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We used to do the skits Whatever anyways, let's get into it Copyright disclaimer under section 107 of the copyright act 1976 Allowance is made for fair use for purposes such as criticism comment news reporting teaching scholarship and research Fair use is a use permitted by copyright statute that might otherwise be infringing Non-profit educational or personal use tips the balance in favor of fair use No copyright infringement intended all rights belong to their respective owners Talk to me the pinchins live a traditional country life in Gloucestershire Husband Darren and his wife Nadine have three children Chloe 11 Lily 9 and Harry 5 hard-working farm family husband and live in the heart of Brighton They don't believe in rules or discipline for their three-year-old son spike and reds daughter from a previous relationship First of all, look your reds outfit. I'm not gonna say nothing She got on a Rubik's Cube pants and a red Adidas jacket And they son name is spiked. I know everything is terrible Off-top. All right. That's no judgment. I'm just saying 18 year olds and Nadine and red have agreed to swap families for two weeks to find out what they can learn from the experience How will a mum who believes in free will cope with being a disciplinarian Don't listen to it. That was spike living up to his name, Amy What happens when a husband says no to the new rules? And how will the families react when they're reunited when I left I thought that I would miss You more than anything Good boy, she was much as I thought I'd miss you bottom ones top ones Chip-chop Nadine and Darren Pinchin believe that set routines and discipline are important for their three children It is boy come on them. I've asked the children to do things and if I asked them to really they should do it I believe that you can be firm, but you can also be kind Their children are kept in line with a star chart that helps the family's country life run like clockwork Have you been nice to Harry and Chloe this morning? Yeah. No, could you argue on the tractor with Harry? It's quite challenging. Yeah, a lot of the time we like We'll get a tick taken off as if we're naughty. I'm not gonna lie. A star chart is a stretch They already got a star chart at school. I'm guaranteeing you they doing that at school I don't got to go home and do this too You know I'm saying I get accountability, but just you know Keep them accountable accountable as parents Shout out to Jasper Jasper. Do you unfollow didn't follow just so you could be seen on the stream like what? Come on Jasper The children's chores start at the crack of dawn when they get up with mum Nadine to feed the farm animals With the farm taken care of Nadine gets on with the domestics My chores are everything around the house cleaning ironing Hovering and being a mum on top of family duties. She also runs a bed and breakfast Something needs to do and I'll do it because Darren's not here Hard-working man husband Darren is the family breadwinner working long hours at his garage I don't spend as much time as I should So it's like a traditional household situation, but she's working hard. She's working real hard Shout out to Francie for the new follow. Hey, I heard like Per kid having one kid and being a stay-at-home mom is like having two full-time jobs And she's running a bed and breakfast But it's hard to do both It would be quite nice if he could devote his time to not less not just me but the family I think we need more family time because I don't have much family time My mum's over here, dad's there, we're here and we don't really get opportunity to talk Darren dinner! So now everybody go unfollow unfollow so they can be seen on the stream. That's y'all wild and really Me and Nadine, well we have a good relationship deep down but we do have old moments I'll take it very much Darren is not a romantic guy That's just the way he is and I have to accept that If we spend some time together we're going really well Not being romantic in a relationship is crazy At my age of now, when I was younger, I didn't think it was important because I'm one, a male, we don't care And two, I'm a male, I don't care But if you're trying to be in a long-term relationship where your partner is happy, you gotta be some type of romantic A little bit, you know what I'm saying? Now set the tone, let her know, listen I'm not romantic So anything you do that's even slightly romantic is seen over the top And that's the finesse of it all, you get what I'm saying? So you say you buy her a bag of chips and one rose petal and bring it to her Boom, that's romantic You locked in forever In Brighton, life for the Curtis family revolves around work and running their alternative fashion business Red Mother Alright, good, yeah It's crazy, this will be a booming business in 2024 Get a head downstairs and then, aren't we? Red Mother is our whole lifestyle It's everything we do, pretty much everything we do is focused around it We work together most of the time, when we're apart, we're on the phone or texting We know each other's movements Bro, what is the comedy skit show in the UK where they did a lot of scous stuff Like pretending to be a scouser and like doing that, like this is literally out of an episode of it This is insane We're on the phone or texting We know each other's movements Is it Little Britain? All day Red and Dan have been married for six years Yes, it's Little Britain, yeah, yeah, yes it is He might work and at home where they share all the household chores Any cooking dishes Or hearing infield Kind of stuff, it's just whoever's there Dan and Red might be a tight unit, but it's a different story for Dan and his step-daughter, Xanthi I think Danny's really interested in what I do No, it's hearing infield, definitely My reactions hit harder now that I know stuff Yeah, it'll be hearing infield and stuff He'll have to be just me and him by ourselves I think it'd just be dead silence It's been hard really, because Xanthi was the 12 when we met So she literally went straight into a nightmare teenage stage The courtesy's rebellious attitude to fashion spills over to their home life Where there are no rules for Spike and Xanthi My brother doesn't have any boundaries He gets to do what he likes most of the time Our life's definitely chaotic I don't know what normal is, but we're not normal It's the day of the swap and the wives are preparing to leave I haven't packed for any particular occasion, but then I wear really inappropriate clothes This is a very boring bedroom and it's huge at that Like, put a couch in there or throw a rug, a painting or something What's going on? The swap and the wives are preparing to leave I haven't packed for any particular occasion, but then I wear really inappropriate clothes all the time anyway Don't cry, darlings, please don't cry Bye, Spike Love you, have fun I think mud I saw my first ever free-range chickens Girl, get over it Jasper has taken it to a whole new level Broden created a whole new twitch account and added it I salute it, though. I salute the energy Oh, they ride horse Oh! Obviously they're busy people because, you know, not necessarily is everything put away Because I tend to work hard in the day and then we'll clear up at night time when I've got time Three charts, so there's got to be three of them No, that's not it, man I'm guessing They've all got different rules Be nice to each other I see maybe dressing up clothes That's the wardrobe Maybe they do stunts or something Nope Each wife has written a manual as a guide to the running of their home We run a traditional household Yes, you do My role is to run the house Is that a hot dog on her earring? What is happening? No, seriously This is 2009 Like, this is not it back then I refuse to believe I'm not gonna lie, she kind of got it on, though Like, she's very comfortable in her style Absolutely a type of energy And Darren doesn't help with that Oh What does Darren do? It's great working with Dan as we get to spend most of our days together I think working with your husband or your partner is a lovely thing to do My kids know right from wrong and must respect me Respect, I have a bit of a problem with the word respect I think it's important for the kids to think for themselves How to make their own decisions I think children need boundaries to respect things They also have set bed times and I'm not very good with the clock Spike has no set bed time but chooses himself when he wants to go to bed Thank you Hell no, I've got stuff to do Is that another Jasper Wilder? Salute, though He was born when I was 17 and since birth I have left her to her own devices And I refuse to smother mother her Smother mother? She hasn't I'm just worried about my kids She had a panic attack Hello, hi, pleased to meet you This is Spike Hi Spike It's a bit under the weather Hi, pleased to meet you This is Anthony Hi Hi, Nadine Hi, Nadine Hello You alright? Hi, thank you Nice to meet you This is Harry Harry Oh, good as a kiss, then Oh, nice greeting from you both This is Harry You alright? This is Lily Oh, you're all nice and affectionate I'm going back to work Okay I'll put it back now Okay Okay, and I'm supposed to have food on the table At half seven For sure Definitely not my choice of lady But she seems very nice anyway, so far At the courtesy, Nadine is welcomed by Dan with a home-cooked meal This is a real treat for me to have somebody kick me tea Good It's going to be rough, man It's going to be rough Bro is competing with this guy who cooks for his wife, spends all time with his wife You know what I'm saying? He's really connected with his wife It's going to be rough It's going to be a whole new world I see a lot of negativity The pasta, I didn't turn it on high enough It is still nice, haven't it? If it had been cold and mushy, it wouldn't have mattered It's the fact that somebody hasn't cooked it and it's fine There's no risk for it There's a strict schedule to stick to It's going to be tea When's it going to be tea? Yeah After you've done this is that when you usually have tea? I only have an hour It's tea Okay Are you going to sit down? We've got to cook more for your dad because there wasn't enough in the pan A bit more That's enough for Harry He's got his little plate An hour house He's playing noodles? Whenever you like It just doesn't matter This is not important Hello Evening I'm running behind You're running behind Don't worry Doing my best I feel like I just want to go and read the paper now just for like 20 minutes So I can feel like I've done something for me today Just feel like all I've done is stuff for other people Working mum, Red Curtis is getting a rude awakening Living as rural mum, Nadine Pension Nah, brother, see, I'd be pissed I'm not waking up this early to move around bells of hay No It's 6 am and she's up to feed the animals Come on then, let's get out She's got three kids to nurture and sort of look after I don't understand why she needs to like There must be like 50 animals here Why'd you keep them? They're horrible No, she must get them now She must like mother in things After feeding both There he is, man They've got to be Jasper again T. L. L. I like and some What is going on here? Who's doing that? With the animals and the family Red has to look after Nadine's B and B guests I'm doing my best this morning You don't have to bear with me, I'm afraid But a list of chores doesn't end there I've left a few bits of bulbs for the fencing Okay, where is it? I put the hammer and the sledge hammer in where the staples are If you want to chop some wood, they're actually in the carriage I don't like this guy I don't like this I don't like this setup for some reason This is bogus I've got three folk kids running a B and B, running a farm and doing every little nix and max for this dude He goes and runs a mechanic This is too much I'll give it a go Usually Red spends all day working with her husband Dan But living as Nadine she only has animals for company She obviously quite likes being alone because she seems to spend sort of from now to three, she's by herself, isn't she? Darren could definitely do this job really, couldn't he? Had to find it quite lonely No, she's doing a job of literally like ten people because she got three kids so that's two, four, six That's six full-time jobs The end she's running a B and B that's seven The end she's out here chopping firewood in the middle of the... like, what is happening? Hey puppy, don't come near this You want to get your leg cut off I can do you Keep talking to the dogs because I'm so bored Country mum Nadine is always up by six But at Red's house the day doesn't start until Spike decides to get up after 8 a.m. Good morning It's very different that the children get up before all you wait for them to get up That's Pete Since my daughter has been out of school I've been letting her sleep whenever she gets up and I don't like it I disliked it I mean sure I get to sleep a little longer but like she doesn't take her nap when she's supposed to take her nap You know what I'm saying? We don't do a nap I was just pacing the floor right up I've made my bed I've put everything away and I can't do anything I can't get out of the room I was like so I sort of got dressed I was just itching to get on and do something really At home Nadine spends her days working alone but today she's off to work alongside her new husband This is Nadine Hi Thanks to you The shop sales customize secondhand clothes and the alterations are done in-house We've got loads of stuff to price up Okay cool Which you've been doing Nadine and then I've got loads of other stuff and we've got to do loads of sewing I might get almost some sewing then I think I've got lots to do I love sewing Do you? I've got curtains and bedding and clothes made my wedding dress with my mom I haven't done the industrial ones but oh no I love it Really nice you and Red I'm not gonna lie this look like a little cool job look like a little cool situation for you and your little partner and things of that nature you know what I'm saying y'all bond every day y'all give y'all creativeness to the forefront of everything This is cool Who's watching the kids? Who's watching Spike? Just sit here and sew together and chat about everything and just do what you like doing Yeah Yeah this is really nice It's fantastic when you can actually get down and sew together and you've got everybody in here and you can have a bit of chat Good atmosphere Great girls Hey now that's funny Whoever made that one that was funny Down I don't spend much time together because he's working and I'm doing what I'm doing My priorities are my family my children and Darren and my friends I think Darren's priorities are us but work is important to him because he's a workaholic As a traditional wife Red has been doing the house work on her own all day She's used to having help around the house and without it it shows Yeah I must have had a stressful day because there's a lot of things left out of the fridge those things sort of bug me really There's breakfast on the table On top of a list of chores Red is also responsible for the children going to bed on time If you're not disciplined with them they'll just walk over here and they'll be 10 o'clock before they go to bed and that's no good for them Yeah Because in the morning you I have a more matey approach with my kids I need to bark a bit more don't I You might find it hard but you do need to go to I will find it really hard Come on You had tea What have you eaten today? Pack of crisps Two sandwiches Four senior grapes Tomorrow we definitely definitely need to get the tea early Yeah and I need covers fed up sandwiches Four senior grapes Tomorrow we definitely definitely need to get the tea early Yeah and I need to definitely get the better tomorrow and you should have some time tomorrow to go into the event No no cap When a kid is on a schedule and it breaks abruptly like this he might slap a table with a towel You never know You know what I'm saying The next moment I think you might have some time The place might be totally You know what I mean You could all but try that Yeah I will try I know I'm taking it out While Red is settling in for the evening Nadine is heading out on the town as it's Anthony's birthday Nadine is literally having the time of her life You're being dressed up How's your step-by-step coming? Don't you look fantastic? Let's get drunk, Nadine It's regularly with your momma Not really I'm especially occasioned very especially Because when I've been in the house I haven't used to stay quite a lot in your bedroom Do you normally do that? When I'm there I do sit a lot for a bit but she's always working She's always on the computer I know how busy she is and how stressed she is So if I just sit there nagging her nagging her she's just going to get angry and argue with me Because Spike obviously is your mum and Dan Do you feel a bit left out with all of that? I used to really resent it like them being their own little family and then me Danny used to like he wasn't very nice to me he might everyone thinks that the sun shines out of him but he wasn't he was horrible to me as well It was nice to have a chat I'll stand there Just because since I've been here I haven't really had more than a couple of words said I really do think that she has big issues with Dan just because she just said that she doesn't work from the start she didn't like him Happy birthday Is it time for the switch? Okay, alright Thanks for leaving us all in With Darren off to work Reg's yet again left in charge According to the manual she'll have to enforce strict discipline but she's hoping she won't need to That was really naughty last night wasn't it? I'm not going to do that again because I think you're a really good boy and you don't want to behave like that do you? No, I don't think so Come on Lily Tidy your room please It's not tidy I've just looked in it it's really messy I think your mum wouldn't allow that would she your room to be like that No, she wouldn't I know for a fact she wouldn't Stop lying Lily That's a lie It takes ten minutes to tidy your room that's all it takes Come on out you come They really could know No, well you can go away if where you go is up to your room to tidy it I don't know how much their shouting works because they're shouting at her but they're obviously not dealing with why she's behaving like that They're just shouting at her I think talking to them would just better She's obviously craving something if she's like doing all this ridiculous behaviour Attention Quite shocked by it Strong man After a difficult morning Rhett hopes to win the girls over with their daily horse ride If that's going to be fighting we won't We don't watch films on Twitch Do any nice things tomorrow No you Lily, if you swear once more or be nasty we're not going to do that That's really ridiculous Imagine having a whole horse and still arguing with your parents You have a horse Go ride it have a good time Kids don't have That's not normal You don't know what to do because like you just don't know I don't know what to how to stop it I don't know like they don't listen Whose kids are worse? I think the well-timed well-mannered kids are worse at this point in this situation at least The normally well-behaved scheduled kids are just showing out at this point I didn't see it at all I saw you hit your sister with a whip and I've just seen you throw something at Harry In Brighton, once again the morning routine is dictated by Spike Nadine and Dan can't go to work until he's ready Mike, really the man in a house is ready I didn't think a three-year-old could rule a house but he really does rule this house If you just eat a little bit more breakfast kids are going to get really hungry He has what he wants he does what he wants he goes where he wants This is the worst I feel like it's normal three-year-old behavior but letting him wake up whenever he wants to and sleep whenever he wants to and eat when it that's a little bit too much That's what he wants He's three By the time Spike is dropped at nursery it's after 10 when Nadine and Dan arrive at the shop Following her chat with Zanthi last night Nadine is keen to talk to Dan about her concerns She said that now her mum gets so stressed out with work and stuff she's just tried to talk to her but they just end up shouting and Red just shouts at her Yeah, I can understand Zanthi saying that because that's Zanthi's side of the story Zanthi is putting on a very good show of being quite an ideal daughter She'll say This is definitely Elle's time to talk It's all Elle Whatever he's saying is Elle Hold on You can imagine Red trying to talk to her I'm trying to watch this I'm trying to watch this program I'm watching these standards I can't talk now Maybe when Red wants to talk to Zanthi she's busy watching Telly so she does the same thing back Yeah, I don't see watching Telly as being busy No, no, it's not busy but she classes that that's her thing Red classes working as her thing I see working is more important than watching Telly Red, I'm shutting the door and I'm shutting the door It's Red's second night of putting the children to bed without the help of Darren Their bad behavior earlier means she's taking a stricter approach Five seconds and I'm just going to pull you out and go and take you up to your bed Do you want to do that? Yeah Hold my hand and come to bed Don't be silly You should just walk to bed I ain't going to let kids, toddlers and anything but before nine they got the strongest shoulder ligaments You could take a nine and a younger child and just one arm and just walking straight upstairs and do whatever you need to do and like, go, stop playing with me That's why they be so good at baseball at them young ages Are you kicking dogs or anything? Do you want to come up with this? Well, awful because I just like thought I've just made this child so unhappy just to get him to bed on time What's the point? If there's an adjustment in this house and people just don't respect anybody well, especially Lily and Harry In Brighton, an evening photo shoot in the shop is taking priority over Spike's bedtime Spike Tiller That's great That'd be real miserable I've got it miserable as well Everyone got over the top Everybody over the top One, two, three If this was my business and I did this tonight I wouldn't be bringing my three year old child part of it just coming up to eight o'clock at night and you know, Spike's still up no tea, no sort of routine Can you look sad, Spike? Let's get Spike on Shortly before 9pm they all arrive home Are you hungry, Spike? No, are you tired, Spike? Yeah Yeah I would have just done it slightly differently I would have perhaps picked him up earlier and I'd have gone straight to the shop but he'd have had a packed lunch so that he'd have had his tea at tea time so when he came back he was ready to go straight to bed because he was tired when he came back It's the weekend and Darren is at the garage again but this time it's not work it's for fun as he tinkers with his rally car Bro has no boundaries for work like, he worked 14-hour days during the week and then on the weekend he got the nurse to go on to work too I feel like the workload could definitely be shared out a bit more like, even if Darren just got up on a Saturday if Darren just got up on a Saturday and made breakfast for all the kids that would just be a job gone for Nadine I prefer my mum and my dad just because well, at the moment because we spend more time with her and I know her better and I can kind of turn to her I don't want to be a stay at home mum just not for me I need to have something else to think about and something else to do really for threading the rule changes tomorrow because I think whatever I do it's just going to cause more chaos 100% it's about to be escalated you was in their house with their rules and they still turned up on you just imagine it might get better there we go I'm a traditional mum and I do think that family comes first work is very important but in my life family is absolutely top priority I've got some few changes first things routine so we'll all be getting up at six o'clock in the morning so you can have good nearly two hours in shop working and getting stuff ready and sewing and stuff without any interruptions really because I think you can get so much more done without interruptions yep, excellent the first rule I want to ring in for the kids is a bit of free thinking there's no bed times because it's been the most stressful time for me here is making everyone get to bed now by that I don't mean that you sit up till three in the morning you know when you're actually tired make the decision to go to bed Spike tends to rule the roost quite a lot I just think that it would perhaps Spike do need some order now we're not going to sit here and play like he does it it's been nice to give him some kind of reward or some kind of thing to encourage him to even sit at the table and have his tea because he will be having tea at tea time Darren, I think you're just a great block I think you provide for your family you work hard the biggest change that all the kids want from talking to them is more time with you tomorrow we are going to have a family day thanks, I heard something I hear something, I hear it the only person that remembers your late nights and all the hard work you put in is your kids because they missed you on those days so while you're working hard just remember your kids is at home missing you we're all going to go out together speaking to you guys you can be a present parent and still be absent don't forget that I think that it would be really nice if you could spend some time together it's important that maybe the sitting around the table at dinner time will help that it might make you both more relaxed around each other yeah it means that you should spend time together it's silly that we don't you might not like this but I want you to take a day off and I want you to do a Nadine schedule just to see what all she does in a day and I want you to really think about it and think how you can ease her workload so you will be needing this as you will be making tea for everybody where's my mashed potato he's laughing hey to Harry you didn't ask for mashed potato Darren's first task is to cook dinner for the family something Nadine has never experienced I've got problem cooking I can't make it I can cook really but just to be honest I'm really lazy and that's probably my real problem so I can't be bothered it's nine o'clock and although there are no set bedtimes the kids are flagging come on over there you ready for bed yeah it certainly is aren't you gonna go up your dad then yeah go on carry I'm not surprised you want to carry you nearly sleep aren't you Harry good lad have a nice sleep Harry see you in the morning night that's the type of night I want peace go to bed everyone relax I mean I guess at that age but like when you got kids the age of spike when they tired they get more energy they get like a burst of energy like I ain't got time for that go lay in bed and think about your energy subsiding while you fall asleep damn it not doing it to be fair in that sort of way you go to bed most nights don't have no trouble so but that wasn't going to bed in the free world at least as far as I can see and that was tempted to bed you've coked into bed Nadine's rule changes mean the courtesies now sit down together at mealtimes and where are you going tonight my friend have known us for a few years it's her birthday where are you going I don't know yet I think that me spending time with Jani and this whole experience will benefit me and him more than my mom I think Nadine is also introducing a star chart to reward spike for good behaviour when they get a bit older the stickers aren't they you think spike give a damn about that chart spike okay here huge big thing about the stickers we just put ticks cause otherwise then it's cheaper and then they have a star for every 10 ticks he's young for it I think so and he ain't going to change in a day you'd be surprised Red and Dan usually spend their evenings making clothes for the shop but Nadine now wants Dan to tidy up they maybe sort out where the coats are or something in here you know I don't mind watching please night was a bit annoying Nadine was still cleaning out the dishwasher and I was like well I've kind of had enough but when they're still doing something you've got to still do something 100% you're right you're right if your girl still doing something productive around the house you've got to 100% agreed done now that's if if you ain't working like a traditional 9-5 type situation it's very hard to tell some guys his husband to do something but your husband doesn't do it is he but this isn't about my life bringing it here like you said you'd be up here now working on the computer doing work well I was trying to say look don't do the work let's try and organise the house I don't feel like I've taken control cause he took the rules but not with lots of enthusiasm so I was a little bit upset in a way it's Sunday morning he needs chores what's the corn flakes what's the corn flakes I've seen this somewhere you know the trouble is with me I always come back too late and I was having too much of a rush I wanted to cook anything so it's not in the fridge and just think oh it's just so it's grief and the thing can just pick things up on the way home good thing you can like do like order groceries because I couldn't imagine having three kids that are able to walk and not just get inside of the grocery cart and take to the grocery store like she on Healy's and what not she back here changing prices on drinks like like chill you should be picking food up on the way you can just pick things up on the way home maybe I should be picking food up on the way home and cook you know even if I'm a bit late Red also wants Darren to spend more quality time with his children there he goes ready one, two, three, go I haven't seen dad in like a play park for over like three years he never ever like participate in stuff like that yeah it's good fun and that's brilliant it's good fun I was reading something there's a study shown this is real facts when dads play with their children that's released that does not happen when women play with children so it's like meant to be that dad's supposed to play with children like it releases an endorphin in the dad and the children I'll be reading low key you know W school can you start working here I'd actually forget all the fun times you ever had all the fun you kind of had that's a real fact we're looking up let yourself do it that's the problem Google that that's a red jacket and she's taken all her stuff away with her because this is just the excess this morning was fine I was up first and empty the dishwasher and got everything done and the dean was just getting up and then I just got on and did the the coats downstairs because I wanted to basically commit to the rule change Spike is also starting to benefit from Nadine's changes oh look at these stickers are these off doctor who would you like one of those you need to finish your breakfast and then you can have one well you can have one of those stickers if you eat your breakfast I told you here the change in one day that's for eating your breakfast really good boy at the table as part of the rule change Nadine wants Santhi to help more around the flat do you want to give me a hand to do some wedges and stuff you can use that one or you can go that way but watch your nails because I tell you what I've peeled my nails off before when you go in really it will go really fast after morning chores Santhi's meeting up with her boyfriend but has promised to be back in time she was very helpful this morning and you know she helped with lunch and she helped with pairing dinner and you know we were talking about some ideas in her bedroom every child is the same unless they have a cognitive issue yes they are they're all the same they don't start changing until they get like 7, 8, 9, 10 but every toddler is the same 100% and she asked if she could meet her boyfriend outside but I thought half an hour is fine because we've got some jobs here because she has been good she's done the washing can't expect her to work like a slave she's a teenager so she wouldn't be long but she hasn't come back and we can't get hold of her so can you see the birds quite upset after changing the rules last night that Santhi didn't come back do you have children the way we're if you don't have children I don't expect it to make sense to you but if you have children then you would know they're all the same so you don't have children so I can't even really talk to you on that level because you wouldn't be able to relate to what I'm saying all you could do is look from the outside in you're not involved in what's going on in that world so I feel it I feel where you coming from because you don't got me but as soon as my kid gets around other three year olds I'm like oh they all like this so it ain't nothing I can do and that's what makes me as a parent like alright cool then that's just how it is you know what I'm saying now I can do stuff different to prepare them for when they finally are coming into their own yes but at a certain age up until a certain age they're all the same in my book and in a lot of parents I feel like it's fat 100% yeah you would have thought she would have come with you yeah but she not normally if you asked her to come home would you come home now if they picking up they pick up bad habits they mimic parents but in their innate nature they are all the same they can be reprogrammed I sound like I'm making it like very like mechanical but it is what it is don't forget I'm a genius so I speak like you know what I'm saying yeah it's a lottery dinner I know I've never arranged something like that it's not personal she does it to everybody okay every child acts the same up until a certain age every toddler let's say toddler let's just put it all I can speak about is toddlers from toddler and under yes I don't know about no older than a toddler but as far as toddlers they all the same they just want to have fun play color they want to say no they want to run around they want to go to the park they want to eat they want to use the bathroom and they want to be up under their parent but still at the same high and have a lot of independence they're all the same they all got that we're all back concerned for anybody else's feelings about herself yes and as why despite Zanthi leaving a message that she wouldn't be back for the walk Dan never received it I just thought maybe we'll have tea pretend there's nothing more and then we'll talk to her about it because I think that it might cause an atmosphere through dinner and I don't want to cook that dinner for an atmosphere around the table there is an atmosphere yeah I know but I just thought maybe we'll break it can I feel it look at that mashed potato is this sundae? sundae lost how come you didn't come back to this country? I went to the bright doctor the emergency doctor there was a hit on me my stuff out I don't know Zanthi had a headache no I didn't I don't know whether I quite believe the story to be honest with you this is her that's her and I don't trust her whatever she says Dan decides to call the doctor to check Zanthi's story has he sure? she did go bright doc I just asked about it oh god that makes me feel really guilty in Gloucestershire taking advantage of Red's lenient bedtimes so what do we do then now that you've obviously made a decision that he must make his own decision and he's there now if it were my rules he would be in bed and asleep by now so yeah it's not ideal call this one wrong the principle that you apply with your child doesn't apply with all other children I'm not defeated in the slightest it's just um it's the way it happened it's not like I can't be bothered to put him to bed he should be in bed it's pretty good maybe this is not a toddler I just said this is the way are you listening this is not a toddler this is a kid he's a step above toddler I said once they get to this level I ain't got no I can't say nothing about it but toddler and under baby and toddler they are all the same I'm kidding you not when they start getting to this level though they're developing their own personalities and all of that so it'll get different halfway point with you it'll get tricky Red has insisted that Down takes his first day off working months to take on Nadine's daily routine I want that can I have everything is this the start of a full English a fry up it looked like it got no seasoning for some reason it just looked unseasoned and I know all of this stuff don't need seasoning like that but it just don't look it don't look good Nadine's daily routine I want that can I have everything straight away I want that we'll do some baking in a minute you go and do what you were doing I hope it's the place I will directly do this for Nadine is it good you can score a lot of like points but I don't want stuff like this oh I know that oh yeah I know that doing all the things she does cleaning the ice and running around cooking it's not easy I appreciate what she does more now last night Harry had to be carried to bed after falling asleep downstairs and Darren is now dealing with the consequences yeah peed in the bed and that is another unusual pattern of his he's normally really really good so he's upset and he's been in my bed I think your roles do work when they're a little bit older but I think when they're younger if they're not used to it they just doesn't I think from my side it doesn't work I feel that's what I said earlier her fall asleep where you lay that's a good rule for when that kid is older but not no younger go to bed when I say go to bed that's my opinion it's not used to it Darren lives by rules that's how they run their house where is she going this is insane that she's laying in bed I'm done she's got it we run our house but I have no rules Harry doesn't usually wet the bed so that tells me that Harry's really upset I don't think it's the rule change that's upset she's got that one little key look slow down first of all her outfit always got red in it to match her hair she got a red top hat on with a red feather with a red blouse with some type of sheer thing over it she got a red dress with some sequins on red leopard leggings jewelry on bling neck on blouse and what is the belt is that a super soaker a Nerf gun what is that I just think you really miss this mom now I do have to get rid of the t-shirt to help improve their relationship Nadine wants Dan and Santhi to spend some time together I quite like these I like the fact that the print goes on the on the side it was really peculiar yesterday when you came in and didn't say anything whenever I say something's happened to me no one cares so I don't see why this week should be any different I think it's it's become a cycle of this because we both think you have no respect for the house you don't care about the house you don't care about us I'll sit in the living room and I'll just get ignored I'll sit in the dining person that will speak to me is Spike and he'll say shut up what I'm saying is I think what's happened is that yeah I shut down you because I was so sick of your behaviour in the house and I think I'm getting a bit like that again because you don't help in the house but then your things I don't help and then we go you shouldn't care about us but you don't care about me you don't care about me we're both only to get over it and kind of accept each other a bit but no it's nice to me my arm gets up every morning she'll get up she'll shout at me then she'll shout at you and then you'll shout at me because she's shouted at you generally you haven't done about ten things she's asked you that's why she's angry with you I mean it would be really good if we could meet up for at least once a week for an hour because I know I'm sure you even as it's been quite hard to talk about these things it's out there now you don't excuse people things you can say alright well there is a reason for that you are doing something for a reason and you hear the other side of it whereas a lot of the time we the only information we get comes through red I think me and daddy did forget to communicate because my arm is normally the one that communicates for us most of the time in the house I think this whole experience yeah that's not good because she can dictate she can manipulate not saying that she would however she wants the convo to go that's how it's going to go playing middle man between them they should develop their own relationship you know what I'm saying good for me and him to build a relationship I suppose after clearing the air they come home to declutter do you do something for me do you clean those windows yeah you're going to have to lift it a minute I just want to see myself in the reflection Dan I have to let me back in I think the householders learn how to get on a little bit it's not only Dan and Xanthe who are benefiting from Nadine's rule changes Spike is responding well to having structure and routine of course he is he's a toddler he should I think what Nadine's done with Spike has been great she's used stickers rewards for doing good things but at this age and how he is it's a classic thing they need a bit of structure and he's really responded to it really positively and the wives are preparing to return home my biggest achievement while I've been here is just singing Darren and Harriet at fun days because his face just said it all I think Dad's learned that he should be more helping Mum when he did Mum's role he found it quite hard so I think he understands how much Mum does their mind was clearly overloaded how he went along was really different because she's more like chilled out with Mum I think mine and Dan's roles would probably improve not that he would ever have authority over me or ever be a parent figure but I might be his friend you're not my dad stickers yes Spike a whole different kid look how tan Spike is of 7 day trial trial free what's a trial free trial look how romantic that is see she ready to cry because you got her flowers because you're not romantic and now you see what she's been going through I surprisingly didn't have issues with Darren I thought I was going to do what I read the manual I've had more problems with the kids biggest problem I've had is they're squabbling I can't stand it they squabble all the time they do they just bicker so much yeah I feel that discipline and routine is what is what children need that was my problem discipline the kids and then as soon as they as soon as they saw that I was a soft touch they were just like when I walked around the house I was really shocked that I didn't see a young lady's room and that's why I wanted to give her a bit of time so in my role change it was to sort of make Dan as Anthony spend some time together often she can just spear a load of stuff and you think that's just a lot of old rubbish but then actually there were two or three things there which were actually quite important to her yeah I listened to her basically and Spike I've put routine in the house which is I was really proud of him Spike Spike's been amazing so how's Spike changed then he gets up in the morning and he sits up he eats his breakfast as he should I might give me a little reward turn low key now now you know what I'm saying it's pretty decent you're a sticker chop it's like positive reinforcement you did didn't he when he came out and he was like really surprised in this morning he came and asked to clean his teeth you ever heard him say that nah it was pretty impressive if I was having to get up earlier in the morning I'm gonna have to cut out time at the night time which means I'm gonna have less time for me isn't your child more important is it my time or children? when you have kids you have to sacrifice what are you talking about Red? I am selfish you know I'm selfish you admitted you're selfish we are selfish people basically I am selfish yeah but I wouldn't be selfish from a kid's thinking but you know I'm pretty selfish Darren Darren is sitting in here capping like this this is terrible crap Darren we've seen it you took a Saturday off of work and went to work to tinker with your own car instead of having fun with your kids cut it out Darren stop acting holier than thou we know you're lying we just watched it I suppose but no but I would compromise at the end of the day yeah I don't care I've said it all along the week I sort my life out I need to be getting home a bit earlier it was great yeah that was brilliant and I just didn't realise I didn't spend enough time with him if you really want to come home then you'll be at home living Red's life I haven't once felt lonely it's been weird because when I left I thought that I would miss you more than anything in the world hold on Nadine you're gonna break this man's pride to chill where you going with this statement I've spent enough time with him if you really want to come home then you'll be at home living Red's life I haven't once felt lonely it's been weird because when I left I thought that I would miss you more than anything in the world and I didn't miss you as much as I thought I'd miss you hey the pain how could you miss something that's not there already of course you don't miss it it's the same thing you're a male I never heard the last of it honestly that was just like hey fans made me tea you've had a lot of teas as well you're having a laugh full said they roast they knew how to do everything you just choosing not to do it this is the thing about men if you give them the option not to do anything they're not gonna do it it's a simple event if you've made me the choice to not do the stuff and say you're gonna do it we'll go ahead and do it then kook that was his problem he could kook he didn't want to kook I think if I don't at the end of the day you could just piss off for the kids and it'll be there I really wouldn't want that when someone's gone it's too late to get them back it's never the same is it before that you'd make an effort and you haven't we've both got to change I'll make the effort big time to make it better in defence of Darren he has really really tried this week really properly like life changing things he's been like he's been really oh I'm so happy you want to go home and can you do it Spikes Spike is asleep leave him alone you miss me yeah sure what I missed from being at home was hugs and kisses and love he said he was going to miss my kisses did you miss them loads and loads and loads and loads yeah I don't like woke Spike up Spike is in his little routine he has sleep let that man sleep he could have celebrated in the morning so that's what they could eat I think if we'd really come up with an idea of what we're on I can't even hold you this Spongebob crap top sweater thing is tough that's the least it's so easy I didn't know what I meant it's such a big issue because we're in a television program talking about what changes you've made that might have worked that one worked and you're just saying I don't like it I don't understand why you don't like it cause he likes it you don't like it what do you do for him welcome home man my man I say shout out to don't ask a few months after the swap the Curtis family has lost the sticker chart but a few changes have survived I think the main rule that we stuck to was to spend more time together with Spike and Samantha does come and join us I do now and then as well right from the off we actually did go out just me and Dante which was great but sort of since then we're all so busy that's the thing they are getting on better I can see they're getting on better I think the main thing I got from the swap was we can't be regimented and organised as strictly as Nadine but a little bit of it would help and there have been even bigger changes for the pinching dad was work work work I used to always be at work but now he's more at home and he spends like more time with us down definitely has changed 100% for the best just things like coming home early he's been doing the washing and the kids, the kids are loving it I feel like I've got a new husband the wife swap experience well I think it saved our marriage because we've been together 20 years and that's quite a lot of time to be together and I think we're spending some time together and it's been great so we're sort of finding our old selves again Vince what just happened? I'm just jumping to the next thing I didn't say nothing like it it's what you tell a little bit like promise subscribe turn of your post and go