challenges me because when I read any of his books I have to have a thesaurus right next to the book Because he's deep and I respect him immensely But when I was talking about breakthrough Anthony mentioned. I'm the first black speaker. I Didn't think that could happen in 2017, but I'm on it My last full-time job 95 job before I became a dating coach full-time Was working at a university When young brothers from the inner city and a lot of them were the first in their family to ever attend college I had this one young brother. He loved to skip class wasn't doing this homework. So I had him come to my office. I Was talking to him And as I do as I just looked at you guys I just Looked at him. I said, what's going on? He came out with a whole bunch of excuses one of them the proverbial Well, mr. Currie your older black man, you know The white man is trying to keep us down I said is there any white male singer that you love? He said Justin Timberlake. I love Justin Timberlake. I Said so When you were trying to get out of bed the other morning Justin Timberlake was keeping you in the bed He laughed like you guys When you're supposed to be at that 830 class Justin Timberlake was outside of your house going. No, you can't go to class. No Mr. Currie I said You can choose to go through the rest of your life making excuses Society will give women a pass for that Society will give children and teenagers a pass for that But when you are a fucking man You don't get a pass to make excuses. I said you become accountable for your life Become accountable right now write this moment And he got real serious Because he had this look like I thought you were gonna be on my side. I thought you were gonna co-sign with my excuses I said I'm not gonna call you. I'm gonna challenge you To become a man right now I Said here's what I want you to do. I want you to get a journal. I want you to think about Everybody doubted you underestimated you Said you're not gonna be shit and you use that as powerful form of Motivation every single day from this point forward and when you have those breakthroughs I want you to go like this That represents Vendication I said say it with me And he said vindication. I said say it again. He said vindication Now fast forward This young brother was the first one to get a degree in his family He made the dean's list And he saw me He was overwhelmed with emotion when he saw me. He couldn't even get words We exchanged a powerful stare He became a man. So a lot of you guys in here in your own way are Looking for again your breakthrough moment like I'm a big movie buff and I love among other movies I love movies that that show a fictional character having a Breakthrough moment. I'm a site three real quick who in here did not see if you get me in Did not see it. Okay. I apologize. I'm gonna give you a spoiler for it Tom Cruise plays an attorney Lieutenant Daniel Caffee and his thing is He's the master of the plea deal Nobody Provokes plea deals better than Daniel Caffee But he avoids litigation like it's the plague So Two guys get accused of murder and he tries to get a plea deal for But the two soldiers who were charged with murder, they don't want a plea deal You see, I'm sure there's me and in here who have served in armed services I never have but I've had relatives of that It's different in civilian life And they point that out in the movie See in the armed services when you give an order That order is always followed Always Matter of fact, there's a scene when Jack Nicholson's character Nathan Jessup says tells the soldier. I want you to contact Castro and tell him we're surrendering Cuba and so she says yes, sir Did he say how are you joking? He said yes, sir. So here was the interesting thing Jack Nicholson's character Tom Cruise feels like Jack Nicholson's character gave an order for what's known as a cold red a form of hazing To get the soldier in line Why is it challenging in Lieutenant Daniel Caffee situation? because Unlike again civilian life if I tell somebody in this room, hey go shoot Jojo and they go shoot them I'm not going to jail. I'm not going to prison because it could easily sit down. Are you talking crazy? But again and armed services when you give an order That order is to always be followed So Jack Nicholson's character had told someone One of his subordinates to order the cold red so Tom Cruise had To find a way to get Colonel Jessup Jack Nicholson's character to confess that And I really related to his situation because it was challenged particularly towards the end and this is what I give the spoiler Jimmy Moore puts him in the toughest position She she basically says I want you to achieve this objective. I want you to because then we win the case But I got to let you know by the way if you don't your whole life is fucked Because if you try to get him to confess that he ordered a cold red and you fail Then not only will you be disbarred you will be court-martialed and I related to a bit that both again even though I've never served armed services just that predicament like damn I Gotta go after this objective But fail my whole life is essentially over So it's a key moment. It's there's a lot of great scenes in this movie But what I call his breakthrough Is he calls Colonel Jessup to the stand and he starts asking them all these questions That is somewhat related But the judge doesn't feel like his questions are going anywhere So he says lieutenant Kathy, do you have any more questions for this witness and he just stands because he's thinking about that predicament And he looks at his colleague His colleague gives him a subtle shake of the head like looks at Demi Moore. She kind of hasn't looked like Jessup says Do you have any more questions for me Danny? I mean clothing and foot lockers Surely this is not what you brought me on this stand answer Do you have any more questions for me? And he's just standing because he's thinking about that predicament So Jessup gets up and walks then he says Tom Cruise develops a pair of these and his backbone strength he says I Didn't I didn't dismiss you Come just like I didn't dismiss you sit down I was like Because within the world of that fictional character that was his breakthrough moment he manned up and At the end of that movie if you watched it you did you notice the look that Demi Moore gives him Anybody knows that look? What look does she give him? like You came off became a fucking man today George McFly Back to the future Think about George McFly, man. I mean you guys are laughing. Let me take a swig George McFly in the movie back to the future. Love that movie, but he was Biff's bitch Just to put in blunt terms He was this bitch and he was on a trajectory Trajectory to live the rest of his life if not as Biff's bitch somebody else's bitch And till he was put in a position where he had the man up And it ran through his mind and damn if I don't change something And again, I want a lot of you all to mirror. They don't want I'm saying I'm not just giving Movie buff recaps a Lot of you are here because you faced some challenges in your life That left your ego bruised That left your sense of manhood and masculinity shaken You might even say what a fuck am I even on this planet? Do I deserve to be here? Everybody just browbeat me bullying me around But George McFly man. He said In his mind I Can no longer be this dude's bitch And he swung and knocked him out and when they go back to present day you see his whole life is different Because he had a breakthrough He had a breakthrough So I'm saying that to say that everybody here is looking for that breakthrough Somebody it might not be something I say it might be something one of the earliest speakers have said already Or somebody who comes behind me, but hopefully you will go home And you will think about what I told my former mentee you think about all the people who doubted you All the women who disrespected you Various factions of society that browbeat you tried to get you to conform to their way And you had that breakthrough moment Because speaking of George McFly Being this bitch Who was even more profound? Was William Wallace? Who can forget that proffer ending of brave heart? When I'm gonna change the dialogue and bring it up to modern-day street terms But essentially at the end of that movie that dude was like all you got to say is that you gonna be my bitch for the rest of my life And I'll take that rope off your foot That's all you got to say is that you're gonna be my bitch for the rest of your life And I'll let you down and Mel Gibson's character when Wallace was basically like Fuck that he said Because he was willing to die rather than be another man's bitch Because if you choose to live that life where you're gonna be just punk for the rest of your life That's when you become beta. I'll send you your beta male card in the mail and you can you know put it on the wall So I'm a proud beta. I let everybody like punk me whether it's my wife Girlfriend my mother people at work. I just let them punk me as it relates to what I do Which is a These are four of my audio books That's my updated. I have an updated version of my most well-known book mode one dating coach, I know a lot of people here are married or In relationships, but that's my primary demographic and I'm also BDSM polyamory consultant Yeah, it's like that Now let me go back This book who said again, it's all about verbal seduction See might be wondering well Alan was talking about these breakthrough moments. How does that relate to him being a dating coach? Some of the guys here, it's not too a lot of guys here were totally unfamiliar with me. I was just joking with Rollo Lot of guys came up to me. They said hey, how about your curry? I said, hey, you know my bus. No, we heard you interview Rollo Tomasi on your blog talk radio show Okay Yeah, matter of fact, it's funny. I stopped doing my show in June 2016 and every now and then I'll go and check the numbers to see how many listens of episodes That I still receive. I know people listen to my archives Whose head and shoulders? Number one in listening since I ended my show That guy right there Rollo Tomasi But who said again in Part two I have six what I call verbal seduction stories The first one is the biggest one. I will call this my breakthrough moment 20 I had two close friends that set up a double date and The day before the double date One of the women's younger cousins came in town unexpectedly So she wanted to hang with the girl. So initially the one woman said we're gonna have to cancel because my younger cousin And my friend said well, how is your young cousin thing? He might be a little girl. She's I don't know. She's 19 So we define somebody For her and to keep her company We'll make it a triple date. So my close friend calls me. He said Alan We need you to be a wingman Take one for the team Here was the kicker he said Yeah, you'll get no pussy You're gonna get no pussy today. We are but you're not I Said damn that's hell of a motivation for me Here's what was gonna be worse the friend had a studio apartment which meant if they were gonna start fucking I was gonna have to watch them for So he said you're gonna be here just to take one for the team But you know, we really I said, okay, I'll come through now this younger cousin There's there's some brothers in here, so they go be able to relate to what I said Even some not black guys if they've dealt with black women just like with any race. You got your different classes Now black women that are Solid solidly middle-class They tend to have a high degree of femininity to them this particular woman I would almost call her two-thirds middle-class sensibilities and one-third from the streets sensibilities Insistence from the streets at the risk of generalizing They're always gonna try to challenge your manhood like Gross understatement gonna try to challenge your manhood. So the first hour this date Every little subtle advance I try to make to this woman. She talked to me like I was a bitch Get your hands off me. What are you doing? What do you think I am a slut or I know two bits like I don't know What are you doing? I don't know what kind of women you used to dealing with You buddy, you ain't gonna get no kiss from me shoot. I'm just here. Yeah, I don't know what they told you But I know what's going on And my two friends are just shaking their head like fuck Who is this bitch so their dates are just being you know, just very sweet my date She's just being just a bitch from hell And so at one point one of the friends just looks at me like I need to go out the room something you're killing the vibe We ain't gonna get no pussy with this chick acting like this So I get up And again, this is chronicled in verbal seduction story number one. It'll sit again But I get up and just walk out. I walk out the apartment building. I'm just walking. I'm mumbling under my breath. I mean she just Took my backbone in that room and just got an ax and just start slicing it Just destroying it just emasculate me on the spot. Something else to me. She's behind me She comes out and it turns out she followed me and she starts taunting me. Oh What the matter You pal Poor baby Mentioned George McFly in the book a laugh, but in the book. I call this I literally do I call this my George McFly moment And it's the reason I'm standing on stage right now Now to this point my mother'd always conditioned me to be the nice guy be polite never say anything that will rattle a woman Ruffle feathers come across as crass Disrespectful disrespectful rule And I adhere to that Social programming or two words. I'll plug a lot always do but that moment It's like I heard her in slow motion talking to me And I turned around I Looked at dinner as I said bitch shut the fuck up Now see nine days you listen to rap music and you think all brothers talk like that to win But me coming from the middle class background and I did that was that was like the huge normal like you'd never say that to a woman But I looked at dinner dad in her eyes, and I said bitch shut the fuck up Now here's the thing you your tip about women About this alpha male beta male delineation Anytime you say something bold To a woman it could be something sexually explicit Or it could be a harsh criticism of insult 99 percent time if not a hundred percent time The first thing they're gonna do they're not gonna look at your hair They're not gonna get your clothes, and they're gonna look to this side of that side They're gonna look you directly in your eyes And why do they do that? Because they want to know are you really alpha? Or did you read some PUA book and you're trying to pretend that you're alpha? So when I said bitch shut the fuck up her eyes zoned in on my eyes, and she said excuse me And I said I need stutter. I said shut the fuck up and we locked eyes for a few seconds The most amazing thing happened She completely softened up She said you tripped it I don't know what got into you since you were saying I'm saying you tripped it I Said you got two options for the rest of the night Option a you're gonna suck my dick like you owe me money option B If you're not gonna suck my dick you ain't gonna say shit to me for the rest of the night. I Said now who drove here you or your cousin she said I Did I said where's your car? She said over there. I said yeah, we're gonna go to your car because you're gonna suck my dick So we're in the car and I she's sucking my dick and I take my dick Take my dick I go I take my dick out of mouth. I just start tapping it on her face Judge me if you will but I say Think about how you treated me early you were acting like just a straight-up bitch She said I know She said but now I'm your old being a bitch And anybody familiar my show the right. I have a podcast show called the erotic Conversationalist you often hear women refer to themselves as My opinion good bitch. That's where it started and also a phrase I use obviously by the title When she said that I must have said about ten times. I said say it again. She said I'm your beating the bitch I said say it again She said I'm your beating I said say it again So we go back up to the apartment Now Remind remember what did my close friend say he said you gonna have to take one for the team you ain't gonna get you pussy We are They're still just making out I Come back in the apartment. I said getting your knees and suck my dick. She says yes, sir My two buddies are like making out. They're like She sucks my dick for what I say now get on all fours. I'm gonna fuck you dog. It's how she says yes, sir they like So we end up fucking any one buddy. He pulls me. He said do do do Did you get a truck outside? Here's the most interesting question. He said did you take some classes and hypnotism and you In matter of fact, I was in the screen right now wrote a script called hypnotized, but that's another story for another day Listen, no, this is dude. This is the most amazing shit. I've ever seen When you two weren't hit the first time dude, this woman was the fucking bitch from hell, dude She wouldn't even let you touch her arm And now she's like your fucking personal sex slave. I said, yeah, man Unleashed my erotic dominance Now my backbone is made of steel And from that point on I was never the same Alan Roger Curry So when I hear young man and particularly young brothers talking about man, I can't deal with these sisters They got all this attitude man. They talk all loud like Your backbone is strong Once you demonstrate how big your balls are and how strong your backbone is to a woman If that woman has some degree that much degree of attraction to you She's gonna go from yelling and saying excuse me to you tripping My one was my first book possibility of sex now You notice Anthony introduced me as the godfather verbally direct game now for those Who for me with the PUA community you can almost argue that there's been two factions What's known as the direct versus the indirect? In simple terms Direct is when you want to fuck a woman and you essentially let her know you want to fuck her Not rocket science Indirect you want to fuck a woman, but you're gonna go to one degree another in a beat on a bush white That's a nice dress you Who does your hair I want to fuck you Do you come in this restaurant often I'm gonna fuck you. Oh, yeah, so where'd you go to school? I'm gonna fuck you That's all indirect so indirect guys Honestly, they've attacked me over the years over the ten years. I've been a coach. Oh the worst thing you do is verbally Tell a woman straight up that you want to fuck her you'll kill the sexual tension and besides it's unnecessary because women know You want to fuck them? duh They know already Anybody in here see me speak in London No, I Spoke in London 2010 It was a critical moment There's another direct dating coach by the name of David X He was on stage and I ended up joining him and there was these two women on stage And it came in time during this this this stretch Where actually my credibility was on the line for a few moments Because similar to these criticisms from these indirect guys This woman on stage said no man needs to verbalize his sexual intentions to me Because as women we already know you want to fuck us We already know you do so there's no point of you telling us Verbally and straightforwardly that you want to have sex with us And pray three-fourths of the guys in the audience in that auditorium Looked at me because I looked at the audience they looked at me like well, and I think she might be right Matter of fact, I don't even know why you're here now because that's a good point Your whole mode one thing is about being verbally direct. Why you need to be verbally directive? If she said that guys don't need to be Just look back at the audience like I'll be vindicated before I get off this stage. I knew it was coming I knew it was coming Sure enough She talks she talks and she starts raving about this male platonic friend of hers. Let's call him Chuck She's like oh Chuck is the greatest friend in the world. God. Are you like he does my laundry for me? If I need somebody to you know lift heavy boxes. He comes over I does just everything and David X was like Well, you know Chuck wants to fuck you Why are you leading them on like that, you know he wants to fuck you She's like Like I love David you know, he wants to fuck you Well He never said anything The look I'm giving now is the look I gave to audience and they just lost it The reason you let a woman know you want to fuck her or you don't even have to use the f-word You can use PG-13 language. It's not so much because she doesn't know It's because in this relates more to this book than even mode one the possibility of sex You want to let a woman know that you're not gonna allow her to waste your motherfucking time There's a there's a clip from a movie. I love by the director I love Michael man. It's called heat with Al Pacino Robert De Niro There's a brief scene in there with Al Pacino. This is one of his confidential informants And he thought this confidential informant was gonna have some valuable information and he didn't he just says a simple line But I used to play it all the time with my blog talk radio show. He says Albert today You're wasted my motherfucking time Don't waste my motherfucking time Women if you allow them to will waste your motherfucking time and your time and money And that's why this book is called the possibility of sex because how are they able to waste your time? So well because I know that you in your mind are saying I know I have the possibility of fucking you So I'm gonna take you out to five dinners I'm gonna help you live heavy boxes. I'm engaged in 20 hours of bullshit trivial conversation with you Women love to be flatter. They love to be entertained. They love that empathetic listening ear I had a guy who I'm known from high school days. He's here in Orlando. We went out to dinner And he was admitting to me. He said Alan even though I know this is the book that gets the most juice He said this book helped me and this is when I attracted a lot of what I would call the red peel crowd Was this book and this book? But he said man, how was every woman's just good friend And he said you talked about the empathetic listening ear guy that archetype He never want to be this guy the guy who you get that car. She's like friend He like okay, I'll be over and then you come over she's like Like I like always don't like when he's fucking me not to slap my ass real hard and he did it again And like always tell him don't come in my mouth, but he comes in my mouth all the time And you sitting there like yeah, he's an ass He's a fucking dick See if I if I was like your boyfriend, I would treat you like a queen and I would treat you like a princess and I would like I Would never slap your ass or like come in your mouth without your permission, of course. I mean I Would never do none of that stuff See that's why I love you friend. You're such a good friend. You're like a teddy bear that talks And that's what my friend said he was all his friends He said man, they would just tell me all these stories about them getting fucked by other guys And I said, what did you realize? He said that they were fucking her and I wasn't and as I talked about beta male revolution For those and I agree with rollo and when his presentation he said there's some guys who would quickly discover Oh, they lose to see the alpha male versus beta males. Remember what I said about demise. I'm telling you keep that in mind Women were always zoning in on your eyes when you say something alpha Because they want to know are you a genuine sort of like some women will challenge you to the highest degree Just to see if you gonna break down They will challenge you to the highest degree. Let me get moving with these these multiple slides. I got the basics Our relationships between men and women fall into one of three categories Strictly sexual casual sex lovers fuck buddies strictly non-sexual just talked about that purely platonic friends Time spent together both sexually and non sexually that could be marriage cohabitation boyfriend girlfriend friends with benefits My main area expertise is verbal communication. I Help me and there's various Manifestations of masculinity and manhood. I concentrated via verbal communication as a man How do you choose to verbally communicate to women which type of relationship you really want with them? Directly indirectly We're not at all Most men and women are not honest with each other regarding what type of relationship. They really want that's what we have What's known as manipulative head games? If every man who wanted a strictly sexual relationship was the on she tell a woman that that's what he wanted And they if that's what she wanted she was to say that's what I want to there would be no such thing as head games If every woman who wanted a purely platonic friendship was to tell every man that straightforwardly and if that's what the man wanted He would reciprocate. There would be no such thing as head games, but that's not the reality of life example of a man You really want either strictly sexual relationship with a woman or you want to spend time with a woman both sexually and non-sexually But you temporarily or indefinitely pretend as though you are content With a purely platonic friendship with her. I call that fun clubbing That's the term I made very popular among my fans and followers fun clubbing. That's essentially when you again, you're Pretending to be content indefinitely With just a friendship with a woman, but you know deep down you would either rather be her next long-term boyfriend Or one of her casual sex lovers, but you don't have the balls to say that You really want a strictly sexual relationship with a woman, but you temporarily Pretend as though you are interested in a relationship that is long-term emotionally profound and strictly monogamous Not to disparage all PUA's but that's what a lot of PUA types taught. I got into a clash at one event where PUA type Specifically said that he said here's the way you get into a woman's pants You pretend like you're open to being her next long-term boyfriend But then once you get the pussy you make up a reason to break up with her and tell her that you just really wanted casual sex And I said that's bullshit And even organized like I don't know you're rocking the boat man. You're rocking the boat man. You can't have this I said that's bullshit I just do directly. I said would you want some dude doing that to your mother your sister your daughter? Making her think he's falling in love with it just to get the ass Why don't you develop some fucking balls if you just want some casual sex pussy? That's what those guys are known as women called pigs dogs lying ass those game-playing jerks four archetypes of women Once you communicate to a woman what your desires and interests are they're gonna generally fall at least according to me in one of these four categories The first two are pretty straightforward reciprocator You let a woman know you attracted to her and you want to connect with her romantically or strictly sexually She says I'm down I'm attracted to you. I'm down Reject her don't need any other further explanation than that The two trickier types and I've alluded to them already Wholesome pretenders and erotic hypocrites This is just a more challenging and antagonistic version of this These are the women you heard me mention social program See from time women are young to talk about mommy and daddy whoever else is influential in their life You need to be a good girl You need to present yourself as an innocent wholesome good girl That's the only way you're gonna track the husband if you present yourself as a good girl So that becomes the angel on that right shoulder The good girl social programming But a guy like me comes along and says you know what I want to get your pussy wet I want to slide my dick all in your pussy and make you come Hey, you moan all over my dick Oh my god, I'm not that kind of girl I'm a good girl How dare you talk to me like I'm talking about putting your dick all in my pussy like that Fucking me like that that's Filling your balls on my ass. How dare you talking like that? See that's when that little devil emerges. This is shoot. I like the way he talking Let's go ahead and give him some pussy Right angel on the right. So no, no, no, no, no. You're a good girl. I don't know what your mommy and daddy told you You're a good girl wholesome for them as they give you at least token resistance Righty hypocrites Are gonna be similar to that woman on that triple date. They're gonna come at you real hard You jerk you creep what I look like. I don't sleep with guys. I just me. What do you think? It's wrong with you I'm a respectable woman with a six-figure salary. Are you crazy to think I'm just gonna have rim sex with you Let's go back to the reject See rejecters if they're not interested They just simply say I'm not interested They don't raise their voice. They don't get theatrical I said I'm married. I'm engaged. I got a boyfriend. We're simply I'm not interested blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah And see this is why I first gave my reputation to my close friends because they would see me interacting with these types And first they would lie they'd be a few feet away lie like man Alan's crashing and burning look at this chick She's cursing them to fuck out Then they would see her softening up to the point where she's just like you trip it why They tried to challenge my backbone and I didn't allow them to because what would always stay in my mind is She's still talking to me She insulted me to the highest degree, but she's still standing there talking to me. She ain't walked away Manipulative time wasters already alluded to them That relates to my book the pot matter of fact my book who said again emphasizes these two two archetypes I'm gonna book the possibility of sex talks about these these are the women that want you to think You got at least a chance of getting in their pants and lie you guys Fall for it and say oh man. She's just a challenge She's playing hard to get No, she's not she's never these women in this category and never ever ever giving you the pussy ever They just want at minimum you to invest time flattering them entertaining them or providing them with it an empathetic listening ear at maximum if you got means They want to get as many financial favors from you as possible until they get bored with you and dismiss you Now it's funny. I've even had some other dating coaches give me blowback on this on my first three architects Like I'm gonna call one out by name. She's from London. He's your noble. I was interviewing her my blog talk radio show When I talked about reciprocated shoes like yeah Rejected she was of course like yeah, I talked about these. She's like yeah Yeah to this she's like no how in they disagree She tried to say the manipulative time wasters were the same as these I said no Women don't like to acknowledge that there's manipulative time wasters Why? That too Yeah, all ballot. I was out in the nightlife just last night. I was I was I told you I'm a people watcher read people And all these women in these sexy outfits. Do you think that these women were going to these clubs looking for dick? Do you really? You think any woman in these hot tight short mini skirts were out there looking for dick When a woman could just go on her Instagram or go through her roller decks black book and find dick Now if they all went out there and sent out the message that hey The none of you beta males were out here party and I'm gonna get any pussy for me Would the beta male spend money on those nightclubs where they offer women free drinks Shoot the national economy would crash They they take advantage of the possibility of sex my four modes of verbal communication Can everybody say mode to One more time Mode to behavior that's characterized by a verbal communication style that's cautious and indirect pleasant and polite flattering and entertaining vague and ambiguous Underlying attitude from old to is I want to do everything possible to get you to like me And I want to do everything possible during my conversation with you to prevent you from criticizing me insulting me and Prevent you from experiencing any sort of negative reaction to what I say or how I say it Now some guys will say Alan is it true that men who behave like the proverbial well-mannered nice guy have tremendous success with women See even dogs ought to give right eye contact The fuck takes me back to the speaking gauge right ahead in London some guys said Alan You know I read your book and I respect some of things you say this sounds like you're just telling guys to be you know Just kind of like a verbally blunt jerk, you know, and I'm more of a classy gentleman I'm more of a like a nice guy. You know women kind of raised me as a nice guy. I said oh really So I asked the whole auditorium I said how many you guys in here think you're classy gentleman and well-mannered and polite nice guys and like pride 95% of guys Raise the hand and I asked them one simple question that you afterwards you could hear a mouse fart. I Said how's that working out for you? Because the reality is if the nice guy thing was the ultimate key to success Why the fuck are you in this auditorium listening to me? Anyone was gonna think you're nice if you're flattering to her all the time if you're willing to entertain her all the time You never challenge her sexual sensibilities You help her move heavy boxes when she wants to move from one apartment to the next you treated a lunch and dinner on a monthly basis I mean, what is there not to fucking like about you? When you just plan up to her all the time and accommodate her and shit What is there not to fucking like about you? But you ain't getting a pussy wet And if you do happen to fuck it that's a charity fuck so she can keep you motivated to lift more heavy boxes and do the shit She wants you to do can anybody say mode three dishonest and or disingenuous intentionally misleading Fawning and or a spineless highly predictable on Monday. I actually that's one more wide Divide them up to at least three categories One is a mode three timid that would be a guy who just goes to the party like price them guys last night They go to party to get all dressed up and they went to two buddies Then again to the club and what they do they just stand against the wall Okay guys you ready go. Yeah Mode three target he plays right into the gold diggers. That's the guy He got enough confidence to start a conversation with a woman But 95 to 99% of conversations. Hey, it's an Angela. Yeah, you know, I'm on the house on the beach Drive a Porsche 911 This is a real Rolex watch. I went to Harvard He's hoping that all this impressive stuff. He says one's gonna be like, oh my god I need to just open my legs for you right now. You're so impressive Then after he says all the impressive stuff and he doesn't get laid. He's like fuck I guess I got to move up from a Porsche 911 to a convertible Bentley. That's the ticket Now he's just a target and then the third would be going back to my concept of fun club And some guys I'm no guys to fun club not only for weeks and months but years literally years Just pretending like they wanted nothing romantic or sexual with a woman under the guise of I'm her friend Why they're fantasizing about her Underlying attitude from old three I want to do everything possible to prevent you from knowing my true thoughts and my true romantic or strictly sexual desires Interest and intentions I would rather not express my desires and interest to you honestly at all Then to express them honestly and have my desires and interests abruptly and blatantly rejected Guys Ellen wouldn't you agree that it's better just not approach women at all and instead always wait for them to make the first move towards you Sure, you're right Sure, you're right If you're a major entertainment industry industry celebrity or professional athlete you can possibly get away with that Maybe certain other exceptions as well but for most guys man The other exception I might say if you're a regular guy, you're just like amazingly good-looking But other than that you're gonna have to approach a percentage of women if you want to connect with some women Can anybody say mode for antagonistic and intentionally insulting hypercritical and obnoxious bitter and resentful Verbally abusive and even hateful typically when you're going to mode for you start off in mode two and or mode three And you get pissed because of how many times you've been rejected how many times you've been ignored So you develop this attitude like man all women are fucking bitches man fuck them Fuck down. They're bitches man. They ain't shit. They're all no good scum of the earth And if they even gain the confidence to approach a woman they immediately have a negative attitude like I know you're one of those No good bitches, but they you know Hey, they don't even talk to women to really try to hook up with them They just want to try to insult them undermine the ego the feelings Underlying attitude as I just mentioned I've allowed a lot of you women to verbally abuse me disrespect me keyword allowed No woman can disrespect you unless you allow it remember that To verbally abuse me disrespect me and mislead me and manipulate me in the in the past Or most of you women have rejected me or totally ignore me So now I'm going to treat you women like the no good bitches that you are Some guys will say to me Alan when you agree that it's best to just be a complete dick With women when you're approaching you know say something like hey you filthy whore you want to lick my balls the night you're no good, bitch Isn't that like more one Lot of guys will confuse and conflate mode for with mode one If you weren't a company of a woman who was attracted to you, but she was doing a damn good job of Pretending as though she was not interested in you How would you expose her facade if you were in the company of a woman who was interested in a romantic relationship with you But she was doing a damn good job of pretending as though she was only interested in maintaining a purely platonic friendship with you How would you expose her facade if you were in the company of a woman who was only interested in you spending time flattering her entertaining her Doing financial favors for but she was doing a damn good job. It's the manipulative time waster a Damn good job of giving you the misleading impression That she was on the verge of allowing you to become her either her next long-term boyfriend Or a next short-term casual sex lover. How would you expose her facade? Let's say together That's the answer to all those questions mode one You approach women with a high degree of self assurance You open a conversation with them with a high degree of self-confidence You let a woman know that you find a physically attractive sexual appealing. That's not obligatory But I always suggest that and then from there you simply invited to share your company Here's key this relates back to I don't believe in the mislead women if particularly as relates to casual sex If your interest is in some form of short-term and or non-monogamous sex Don't try to hide that deny that or bullshit women about that because in the long run it makes you look weak Makes you look like a weak. No backbone verbal coward. That's what it does in the long run No woman respects that shit Even if you get the pussy, you're not gonna be respected And along this quick line. I remember I was in Vegas and this guy said Alameda read your book man But the thing about you man you try to apply with this honesty stuff you try to apply ethics to get laid And there are no ethics to get laid and he had like this this cheerleading group of three or four guys They all laugh like yeah, yeah, he's right there like register. You try to be mr. Ethical getting laid. I said, oh, really? Okay Why don't we go out later on the day and find a 14-year-old girl and just just gangbanger just fuck this shit out He said, oh my god, dude. Are you perverted? I mean I said what you got some age-related ethics I Said maybe that was extreme. Let's find a 21-year-old woman While you got her talking I'll put some date rape ecstasy drugs and a drink and it's your drinking Then we'll take care damn dude. Wait. I said what's wrong? You got some ethics related to drugs Things like touche Then all a shilling group just get her from the table and walked away In bed bottom line. I said You may not have the same exact ethics as I do But you just revealed that you have ethics all guys got some type well I can say all there's always exceptions, but most guys have some type of ethics when it comes to getting late Mine is be straightforwardly honest with women that you if you just want to fuck them to be fucking them Tell them that If a woman rejects your invitation share a company so what life goes on move on to the next one Don't dwell on it. Don't let it beat up your confidence Just move on to the next one. As I already mentioned is wholesome pretenders erotic hypocrites are gonna either minimum resist you at maximum They're gonna try to challenge your backbone be prepared for that Who said again again is my book that centers around wholesome pretenders and erotic hypocrites and mastering erotic dirty talk Let me clarify this real quick Some guys think dirty talk is just about going up to a woman and just randomly saying a bunch of x-rated shit Who can get a woman's pussy wet? 100% of the time I Like that confidence I like that confidence Okay, other than him Who can get a woman's pussy wet a hundred percent of the time? Okay There you go. You have to not give much respect. He passed away, of course recently He said the greatest sex organ is not between your legs, but it's between your ears. I don't know how many you guys know But just like a lot of me and watch porn Women read erotica erotica novels like crazy. I Was in a Beverly Hills bookstore And I was looking for this book and all of a sudden I see this one hour These women were just like by eight women into the short little corner So go back Here's a tip I notice have you ever seen a woman start off standing like this and all of a sudden she goes I Was tell some guys last night about this See bright things off. She's just getting tired. She won't lean on now One of the things I talk about we'll say it again I give a couple tips on you can read women's by language when the pussy is getting wet one that tongue becomes more active They usually come out and up to the left And if they're sitting down, they'll start crossing Uncrossing their legs or if they're standing up They'll do a lot of this Because the ex-girlfriend was the first one to tell me that she said when the pussy juices begin to flow out It makes it uncomfortable for you to just stand like that So they do and in this erotic a section all these women kept doing I guess they're reading these books Nothing is more powerful than the thoughts and sexual visualizations that women create in their own mind So my technique you could say when I talk dirty to women is I just throw out suggestions to provoke their own mind to unleash certain thoughts and visualizations Because a woman's mind always bats 100 always bats 100 Manipulative time race is going to do everything possible to delay reciprocating your desires and interests and even more so They're going to do everything possible to postpone Revealing to you that they really have no interest whatsoever in engaging in sexual activities with you Do not allow these women to trick you into wasting valuable time and money have the reason I'm more one again Why I'm verbally direct is not so much for the objective again laid But to prevent women from wasting the ones who are not interested from wasting my fucking time and money That's what the possibility sex is about Betamel revolution. I should give Rolo a shout out in this book. This is kind of my brief version I'm not a historian by any means or sociologists, but I go back to pre-feminism days and Bringing up the current society mainly for my younger male readers Because if you were born as a millennial you might not understand why are things? The way the dynamic the way it is But in simple terms pre-feminism Like I use my mother my mother didn't even think about having premarital sex and none of her two sisters did And most women in that generation didn't because she knew my father my grandfather would disown her But then women said these are bodies we want to do what we want to with them We want to fuck who we want to fuck whenever we want to fuck them society reluctantly maybe sit okay So they just start Fucking like crazy Which is a way if women want to fuck like crazy They can fuck like crazy, but they got to be willing to deal with the repercussions and consequences of that behavior And that's when the alpha beta delineation became more pronounced So there's certain guys that women would just fuck just for the enjoyment of fucking but other guys They would say you got to provide me with something If you want to fuck well alpha fucks beta bucks I'm not gonna get long-winded on that but a lot of guys who are red-pure aware Have both enjoyed that book But it's left that in the possibility of sex have left some guys traumatized because If you're a guy who didn't realize the true nature of women and then you're exposed to it If only for a few days or few weeks it's gonna fuck you up You know like I got one story the infamous grocery store story that love a long time I was like I don't wait a minute you met a woman in a grocery store 10 minutes after you met her She was on her knees in the grocery store sucking your dick. I'm like, yes What about the guy who's married to her now thinks she was the good girl? You had this woman sucking your dick 10 minutes at you better grow shelly. Yes Some guys find that just like hardly amusing other guys that fucks them up Because her mother told them that all women were little good girls That's my website. I'm on Wikipedia. I Patreon LinkedIn all social media. It's been my pleasure. I apologize for going a little longer. Thank you so much 21 convention 2018 of Orlando, Florida. Our next speaker is the best-selling author mode one He's a godfather of direct game and he's a returning speaker to the 21 convention platform Please let me walk him to the stage Alan Roger Curry So as I was saying last year this chick was sucking my dick are here and I'm back because see for some of you all I Know because I've dealt with it myself. I know you had a little hater voice You had a voice that said I'm never gonna have a physique like Jack Donovan Never gonna be as intellectually profound and articulate as Rolo Never gonna get pussy with a camera like Goldman Unleashed So that little hater voice was saying stay at home. Stay at home Don't fly to here To here So since you're here, I Want you to think of all your past disappointments past frustrations The goals you fail to achieve the objectives you fail to accomplish put that shit in the past No pity parties on my watch When you wake up in the morning you say Ask yourself, are you ready for the challenge of the next day in front of me? Are you ready for the challenge of the next day in front of you? the past is the past Extract the morsels of wisdom From those unexpected episodes of adversity use it as fuel for motivation Get re-energized You're on the mission Mission continues That's why you here If you want to kick things up to the next level now last year when I spoke I Challenge some guys to create a breakthrough moment Where they conquered some type of major fear and I've had at least three guys come up to me who were here last year One guy he's not here today. He's one of security. I hope he doesn't mind me calling up by name named Keaton That's funny Keaton. He's a brother And if you study how brothers in the aqua brothers, we're little we're characters Because last year when I approached Keaton, he was just real cool. I Like I don't know you I don't know nothing about you. You don't press me But then after my speech he counts means like oh my god, man That was awesome. And so he came to me this year. He said there were some things I said That caused him to have a breakthrough moment I had another guy. I'm not gonna call him out You look at him. He's kind of shy mild manner guy And people know about the mode one approach. No, it's about being bold and straightforward And he said he was having a conversation with a young lady And she challenged him. She said basically why are you talking to me and he's gonna give us some bullshit Then he looked at Tony look dead and I he looked at dinner. He said I'm talking to you cuz I Now here's the thing he admitted this to me now externally he was confident. Yeah, he's like talking cuz I'm gonna fuck But he said inside He's like yeah, that's why I'm talking to you because what a fuck he says she just looked and I said I prepared him for this I said She go when you when you come with that alpha erotic dominance women gonna look at you. They're gonna challenge you Like are you really being alpha with me? She did that to him He matched it. He didn't back down basically like yeah, I said it He said they had a sterile and again, he said eternally. He's like, oh my god. He's very cursed me out. She was like wow I've never had a guy like say that to me like you know You just you got balls. You say yeah, damn right Breakthrough moment, baby So from this point forward you gonna either compete spectate or God forbid quit Now there's some people in the last year that quit. There's a guy Anthony Bourdain. I was actually a fan of his I Wanted to do a Travel dating show. I wanted to be with to dating relationships what he was the basically restaurants and chefs Travel to different cities Find a nuanced differences in the dating culture. So I was a fan of his But he quit the game. I don't want any of you all to quit the game. I want you to compete This journey called life compete Now there's some people they don't quit but they spectate if that's their choice So be it if they hang around me for too long. I won't allow it but man, there's some guys their sex life is Porn hub and masturbation That's spectating you watching a guy that more than likely got a better physique than you Bigger cock than you And that's your like whole life You spectate living vicariously through that gown porn hub Compete until you take, you know, you always see NFL players when they have a tough loss or NBA players any sport If they're on the losing end, but it was a hard fought battle and they're being interviewed. They'll say Man this loss was hard to take But I left everything on the floor. I left everything on the floor So when you take your last breath and let's say I don't know If what is it? St. Gabriel meets you at the pearly gates Whoever in the afterlife might interview you will you be able to say I? Left everything on the floor all the challenges that came your way. I left everything on the floor Now here's the thing not only will the challenges of life Essentially try to bully you Unexpected adversity that gain that hater voice try to bully you and I know somebody sitting in this audience right now thinking about I don't know what's called Billy Johnson that guy in the fifth grade. They just bullied you Karma came back on Billy Johnson. He's in prison somewhere some ice bitch That boss that unfairly fired you thinking to yourself Take solace He's at somebody's car wash come out, but here's what you underestimate The opposite gender will bully you too. They will bully you too In what way you better act the way I want you to act or you're not getting any of this What you say what you say you better act right or you're not getting none of this And what do they want you to become? That's what I call it. They're obedient puppy dog With some guys that give in today. Yes, Fred. Yeah, it's a must Anybody raising a hand you want to be a woman's obedient puppy dog It's about backbone fellas. I love pussy as much as the next guy, but I'm not gonna sacrifice my sense of self-respect. I'm not gonna sacrifice my sense of dignity Just for some wet warm pleasure around my dick. I'm the man. God damn it. So are you So let's get started Last year I mainly talked about my main book mode one I touched on this didn't really touch on these two at all I'm gonna touch more on these three, but to give you the quick recap That's my first book mode one. I did a 2017 updated version My first version mode one came out in April of 1999 First paperback version March of 2006. That's my main emphasis verbal communication skills That's underrated Because you know at this conference you hear a lot of guys talking about the whole alpha and beta and I'll be talking about that later on in this conversation But a lot of guys have this impression that alpha means Super big muscles being six foot five Being super athletic being a seventh degree black belt But here's the truth Starting with my high school days. I'm known guys who were so-called tough guys big muscles To fight could whoop any guys ass, but when they got in the company of women they were Verbal cowards. They were bitches That is for the guy who said to me. He said Alan. I heard when you speak you keep shit real Keep shit real. They were bitches I'm listening to every guy like some guys have caught me. There's been a couple guys at this very conference They say Alan you study people when you're talking to them. I say I most certainly do I listen to how people can burst their vocal inflections Particularly in conjunction with their eye contact. I Can read through a lot of facades? fear of rejection Fear of rejection a lot of people Well, I can say well a lot of people in general, but let's focus on men A lot of men want that magic peel. How can I have sex with as many women as possible? But never be rejected newsflash never gonna happen That's like a baseball player one that hit home runs, but never strike out If you a baseball fan, you know most of the top home run hitters Have the most strikeouts in the league Anybody can tell me Alan. Well, I got rejected other day I've been rejected probably more than anybody sitting in here, but that fear can be profound man To the point where you don't want to approach women at all if you're willing to be honest raise your hand If there's been multiple times where you were scared to approach one because of a profound fear of rejection Okay, that's quite a few This is what most guys do when they have a profound fear of rejection they either avoid approaching a women women at all or They'll engage in what I call these friendly flattering entertaining Non-threatening conversations where they never really lay out any desires interest or intentions on the table Godly the weather is great, isn't it? Lee do you come in this restaurant all the time and see there's some pickup artists that will take advantage of that They'll make you think That if you get a woman to be receptive to Friendly flattering entertaining non-threatening conversation that you have a chance. No, you don't what woman is going to dislike you If you're engaging in friendly flattering entertaining non-threatening conversation with Of course, she's gonna look at you as a nice guy Of course, she is what criticisms what what what prospect do you have of being called a jerk or asshole? Because you engage in in 45 minutes of friendly flattering entertaining Non-threatening conversation here's the thing before I get past this slide fear rejection guys will say I'm scared to approach this woman. I'll say So ultimately you're scared of rejection because you're afraid that You might do something or say something that will prevent you from gaining access To that woman's romantic or strictly sexual companionship. Yes, I guess Okay But if you don't approach it off You will not gain access to her sexual attention and companionship at all Yeah, I guess now that you put it like that so in other words You're scared of not getting something you already don't have They just hit a lot you fellas did it I never thought about it like that Second most profound fear to fear of receiving criticisms insults negative reactions. That's another misleading thing A lot of guys have this mistaken impression That if you get a so-called positive reaction that automatically leads that you're gonna end up having sex with that woman So let me ask you has every guy in this room slept with every woman who gave them a positive reaction. Raise your head That's what I thought. I've slept with many women who initially said Allen your asshole Allen. You're a jerk You're so egotistical. Allen. You're so cocky. You're so fully yourself You know what's fun about that is when you fucking them and you say what did you call me? But what am I doing right now fucking me Say it again fucking me, but what am I cocky asshole say it again. I know some of y'all go use this shit Now this is recap from last year. I'm gonna try to skip through this as fast as possible I'll talk to the three types of relationships Every relationship you want from a woman is either gonna be strictly sexual strictly non-sexual and sexual plus non-sexual. Okay, you got that Verbally direct approach when a man verbally commutes communicates to a woman His desire to spend time with her in either romantic meaning sexual plus non-sexual or strictly sexual manner within the first few minutes of His very first conversation with the woman and that's mode one And we talked about this last year now I know some of you guys weren't here so I don't want to disrespect the guys who weren't here last year But I'm assuming I hopefully the vast majority you saw my presentation from last year, but I did want to do this quick recap Mode three Mode four Mine here's what I believe Once you do lay your desires interest and intentions on the table all women are gonna fall into one of these five architects Reciprocator that's your luckiest day That's your luckiest day when you meet a woman saying I want to fuck you. She says I want to fuck you too That's gonna be the greatest day of your life man. Every time that happens. I Want you to suck my dick? I want to suck your dick too It's the rarest woman you meet but you know again the most gratified Rejector again, we talked about rejection. Nobody likes to be rejected. I don't like to be rejected Like Michael Jordan. He said I don't like to lose but I'm not scared to lose I don't like being rejected But I'm not afraid of rejection and I'll touch on that In a moment because women know how to capitalize on your fear of rejection Wholesome pretenders now those first two types Are you what I call your straightforward non manipulative type, but then the two three trickier types is wholesome pretenders erotic hypocrites and manipulative time-writers This is a book I touched on briefly last year, but I'm touching on a little bit more this year who say it again Mastering the fine art of verbal seduction and oral sex came out with the e-book and paperback in December 2011 an audiobook version in 2015 Say a lot of guys like to put women into these two can what I call convenient categories She's a good girl But she's a slut She's a good girl, but she's a slut now You can say that was halfway valid if we talking about 1918 1928 1938 But in today's society Matter of fact, oh, I forgot to do my little thing. See if anybody watches my YouTube Where's my main camera? I do this thing while I start my videos with a beverage And I hold it up So that's one of my trademarks on my YouTube videos and when somebody either asked me a stupid question or says some stupid I say insert Well, I get to that thing, but uh Insert dog face here So if you already read who said again or listen to the audio, but you know, I place women in five categories Oh, I didn't set that up. Well, but I was basically said nope They don't fall into those two convenient categories anymore One of my most popular videos is called the myth of the prudish monogamy oriented good girl One of the reasons why a lot of guys are scared to say sexually provocative things women because they're scared they're gonna upset a good girl sexual sensibilities Newsflash no fucking good girls in today's society There might be in the way I say it might be one two percent maybe being generous three four percent of women who are saving themselves for their husband for marriage but today Women are fucking at the age of 11 12 13 years old There's women by the time they 25. They've been fucking for 10 years. I know that guy sitting there right now Yeah, this guy does keep it real shit It's a myth man. Here's the reason I called myth and there's a book I promote from time to time by a guy named Daniel Bertner is called what do women want anybody familiar with that book if you're familiar with that book, you know That he criticizes us His own gender as I tend to and I have a lot of haters and critics because of but essentially what he says is that Men there's a lot of things that men Believe about women because they want to believe it about women. Let me repeat that Men believe certain things about women because they want to believe those things about women Because it makes them sleep better at night And one of those things is when women are born with more monogamous tendencies than men are that's bullshit Women like to fuck just like we do You better believe that shit. They love the fuck. You know the the female sex toy industry is a billion-dollar industry You think these women are using that shit in the kitchen their pussies get wet. They play with their pussies Oh wait, what I do wrong What happened? Oh Fives, okay, I said I divide them in the five category. Okay. I'm going too fast What I call who said again a five that is a genuine good girl That's a woman who will only engage in sexual relations with a man who is her husband or at bare minimum her fiance So if you find a five Then you have if you're in search of that, you know proverbial good girl if you find a five you found it It's not so much again that woman is born With this biological impulse to be monogamous but her social programming of Concept I talk about all the time. I already even one or two other speakers talk about nicknamed cultural conditioning social brainwashing Her social programming is so strong That she's willing To control her sexual desires and urges And save herself for her husband of four That's a woman who prefers to only engage in sexual relations with a man who is their husband their fiance or their long-term boyfriend But at least occasionally They're going to engage in one or more episodes of non monogamous casual sex A three that's a woman who will publicly present herself to to men as if they're a five or at least a four But privately they get down Which is what I refer to as your wholesome pretenders And erotic hypocrites see a wholesome pretender. That's a woman That if you propose casual sex tour, she's gonna always initially say no, I'm not the kind of girl No, I I only have sex with my boyfriend. Oh really? Is that right? So you telling me, you know You don't want to feel my dick in your pussy Oh, you're nasty Did you get enough fucking? A two is a woman who really likes to get down behind closed doors But again publicly she's gonna present herself as a four You know again a good girl Or if not present herself as a good girl This is my archetype of the erotic hypocrite erotic hypocrite is similar to wholesome pretender But she in addition to wanting to protect her good girl image She thinks man should whine and dine her for the pussy And one that's just a woman who's openly freaky Social program and I already talked about that Now I talked about social program organized religion Is one of the factions in society. I talk about this in my book the beta male revolution That promotes the idea of monogamy For better or for worse So does media and entertainment So does certain aspects of the public school system And many of your parents your siblings other family members And elders in the community Or your culture The nipple of head games. I talked about a lot at last year. So I don't want to well I'll talk about a relation to here's my next book possibly the sex Now guys in the seduction community PUA community They want to always say Allen. So what's the what's the great benefit of being direct? You're like, you know, I'm an indirect guy The other thing indirect is okay. Like what's what's so wrong with being indirect? What number one If you want to meet a woman and talk about the weather for 10 minutes and talk about You know, you were playing football in high school for 20 minutes and all that other bullshit that has nothing to do with getting the woman's pussy wet Go right in But here's the deal one of my archetypes is the woman called the manipulative time waster And it's funny of my five archetypes A lot of other puas and dating coaches They do not like to acknowledge the existence of manipulative time wasters What is the manipulative time waster? I already emphasize this but I'm emphasize this again Friendly flattering flirtatious and entertaining conversation with women means jack Okay You guys get that If the woman's laughing at all your jokes that doesn't mean she's gonna suck your dick at the end of the night Just means she enjoys being entertained by you She listened to all your stories That sound interesting And she's smiling and you thinking god i'm in there. No Women love men's non sexual companionship Much more honestly than we do theirs Men could go weeks months even years without a woman's non physical non sexual companionship Guys laugh like that's like a understatement We can't I've never had a male friend. It's a damn man. It's been so long since I spent time with a woman platonically man It's driving me crazy, dude. I can't take it. I need to be around some women platonically It's just not an idea and a makeup But you better believe Women love your company in a non physical Non sexual manner to the point where Going back to this title The possibility of sex How do they sell you on the idea of spending time with them? Hmm. There you go See that's the difference between them and just straight up rejectors Rejectors are women. See a lot of guys look at rejectors as the enemy But those women you should appreciate those women who straightforwardly reject you because they let you know basically You're never getting this pussy. Don't even try Don't waste your time exactly Manipulative time wasted. They always want you to think you that close to getting the pussy Well, if you go with me and my girlfriends to these bowling events for the next five weeks, I don't know anything can happen I don't know Anything can happen I mean like I've been like going to bowling with you for the last eight weeks That nice week might be your lucky wings. They love to use that vague ambiguous language. Like you never know possibly maybe is Four things that manipulative time wasters want from men While avoiding engaging in sex with them To be flattered See Before I wrote this book a lot of guys wrote me feedback saying allen I thought money was the only thing that women use men for You will have women just concentrate on number one to be flattered You will have women That say they went to a party and they didn't get as many compliments as they wanted So guess what they do they're calling one of you guys Hey, Joey, you doing anything? No, I'm just like playing video games like what's up? Like, you know, like you saw those pictures I put all over facebook and instagram like Didn't they look sexy? Oh, shit. You look like a goddess. You look like a fucking goddess. You look sexy as hell Really? They knew that guy was gonna say that But they're like really you think they like that one bikini shot you think oh, man. Oh, so hot Yeah, wait, so once that you satiated the ego guess what they say, okay, Joey, I gotta go take care of you like fuck Joey thought he was in there. He's like shit. You know, she called me. I'm that close to getting that pussy. I'm that close He's that close Some women will use you just to flatter their ego and get an ego boost boost their self-esteem number two women love to be entertained And this is why the media and entertainment industry plays up the women I worked before I became a dating coach. That was the industry. I was pursuing a career I used to pitch scripts as a screenwriter You know pitch scripts to these different Hollywood executives and they didn't say yeah, and uh Pretty well written script, but uh Number one you got a lot of fucking in here You know this character gets his dick sucked like 12 times in this book but beyond that I just I don't know how to say this but uh You just keep it a little too real and your criticism of women. I mean no woman is going to buy movie tickets To see this movie I don't give a fuck And they would look at me like well if you want to make a living you better give a fuck And in so many words, they would tell me in this industry We play up to who's putting money in our pockets and that's women's statistic show women buy more movie tickets than men do To get men out to movies. You got to get slashed alone and A few other guys that kick some ass and shouldn't blow up some shit man and come out But anything they perceive as halfway as a chick slick. They're not going But those women are come out in droves man. They'll bring out their sister and grandmother So entertainment Industry is going to play up to women Hashtag me too Women love to be entertained. They will use you just to be entertained women will call you Just for you to engage like say that board and lonely on a friday night That asshole Woman actually number one. He hasn't called me asshole woman actually number two Then we call billy. Hey billy. How you doing billy? He's like hey, what's up linda? Hey, how you doing? What is billy thinking? He's like, yeah, let me get that pussy. She called him And she's like tell me that funny story He said two weeks ago at the bowling alley all that one word, you know the guy put the popcorn boy in his head And billy tells the story she laughs And then she just hangs up And billy's like fuck This is obvious financial and non-financial favors Manipulative time races are good at doing that and they know Manipulative time races trust they are savvy Again, they know they can't just say hey spend some money on me. By the way, you're never getting this pussy They'll say hey, if you take me out to dinner Who knows what can happen afterwards Who knows if you help me move these heavy boxes from my old apartment to my new apartment I might be just so thankful that Who knows And a lot of you guys fall for it And this was the worst one, man I think I might even touch on that legend the emotionally empathetic listening ear I would arguably say that's the worst of the four How many already familiar with me talking about that raise your hand if you already familiar with it Only a couple of hands a few hands. So it's a lot guys who not this is the emotionally empathetic listening ear Where the woman calls you over a place on a friday night And again, what do you think? I'm in there. It's friday night. She invited me over to the apartment. I'm in there. I'm gonna get that I'm gonna have sex with her And then once you get over there, she's like Troy I can't believe this. I mean like what's wrong amber? You know You remember that guy chad I told you about Yeah, the guy that's like a dick Another day, right? He was just slapping his dick all on my face And I'm like, you were stinging. You just slapping his dick on one face And then he was like suck this dick bitch And then he was just, you know, putting it in my mouth and he was coming all in my mouth God that guy's an asshole He lucky I wasn't here. I would whooped his ass such a dick Yeah, you know, and then right after he left and the other guy was named as chad too and he was just like He was just like pulling my hair real hard and he was slapping my ass And just fucking me and fucking me and fucking me and fucking me and fucking me. He was like, okay amber I get the point I mean both those chads are just assholes. Don't you think they are, Troy? Yeah, they're dicks, man. They're dicks. They lucky I wasn't here See, Troy, you're so sweet. I just love you so much. You're such a sweetheart Troy, he's taking me. I'm the good guy here I'm gonna get it But guess what happens next Friday, next Saturday? Same thing. Troy! I met this new guy at a library and you're not gonna believe this. They're just chad This guy's finger-fucking me in the library and I'm like, you shouldn't be doing this and he was like, no way he's around God, he's such a dick with all these guys dicks Part two of the book, Possibility of Sex I talk about five types of women that you should never enter into a long-term relationship Even in some cases a short term, but if you're thinking about a long-term relationship This kind of self-explanatory materialistic gold diggers. Those are women who honestly, they really just don't enjoy your companionship You're a male ticket. You're an opportunity for them to improve the quality of their lifestyle They give you what I call doggy treat reward pussy Remember the puppy dog I was talking about? You're such a good boy. You bought me a portion name on one. Yes, you are You're so good You get to sniff my pussy tonight Want to be mistresses and sidepieces a.k.a man thieves. These are women that If you're single and unattached they'll ignore you But the moment you get a wife, fiancé or girlfriend All of a sudden they're interested God Frank you look so good in that suit. You look so sexy You're like Thank you. Thank you Brenda. Hey, I know you're getting married next week, but If you want something like this Now really they just want the satis the egotistical satisfaction of being able to steal you Away from your wife fiancé or long-term girlfriend They want to fuck your relationship up Don't let them if you got a good thing going on don't let these women Fuck your shit up Because they don't really want to disrupt your relationship because they genuinely want your companionship They just want to see if they can steal you from another woman. It's like a competitive thing drama queen self-explanatory women who are incredibly spoiled Incredibly argumentative And in some cases they suffer from a personality disorder such as borderline personality disorder everybody saw fatal attraction Bitch was crazy. Weren't you? narcissistic personality disorder histrionic personality disorder You can usually see the red flags When they go off on some trivial like I don't know. Let's say you drank their last bottle of Lipton tea A normal woman say did you drink my last bottle of shame on you drama queen's like oh my god Why didn't you do that? Do what you drank my last bottle you fuck You're like I mean I can go to the store and buy you some more You drank my last bottle Let's say some guys will try to justify stealing the drug kidney like hey, I don't know if you know But like psycho bitches got the best pussy like seriously You don't want to stay with a woman that just brings drama into your life unnecessarily It's not worth it closet messengers let's see This is a word that the mainstream media doesn't use enough I see misogyny all over the place misogyny, misogyny, misogyny, misogyny misogynist, misogynist, misogynist, misogynist Well these fucking femisongers they're women who are closet messengers meaning that They'll want to suck you into a relationship If not for no other reason just because they want to get pregnant by you They want you your sperm to fertilize their egg And then once they get pregnant by you You are about to unleash the bitch from hell They're gonna try to masculine you a lot of times in public in front of people verbally abuse you They might even take some pots and pans and start hitting you upside the head People think domestic violence is only a male thing Not true. There are women who have physically assaulted their husbands living lovers closet messengers and of course Liars cheaters and adulterers Now it's funny My book possibility of sex. I've mentioned this a few times on my youtube videos and other stuff I got a lot of great feedback from that book But a lot of guys not well not a lot, but A good number of guys They said man allen Some respects that book left me depressed man But left me depressed because possibility of sex And the beta male revolution. I think all my books to one degree or another are red pill books But I would say particularly possibility of sex and the beta male revolution Because this goes back Chapter nine particularly left a lot of guys depressed Because the main thing and you can read it for yourself and listen to the audio book But the the main point I'm making here is that hey Women are gonna fuck who they want to fuck Women are gonna fuck who they want to fuck You might think because you putting the ring on a woman's finger That she ain't gonna fuck nobody else. You better think again Now again, if you got a five Maybe a four in your camp. You don't have anything to worry about But if you marry a two or three Women are gonna fuck who they want to fuck How do I know this? Because one of the confessions I make in chapter nine is that between roughly the age of 17 and 37 I had sex with roughly three dozen women who at the time I fucked them had either a long-term boyfriend or fiance or husband Now some guys they criticized me for that because they said man element bros before holes man. Come on But no I did I was fucking other dudes women Until around the age of 37 38. I realized That I didn't I didn't like disrespecting my own gender like that and I used You could say my sinful deeds to provide knowledge and wisdom to other guys who needed to wake the fuck up Because women if any of you men think you can cheat real good I guarantee you women can treat cheat two to three times better I wrote an article on the site I write for called the Negro Manisphere. Matter of fact, a lot of guys here have mentioned the Negro Manisphere Yeah It's funny. It shows how narrow-minded I could be I was assuming that 98% of guys who read the Negro Manisphere articles or little brothers like myself But nope, I've had so many non-black guys come up. Yeah, I read your recent article on the Negro Manisphere. I'm like, really? Shout out O'Shea Duke Jackson um As a matter of fact, Rolo was talking about how the manuscripts become so diverse And uh, oh, I forgot to give kudos to Rolo because Rolo is the reason I was invited last year, but I appreciate Now Rolo quick-sighted on Rolo A lot of guys last year I thought they you know knew about me from my books, but here we go I'll ride your car. I'm like, yeah, you're in my place. No, I saw I read I listened to the interview with Rolo and blocked our radio I was every guy was like that, but Rolo we had a great interview of steel a highly listened to interview on blocked our radio, but uh Going back to what I was saying Yeah, women here's how scant is there and this is what I include in the article Women will fuck it have a gown aside And in some cases they'll introduce You to their boyfriend if he wants to have to happen at least a handful of times This is my friend Allen. We know each other from college I mean We're feeling man Because I had to be phony and shake this dude. Hey, and knowing I was fucking his woman. Hey, how you doing? Pleasure to meet you But articles will have you believe that men She weigh more than women do dude. I'm telling you I'm telling you I'm telling you I'm telling you If you don't believe anything else I'm saying Women are gonna fuck who they want to fuck They might not plan on it, but if they run into a certain guy on a certain day Who's able to get their pussy wet The people always ask the question I've heard men ask me a question. Why do women cheat? Women ask me the question. Why do men cheat? And the reason why you keep asking that question over and over and over again because it's the wrong fucking question the more appropriate question is Why do people With promiscuous and non monogamous tendencies Choose to give off an indefinite facade that their monogamy oriented. Why? If you're a man and you know you're promiscuous You know you prefer non monogamy Why are you pretending like you all about monogamy? I know why Because you want ownership over that pussy You want to own that pussy You don't want any guy to think he could have access to your pussy the pussy you own Or you think you own You don't own anyone was pussy women own their pussy That's one of the reasons why we had the second wave of feminism Because women got tired of their father saying you are my property husband saying you are my property women said fuck that A lot of you guys can whine and complain about it, but you got to respect women They said we ain't gonna take this shit no more They own this shit You don't own it Be thankful if a woman doesn't share her pussy with another man be thankful You found the right woman who has the type of values and ethics that won't do that But i'm telling you in the 21st century today Most women are going to share their pussy with whoever the fuck they want to That's since i brought up the second wave of feminism Batarail revolution my I only got two minutes left so let me have to go fast, but that's the last book i published This was the most important period in the last 150 years 1960 1974 Let's say my mother Her and her sisters were scared to have sex before marriage because they were scared my grandfather Would kick them out the fucking house And most women in that generation were scared of that But then guess what 1960 we came out with the birth control pill What did that say to women? I can fuck who the fuck I want to fuck They had to depend on a husband to provide them With a financially self-sufficient lifestyle Because the second wave of feminism feminism they were able to gain better employment opportunities higher salaries had the sexual revolution the free love movement Role versus wave And without getting all lengthy the end result was women felt more comfortable The social stigma was erased They said I can do with this what I want to do with it now see In my mother's generation It would have been it would have been considered rude and crass and disrespectful For a man to propose casual sex to anyone Because dating was all about finding your wife and finding your husband but The second wave of feminism combined with the sexual revolution women said We want to be free to fuck whoever we want to fuck So why would I feel like it's crass? Disrespectful In rule to tell a woman I want to fuck her without her being my wife Make that make sense to me One of my golden rules Never confuse or conflate the appeal of your sexual attention and companionship with the appeal of your Non-sexual attention and companionship as well as the appeal of your financial resources and material possessions Now some Might argue if you can get pussy with those two things so be it So be it But i'm just saying There's three levels of female sexual interest Genuine sexual desire and interest. I've heard uh, I want to say rollo I was watching a video with rollo mentioned. He has this phrase where he says you cannot See they did that on purpose me They knew I was in my rhythm and shit and they just anyway, um Those women saying just you gotta watch it Uh, yeah, rollo said, uh, I heard him say you can't negotiate. I told we're on the same page with that There's genuine sexual desire and interest tangible or intangible Incentivized sexual desire and interest and then of course no sexual desire and interest at all Genuine sexual desire and interest that means that if you meet a woman and you let her know you want to fuck her She is going to be willing to fuck you without you offering her anything extra Basically in simple blunt terms You're only exchanging access to your dick for access to her pussy That's genuine sexual desire and interest Tangible or intangible incentivized sexual desire and interest is when a woman is not completely Interested in you sexually but she's not completely not interested in you Sexually so she said Yeah, I might want to give you some But what do you offer? Are you offering me long-term monogamy? Are you offering to help me raise children? Are you offering me short-term financial compensation or long-term financial security? Are you offering me materialistic gifts? What are you offering? And then from there you've got to negotiate what you're willing to add Extra as an extra incentive And reward for your sexual companionship And no sexual desired interest at all That means even if you were to offer women stuff materialistic gifts You know money they still like nah, I still don't want to fuck That brings me to my four archetypes and I'm not going to go into too much detail for the sake of time Total alchemy is they're going to get a lot of sex based on genuine sexual interests Based on genuine sexual interests the drawback to them They're typically so promiscuous and so dominant that a lot of women don't want to be in marriages with them or long-term relationships with them I've had many women. I interviewed a woman on my patreon page who said that she said I don't want to got us total alpha or total beta. I want to got us kind of a blender ball And the reason was she said they they that two uncomprom- total alphas are too uncompromising and generally too promiscuous My next archetype is an alpha male with a few beta traits You can almost think of this guy as the womanizing alpha male and this is the alpha male That puts some degree of emphasis on monogamy in relationships He likes to fuck, but he knows he wants ultimately wants a wife A family children But if he does get married if he does get relationship, he's gonna make sure he runs shit He's gonna make sure he runs shit Beta male with a few alpha traits in tennessee's As the guy who's generally beta And the biggest thing about beta males. They're so scared of losing a woman's sexual companionship That they're willing to do anything. They're willing to Just supplicate the women Play up to women Basically do anything that women want them to do and they get what I call that doggy treat reward pussy If this guy doesn't have a high level of career success financial success status, he doesn't get laid period total beta males A lot of them have become in sales. They're just being ignored by women Women don't even want their platonic companionship and it's sad I try to help a lot of guys who come to me that are self-proclaimed total beta males Their self-esteem is low. They feel totally romantically and sexually undesirable But for most of them not all of them most of them there is hope And I feel like I can contribute to a transformation from them. So those are my four books I do email consultations Skype and telephone consultations one-on-one face-to-face coaching sessions That's my site direct approach dating.com. You can find me also on wikipedia. I'm alan roger curry questions So I completely agree about the direct game Especially to people who's not in your social circle Would it still be the same with people who are in your social circle to be that direct? Like hey, I hey, I want to fuck you or Would you have to be more careful? Because well, here's here's the first clarification Now alan roger curry as you can tell from my speaking presentation I like to use a lot of profanity for better or for worse. I like to use a lot of sexually explicit language for better or for worse You don't have to use profanity or sexually explicit language to be more one Here would be an example. You meet a woman and you say I find you very attractive But I got to let you know up front I have no interest whatsoever In becoming one of your new purely platonic male friends I ultimately Would like to be intimate with you Now did I just use any profanity? No, that's where the language. No, but I was mow one Because you letting that woman know that hey, I'm not talking to you because I want to share bowling alley stories with you so There you go Thank you randy for that question If you had to make a direct verbal advance on a co-worker, how would you do it? Who who paid him to ask me that question? Generally, I don't believe you should hit My simple slogan is don't get laid when you get paid. I've done it before and It invites just you don't want that type of drama in the workplace but If you want to be hard hit it What you do is you you don't you don't hit on a co-worker at all on work premises A lot of times like say co-workers might get together at a happy hour or something You make your move at that happy hour or some social event away from work and then Here's one tip you do Let's say you get the co-worker to suck your dick You get another co-worker To watch in super body and then of course the woman sucking a dick is gonna say I don't know why he's sucking a dick, but why is Cheryl here? And then you say hashtag me two All right, there you have it allen roger curry. Let's give it up for him George bruno with a 21 report in orlando florida. We're talking today with allen roger curry from Direct approach dating Dot com. What is your impression so far of the 21 convention this year? Anthony keeps Raising it to another level. Yeah, and I told him last year when I came I was blown away And I guess you could say that was also a confession of me having I guess somewhat low expectations But because I've been to other workshops and conferences that weren't quite on his level I was expecting what I was already used to And last year I was like wow and this year. I'm even like more wow Like as soon as I saw like the two screens to the side of the stage I was like, oh my god in a way like he's incorporated you and other speakers the introduced speakers That's just next level stuff It's almost like a it's like a network Uh tv studio it's set up like isn't it? Exactly. I mean that's I felt like I was at a tv station like a You know like a game show or something. It was just like hardcore professionalism there Good stuff. Good stuff. Tell us about your message. There's a lot of people. We're introducing you to a lot of people who don't know you What is direct approach dating? well In a what's known as the traction and seduction community or some people call it the pickup artist community It's basically now Kind of come to two factions you have what's known as the direct Faction and the indirect faction and there's some puas that kind of promote maybe a hybrid of both But generally a direct approach Is when from the your very first conversation with a woman you're attracted to You let her know why you're talking to her which is to either date her long term Short term monogamously non monogamously whatever your interest is you let that be known from the get-go So that in the event that she's not interested you don't waste her time You don't waste your own time whereas guys who more or so promote indirect They believe in engaging in say lengthy conversations that are sent around a lot of fluff talk And just kind of beating around a bush and they Either delay Laying their desires interests and intentions on the table or They present very dishonest disingenuous misleading desires interests and intentions classic Two classic examples for man would be Some men if they're interested in say a long-term romantic relationship with a woman They'll spend weeks months even longer Pretending like they're content with being that woman's purely platonic friend Which is a mistake because it's just setting themselves up for heartbreak because most women there's exceptions here and there But most women once they have you in the friend zone, you're never getting them friend zone describe that friend zone Is is a lot of men will use this phrase that woman put me in the friend zone But technically a man puts himself in the friend zone Because he's not honest about what type of companionship he's really looking for So the woman Just gets content with receiving all this flattering attention from this guy He spends time going with her to the bowling alley and doing various social events with her But she already has guys. She's having sex with and dating and so She's just taking advantage of the free non sexual companionship that he's offering But again deep down this guy wants a relationship. That's more romantic in nature Then the second type of of game playing guys do is They'll be looking for a short term non monogamous casual sex partner But they'll give that woman a misleading impression that they're looking for their next long-term girlfriend or maybe even their future wife Yeah And then once they have sex with that woman two times five times 10 times They just all of a sudden go ghost on her and she's left heartbroken like wondering what happened Because they got never wanted a long-term relationship And one of the things I tell guys is don't do that Don't do that. Would you want somebody doing that to your mother? Your sister your daughter? I mean really and I can honestly a lot of harsh blowback from being on that. They look. Oh, man. What's wrong with doing that? What's wrong with doing it? You just sold direct approach to me in one minute 100% You keep yourself from hurting anybody And you keep yourself from getting hurt I like the way you just summed it up. Yeah, that's really amazing So a man should take full responsibility for the zone that he's in wherever he ends up That's that's his doing Exactly. He's not a victim Oh, george. I love you. I love you guys. He's not he's not taken Off guard nothing by surprise The direct approach is a good approach. I like that. How long's that been around? Well, I started Talking about it in 1999 so almost 20 years And I'm sure, you know, it was probably around before that but I would say since the advent of the internet I will go ahead and let Harley too. I think I was one of the first guys since the advent of internet I think you are I mean, obviously when I hear direct approach your name comes to mind immediately I don't think of anyone else's name No one else comes to mind You are direct approach I appreciate you saying that. That's that's what I've seen now. Let me ask you this What is wrong With people or let me rephrase this. What do your critics say? You got to have some critics. Oh, I have quite a few. Yeah, here's the interesting thing though Here's and I already alluded to it When I first came out with my book, I did a presentation one time in Chicago. It was about 40 women and about 25 men And I just anticipated At least half of the women frowning their face mainly because When I talk about being direct as you heard about presentation I tend to use a lot of profanity a lot of x-rated language So if nothing else, I thought their face was going frown over that and I thought You know, 95% of the guys were going to have my back and give me a thumbs up Do you know george? It was almost just the opposite opposite 95% of women there Loved my presentation and even the five percent who didn't they only had a problem with the language But they loved the approach itself But a lot of guys came up to me afterwards. They were like, man What's with all this honesty stuff, man? What are you talking about like being honest with women, man? You know, I get women in bed by lying to them like what's wrong with that They're literally guys that they they want to lie and it basically comes down to their scared of rejection They're scared that if they straightforwardly tell a woman that all they want is short term Now I'm not even sexy that woman's gonna say, uh, no, I don't want that So they try to trick a woman into giving her It would be like, uh, I don't know if this is the best analogy, but If a guy came into a restaurant and he said I'm a vegan or a vegetarian And that chef knew he didn't have anything so he gives him this salad. He tells the guy It's a vegetarian, but he got a little small pieces of meat I mean that guy could have an allergic reaction to that. Yeah Why would anybody want someone to present them with something in such a misleading manner? And I try to make guys explain what would do you want women misleading you? Heck no I mean, no guy does but yet they think it's okay. So On it to say about your question about haters and critics. I have way more male Haters and critics than I've ever had female haters and critics. It's paradoxical because At first glance you would think like you said You think women would be the first ones to be offended, but they're not They're not offended. No wow I heard someone say haters hate because they want what you have That's very valid That's very valid Or if not they want what you have They're jealous and envious of the reception you're getting over what you have and Yeah, I have a lot of including a lot of like fellow other dating coaches and or pickup artists Because See like one thing I'm straightforward about That a lot of pickup artists aren't when I was talking about rejection is Rejection is inevitable. No man is going to bat 1000 No man's going to be able to go to a club or score with every 10 out of 10 women the approaches But you have pickup artists that try to promote that, you know, there was one guy the subtitest book was Something get any woman you want in bed. That's impossible right Brad Pitt is one of the most handsome smooth guys. He's never going to get every single and he's not going to do it and so You know, I tell I'm very open like in my book mode one in this very book I start off this book saying to eliminate any Unsubstantiated hype. I'ma tell you upfront this book is not a magic peel To prevent rejection. There are quite a few women you're going to approach you're going to express your desires interest and attention to them And guess what they're going to reject you And you just got to be man enough to accept that and move on to the next woman adventures You know, but a lot of guys out here trying to teach man how to Circumvent consent Circumvent rejection And it's backfired it's backfired on these guys What about the concept of enthusiastic consent? Like I want to I don't want to hear a yeah. I want to hear a hell. Yeah from a woman and What do you think of of seeking enthusiastic consent, which I think is consistent with the whole direct approach and the whole thing of contracts Like I can touch this this and this but you can't touch this that You know, and then you both agree on it and then move forward. What do you think of that? Well, it's funny I don't know if you're familiar with this comedian named dave chapel. I do I don't him Dave chapel when he had his show he had this popular show on comedic comedy central Yeah And one of his skits was actually called the love contract Okay, and he has this woman in bed the kiss that they make it out it did Right before they go the next step. He says hold up. Wait a minute He pulls out this clipboard as this contract and he says we need to go over some stuff The one was like, what are you talking about? And he's like, hey, I want to make sure I want to protect myself And so now I'm also someone involved in the bdsm world. Yeah And that's actually very common. That's not unusual in the bdsm world a lot of couples Who have who practice the bdsm lifestyle? They will have written contracts Yeah words so that they make sure that they don't violate no surprises. No surprises. No boundaries violated And now some guys will argue. Well, doesn't that kind of kill some of this sexual tension? No No, not unless you allow it to I think it would free you Your wise man george I think I think it would free somebody because they don't have to worry about what not to do or dance around a topic or a body part Some guys don't get that. Yeah, but yeah That's the truth. You just broke it down. What type of man benefits the most from Direct approach I would say a man that does not like to waste time and or money On women who do not share the same desires interest and intentions that he does Because when you're indirect you're inevitably Going to find yourself experiencing multiple episodes where you invest a significant amount of time Or a significant amount of time and money And ultimately the woman's going to end up saying you in in in more similar terms, you're not preventing rejection by being indirect You're just Deling it procrastinating And I've experienced this in my younger years before I became fully direct and it would leave me feeling so agitated I would say spend like two or three weeks pursuing this woman's companionship being indirect only for her to ultimately tell me I don't have the same interests as you. Yeah, I just look at you as a friend Yeah, and I in her face. I would be cordial like, oh, I understand it. But you know, I get home Yeah, can't believe I wasted three weeks. Yeah, so this woman's yeah, so that's but when you're direct you know from the get go Woman's either does have the same desires interest and intentions as you do or she doesn't you know what has helped this in my In my perception from what I've seen This whole 50 shades of gray thing has kind of at least Brought the conversation out because it it's not men that are Renting that movie on amazon It's not men that are buying the book and it's a best seller and women are well, we are in the middle of a this is a um they're having a uh A festival today in downtown Orlando and a parade is driving by right here and um So we're going to hear all kinds of noise And uh, so we're just going to view it as they're celebrating and cheering what we're saying here. So But 50 shades of gray It's biggest consumer is women Isn't that direct approach Would you say yeah Here's when a lot of guys I mentioned this in my book called who said again us a today came in with article Might have been like nine or ten years now Where they said women were buying erotica novels off the shelf the by Like erotica now erotica novels are the women where I would say internet porn is the men. Okay women love erotica novels Yeah, and a lot of men don't don't don't pay attention to that don't understand that. Yeah, but The thing that women like about erotica novels the number one they're very descriptive. Yeah See like porn guys just basically come in the room and they start yeah Yeah, a lot of women that doesn't do much for them. Okay. They they they like those little details like and then he slowly unzipped her dress Yeah, and then that does nothing for a guy. Yeah guys. They like I don't care about any drop this draws And whipped it out but see one of the things about the tube or a little bit I'm very good at erotic dirty talking. Yeah Matter of fact, I bet you did that same book women have actually paid me for phone sex And one thing I borrowed from erotica novels. Yeah, they have I'm very descriptive like those erotica novels. Yeah I I go real slow right very descriptive and women will just say That's interesting. Yeah, that's funny. They love that now. Let me ask you this who would Who Would actually Be against something like this who are your your biggest critics? Who are the people that are just You know Argue with you fight with you disagree with you publicly. Who are they? I don't know if I go too deep in that rabbit hole, but uh Right now on youtube I have a lot of me black men Who have been going at me real hard? Yeah, because there's a lot of black men who For lack of a better way of putting it just hate black women right now. Yeah hate them. Yeah and Because I never trash black women on my youtube channel They'll say, oh, you know, Alan's a male feminist Alan's a defender of these no good You know black women, but I'm like man You guys are doing a lot of whining and complaining About behavior that's out of your control If you dislike number one if you dislike black women that much or women period for that matter just leave them alone You know become a monk. Yeah You know, but I'm not gonna sit on my youtube channel And talk about say things like all black women are trash and all black women are unmarriageable and this and that and this and that Do black women have some flaws and weaknesses in their behavior? Sure, they do but so do some Caucasian women. So do some Asian women. So do some Hispanic and Middle Eastern women All races and ethnicities of women have their nuanced have their flaws weaknesses. So But yeah, that's probably for the last few months what I've been dealing with again specifically on youtube is a lot of black males They don't like me Because I won't trash black women in the way that they want to trash them And they look at that as me being some kind of traitor To black men, but I'm like, hey That falls into the category of haters hate because they want what you have Now here's my weakness that I'll confess because I had a I went into two days Co he called himself giving me some advice and I took it He said Ali man I watch your youtube videos and I really enjoy them He said but if you don't mind, I do have one criticism. I said, what's that? He said man, there's been at least a handful of videos you've done It seemed like you let those haters agitate you you would have these like really emphatic rebuttals to them He said man ignore them man. Yeah, forget about them, man. Don't even give them the time of day Because sometimes I have I've done these certain videos where I've just come back, you know like I've done the same thing. I just blast them back and then people say to me Wow, that was kind of a that was a harsh response And I don't know if it's because I had too much coffee that day or but there are times where I'm like All right, and I just block or delete or whatever and then there's times where I just blast them back And I kind of surprised myself with my response The people who watch your content can bring the best out of you or the worst out of you So true amazing Back to black women. I used to have a big beard got down to my belly. Wow big like Santa Claus thing big big big And white women hated my beard hated it the women who knew me before the big beard They liked me when I grew the beard they Phone did not ring at all When I had the big beard Black women would come up to me and someone said well, what's the difference between black women and white women? I said black women would use sounds To communicate with me I would cross the path of a black woman in a mall and She wouldn't say I really like your beard She would go I Yeah, and I'm like and I'm not you and I'm like and I stopped and I turned around I looked at her And my joke I say this all the time. She says what's up daddy? And the only one who calls me daddy is my daughter. Okay And I was right on it and my response to her was You mama your what's up? She smiled and shook her head and my joke is if I didn't grow up in the 70s I would not know how to answer that question because in the in the 70s everybody was like all women were like mama When you look at songs in the 70s like all kinds of pop songs r&b songs Women were called mama in a lot of songs. So I thought that was interesting, but I found that Black women had a more direct approach To me Which leads me to my next question is direct approach for women Oh, yeah. Yeah, sure. Can women benefit from this information? Yeah, I believe in that. I've had women Here's what's interesting. I had a woman from Atlanta black woman When my book first came out she wrote me And she said because of my book She started being more one with men And here was the interesting thing I always tell men that when you're more one more often than that Women are gonna sometimes be caught off guard. Yeah, I don't know what to say. They're gonna start fumbling over their words But this black woman explained she said men do the same thing She said she would be talking to men and say she'd do maybe two or three minutes of small talk Then she would say sorry. Is the reason you're talking to me is because you want to fuck me tonight And instead of me straightforwardly saying yes, she said men would be like Because we're so used to working for it Or taking the long way around Yeah, or playing Or doing beta shit To get them And she said she would lose interest in those guys the guys even if she was initially attracted to them She said if they just start, you know fumbling she would but the ones who were bold enough to straightforwardly say, yeah, exactly That's the reason she would end up looking up with them Interesting and so uh, but yeah, I've had quite a few uh women tell me over the years that they've incorporated A direct approach because they don't want to waste time Hmm, that's interesting. All right. Now. There's someone watching this right now And they probably got their earbuds in because they don't want anyone else to hear this interview as people when people listen to podcasts and watch videos Of a nature like this They don't want their family or friends hearing that I have a lot of Viewers myself that say that they have to watch with headphones on because of some of the things that I say on youtube So someone is watching this he's alone or she's alone They're watching it on their iphone. They're sitting on their sofa And they've been frustrated with dating. They might even be a mig towel and said screw women They're too hard. They're too much work a woman might say Screw men. They're all jerks. Whatever. What would you say? As a word of encouragement to that person right there who is just ready to say fuck dating i'm done with it Give them some hope Well dating is is easy As you allow it to be and it's as hard as you allow it to be I think the starting point Is first of all don't point the finger at the opposite gender for your problems disappointments and frustrations Taking a examination of yourself Which is one of the things I promote in this book mode one I have questions at the end of just about every chapter that provokes self-examination such as Why am I not honest with women about what I really want because that's where it starts That's the starting point. What do you want? What do you want? And then how do you verbally communicate to women what you want and you got to realize You know, you might be shooting too high You know, I hate to use that phrase, you know, some people say Out of your league. I don't really like to say that but Be realistic if you're making I don't know You know $30,000 a year and you shoot for a woman that's making 500 grand a year. Maybe you're shooting out of your league Come down But just be honest with women about what you want always work on personal development self-improvement literally on a daily Basis so that you are the best version of yourself that you have to offer to women and then just let the chips fall where they may That's excellent. And one last question. How is success Defined how do you know when you are successful in direct approach dating? When you've taken action Oh, you never give in to the fear of rejection You never give in to the fear of being criticized insulted or receiving negative reactions from women You always take action It's not so much about every woman you meet has reciprocated your desires and interests But more so you took action You expressed your desires interests and intentions in a confident forthright manner and All that is you let what happens happens less success Alan Roger Curry This is George Bruno from the 21 report And I want to thank Alan Roger Curry author of mode one For talking to us today. I think everyone's going to benefit Thank you. Thank you so much George Welcome to 21 convention Orlando, florida 2017. I'm socrates today's guest host on 21 studios radio I'm joined by Roger Alan Curry and Richard Cooper today. I guess we're going to be starting off fast and furious Talking about fast cars loose women and chicken wings. So gentlemen, let's get going Well, I love chicken wings and uh, so much that for a few months I tried to be a raw vegan Until I went to a social event and I saw chicken wings and I was like, okay, the vegan lifestyle is not for me That's the one meat item. I cannot give up. So The only thing I love more than chicken wings is good pussy. Yes And you are known as the godfather of direct getting correct. Yeah, there's some people have given me that time Godfather verbally direct game. There we go. I want to make sure I get that right. So fantastic. Yeah, and then You know in a pua community There seems to be these two factions of direct and indirect Some people are exclusively one or the other then there's other guys like I heard ross say he kind of Likes to go either direction um, I probably lean towards more being exclusively about direct game Now see I've seen direct game My understanding is there's direct game and going fast. You are like a street racer I mean What I've seen whatever everything else reputation and it works You know and when a lot of times we lost a sense of masculinity honest directness, you know people's time is critical And you know when you sit down and have the ability to wave off all the kind of social bullshit Kind of getting into it and go into showing showing real intent You kind of exited that without necessarily going straight ass being obnoxious You know and and so can you kind of go into an example that really quick for our items? You may be a little bit of that plus your origination story as well Let's talk to you you you said the key phrase you said time is critical And what I tell guys that's for me the difference between whether someone's going to favor what I refer to as mode one Verbal communication style, which is upfront specific straight to the point Versus say mode two which is more cautious and indirect I say the number one factor is how much do you value your time? because I'm the type of guy I don't like that slow setup because Some women might reject you before you've had a chance to even express your interest You do all that. Oh, how you like the weather God, do you come to this restaurant often? And before you even get to say I'm even attracted to it one was like, you know what could you just leave me alone? I'm trying to eat with my girlfriends I like to come at it now, you know, it's not It's I vary it from woman to woman. So Some people think I just all the time go up to women say, hey, my name is Alan and I want to fuck you I was waiting for that I get that a lot of itself I mean, you're not the guy that just walks around and supermarket drops condom in a woman's way You're we're gonna need these Like you you say it I like to use this term as if you brought up the ass I'm not just a total ask me type dude. I mean, I have more smooth above but essentially yeah, I let women know I would say generally within the first three sometimes within the first five minutes I would say for me no later than the five minute mark. That's like my absolute latest I'm letting the woman know what my interest is and that's to be intimate with it And I let her know if nothing else if I don't put it in terms of I want to have sex with you I want to fuck you I'll tell the woman. I'll say I'll let you know at the outs of this conversation if you're looking to recruit a new Male girlfriend play brother purely platonic male friend I'm not the guy right so we can end this conversation right now if that's what you're I know there's been a tremendous change in social media particularly with dating environment goes You know a lot of the guys and our friends will sit down and do this and I'm going to quote a particular individual His first text or message to to anybody will be you know, I want to come on your face And and girlfriend. Yeah, and you know one there's a kind of the shock element too, but it's very direct and the other is Women actually respond to it. They look at the profile see it No doubt they're they're good to go and there's so there's a lot of Women who have sexual agency or willing to express that are looking for that in man And they don't want anybody who doesn't know how to have that command of the knowing themselves But of their sexuality and they're terribly responsive to that Exactly see I feel like when you talk to a woman In some way you have to challenge Her sexual sensibilities. So if you come across as mr. Basic conventional guy Yeah, he might make her feel a little warm and fuzzy. She might say oh tilt her head. He's sweet But you haven't challenged her sensibilities And it's when you challenge her sensibilities that she feels that tingle between her legs No, we're the one that spot her when they start crossing the legs. Yeah, okay Yeah, I heard it. Yeah, I look for at least minimum two signs from a woman And I learned both of them from ex-girlfriend. So it wasn't just coming out of my head One is when the tongue comes out of the mouth usually up into the left like That's the sign and woman's pussy is getting wet And if she's sitting down, she'll start crossing and uncrossing or she's standing up. She'll And that's because those pussy juices start flowing out And it makes it feel uncomfortable for them to just say Stay still like that. So they have to start moving Now, why do I have this belief that you know how to run a great barbecue? Because that sounds a lot like cooking to me On the rack you got this rub and you just got a slow cook Hey, my my cue game is real nice It's real nice. Have you read his book? You know one word that repeats often is marinade, right? I'm telling you I'm gonna have to get it. So you don't you don't not only direct communication game But you actually the word marinade is The application to your style I'll often still both men and women if I drop what I feel is wisdom one of my own say Fantastic Richard let's let's move this off to you to bring you bring you out fast cars Big tits around asses. Yeah, like who doesn't like, you know tits and ass, right? If you don't and I don't know because you're not a man, you know, the other thing for me is horsepower Like I love fast shit and I know most guys that even aren't car guys like fast cars Like there's not a person that'll say, you know, there's a key to the r.a. Take it for a drive and be like no That's okay. I'm good. I'm like, yeah, I'll take that for a drive Even though I drive a Prius or some shit like that So yeah, like I've always liked fast cars ever since I was 12 years old And I set my eyes on like a poster on a wall of a white Lamborghini Countache with like the phone dial wheels and a Pirelli logo going on Right. Yeah, like, you know, most kids that era had something like that on the wall So I've always been a complete petrolhead and I created, you know Like the YouTube thing because of my passion for fast cars and entrepreneurship and the story basically was Find friends that were successful entrepreneurs that had fast cars And they want to tell the story like the success rides about the challenges and successes You know all that kind of stuff and I did a bunch of videos And like after five or six fast cars and friends, I ran out of friends with cool cars and fast rides So I was like, oh, okay, so what do I do now? And I started talking about like business tips like how to manage lawyers and business and hire people and deal with Employee problems and things like that. And then somebody came along one day and goes You should do a video on types of women to avoid dating I don't I guess I threw off the vibe that maybe I was single or I was dating or something And I wasn't, you know, I just broken up with somebody and I was dating somebody that had Daddy issues needed to be saved and was constantly fighting with their ex over money and support And that thing blew up. It had like 400,000 views. So I was like, huh, people want to see this shit, right? So I started I started doing videos on You know dating tips understanding women better and even at that point I was still plugged in very not very blue-pilled but still but still very plugged in and it wasn't until A friend recommended a role with Tomasi's book rational male read that And that's when I really woke up. That was about a year ago actually and since then the channel's really blown up I've done a lot of videos on the topic and to be honest, you know having, you know, I come from a social Anthropological background on it. So this was nothing new to me You know, it just became culturally mainframe when the movie matrix came out But you know relatively within a year, that's a relatively short period of time Yeah, and you've you've really kind of thought and being plugged in was there any resistance to what was your process? Because I know a lot of times people talk about the world kind of being pulled out from an earth Feed and fall into a rabbit hole. Well, I've I guess like the past five years of my life I've seen a lot of shit that's been pandered to me like this is true and you got to do things this way and It's all a function of, you know, society, religion, economics, family Upring and all kind of shit and then when you start Like diving into the cold hard truth like the facts of the way, you know people respond Like you understand how women respond to certain inputs and you understand, you know Architecture and design and building stuff like that and you know from my perspective as an entrepreneur like I've I've seen it And I fought it and I spent a lot of money like fighting shit Like I spent 50 grand lobbying the government for some ridiculous legislation that we never want on That was a couple years ago and it's like there was a sequence of events that happened that Just pulled the plug right out So Now it's like I feel like I have this superpower like I see shit as it is I see businesses as it is. I see money as it is. I see crypto as it is I see women as it is I see, you know interactions with people like I had a conversation with somebody, you know this week And I called the motherfucker. I didn't even know him for like 20 seconds I'm like, hold on a second motherfucker He's asked me for business tips and he fed me some bullshit and I called him out on it Right and the kind of conversation went from there. So Um I'm kind of a purveyor of the cold hard truth like that's the way that people see me They often look at my videos when they're watching the shit like, you know, you're like the father never had I wish like he was still around or I grew up in a household with a guy like you That can teach me the shit because if I knew it 20 years ago, I wouldn't be, you know Fill in the blank today sort of thing. So that's kind of my place at the youtube space Yeah, fantastic You know what I find interesting about your stories is that it wasn't the trauma associated with the blue pill And you know plugging in with the red pill was not necessarily about necessarily relationships And I know you went through a divorce and you're talking about you know what I found very very admirable Was your relationship with your daughter? Yeah, and one of the you showed if I shared a photo of you with this You know almost superhuman body. I mean you just take tremendous part naturally And I think appropriately so but your daughter was draped around your back Like you know the cape and I just thought that was absolutely superb. Yeah, that's just a big part of my life Yeah, and you talked directly about not dating single mothers Yeah, and you know you sit down and say you you have kind of a mindset of what that would immediately entail And the first one you come out with and the most the one the the subject that you actually spent a lot of time on And I thought was very profound was the the doubling and tripling of the heartbreak Yeah, and I thought that was terribly human in a in a very clear indication of your empathetic feel For not only your needs, but also the all parties involved You know and I thought that was a terribly unique approach today And it also came up a number of other times within that list. It wasn't just a singular anomaly And so I think that's sort of humanizing input that you don't see normally associated with the community based dealing with real life issues Yeah, um, I guess I've never been accused of being covert like I'm like I'm pretty to the point and Authentic and as transparent as possible because for me it creates deeper connections with people like when you tell stories And you have conversations, you know, whether it's in business with women, whatever it is that you're doing I always find that the that the talk goes deeper and it's more authentic And it also repels away people from your life that you don't want around Like if you talk about shit that is in your value system, you know your core value system, you know your actual beliefs And it offends somebody well, fuck them. It doesn't matter. You know, that's you know That's just a signal to get them out of your way so that they don't drain your energy You know, I talk about energy vampires a lot whenever I do talks or videos on my channel. It's like, you know Um, I'm spending time with you guys right now and I feel my energy level increasing. I feel stronger I feel more enthusiastic my brainwaves are kind of awake more now as opposed to having a conversation with somebody where it's like You know, they asked me for coaching advice or something that's something they're stuck on And I point to a cold heart obvious fact and they don't want to acknowledge it and it's like man, that's draining Right, right. So I think, you know, if you go through life more intentional with your time and value it Like one of the things I talked about in my chat was about um Truly value valuing your your fucks or somebody that asked in the audience. Um, I don't know what do you say it was max I'm sure you can recall it and to be honest. I think that quote that you gave is actually going to go viral Yeah, you said can you share it again to you? It was well, I can't remember what he said that triggered it But it was something along the lines of you know, how do you know when to manage your fucks or if you're giving fucks Or something that's not fuck-worthy and I'm like, well if you don't value your fucks because my concept is it's like A life bar. So when you play video games, it's like, you know You hit the guy and a little bit comes off and you do a solar plexus flurry and like a big chunk comes off And you keep going until it's zero and then you're dead It's like we have this limited supply of energy in our lives And I consider them fucks to give and you can give fucks to things that are truly fuck worthy or things that are Unfuck worthy. It's your decision to make like you can choose whether or not to continue a conversation with a woman That's a manipulative time waster, but you've already identified. She's a manipulative time waster. No, thanks I'm going to pass I'm going to go mode one over here sort of thing, right? So when I was talking to max in the audience is basically like if you don't value your fucks You're going to give fucks to things that are not fuck worthy. So value your time. Basically is what I'm saying, right? Now moving I know you you love chicken wings everything else Is there a marinade or some other food element trying to keep with that general theme of fast cars loose women and good food Oh, I love food. I mean, you know, I eat all kinds of food You know, I don't know what you want to talk about like, you know vegetarianism veganism I it's gonna sound stupid. I I love mexican food And so I have different classifications of it, you know, and I there's there's there's difference between a You know taco truck, you know that you come to have a great taco truck as opposed to local dive You know, I I'm one of my favorites is like a taco guy plays and then I even have like a you know I will crave taco bell. I know it's terrible My absolute sin is jack-in-the-box 99 cents three for a buck. Oh, I just eat those It's the shittiest food, I know I can't get them out here and anytime I fly to colorado Jones and for the shit. I've got you know, because I live in canada So I've got certain fast food chains that are available and taco bell I get it like fry supreme was my go-to shit when I was younger I get high go for a drive get fry supreme eat that shit in my car get another one, right? So Um You know, I kind of look at my body as this is this is my vessel. This is the shit that I'm going to die in Right, I can't I can't go to some store next week because something's not working That's why you have the body you do as opposed to yeah Well, you know, you make choices every day Like he makes choices so to why and everybody else like, you know, you choose to You know, I talked about in my talk, you know, you can drink water or you can drink coke Right, you know One's, you know natural well for the most part unless you take it out of the tap and we can get in feminism and how Feminism infiltrated in a minute, but you know, you've got the choice to choose, right? And I said there's always a direct correlation between what's in somebody's shopping cart and what they look like So if you walk around life intentionally about the shit you put in your body You can't perform like a high performance vehicle like a Ferrari if you're putting shit in your engine right Roger tell us about your writing that was the one subject we didn't get before you would talk about women and food Car preference style I I can't say I'm on coupe slow at all. You know, I would love to have a lamborghini in my garage Right now. I actually of all things I drive a nesad ultima You're gonna probably find the shocking up until recently the last five years My main my only former transportation was the best one. I'm 300 pounds six to was a pink. No, no You know, and it was interesting, you know, you know you're on this and this town actually has a thing for many rides You know just that you know to crotch rockets and a whole bunch of stuff And I would go around and I could get more ass on that best But I actually was pulling a couple of chicks off guys bikes as you pull up And they did my kid they'd gun the engine whatever and I'd look at And I go hop on but I but I but I just do you speak Italian? And then of course the guys are like whatever fucking like, you know, I'm like I wasn't talking Yeah, I'm looking at her you want to do you know Italian the girls like no I get you want to learn and she just literally got off and got on Not a smooth move unless you can roll out. There was no way I was going to out raise these guys Especially our way and overload the best but but you know, you talk about the style and adapting your style and approach and personality to the vehicle You know, it definitely wasn't high end, but as far as like scooter culture goes You aren't going to get much higher end than a vest about that. Yeah, I use you just that thing as like a utility truck So yeah, it's kind of my involvement vehicles, but okay good times so Now you guys are coming from two distinct backgrounds, but again, we're talking about being successful males Expressing our masculinity and projecting our reality out in our lives Can you talk to a little bit about that? yeah, I think uh I'm not going to go into a long-winded segue about how feminism is affecting society, but I think a lot of men are scared to be men And as relates to what I do, I find that a lot of men feel almost an obligation to apologize for their sexuality suppress it For the sake of not being offensive You know now it's like if you acknowledge that you're a sexual A heterosexual man who likes sex They call you toxic max toxic masculinity and that to me that's just total bullshit. I mean it's Our sex drive is in our DNA and You got some people out here They try to intellectualize sex And and and they're painting a picture that a lot of men are predators But we're not, you know, we just we just our sexuality it is I know it's cliche now to say it is what it is, but it is what it is and so my thing is If you a man about your shit, you're not going to allow society to influence you to have to feel like you got to suppress And basically neuter yourself and emasculate yourself. I'm like fuck that you know Any woman who tries to like I got guys that are scared to even bring sex up in a In a conversation in a restaurant because they scare they might get kicked out. Right. Yeah been overheard being seen for Yeah, quote inappropriate behavior And I'm like unless a any public venue has some kind of conspicuous sign that says Sexually provocative conversations are not allowed here Then that's not illegal, you know Here's here's the key thing women and this relates to my concept of the manipulative time waster If a woman is not interested in having sex with you, what does she have the choice to say? I'm not interested period But a lot of women don't want to do that. Why? Because A lot of women out here will meet men that they're not interested in being intimate with But speaking of cars that guy has a nice car They get the sense that this guy is financially generous if nothing else. He's just very Flattering entertaining and emotionally empathetic, so they don't want to reject that guy They don't want to tell that guy they're not interested So they string them along and they might say little things like oh one day Larry you might get lucky with me One day and if Larry's really naive he's thinking yeah Yeah, she's just playing hard again. She's a challenge So i'm gonna keep helping her lift these heavy boxes in her in her house And if she needs to move i'm gonna help her move and when she needs a vacuum cleaner I'm gonna help everybody heavy boxes. It's let me take you away for a weekend and fucking aspen sort of thing Right like they do some weird shit. I tell guys all the time You know because a lot of the coaching that I do with guys who's when they're asking questions about women It's like yeah, like women know inherently that they're sex objects. They know. Yeah, okay The thing that both sexes don't know quite often Is that men are success success objects to women? Right? So if you signal You know these cues out to them By your actions by your words by the things you surround yourself the people you surround yourself with the events You go to even the social shit you see when people are posting on on phones and things like that They're gonna know right and as soon as you have these manipulative time wasters that are like You know, they're not gonna fuck or she doesn't want to fuck him like she's not physically attracted to him But because he has money because of hypergamy right she's gonna string him along and be like Maybe I will go shopping with him because he invited me to ask him for the weekend or some shit like that Oh, I mean now see I was criticizing women a minute ago, but here's why I criticized a lot of guys that interface with You got a lot of guys. Well, that's what you just said. They'll say to me. Oh, Ellen There's so many gold diggers out here. I'm tired of meeting gold diggers And then the same breath. They like man I can't wait to upgrade from a portion 9 11 to a convertible Bentley or I just bought a Rolex watch and I'm like What do you think you're going to track if if you're trying to make your material possessions your game What do you think you're going to track? You know and I tell man you you shouldn't rely on that all the material should that should be your own frosted on the cake But if you if you if you're a soul and specific motivation for accumulating certain material items Is just to pull women but you have no confidence In you as a man Then all you're going to do is have women use you and exploit you and then throw you away like yesterday's tissue And then these man just start bitching about it But yeah another thing when I lived in los angeles whenever sometimes I was in between jobs I would do what's called temp assignments And I was pursuing a career in the entertainment industry before I started doing the dating coaching thing So I worked in some departments at paramount studios 20th century fox These major movie studios and they would have me in these departments sometimes with almost all women And that's when I really solidified my concept of the manipulative time wasted because these women I guarantee if you would listen to me you guys want to just start cringing on how Little respect they have for they were like Classic example a woman would come in after lunch and say hey, Amber. How was your lunch? Oh, Linda and mine was great Hey, you remember that nerdy guy Henry. Do you know he's now paying half my mortgage every month? It would be like what? What the fuck? It would be to care. They say I haven't even tongue-kissed him yet. Yeah, yeah Oh and giving you know, you know, we're right now. We're in orlando, florida It is the biggest site for sugar daddies or sugar babies In the nation. I believe it. I mean it is straight up negotiation You know and the illusion is you're exchanging values and quote dates and everything else But you just have to provide the illusion to it and it is amazing how much traffic is being generated I don't get that like like like what are your thoughts on that like when I see these women that are like, you know I want to exchange my youth sex and beauty 22 year old. Let's say 40 something year old guy like me says I want an allowance I look at that equation like I look at that transaction like you should be paying me for you know for the shit that I bring to the table Right, it's mindset. Most of the guys don't have that it's amazing You know for example, I in my talk I broke kind of broke it down the third category was provision You know when you talk about status wealth power fame, you know All those people who have achieved success have been cheated on But guys that had were physically fit and had the ability to you know directly entice Arousal as you know and sexuality and then execute on it And so you see that you don't usually see it the other way around You know a whole lot, you know, you can if they have it the other guys have part of that as well But it's it's remarkable seeing high status quote high status males That don't have self-esteem and don't know how the villager skills to actually speak for themselves In a in a positive way and not be taken advantage. You know the smart ones do I've seen a couple of my friends do this. I've got a friend of mine. He's got a Bentley Okay, he doesn't drive it for dates for the first few dates, right? He either takes an uber or he borrows a friend's car. That's like just basic I face in my own life where I stop telling people I was an architect. What do you do for 11? I just pay the bills I don't want to talk about my day job. It's not really that exciting. It's really mundane I definitely stopped taking him to the house now initially. It was great You know, you know, there's one of those things I just get a split of champagne start open I've never seen a woman, you know going back to the house just Put the champagne out and let the house sell itself Problem is is that you're drawing the wrong people. They weren't necessarily attracted to me everything else So I had to learn as a bigger guy to spot the visual cues of attraction that there were certain women that wanted a bigger guy that You know, I had that, you know, large, you know Toss them around but then still curl up with them, you know, so you had to find that vibe Now the problem is I wasn't always necessarily attracted to that So you had to kind of work your market, uh, but deal with that But it was something I had to do but it was up to me to sit down and say no, you know, I'm not doing this You know, I'm not paying for dinner It was not uncommon to see dating sites, for example Where you'd have women lists like if you want my attention, I'll respond in 24 hours if you promise to take me And my children Because I'm the whole package It was like it was stunning, you know, it's like sixes and sevens that think that you know that there are tens and elevens all day long It's not stunning. Yeah, absolutely So have you seen how much of that you see up in canada house canada, you know the market up there Well, I live in the third biggest city in north america, right? It's new york la toronto then i think chicago or something like that Or maybe miami, I don't know So it's it's yeah, it's it's happening. Yeah. Yeah, like there's you know, you get the sugar babies You get the I don't look it for allowance. You get the you know hypergamy strong as fucking in toronto very liberal left leaning But that's where a strong masculine virtuous male stands out in a crowd of a bunch of fucking pussy beta orbiters Right that like we'll pick up the boxes and move the shit and let me fix your car and even oil change And yeah, let me take care of your kids while you go out like by like the second or third date It's like guys, you know Do it, you know what keep doing it because you know for guys like me You're just creating my value that's level up sort of thing, right? Yeah, personally, for example, I I had problems with that you know toxic individuals coming into my life And it wasn't so much just getting rid of them Particularly with women you have that kind of attraction now maybe physically attracted or I was by a woman But if she was a liberal bent, I just became like the that was a non-saturday night Seinfeld episode the soup nazi I became the cock nazi and I said no cock for you, you know and just you know deny them the cock No, and it was amazing how much drama just left my life when that happened, you know But at the same time I also had to take pride in if I was going home alone after a night with the guys No, I just avoided a shitload of problems, you know in the military, you know You don't hear the round that doesn't hit you, you know And so you know you kind of take pride in that and you know all these sort of things that you had to Slowly discover and it was horrible But you know to be able to have gentlemen like yourselves be able to convey that information Either directly through you know your websites or you know the videos I've found to be just a tremendous asset to a lot of the men that come into the convention A lot of guys I find will just they'll just pander to it. They'll just fucking you know And they go through life miserable, right? Like they it's like, you know the woman that you know Well, you can't be a trump supporter or you know something like that or I won't date you if you meet Give you a good example How does woman over cooking breakfast make you know, uh eggs bacon home fries and shit eat that We got on the topic of Bucket list, okay, she's like, oh you got a bucket list. Yeah, you know, here's my bucket list I'll show you two sort of things she goes. Oh, you can't do number 17 Right, and I'm like, well, what does 17 say, you know, because I forgot she's like, oh, you can't do number 17 I'm like, okay. What does 17 say it just remind me? She's like, oh, it says, you know hunt a large animal in North America and harvest it and eat it. I'm like So yeah, right. She's like, well, you can't do that. That's cruelty to animals. I'm like, we just ate bacon and eggs, bitch Where the fuck did you think that came from? I'm like, we're done here. I'm like, I'm not going to have you tell me what I can't do in my life on a bucket list Yeah, because that was active negotiation. That was over active negotiations. Right, but a lot of guys be like, okay It's fine, you know, because the pussy's good or something or it's the first time I've had it in eight months It's like go away Ellen, have you ever faced that? Well, it's funny. He mentioned coot mentioned pandering See one of the things I tell guys so many guys They feel like the the the the end justifies the means and specifically When a guy is just all about getting laid Which I think is a great objective, but also emphasize how you go about getting laid so Give an extreme example. There's some guys that if a woman was to say, okay, I'm gonna get you to pussy But first you got to tell me that you're my bitch. You got to kiss my high heels shoes And kiss the rings on my hand There's a lot of guys these these these beta males that'll do that shit And then they'll go to buddies and say hey, at least I got laid But I'm like, how do you feel about yourself? Right, you know, just being a pussy like that Like I had a guy I used to do a this podcast on blog talk radio And this guy was trying to challenge me about direct. He was like, Alan, you know, you're too direct, man You know, I'm more I'm more of a finesse guy. I finesse with women And when I asked him more specific questions, he ended up revealing that he was just basically a pussy and I said He here's where he let the cat out the back. He said Alan after fucking the women you thought Don't you like kind of get depressed later on? I said, no, never Why would I get depressed? I said, obviously you you feel depressed. He said, well, I thought all guys do and I said, you know why you do Because you're not being a man about your shit. You're playing up to these women You you're playing up to their egos. You're supplicating to them and they're giving you what I refer to as charity pussy And that's why you depressed because you realize you really don't have no ball That's funny on the show. He'd be heavenly denied that. He said, no, you know, you you try to use shaming language with me And blah blah blah blah And sure enough by three days later, he wrote me an email He said, okay, Alan, I gotta confess You were right He said I didn't I didn't I wasn't man enough to admit it on live the live podcast but He said when I thought about everything he said that is the truth. He said, you know, I've I've been letting women even the women I've Been able to fuck They were just basically punking me Treat me like I was their cuckold And he said that left me depressed And he says so he said, you know, listening to you was actually kind of therapeutic And he actually ended up thanking me So, yeah, man, um That's a function of men not being men anymore, right? Like that's a function of of men Growing up in single mother households. It's a function of men listening to school university college professors bang on about You know feminism and blah blah blah blah blah and all this sort of stuff and they start to like, you know They watch tv shows where every fucking guy in a tv show is a bumbling idiot, right? When was that time we saw a television show? I think last one we saw was tim the tool man taylor Right, even that his wife would still try to take him down. Not just down, right? The funds was like, you know, the last real alpha male that we saw on tv Yeah, you know, it's funny because uh, I'm a big movie buff and to a lesser extent tell me but I tell guys All the time like on my youtube I say, you know, I don't hardly watch tv anymore And um, matter of fact when I was pursuing a career in the entertainment industry That was one of my big issues. I was I was It was kind of almost contradictory the industry I was trying to pursue a career and I was very critical of because I felt like they were Sending out these images to masculine man because like every time I pitched a script Was known as a spec script in the industry. That's when you write a script and you just try to pitch it to various film production companies The number one criticism I always get when I was doing a pitch guys say hey, Alan, you know You got some interesting characters here, but I gotta tell you the women are not going to like this the female audience will have an adverse reaction to this script And I'd be like, uh, so They was like, you don't understand business. That's our biggest consumer Is is women and and children and teenagers. That's who we have to play up to and I would tell them straight forward I said, that's the problem though You you you've given guys these messages that being this weak no backbone Type guys is you're normalizing it So just to kind of like, you know touch on that a bit televisions completely like that, absolutely And then you get into the movie theaters And then I don't know let's use a recent example like a fasten furious where Dwayne the rock johnson is thrown in jail And he says to jason statham across Intently I'm gonna beat on your ass like a Cherokee fucking drunk And he pounds the shit out of everybody in the jail in the jail women get wet when they watch that But they want to pretend like they don't like that. Yeah, you know, I don't like violence And you know, we should hold hands and sing kumbaya and shit and not kill animals And it's like, you know, like there's a place in the world for masculine energy And you know, they keep trying to bring it down as long as you rise up as a man Right and demonstrate who you are and you're worth You're gonna stand out. I got some Now this is me plugging somebody else's book other than one of my books, but There's a guy named daniel burton who wrote this book called what do women want and you guys for me with that book It's a very interesting book. It actually ends up co-signing and validating a lot of my assertions Which is why I love it. But one in particularly He kind of tagged along with a lot of sexologists who conducted various surveys accumulated research data One interesting experiment they they do in there is called the wet. He nicknames of that thing the wet meter Here's an interesting thing They attached some device to women's panties And if if they they were to get wet the pussy was to get wet by either a photographic image or a video image It went over that in sex at dawn too. Yeah, it would start beeping and In simple terms, here's what happened. They showed women like photos of very like nice guy types or videos of guys behaving just like the polite gentleman And women would say positive things like oh, see he seems like a really sweet guy He seems like the type of guy. I was married. There was no beeps Then when they showed guys essentially being real men Being a little rough around the edges women saw that guy. He seems like a jerk. He's a player. He's an asshole. He's a player So they were criticizing these guys but then that beep beep beep that pussy was getting wet And women try to fool themselves so many times in the geek going backs actually He's the original question about women how to direct effects women. That's the thing I've had women When I'm real direct they'll be saying to me, you know, he's such an asshole I can't believe you're talking to me that way and I but I see that tongue come out I see their legs Fidgeting and I don't know. I said I get this one. Yeah, you don't have a rousal without tension So if it's not naturally there based on your general presence, you know, it's almost like in real estate I know you've got a real estate background. You can force appreciation by improving the place You can force that a rousal by creating tension and I think going direct it does just that Gross on the state. Yes. Yes indeed for sure for sure and yeah that that conventional I'm trying to be mr. Nice guy in this conversation with you and I'm curious cool. Do you get when you go out the single wives? I'm sure you probably get just all kinds of blow back do do the women come to your chateau and try to Not really. Oh, I've had I've had some that have that have watched my stuff And while they want to condemn it there's a lot of Yeah, but You know, stop talking about shit like that. People shouldn't know about it. Whatever it's like, I'm gonna I'm gonna keep talking about I'm not shutting up. I'm gonna talk louder about it. Right so it's I don't let other people's views opinions like, you know, women always try to encourage you to go in a Different direction like they want the alpha, you know, the thing that I've noticed I love to hear your view on this You know, they want the alpha. They want the strong virtuous male Guy and then they try to pacify him at some point and try to bring him down a few notches They want to soften his ass up and I think it's because I don't know who said it might have been rolling in his books. He said, you know Women want to be with men that other women want to fuck and other men want to be Right. So it's as simple as that. So, you know They they want to know that you have options, but they don't want you to exercise the option So they think that by taking you down a few notches stops you from exercising those options Oh, I totally agree. My face, you know at this very convention I spoke with at least two guys Who were in situations? I want to say both of them are now either going through a divorce or they've already been divorced And they were saying that allen I think the biggest mistake I made was They said I felt like I was fairly alpha While I was dating this woman while we were engaged But then once we got married I essentially allowed my wife to transform me Into a beta male And then they they lost it. They started giving me shit They started, you know Denying me sex And now we're divorced and I said I told them I said women And they will never stop challenging me Like one book. I'm a Fan of there's this legendary street pip of all things. His name is right. His real name is Robert Beck He goes by the street named iceberg slim And he wrote this book It All the brothers know iceberg slim man He's probably one of the most well-known not the most well-known They had to do the showtime doc on him But yeah, one of the things among other things words of wisdom in his book. That's one of his big things. He says He says basically I'm a pimp And a lot of guys think because I'm a pimp all my stable holds are always going to submit to me He said no, he said women will always challenge you He said it could be as infrequently as two to three times a year It was frequently as two or three times a week But he said women are always going to challenge you to see If your backbone is still strong And that you're a man who they want to submit to and follow their lead because he said once You can in other in so many words he was saying you could be strong have strong backbone in 2014 2015 2016 But if in 2017 you start showing weakness you start allowing them to punk you They'll say themselves. Well, I can no longer follow his lead. I'm start treating him like a punk I'm start treating him like a bitch And that's when they get bored and filed for divorce. Yeah, and that's exactly they try to fill the void They grab the wheel the the bus You know, it was interesting Um, I listen to janitor because it plays out in music too and there's a thing You know, there's one particular song where it's like you're not you're you ain't no man unless you have a hand You know and being able to have a hand not necessarily physical violence But you just sit down and say there's limits, you know, and you're going to enforce those limits I'm gonna you know and that that kind of sense of dread and if there's kind of this erotic appeal To pushing the limits and seeing how we're creating that tension To be able to then have the sexual release to kind of stabilize it again And you see that played out not only in in icebergs icebergs But you know literally to that and then you also see it also in the music as well, you know So it's it was ingrained in that culture, you know and that we you look at the music today And it's none none of that, you know, if you look at, you know nightlight culture You have the wall, you know the skyline of booze bottles Of different flavored vodka Men don't drink fucking, you know, whipped cream flavored fucking vodka. Why the hell would you do that? You know, you know or or you know cupcake or any Stuff, you know, and you also see in the rates of alcoholism with, you know, spinster, you know, women You know where they don't have relationships. They don't have men in their life, you know You know to kind of talk to that for a second. Yeah, I'm absolutely shocked by the number of single mothers That guzzle wine like it's going out of fucking style. Yeah, like It's just constantly filled beyond like shit. I've ever seen before right like drunk That's like, oh, I'm just being fabulous with my friends It's like no, you're being a drunk bunch of whores lying on whatever it is that you're on taking Pictures like you're pretending you're a 10 when you're like a four and it just it just drives me I'm just like are you looking at this shit? Like I can't believe the stuff that they're doing and it's like what what Two things I talk about my latest with the cat collections Yeah My latest book that came out last year in 2016 is called the beta male revolution And this relates to why I asked you about blowback from single mom Generally, I try to stay away from what I feel are maybe broad generalizations But I basically assert that the vast majority of beta males Come from single mother households. Oh, yeah, there's no strong male presence there and So all their social programming As they grow up it centers around the women's should be put on a pedestal They should be played up to and I notice all the guys who try to challenge my stuff That's one of the first questions I asked them. I said, what's that household? Did you bring and now almost always say a single mother household? And then they have an unplugging right like I talk about it in a bunch of my videos and I don't directly Create content to disparage or hammer the crap out of single moms because there's a whole bunch of stuff that kind of like Creates that but there's guys that will come out of the woodwork and they'll be like I'm 19 years old raising a house with single mom. I'm plugging right now. I can't believe how fucked up I am I don't know how to function in society. I was led to believe all this stuff is true When now I'm seeing this bullshit, you know, and then they're like asking me for help and coaching You know, I've like like how to become asking like how do I did it like next step sort of thing, right? And you're right. I mean, you know vast majority of the incarcerated come from single mother households You know, like the stats are off the freaking chart, you know Girls have teenage pregnancies with higher levels of similar mother households kids drop out of school similar mother households Boys and gang activities single mother households You go on and on and on all the way down the list and it's a proven fact that children function And become contributing members of society Far better into a higher degree when they have both feminine energy and masculine energy in their lives The absence of it. Yeah, and the absence of it women try to you know Like you see them proudly declaring on father's day. Well, I do the job of a man and a woman and you know, it's like fuck off, man You don't know what you're talking like come on. I hate that shit I mean if guys were to go on social media and go happy mother's day I do the job of a man and woman women lose their shit. Yeah, exactly. You need to have a movement to do just that Just just a little crazy Yeah And another issue you mentioned the terms actually spencer Oh, yeah, I just wrote a freelance column. Well, I got a lot of blowback from women But it's based on statistical fact. There are more Never been married women over the age of 35 in society right now than at any point in US history And this is where I made a quick point in my presentation, but I knew I didn't have time to elaborate on it. But when I said feminism Has had a lot of unexpected repercussions and consequences for women's falls in that category Watch what you pray for because you just might get it because look at our society pre feminism When you had a bunch of men strong in homes and the man dictated who his daughter dated and Like my mother and her two sisters They didn't even think about engaging in premarital sex or casual sex because they they all said my grandfather would have disowned them That was like They didn't even think twice about the cultural backup. You have a family backup. You have you have something You know, but then feminism these women said these are bodies. We should be able to fuck who we want to fuck And that's why I tell men the ones who feel somewhat guilty for for wanting to pursue casual sex Women essentially ask for that. They said we want to be able to fuck outside the context of marriage We want to be able to fuck without our father's approval. We want to be able to Fuck other women if we want we want to be able to do all this shit and when society said, okay Guess what happened one of the things that happened is now you got fucking dump culture That ain't man's fault. That's that's women who essentially ask for that Shit And so what's happening with a lot of women into the comic you made earlier coop about uh talking about the sugar babies And they basically just wanted to sell their companionship while they're young This is what's happening with a lot of women guys are fucking them when they're hot and young But once they reach about 35 36 37 These women say, okay now I want to get married and the guys are like, oh No, no, surely you just yeah And they're out here bitching about what what will mean? Why do me and ignores women who are like 40 years of age and older because you When you were young you should have been trying to snag a fucking husband. That's what you should have been doing Right in the cocks their carousel and totally hit the wall. Hey guys hate to do this We're gonna have to wrap it up. Okay. It's been absolutely blast Thank you so much. Where can they find you and what products and services do you have available that you can get? All right. Well, first of all, thank you for being such a great moderator sacrates And uh, I respect both of you gentlemen highly People can find my books on amazon.com have ebooks paper bags and audio books as well as a division of amazon called audible.com have four audiobooks My main website is direct Approach dating as one word direct approach dating dot com fantastic Richard what's the best way to get a hold of you? Yeah, so I'm more of a youtuber right now I haven't kind of put out any book content yet But you can find all my shit for free on youtube and entrepreneurs and cars On youtube more active on instagram than I am on facebook or anything, but you'll find entrepreneurs and cars there I also offer coaching to guys that are stuck on something in their life Whether it's navigating a divorce understanding what's going on with female dynamics in nature and even business coaching because i'm an entrepreneur Also, that's on a platform called clarity.fm forward slash Richard cooper. Fantastic. Thank you for joining us This is sarcastically signing up with 21 21 radio. Thanks a lot for joining us This is mike with the 21 report and behind the scenes in orlando, florida for the 21 convention 2017 10-year anniversary event Sitting alongside alan roger curry alan welcome to the show. Thank you for having me mike It's been a pleasure having you here this year alan This is your first ever event and we are so happy to have you here Before we get into some questions I was wondering if you could give everyone a quick overview of your talk and why you chose to talk about it Well, my talk mainly centered on My first book which is called mode one Actually interesting enough have two subtitles. My original subtitle was mode one. Let the women know what you're really thinking But now I have an updated version called mode one Whisper into a woman's ear. What is really on your mind? in the gist of this book Is encouraging men to employ more of a upfront highly self-assured straight to the point verbal communication style And I outlined four modes of verbal communication in that book Which is mode one mode two mode three and mode four. I'll give you a quick gist of each I just actually mentioned mode one. That's that's when you whatever your desires interests and intentions are You let them know until you let it be known to a woman in a manner that's very upfront to the point Mode two is a more cautious more polite Well-mattered way of expressing your desires and interests to a woman Mode three. That's when you either keep your desires and interests totally to yourself You don't basically you don't approach women at all Or if you approach them you just have a conversation that's full of what I would like to refer to as trivial small talk And mode four is when you have undertones of bitterness Resentment and even misogyny towards a woman while you're communicating with her So that's I guess mainly what you do with clients is you try and get them from mode Four to one or three to one or two to one exactly. That's exactly what I do So in your talk you mentioned something That you called the breakthrough moment The breakthrough moment that guys have when they work with you Can you talk to that and explain what you mean by it? Yeah, I think not only as it relates to verbal communication But I think in in various aspects of life, whether it be your career dealing with friends dealing with women We all have a certain degree of fears and egotistical insecurities That are going to be Probably to the day where six feet under are going to provide challenges for us But what I refer to as a breakthrough Is when you're able to conquer a long-standing fear that was in your head Or conquer a long-standing egotistical insecurity That was in your head or it could be something simple as you weren't As motivated to achieve this goal or this objective And all of a sudden you developed a powerful sense of motivation like to finish college I would call that a motivational related breakthrough Others I would consider a confidence and or manly backbone breakthrough So in my presentation, I highlighted some fictional characters From certain movies that I felt had a Manly backbone breakthrough one would be the fictional character of George McFly From the popular movie back to the future. He was this very wimpy guy Who allowed this bully of a guy named Biff to always just bully him But towards the end of the movie finally stood up for himself And when they went back to present day You saw that his whole lifestyle Was totally different because of that breakthrough Because if he continued to live this wimpy life where he let people just step all over him His life well, he wouldn't honestly had the life of a loser But he did So you talked about having a backbone as a man What's the quickest way to get there? How can a man develop his backbone? Is it something to develop over time or is it as you said it's like a breakthrough? Yeah, I think it definitely happens over a period of time It could be a period of weeks. It could be a period of months. It could be a period of years I was saying in some cases it could be a period of decades but um I think the step number one to develop a backbone Is to allow other people's expectations of you and opinions of you and criticisms of you to remain in their head instead of yours I think there's too many people Particularly guys who walk around Well What is this person thinking me? What is that person thinking me? Well, if I say this this way, I ain't gonna have a negative reaction to it If I do this I ain't gonna have something to say Just let them have whatever thoughts they're gonna have And you decide You ask yourself, who do I want to be as a man? Who do I want to be as a man? And once you answer that question for yourself, you move forward in life with that choice And if you happen to get negative blowback from it So it just let it happen. So be it. Yeah, awesome. So Alan a lot of your work seems to be around Approaching women I'm curious to know what is your thoughts on relationships That's a good question. I get that's that here and there. Yeah um A lot of it is the same. I think Once you enter into a relationship Matter of fact, I'm glad you asked that question because I've talked to two guys since I've been in this convention And one comment they made they said like one guy I was at dinner with he said Alan Sadly, he's about to he's in the process of getting divorced But he said the mistake I made was thinking and once I got married I could just go on automatic pilot And that my wife it was just a foregone conclusion that she would always respect me as a man But he said you got to always be on top of your game. I said, that's true So one lesson I would have for man particularly related to a lot of themes of this conference A lot of talk about manhood masculinity You can't start off being an alpha male and then going to a long-term relationship or Marriage saying okay, well now I can let my guard down to be a better male No, a woman will lose respect for you a woman needs to know that she can follow your lead That's very important for women. They need to know that they can follow your lead And if you show them any behavior that suggests That your lead is not worth being followed. They lose respect for you So that applies both single men and men in long-term relationships So Alan this was your first time speaking at the 21 convention. I've got to ask What what's your thoughts about the convention? How has the experience been so far? Totally exceeded my expectations totally and Yeah, I didn't know honestly what to expect I've had some experiences with other you know More specifically just dating relationships oriented events They had their strengths. They had their weaknesses But I just didn't know what to expect and number one. I was extremely impressed when I learned I never knew that anthony was that young Yeah, so the fact that he's got this ball rolling when he was 17 just blew my mind away And the diversity of the attendees really impressed me And I've been hearing so many stories shared not only just in terms of race and ethnicity But in terms of socioeconomic background geographically And it's so well organized and the speakers are so powerful Like again, I don't want to disparage any other speaking event But there's some speaking events where it had its percentage of good speakers But that isn't just speakers where I shake my head like why is this guy even speaking? Nobody has provoked that reaction For me at this conference. I've listened attentively to every speaker And they all had great knowledge wisdom and insight to share with the audience That's great to hear Alan Um before we wrap this up If people want to learn more about you, where's the best place they can go? The best place would be www that direct approach Dating as one word direct approach dating.com. That's my main website I have another website for women and couples called mode one net m o d e o any net forward slash training And finally you can find my books on amazon.com I have a biography a biography on wikipedia.org And I'm on just about all the social media facebook twitter The rest you too awesome brilliant So with that you can get first access to Alan's talk On 21 university.com or you can click in the link below this video Alan thanks again for being here. Thank you back so much being great having you This has been mike with alan roger curry signing off for the 21 report. 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