 Hello everyone! I'm just walking around this park in Japan. I just did a TikTok video and I thought I'd get on here to speak about this very important topic and it is something that you all need to be aware of when you are dealing with narcissists because there is this shocking thing that will inevitably happen when you finally decide to leave them. So yes of course I need to make you aware of that but before I begin it's very important please show your support down below by giving this video a thumbs up. It's very important as it helps the YouTube algorithm to get this message out there so that other survivors will see it as well. So again it's very important before I begin the message please give this video a thumbs up down below. Alright now let's get into this. This shocking thing happens when you leave the narcissist. You know it's funny all of that time you were with them. I mean you may have been with them for months maybe years. The entire time you were just on the back burner. They devalued you. They treated you like you're nothing. They never appreciated you. They took you for granted. They treated you with contempt as though you're worthless or beneath their consideration. I saw you're just completely nothing as though you have no use to them. Well at the same time they may have been staying in your home, driving your car, spending your money with your paying the rents, paying all of the bills. You're buying them food, you're taking them out places, you're doing all of this stuff for them. Well at the same time they're making you feel like you're nothing. Like you're no good. As though they could do without you. And as though actually they're as good as it gets for you. As though you can't do any better than them. When in fact if you look back you're the one who did all of the work. What did they ever do for you? Nothing. They never did anything for you at all. And I think it is about time someone did do something for you. And that's why I decided to get on here today and make this live video to give you this information and to make you aware that in fact believe it or not when you finally leave the narcissist this shocking thing happens. And this shocking thing is that it will cause a narcissistic injury. And that will be followed by narcissistic rage where they get very angry at you. Because I know only to you the entire time they were undervaluing you while overestimating themselves. While they weren't doing anything for you. They needed you far more than you ever needed them. In fact they were a problem in your life. They were just holding you back from being the best person that you could be. While with you being with them you were elevating them at your own expense. And they were elevating themselves at your expense as well. But you never really needed them at all. Just look back and think about it. If you just did without them. Imagine where you would be today. You would be in a much better position in life because they were never there for you. They just manipulated you. They used you. They future faked. They made you believe in this amazing future with them. And they were working towards that the entire time. But whatever happened to that. All you got was these false promises. You never actually got anything real. And that is why it's time for you to look in the mirror and see yourself. Because if you see all of the stuff you've been doing for them. You are as real as it gets. They could never compare with you. And I'm sure when they look back at all of the things that you have done for them. It must completely overwhelm them. They just can't believe it. They just can't even imagine how could they ever possibly repay you for everything that you have done for them. It's just nothing they could do to even amount to that. Because you've done so much. You've given so much of yourself. You've done more than they could ever do for you. Even if they lived a million years on this earth. You've done more for them than anyone has ever done for them in their entire lives. More than they have ever done for themselves. But what do they do every time? When we're about to leave. They always blame us. They always say it's our fault. And we have to do something to correct it. They play the victim. And every time we jump up their back and call. We try to do whatever it takes to just make them happy. As empaths, if you are a real empath. You just can't see anyone down. You just can't rest knowing that they're alone. That they're not happy. They're not comfortable. You just can't rest knowing that. Because this is a trait that we have as empaths. And I know I spoke about it in a video a few days ago. But I could have remembered the name of the trait. I looked it up now. And it is called empathic concern. Many of you may be familiar with that already. And this is a very powerful trait especially when it's used against us. Because they play the victim. They make us feel bad for them as though we have to help them in whatever way we have to respond. They want us to respond. And we don't even think twice about it. We just respond instantly. Because as empaths, that's just what we do. And that makes us a very easy target for them. Because not only is it very rare as an empath, only about 1 to 2% of the world's population are empaths. And when we have when we have this very rare trait known as empathic concern, it's like they just don't want to leave us alone once they found us. Because they already know if they go off somewhere else, they try to find another target, it's not going to be the same as what they had with us. They could go off to someone else and start making these demands, playing the victim, telling them to do this, to do that, to think about this, to think about that. Most normal people, they're just gonna be like, just shut up and go away. I'm not gonna do that. I'm not gonna do this. I'm not gonna think about nothing. Just leave me alone. Of course, we don't do that. For us, it's like this mystery, this puzzle that we must solve. We must do whatever we possibly can to figure it out. Even if it drives us nuts in the process, we will still do our best. Which of course is the exact opposite of the narcissist who is more like what I described in the other description that I gave, where with them, it's more you go to them and even if you are genuinely being victimized by them, which I'm sure many of you have been already, you're going through something, they put you in an unfortunate situation. You're seeking help, you're seeking support and you probably need it far more than they ever did. But when you're dealing with someone who's narcissistic, of course, there's not gonna be any empathic concern for you. They're just gonna divert the conversation back to themselves and how you can do something for them. Because remember, it's all about them. They don't care about you. This is the way we are as empaths. We have this trait, this empathic concern, but we will do whatever it takes to help someone. Whatever they want us to do, we will just go straight ahead and do that. If we think it's going to make them better, they're going to get what they want out of it. The crazy thing is, we will often do it even when it's actually very harmful for them. We will still do it. We will still enable their destructive behavior. Maybe we don't always know that it's harmful. Maybe sometimes we do, but either way, it's like we just can't stop ourselves. But yeah, that's my little rant about how they manipulate the misuse, this trait that we have, which is actually they're abusing it. It's meant to be used for something else, for something more positive, where we can actually help people, but they're using it in reverse. They're using it in a way where we have to use it to feed into their narcissism. And that's just not how it's supposed to be used for, which is why for you and for them it only results in something dysfunctional, something bad, something low vibrational, something that's no good for you. And that's just the only way it's ever going to be, because empaths, empathy, empathic concern, these types of qualities and traits, they're just not meant to be used in that way. We're not even naturally attracted to narcissists. Like attracts like. We're actually attracted to other empaths, and other empaths are naturally attracted to us. At least once we've healed or awakened, but when we're unaware of these narcissists can come into manipulate and trick us, they can act like they're empathic, because I've seen it so many times, that's what they always do. That's how they get in. So when someone is coming to you and displaying so much empathy in the beginning, I would say that's often a red flag as well. Because it's just not natural. A true empath is going to come to you and put on such a big show in an effort to prove to you that they are empaths. I mean I've seen that so many times already and it just looks so fake. And they try to mimic us our qualities and virtues. They try to take that on in an attempt to attract us. And if we're not on to the game, then it can draw us in. So we do have to be very careful of that. But yes, the shocking thing happens when you leave the narcissist. When you leave them, they actually come after you. It causes a narcissistic injury, a narcissistic rage. It makes them very angry. And then they want to pull out all the stops to take you down. When it actually makes no sense at all. Because if someone is so bad, if someone's really so crazy as they're saying and there's all of these things wrong with you, you're worthless and they're indifferent to you, you're beneath their consideration, all of these things. If that is really true, then why do they get so mad? Why are they so hurt about it? Why does it make them so angry to where they stalk and harass you? They obsess over you. They won't leave you alone. Obviously this is all determined by their perception of your value. Because if they really see you as someone who is beneath their consideration after they've devalued you and they're really indifferent to you, it would be so easy for them to just not even notice you and just forget about you. They just wouldn't even care. And that's the same thing even for us as empaths. If we have no business with someone, there's no connection there. There's nothing for us to be a part of or to participate in. Let me just forget them. We just leave them alone. It's very easy to do when you don't have that connection or attachment with someone and they're not relevant to you in any way. Here's the problem. The narcissist's sense of identity, their false sense of self-worth, their emotional state as well, all of these things are tied to you. They're all tied to you. And all of those times when they were devaluing you, putting you down, giving you the silent treatment, ghosting you, all of that was, it was fake. It wasn't real. All of that because they see you as an extension of themselves, that was all to regulate their emotions and make them feel however they wanted to feel in that moment. Whatever they felt made them feel like they're in control. Whether they wanted to feel powerful, important, attractive or desirable, whatever validates and boosts up the false self. Because that's all they're really concerned with. We have the empathic concern, the narcissist. All they've got is the false self concern. That's really all it is. That's really all we get. When you're around them or even when you're not around them, everything, every concern is just about the false self. And they don't care about anything else. That's all they're worried about. And of course that's why they get so mad when you finally try to leave and move on. Because as I said they see us as extensions of themselves, of the false self. So then when we try to leave, they feel like it's their pet, their toy, is running away and escaping. This thing that they use for their life support to keep them alive. So then in that moment it feels like life owed death to them. Because you have to remember that the only thing a narcissist is really concerned with is their narcissistic supply. Whatever makes them feel better about themselves, they really don't care about anything else. Everything revolves around the false self. Well for us, especially after we've been manipulated and abused for such a long period of time, we become so selfless. But by the end of it everything is just about never mind about myself. How can I just give as much value as possible until I just can't give anything anymore? It's the two extremes. The best thing you can do is really just to keep it moving. I mean when you try to leave the narcissist they really do develop this arrogance and sense of entitlement. They really believe that you owe them the world, you owe them a living. Because from the moment they see you, you are this extension of them. You belong to them, you're their property and if you're trying to get away from them they just can't believe it in their minds. It's like the audacity. Like who do you think you are to think that you can get away from me is how they're thinking. As crazy as that sounds they really think you have no rights at all. To think that you can just go off, live your own life outside of their control. They're looking at you like you're crazy for trying to do that. That's really how they think which is why naturally when you do try to do just that it causes a narcissistic injury, makes them very angry and then in many situations they're just all out to destroy you because they literally see it as though you're either with them or you have no right to any life at all and there's just no way they're going to let you move on and to be good for someone else where they can't be a part of it. That's really the narcissist's worst nightmare. Seeing you being independent, having control over your own life in a way where they can no longer affect it. Yeah that's really the narcissist's worst nightmare but that is what I want for you and I will continue to provide to you with ongoing support if you do choose to leave the narcissist because I just want you to be free. I want you to be safe and to protect yourself and I know that these messages give you that emotional support, that validation that they really don't want us to have if you are really an empath. People just don't really like to see that I mean especially in today's world it's just more about narcissists being very selfish and greedy and just always get what they want while the empath is just completely robbed and starved. I mean that's usually just how it is these days and that's why from my research statistics show only one to two percent of the world's population are empaths and I know I keep saying that but I just want to drill at home so that people understand you look around and it's like you're dealing with people you're wondering why don't they care about me why are they not concerned why am I going through all of this on my own why am I taking care of anyone who makes any form of contact with me while I'm being neglected and left on my own of course you may start to wonder that and this is really it we are very rare in this world and again that's why I get on here every day to promote this awareness this message because I'm all about building up empaths rather than breaking them down I'm not saying there's going to be a time where the world is run by empaths again I don't know I mean most of the world is narcissistic we do live in a narcissistic world but if we can just survive somehow we could just get by I mean the reality is that most empaths in this world they're likely to be broke homeless in a mental hospital maybe even in jail because they're just never really favored in society if they were then we would be seeing empaths everywhere but instead we don't we see narcissists we see takers I just want you all to be very cautious when you are deciding to leave the narcissist they can be very dangerous and if you need more support you can always book a coaching session with me just go to my website it is narcsurvivor.co.uk and also if you found this video helpful it's very important please give the video a thumbs up down below it helps a youtube algorithm to get this very important message out there to other survivors and let me know what you think about this video in the comment section down below I am reading your comments every day and don't forget to hit that subscribe button and click the bell icon so that you will receive notifications for my future videos and check out my instagram as well it's narcsurvivor youtube you can follow me on there and send me a message I will respond thank you all for joining me on another narcsurvivor live video and as always I look forward to talking with you in another one very soon