 Do you feel that spiritual men are better in bed than somebody who's not Necessarily a spiritual guy who's maybe science-based What's going on everybody I am popping in to let you know that this video is sponsored by Squarespace from websites to online stores to marketing tools and analytics Squarespace is the all-in-one platform to build a powerful Beautiful online presence today and run that business you've been wanting to start So if you haven't checked them out go over to Squarespace comm slash shan booty and start playing around for free And when you're ready to launch just go to Squarespace comm slash shan booty and give that business a shot Now back to the video. What's going on? What up my god, dude? It's always it puts a smile on my face every time I see you, you know like you I was talking to Shan you know the other day when we went to Turks and Caicos and I had watched the season when I didn't go right? I had watched the season I was like, yo, this guy is cool like this guy's dope because it's Wild for me to say that because usually I'm so I'm like repelled from people who are super spiritual, you know, like there's a part of me That's like, oh, we probably wouldn't connect or there's a part of me That's like, oh, you know what like I'm not really into those things So we might not be able to get it get along but then when I was watching you on the show on too hot to handle I was like this guy's cool like this guy's dope. And so when we went out there the second time I was like telling her like I can't wait to meet really I'm super hyped to hang out with him and stuff and and She was like, yeah, he's like really cool And I thought it was crazy for her to say that because she's the same as me when it comes to that So I was like, oh, I already know we're gonna be cool. So yeah, it was just something that I thought of I have a question for you that I think This audience would would love to know And I could be barking up the wrong tree here, but Do you feel that spiritual men are better in bed than somebody who's not Necessarily a spiritual guy who's maybe science-based. Mmm. I Definitely have a bias towards this Spiritual man, but I wouldn't say like as a full-on term Spiritual men and like generalizing it I would say men who are aware and to work on themselves are better lovers in the bed Oh, yeah, like in that kind of way and if you call that spirituality, then that's what spirituality because for me It's like me knowing myself deeper. Yeah, absolutely makes me a better fucking lover in the bed Yeah, it does it has to be yeah, I can't go the other way. Yeah, you know Or could you go selfish like I know myself so well, I only get off this way. We're only doing this Another buzzword it comes another thing. Yeah, it's like I feel like if we're gonna use your terminology are spiritual and better lovers Yeah, I would say yes. Yeah, I I agree with you I agree with you 1,000% because I was thinking about this the other day Because I knew you was coming over and I knew I ultimately wanted to talk to you about How to be a better lover in the bedroom hence this audience really mainly because I feel like they're so interested in sex Relationship and intimacy, so I wanted to bring in how do we talk about spirits or spiritual world in those veins, right and I was thinking to myself our spiritual men better at sex then Somebody who's not into that type of world, right and I instantly went to yes But then I was like oh wait, wait a minute Somebody who studies the anatomy and is very science-based and knows what spots to hit and knows where to go You know, would they be better? Maybe because they have more tools Then I thought to myself do I think that I'm a good lover and I would say yes I mean it might be conceded, but I think I think I am I think I'm a really good lover And I try to think what makes me a really good lover because I at the time don't consider myself a very spiritual guy and then I was thinking about all the things that made me good, you know I think about connection. I think about, you know Being present and doing things in the moment. I think about, you know Being able to be intuitive and and listening and and all those things all those phrases that I think of Sound very spirit-based. That's actually tantric. Yeah Yeah, exactly. So and I think about moves that I do that I think are you know Haymakers or should I say, you know, I used to do this thing where If I'm like in missionary like I'll take my hands like my my hands and I'll put them around shans like Forehead temple area and I'll grip her head and I'll look into her eyes And then in my mind as we're having sex. I'm thinking about like The center of my palms Sending every loving thing that I think about shan into her brain. Mm-hmm. If you're science-based That you wouldn't do that. Yeah, that's not something you would do, right? You know what I mean? And that and I was thinking myself like that's very spiritual. Yeah Maybe I am a spiritual guy. No, you actually you know what I mean? You actually are Yeah, I think it's too with some and I we've we've chatted about this many times You know, yeah, and it's for me personally in my life where I'm at today I I have beautiful Experienced with people who are connected to their heart. Mm-hmm. Anybody who's connected to their heart to me is a spiritual person Yeah, so I feel you are even when we're on the island and I'm saying and like we had them mushroom chocolates Yeah, I'm saying like you went out to the ocean and swam all day. Yeah, you're connected Yeah, so you are that but that experience that you're talking about like that to me That is a spiritual experience because in society too with when it comes to men We're taught about penetrative sex. Yeah, and this is We start porn from a young age and we just see the Yeah, it's you know, very simple. Yeah, yeah, that whole thing Yeah, there's actually no connection if you actually hear a lot of the actors and actresses That's they are in the porn industry like most of the women say this is actually not comfortable Positions aren't comfortable. I have a couple friends who are in the industry and they say a lot of those positions Are for the camera only. Yeah, it's just so the best visual best visual But is it having like a beautiful euphoric intimate experience where they orgasm just from you you put in their hand in their head Yeah, absolutely not. Yeah, so interesting because yeah, like I think about some of my earliest earliest Experiences with sex was definitely derived from porn. Yeah, everything that I learned was from porn now I Got a little bit lucky because like the porn categories that I were into Were you know, I didn't really have much access so like I would be finding things on you know The TV channels that were like HBO late at night or something like that and all those things are central So like I got lucky that I came into having sex being very central and slow and things like that But I really think back to you know When I got what Shan and I remember one thing she said to me was like when I had sex with you You're when I looked at your face as you were having sex with me. You looked like a painter you look like you were so focused on My body and you were so focused on Trying to learn it and figuring out what it likes and what it wanted to do that it didn't feel like The positions that we got into were rehearsed. It didn't feel like the times that we had sex was like a dance count It felt like you were in the moment in moving with me as like a dance and so for me. I think that spiritual men have Way better sex. I Firmly believe spiritual men make love in a different way. Yeah, and because those cues like those things It's like that like that's the foreplay. Yeah, like this is actually like the thing about like like Tantra and and when we're exploring It's there's no end goal. So let's say you being Picasso and I'm on being a painter It's like a painter really doesn't have like it doesn't have like a finished product in regards to their mind They just start and keep going until they get the feeling. Yeah that we're done Yeah, so when it comes to love making in sex to me, it's the same thing So what I teach my guys in Tantra when they're with a partner, it's that there's there's no end goal Like there's like men we like to tick boxes. Yeah, okay? Blow job. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah now this and then yeah, yeah So we're going into the space fully curious. Yeah open to the moment Yeah, and and even taking a step further even working with guys and I do this myself Yeah, it's there is a difference between orgasm and ejaculation and this is actually a big thing So most men just think biological ejaculation coming. Yeah, is Orgasm it is but you can also separate that based on practices where you can experience those orgasmic moments without releasing your fluid How does that work? I want to learn this So you you can orgasm without ejaculating and then it's possible. It takes work practices to get in that space So when we ejaculate as men, it's actually like a biological thing like we're releasing our muscles Or the best body are coming out of us to go in hopes of procreation. Yeah, so When it comes to Orgasm, it's like another feeling right when you're about to come. Yeah, that feeling that goes up your spine Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, that's the orgasm feeling. So do you stop that's the spot where you can keep Experiencing that feeling how over and over and over again when you're in the space with the lover How do you do this? How do you do this because I like that feeling so That's why I learned it so I mentioned this on the potty would yeah, and Shannon was like first time I ever experienced this feeling was when I was doing breath Work. Yeah, you know, I got to a moment of like minute 26 breathing Yeah And the next thing you know, I was just like my body was convulsing and then like I felt like I thought I literally Come to my pants and I touched myself and it was dry. What I was like Yeah, yeah, and so I was I was already intrigued by there Yeah, and that started my journey on on getting into these practices of being able to separate Ejaculation from orgasm and we can do it just by breath or getting deep into like breath work and let's say there's a practice called edging Yeah, oh, I'm an edger. You're an edger. Yeah, you know what edging is. Yeah, I'm an edger. Oh, yeah I'm that's what I'm into like that's like my kink. I'm an edger. Yeah Do you do it alone as well? No, not so much but when I'm alone. It's a it's like kind of like a Utilitarian like I'm just kind of like getting in and getting out Yeah, yeah, I'm kind of like and I'm in I'm on a mission when I'm alone You know, but if I'm having sex like my preferred way of having sex is getting like I like when Shang gets me so close to coming Then stops. Yes. That's like my preferred and I like to do that over and over again Yeah, until it's actually time for me to release So this is exact you just six so what you just explained This is the practice you can do to literally experience more organ so like you know when you get to that space of like almost coming Yeah, in that moment right there you deep in your breath. Oh deep when your breath in your moment Are you able to still stroke though? Absolutely. Well depends on you as well because let's say it just feels so good You might go over the edge. Yeah, I'm too distracted. I can't breathe right now Yeah, but if you actually breathe it you expand that feeling and you prolong it Yeah, so a lot of times when I'm in that space with with a lover like I'm breathing and I start feeling that feeling I And it doesn't but what if see okay, I have so many questions So for me, bro when I get to that space like I have to completely stop or I'll go for that edge And so you speak you know and if I go like I just imagine myself Okay, let me just focus on breath, but like I'm an audio guy as well Yeah, so like if I'm hearing myself breathe or hear it Like I that will get me there too. So I I don't know if I could be this I don't know if I could do it Because I get like the audio gets me to yeah Yeah, yeah, I'm just like I don't know if I could do it Yeah, so that's why the edging on your own really helps because it actually it helps you be more in control of that situation So doing practices like with your perineum like actual like some male kegels Like we're actually like say like you're driving here and like you're at a red light Yeah, like literally you can have your you can start squeezing your perineum that muscle that's underneath your balls I can't reach area and you just squeezing it squeezing it gently like you're just doing these contractions Yeah, that strengthens the muscle down there because we use that when we hold So if you're about to come you squeeze that part. Yeah, and then it goes back down Okay, yeah, cuz I I did read somewhere when I was younger like how to like make yourself Be able to last longer is like when you go pee to stop your pee Let it go next thing I was gonna share and you can stand on your tippy toes because in Chinese medicine We have our kidneys like there's a spot below so you can stand on your tippy toes as a dude And when you're peeing your own your tippy toes peeing why what is it because dude So it helps to flow of energy more like through the kidney by going down because the kidney spot I say you get a foot reflexology. Yeah, there's a kidney spot there I did you know it going to what you're saying right now. I did read that like men hold their This is a completely size side fact, but men hold their their stress in their feet Yeah, and women hold their stress in their hips So that I was I was on something there, huh? Yeah. Oh A lot of issues come down from from the foot actually Interesting and in regards to love making to what's important because let's say Shan knows you I've been an intimate space so many times She knows when to stop so you don't go over the edge. Yeah, you know why tell her Whoa But I would love to get to that space with her like where I don't even have to say And that's that's actually the tantric piece so like when it comes like tantra massage and other stuff It's like what yourself practicing you come together in the space She gets to know your impulses because let's say even before you got to say it She'd say she'll feel you throbbing in a way that she knows she recognizes. Yeah, because the edging practice alone Why is so important because let's say one is like soft flaccid penis 10 is like super hard You just ejaculated. Yeah. Yeah, so realistically like we want to be between like a six and a seven Okay on that scale to experience this orgasm thing that I'm talking about So it's like and you you it's arbitrary, but you know what's like a six or seven for you Yeah, yeah, you get to that space because I know what an eight feels like once I go to an eight There's no going back. Yeah Yeah, like I can't turn right like I'm here. Yeah, I'm right here right now. Um, okay, and then and then there's there like a, um There was another question I had hold on. Let me think of it. I just had it in my head Oh, okay Have you heard of the term like semen retention? Yes Yeah, do you practice that at all? I do practice semen retention. Yeah, how how Is there a healthy way to do it because I remember I thought about doing it, right? um, I Saw someone speaking about it and he was talking about it as a life force And like the protein and the actual nutrients that are in Semen and and why you would want to keep as much as that as possible And I remember being very intrigued because the way he was talking about it was like Oh that makes sense And I kind of started thinking about it and I was sort of looking up and doing research and then like I saw a stat that was like You're like 50 percent more likely to get a testicular cancer You like risk yourself up and I was like, oh I'm gonna keep coming Keep letting it out. Uh, I want my life force outside of me now But I don't know how true that fact actually was. Um, but yeah, that was what turned me away But now I am I've had a vasectomy. Yeah, so like am I like now unwilling or Unvoluntarily having semen retention happening, right? Absolutely not Your body doesn't know the difference, you know, your body's still like, oh, you just came Like when a dog even a dog is new, their dog so goes in the home sub pillow, you know You're still the body doesn't know any difference. Okay. Okay. It's just you know, you just have an empty cartridge I didn't know. Well, no, I still develop I still Like everything works the same basically what's What I got was like there's clamps On the tubes that the travels through you didn't get the sniff sniff. No, no, I ain't gonna have Yeah, yeah. Yeah. No, no. Well, not even that. I just I just wanted to still Have all my parts, you know So I got the one that was just like there's clamps. Um, and we'll do a full video on the vasectomy But there's clamps that essentially stop the semen from Coming through I still ejaculate, but there's just no swimmers in it. Amazing. Yeah You still have the same feeling and everything is going the same feeling everything yet. No, nothing has changed. There's just literally Where the the actual swimmers come through or he's like it's like blocked So Am I technology am I am I am I keeping my life for us and actually the doctor told me That back in the day Warriors would do this technique When they went to war Yeah, because they believed that it made them stronger. Wait, so seamer attention Well, no, they got the the clamps the clamps. Ah, yeah, and he said that they believed that um I don't know if it was clamps, but they got a vasectomy in some some capacity But they believed that going to war It would make them stronger because now they're not ejaculating the actual Yeah, well think about like like I don't know too much about it in depth But I I lived in In oklahoma for like five years when I went to university and like bull riding is a thing out there Oh, I've heard and I and I've also had friends who were bull riders and ball players They also said that at times they would put like clamps or like rubber bands or something equivalent around the bulls Yeah testicles before they opened the stable before you go Yeah, yeah, and that would like rattle him up. Yeah, I can see there's might be something to that. Yeah. Yeah, he's like Yeah, yeah, he's ready to go like anything Yeah, those cowboys up. Yeah, but it's like when it comes to what seamer attention I still feel like the same applies to you even if you got the clamp because you're still releasing the fluid Yeah, and that's the stuff that has the magic Yeah, and but also like I'm the same way too because I'm like I believe fully like if you don't use it You lose it. Yeah, so I'm not going to do a seamer attention for for months on end. Yeah There there's a big no-fap movement that happens and what's that? No f.a.p Um, and no fap is like something that guys do cold turkey when they just say I'm going to stop Um, ejaculate and they do it with a really like science-based aggressive kind of way. Yeah For me, I don't really get down with that for me. It's more of like I do it more in a graceful way So in Taoism Taoism tantra is amazing like because they were doing this thousands of years ago Actually had a full-on formula about like how to What what actual practice Taoism is not like it's not a religion. It's more of like a how-to Culture. Yeah, I really loved about that. You would love like a lot of their principles And they had this thing where it's like this scale in regards and it's it's also it's real But it's also arbitrary too. It's let's say like based on your age age rings. Let's say for me Um, I'm 35. Yeah, so it's like a 35 man to a 40 year old man You should ejaculate once every 14 days, you know like say if and for me Let's say it's between seven and 10 days now And when I do it and that gives my body enough time just to like regroup and recenter and come back But within that 10 days I can actually still have orgasm and still have sex just be clear and that I'm not going to ejaculate Because think about what's the running joke of culture with men. It's like we come and then what's the next thing we do sleep Yeah, knock out knock that which is interesting because I get a Burst of creativity energy same and I ease shan is a knockout Shannon shan after we get done sex. She's ready to go to bed. I'm like, I'm gonna go up I'm gonna get up and go work Yeah, because and I used to actually get so frustrated when we have sex because if we had sex too late when I'm I'm starting to get tired I'm ready to go to sleep and then we end up having sex and now I'm like I'm up. I'm ready to go do something. I'm ready to go work on something I'm ready to go create something and so I that was the other part of me that was like, I don't know if I Want to do the semen retention because like I I genuinely Get a burst of energy. Yeah after I after our orgasm But who knows maybe there's a there's a science in like if you wait And then you ejaculate at 14 days or whatever the recommended was that you get an extreme creativity You know, I don't know it's it's the in between that you feel the recharge humming then Like I always like to say it's like let's say like um when a woman's pregnant You know what is it month six or seven when she just has that banging glow all the time like that pregnancy? Yeah, yeah, yeah when when men when we're in this practice we get this glow within us Yeah, it's not just a look, but it's also a feeling. You know, and it's a discipline thing as well Um, but I would what you're explaining to to me. That's like that's that life force energy So when you hear guys talking spiritually about oh like sex and love and the life force energy That's actually it You know because like you took it from the bedroom straight to go create music create art And that's that god thing you're talking about like I don't know what it is because to me Creating art and sex is one in the same Listen, if you watched any videos on this channel before then, you know, we are huge fans of squarespace. 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