 Hey, it's Bridget. Welcome to Sunday afternoon tea with Bridget See I got tea I got tea see Okay, so let me check to make sure am I audio is working Sitting in my bed. So it's not the best lighting but whatever I'm I'm comfortable and I'm tired It's been a full day already. So okay, so let's see Let's just make sure Hi, how are you? Let's just see Let's see if this is Working okay. We are live Let's make sure everybody can see It's just to make sure Gotta just change a setting here. There we go All right, so now let's see it'll take just a bit for people to pop in but I'm gonna get started All right Let's see. Make sure we're on live stream. This is Sunday Usually it's Sunday morning coffee with Bridget now. It's Sunday afternoon tea because it's late in the day It's about 4 p.m. Central time on Sunday the 12th of March. Oh, there we are good. Okay. Let's just check our sound Oh so many ads I'm listening to see Good it works. Okay, great. Perfect. All right Hi, it's Bridget. Welcome to Sunday afternoon tea today. I've got my mug from Disney World. See It's iridescent. It's kind of a pretty paralyzed Vibe going on. It's actually tea. It's a Moroccan mint green mint tea It's really good from Trader Joe's if you have that you can run out and grab your own This morning, I was working at the coffee shop and I ended up staying later if you watch me on Instagram or Have heard me talk I'm here on above-life channel. I Actually work at a coffee shop part-time both 15 hours a week. It's really fun. I enjoy it. It's fast-paced. It's intense It's a lot And on a Sunday, it's really really busy. So I ended up staying later than anticipated And I went early and it's daylight savings time here in the US and so Kind of messes with you, you know, it messes with you. It feels like It's the clock is later than it feels so I had to get up early and then tomorrow I have to work again So I don't mind being early. It's fine. Hi. Welcome in the chat. Nice to see you Hello Hi Hi there and if you're watching on the live stream Hey, thanks for joining me and if you're popping in later at another time, great All right, so today I Actually recorded a Sunday morning coffee podcast yesterday and I just I Just didn't want to share it and you guys that happens a lot Like I will record something and I'll talk a lot and I'll share like my diary kind of vibes with you And I'm like, oh, I don't know to really like are you gonna get enough out of this? Is it just about me is about you? So I really do think a lot about the topics that I share and I want to share things that are coming up in my Intuitive sessions. I do private session work as well Both as a psychic medium and as a life coach and they're often reoccurring themes or patterns. So and yesterday I channeled our celebrity for tomorrow and That is kind of pushing the theme today. I did want to talk about a Little bit about depression So the topic of this Sunday afternoon tea might be depression, but it might also be Really about getting the help that you need without shame or without feeling less than Because our wellness is extremely important. It's not just your physical body that you need to take care of It's also your emotional well-being and your mental well-being and the mental and emotional piece is extraordinarily challenging I know because I work with people who it's always about that That longest journey you'll ever take is between your head and your heart or your heart and your head and a lot of intuitive work or energy work Comes in to really help those two parts of you work together and get along and that's challenging that's where the the core of our relationships really Are bringing in us our most contrast is between their mind our rational thinking brain and our heart the way we feel and The way we process or understand what our feelings are So I want to talk a little bit about depression because this is going to be relevant to tomorrow's channeling video I channeled that after life celebrity that dealt with depression and who was a high functioning person So there are people who have high functioning depression where which means sometimes you have bouts of it Where like there's times when it's low and you'll go through a three week period three a month period Season where you have You're more tired your lackluster. It's less motivating. It's hard to stay on track and stay focused with things You just don't feel as good. You might not have your healthy habits that you normally would have because you're in a bout of or a round of depression and yet You might be so high functioning that you really can focus on and compartmentalize what you need to do like go to work Take care of the kids etc But then in the off times or the what would be considered like down times you're really down like you're low and Oftentimes those times can be late at night or early in the morning so There are a lot of people with high functioning depression and depression can be situational Or it can be something that is a pattern that shows up in your life now because of the trauma that we've all collectively experienced as a society with The pandemic that forced us into massive change and Restructuring of our lives for a temporary what we thought was temporary and then for some it was massive changes after And for others now we're just starting to trickle into three years later the actual effects or impacts of it are finally showing up and so um, I I'm not blaming the pandemic, but I'm saying that just Raised the awareness I think of How much we just put up with and just keep going Keep powering through keep showing up. Just keep doing it. Just keep doing it. We're not machines people We're we're we're incredible miraculous beings of light energy of matter and all of those things working together is Is quite amazing and does take An awareness of you in order to make your body mind heart and soul work Together in order to co-create with your mind and your heart your spirit and your body this life experience and so I wanted to share about this. I've been wanting to share about this for a while And I hope that I can have more real and authentic conversations with you in the future about this topic Under the umbrella of mental health and wellness, but also specifically with depression because I have shared at least in my blogs and videos when I had my fairy grasshopper channel, which I still have a fairy grasshopper channel It's just more of an archive now You can see fairy grasshopper if you want to look at that up Learn about me from my past experiences stuff about intuition that I've shared and all that you can go there But you know if you know a little bit about me You know that I have talked about having anxiety before and I've actually been treated or I've had actual medication from a doctor for about a nine I think it was about eight nine month period Right after I had a massive life Change when my oldest child I have four kids So my oldest one went to college and I was really super duper worried about her and worried about the money I was so stressed about it. It was a whole thing and then After that first semester, that's when COVID hit and it was a whole thing but anyway so I actually went on medication and I was formerly diagnosed with anxiety and And It was kind of it wasn't Situational necessarily. I mean that was what the trigger was but I've always had anxiety I've always been an anxious running person. I've always had a lot of energy That is amplified worry energy and stress has really impacted me a lot In my life over the course of my life. I come look back and go. Oh my gosh. So obvious. I've had hello So obvi I've had anxiety. So Learning to manage that in healthy ways is something that I've done And for the most part, I'm pretty decent at it. I know foods that can trigger. Sorry guys I'm sitting on my bed. So I'm like a little uncomfortable because I've been working on things so my back is all Sorry, it's gonna see me wiggly. I'm gonna be wiggly and jiggly And so I've done things like eft tapping meditation yoga exercise lifting weights walking Just different kinds of things to help Using essential oils to help with my anxiety and food Food is a huge thing I can use and also supplements as well, right? And I've also been to A natural path also for that. So I did go on medication formal like prescription medication for a while And then I didn't need it and then so I was done with that. It was fine. And so then Related to the topic of depression This last year and a half has been a doozy and I've talked about it a little bit I've talked around it a little bit because it's my personal life my private life And other people are involved. So I want to be really super respectful of my current relationships and things my family and As well and so I have sure though, it's been hard. I've been going through massive massive What some people would be like, oh dark night of the soul. Uh, it's way different than that Okay, this is like rebirthing yourself kind of vibes And I've had times when I have had moments where I have been so low I have never felt So bad in my life Like I have felt like I am bad Not this I feel bad, but I am bad, which is a total difference I feel bad. That's one thing. But I am bad is another whole mother ball game That's like guilt and shame and all sorts of stuff piled on to you Like Weighted blankets where you cannot get out of that. You can't get out from under it And I thought like I would have these experiences for the last few months off and on and two times super bad where I was like Do I even want to exist? Like what is the point of this? Where I've disconnected so I just disconnected so much like I There's layers of disconnect you go through when you're not feeling healthy and when you're like In stress mode overstress or hyper-vigilant mode, you know, like fight flight freeze or fawn beyond that I'm not talking freeze And I'm not talking run. I'm talking it's worse than that like if I get to a place where I'm Disconnecting like I don't want to feel or I feel numb that is a huge red flag for me And so I'm like wow so usually I think oh that's a lot of stress and I'm anxious But I'm so anxious that I can't even feel it anymore It's just intense and it's just I'm used to the intensity. And so I just can't even I just don't feel it anymore It's like whatever, but I know because I can't focus. Okay. It was kind of like that, but it was different So I had this experience In august last year at the near the end of august right after I had covet And and after my trip to disney after I had covet I had that little experience like that kind of I was like, wow This is really deep and dark more shadow than I felt before more heavier energy It just feels like walking through mud And it's not even walking It's like it's up to my neck and I can barely like I'm trying to wade through mud That's how it feels And then only lasted like a day or two or kind of thing and then I kind of pulled myself out of it talking to friends and stuff I'm like, okay, I just had a down day, but it was really down. Wow. That's intense And I'm like, I don't have any spiritual attachments. This isn't an energetic thing What's going on? You know, wow, that was weird And so then it happened again last year around the holidays, I think in November it happened And then in January or December it happened again And then in January it happened in the like the second week of January like around around the 10th or so 15 something like that And I actually had a friend of mine who I know really really well who's also an intuitive psychic shaman And who's a good friend of mine been a friend of mine for 10 years And she reflected back to me because we've been talking off and on and stuff and she reflected back to me how she was concerned Because she said I've never felt you like this before And she's like you're you're carrying a lot of darkness that isn't yours Like you're really taken on everybody's feelings about your circumstance and your situation and you're making them all your own like you have to You know bear this cross kind of a vibe And as though if you feel bad enough then they won't feel as bad But that's not how it works and she said you know that you know and she's like I'm really concerned because I would have more times when I was like, okay. I can do this like in the morning. I'm like I can do this This is good. I feel productive and blah blah blah And then by like 12 or 1 o'clock. I'm like, oh my god I can't handle life. Okay. Everybody needs to just go away and then It would get really bad at night Like I would just feel so sad Like this intense sadness and it would like take me off guard. It would surprise me. I'm like what is happening all of a sudden I get so sad and granted my the life circumstances and the massive change that's happening in my life right now the huge overhaul that's happening That would warrant feeling sad and grief and I've been dealing with grief for months and dealing with sadness for months But not to this level. I'm telling you it was like It was so much you guys Where I got to two points really low points last year Again when I can't remember the exact date. It was either um, November or December and then again in January where I was like I don't want to live like this And I don't know what to do And I'm like, I know I have kids I know I can't just abandon them and leave As in leave my body Okay, it was that serious And I really felt like is this life worth it? Is it worth it? You know and I wouldn't say I was Over that edge or anything But I was damn close to it and close to looking over it to see to start thinking about what would that be like if I wasn't here And when I started to have those feelings. I was like, oh my god. I need help And so then I reached out and talked to my friends and my friend and then I told my counselor I Had recognized that I changed my eating habits that I wasn't eating at all like I just wasn't eating I'm like, it's like I just wanted to disappear and I lost a tremendous amount of weight which I did anyway and I always do when I'm stressed out But I lost a lot at my lowest I've been I was 118 pounds and I'm almost five nine Okay, I know that's gross If your body type isn't the type that is normally like that really really skinny But I that's not normal for me. Okay. That's not normal That's not healthy And I'm like This is dangerous and I know it I'm in a place that I'm not really connecting. I'm letting go of my body. I'm letting go of my emotions I'm letting like I just can't handle this stuff anymore. I don't know what to do about it And it's like taking me over, you know And so I talked to my counselor talked to my friend and then I started to reach out and get help like went to my acupuncturist to clear the energy I Talked to the homeopath and said look I'm having this is the symptoms I'm having right now I'd already been on a four month plan trying to gain weight And I said, here's the symptoms I'm having right now. I'm still not eating. I have no desire to eat I need help I need like a schedule So I had a schedule where I set my alarm and I would eat specific things at specific times So that I would start to find a regular Just pattern just do it just do it and without thinking about it just do it and that's been going well for the last month And I called the doctor and got medicine So I got medication for depression And I cannot tell you how unbelievably different I felt after like a week on the mess I was like, oh my god Ah, this is the reason why there's medication because for months for like four Four or five months before that I had been on seeing a home on naturopathic person That gave me supplements for that For depression and anxiety for both because I knew my moods were low already And so and just because of all the stress like stuff to help my adrenal glands stuff to help the cortisol levels in my body Stuff to help my liver Stuff to help my digestive tract because of all the you know the Neurotransmitters and all that. Okay. So like I was doing all of that, okay And still wasn't enough. And so I got medication and it has been amazing It's been amazing like I want to eat now all of a sudden I I I like food again I like I've been eating candy bars and I'm loving it and eating like actual meals like a full Like actual meal not just like a tiny little bite of this or a tiny little bite of that just because I have to eat something and it's been Kind of weird like I'm rediscovering things again And I'm feeling more like myself. So I'm coming out of this darkness And the doctor said well, it's situational He really felt he's like, yeah, I feel like this given all the things that are going on for you He's like, wow, okay, like thinking. Okay. Yeah You do yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Definitely. Let's let's try some medicine in it. I'm lucky for me it worked right away so I wanted to talk about this because I think it's extraordinarily important to make mental health normalized And to recognize that even somebody like me who like works in healing energies and I know healing modalities I know all that stuff you guys I have access to a lot of incredible things spiritually And in the human form I am privileged. I have great health insurance I have access to counselors and coaches and doctors and I have that I am privileged So I have that right? But even with that there is a concern because my livelihood is as a coach a life coach and a psychic medium And there's a concern that if I share with you that I am having and have had experience with depression Like who wants a life coach that's like depressed And now I'm like Damn right. I do I want a counselor that knows what the fuck it feels like to feel like shit and not somebody that's like Oh, my life is so perfect And everything is lovely You know, I want somebody that's like, yeah, I'm real. Yeah, it's hard sometimes. Okay. So what can we do about it? Here's some tools. What's going to work right now? Let's try this. Oh, that doesn't work. Well, let's try this. Does that work? Okay. Good. Let's do that then Knowing that the next two days could be totally different things that will work And that thing that helped you before isn't going to help you this time like that like willing to figure it out, you know So I thought it was really really super important to do that because it's normal So many people are so depressed so anxiety-ridden so stress amplified that That's why people are crabby. That's why people are doing crazy things That's why people are getting involved in like weird conversations online and in groups that are like Not they're normal They're not thinking clearly not the normal vibe of things because they need an outlet They need something to blame because it can't be them because they're not they're fine, right It's the world out there instead of ourselves, right? So taking accountability and responsibility and acknowledging that hey, yeah, I'm not okay And I need to I want to be okay is a big deal so I can also say that because I'm extraordinarily have been extraordinarily high functioning as a depressed person I've gotten so much joy and positive energy just from talking to you So my sessions have been amazing for me the last few months. Oh my god I have the best clients ever It just really it gets me in alignment with my purpose. It feels so good I can't help but feel the amazing energy of the angels and your healing helpers and we're having conversations Or they were talking about your your your relationship or your job change or whatever's going on in your life your health I just feel so on purpose and I feel so good And I think there's a myth that people who are depressed are just walking around in their robes Or never leave in the house No That's not how it is necessarily And you're not depressed all the time every minute of every day You can still find joy in something or you can still find appreciation or gratitude for something and for me it's been my work you guys and showing up every week on sunday morning coffee and showing up every week and doing the channeling videos and Having my private sessions with you has been incredible And so I want to share that okay I want to share that because like depression isn't a disability It's a normal Thing that can happen to anyone For any reason at any given time if you lose someone if you're grieving and you've lost your spouse Or you've lost a parent or a friend or a child You could very easily be in depression You could also just be in depression because you are an empath and overextended in the heart space because of all the COVID stuff you might be a teacher or a nurse or in a profession that you are just so fatigued You know compassion fatigue and all that that you could feel extraordinarily depressed So get the help that you need you can find support groups online There's 1 800 numbers you can create a safety plan which I would highly recommend in the video tomorrow We talked about that a little bit. He and I I'm a safety plan is something simple like putting a contact Taking your phone and making a contact that's called safe or Whatever you want to call it you can call whatever you want But where you go and you open the contact and when you open it in the notes It says one two three four. This is what you do when you're feeling really really bad Call this person call this 1 800 number like whatever your safety plan is, you know, it might be Call this number on the trevor project Um, it's like free counseling free access to counseling stuff Where it might be call my friend if they're not available call this friend if they're not available Call the counselor if they're not available call, you know that kind of thing to make sure you have Support and it might just be trying to get you out of the mindset that you're in to break them All you have to do is break the thought. It's so simple. Um Just break the thought it might be stand up go outside You know, it might be something like that too, you know, not just necessarily resources or people might be things to do to just Change shift to shift your mindset. That's all it takes, you know This hardest for me. It was hardest at night Yeah, that was a really really tough at night. Um, it was a big deal. I stopped reading my, um Uh comments on my posts and stuff and I I dialed back my posting Um, because it just there was so much energy and information coming through and a lot of Um, kind of out there stuff too that would come in and so I'm just like I just have to not Let that even come in because it's too much additional pressure, do you know what I mean? So It really is about the focus on you and loving yourself But in order to do that you have to be willing to accept yourself as an imperfect human being And I think most of us are still trying to do that It's hard It can be really hard because we're not taught any of this stuff like we have no idea We're taught to prove ourselves To get approval to be perfect to be the best to be super reliable that loyal person that no matter what I can count on you Whether it be at work, whether it be at school, whether it be in your organizations that you belong to or in your church or whatever, right? Ah you we can count on you. Can't we? Yeah, and you can't say no And sooner or later you just erode yourself from the inside out, you know just feeling like not enough That's enough to make anybody depressed So I wanted to talk about this topic because I think it's extraordinarily important and it's normal It's normal and I'm feeling a lot better right now Um, I'm not out of the woods, you know, I definitely have a lot ahead of me and decisions and choices I need to make for my life that um I mean that's part of why I got the job at the cafe to get To kind of get some perspective to learn a new skill and to get some perspective like get out in the world again Be a little social know what it's like if I could to support myself in a way besides my business Because my business ebbs and flows just like with you guys the economy I have not had enough clients to be able to pay the mortgage so I need to be realistic about that and you know think ahead and Have some backup plans and things like that So I don't get stressed about money or anything like that And so I can sustain myself and take care of myself because I need I'm going to need to be able to do that So there's a lot of things at play, you know And I'm sure for many of you you be there dealt with depression and anxiety some other kind of mental health challenge maybe bipolarism or Impulsivity or an addiction all this is natural. It's normal. There's nothing wrong with you But it feels like there is it feel I mean I mean there's some I want to say there's nothing wrong with you you Just are functioning in a different way And have to learn how to be flexible and to adapt to the needs that you have and we're so not used to adapting to our own needs or identifying our own needs and that's I think what part of mental health and and wellness mental wellness is about is Identifying what we need and then Taking steps and measures to align with being able to receive getting those needs met without doing the things like manipulating people or playing games or acting a victim or playing a martyr or playing a role So that those needs get met just legitimately meeting our needs like in normal Communicative I need this ways, you know I think that's a huge part of why mental Mental health and mental wellness is such a thing right now Is because we need to start taking better care of ourselves So then we can be more contributing in society and community and the family units that we're in and the schools We're in and the in the organizations we belong to and in in the companies that we are in Yeah, so it benefits everyone right but you got to start with yourself. So that's what I think I've certainly been learning how to receive a lot more and I've lucky for me. I've had I've created a lot of support For myself. So I do have like safety nets. I didn't have those before Mm-hmm I made a conscious choice like two years ago that I wanted to have more friends And I wanted to deepen my friendships and it's a good thing I did because I really have needed them And some of them are watching now And I love you guys and I really really super appreciate you like so much so That's that however you handle or deal with your depression is up to you like I said I went the home The natural path that grew out for quite some time It just didn't it wasn't enough for me and so that I went to a doctor just a regular medical doctor was able to prescribe I didn't have to go to a psychiatrist But I am under the care of like a psychologist a family psychologist and then also I have another counselor in addition a specialist counselor for me as well and so Yeah Yeah, and now I'm also going to the doctor again this week too for the physical parts of what has happened Because I haven't taken care of myself. I've really the stress has really taken a toll on me So I'm going First blood tests and things like that to check all the hormone levels of my body thyroid and all that stuff to make sure that everything is in alignment and To be as healthy as I can be too So I'm really taking care of myself And I want you guys to know that too that you deserve that as well Okay, so if you haven't had those doctor appointments you need to have those annual exams those checkups do that That's a great form of self-love if you've been digging on yourself because you've been tired more than normal There might be a reason for that You might be feeling depressed There's a lot of different resources again. Here's just a few EFT tapping check out the tapping solution comm start doing that do that for like seven days Maybe even five days. You will notice a difference Maybe try some yoga if you're not deep into like big-time yoga try yoga by adrian Do chair yoga you can google that up on youtube. It's all free again yoga by adrian is the best. I love her She's regular yoga, but you can just do like the 10 minute thing and adapt Those are two really good things um, then of course there's lots of meditations you can do there's lots of free meditations online There's different types of meditations that might be helpful to you I'm trying to think of the ones that I use the most there probably ones you guys wouldn't even have heard of actually Deepak Chopra has meditations meditations Chopra center ch o p r a Chopra center has meditations On youtube. There's a bunch of those those would be good. You could try that as well And then also I super encourage you to please just go to a counselor just check in with somebody a therapist a counselor a social worker They don't you don't have to go to a psychologist Or a psychiatrist or anything like that you can just start with a counselor You could go to a counseling group online based upon the topic that you're dealing with If it's a health thing like maybe you have lupus then join a group that other people that have lupus Just to feel like you're not alone because one of the biggest things I think during the depression part for me has been feeling alone the loneliness part the isolation part That's what you want But that's just that gets amplified and it just feels like more and more mud and then you're trying to wade through the mud It's just hard and then you just feel so sad Like that's what happened to me. That's what happened to me You know what I got better in the morning and then that night it would get worse. It's just the thing So anyway, I wanted to talk about this. Thanks so much for listening to my sunday afternoon tea. I want to take a moment here for those of you who are on the live stream chat, I want to say hello to you on the sunday afternoon Oh Let me get my glasses on. Yeah, I'm sitting in my bed right now Probably not the best position since I've been working all day and I had to come home and take Tylenol for this body For my back is a little sore, but let me just say hello to you guys in the chat Also, if you're watching on the live stream, there's a thing called super chat. You can actually click on the little button um, it's like a little dollar sign thing and you can uh You can tip me Yeah, you can purchase my next Cup of tea if you'd like you can do that That's ways you can support the channel. You can also support my me and my work After this video is posted There will be information in the description just like with any of the videos on above life channel of how to get A couple of the different services I provide I offer private sessions in addition to I also am doing some actual old school readings So you'll have to read that and see if that strikes your fancy Um recorded video ratings for you. So take a look at that and see what you think All right. Hi. Hello You've been binge watching my videos. Oh, thank you Smiths it looks like hi. Hi. Nice to see you. Let me just see here The pirateess. Oh, hello. Hello, elizabeth Hi, trey. Hello to the netherlands Oh, somebody's asking what medication did I get on? Um lexapro? It's a generic form of lexapro, but I also have other people that I know really well and in the past. I've been on Um Zoloft That was the first time that was the first anxiety made I went on it was zoloft But it really it didn't help as much as I think the lexapro helps so Less side effects on lexapro for me personally because it does mess with your belly your stomach Oh my goodness, and it makes you tired at first, but after a while that it's manageable Not lexapro, but um so uh zoloft for me Hi, lisa. Nice to see you lisa from florida Oh, I am strong. Thank you so much Hey, lisa p. Nice to see you Yeah, there's lots of different kinds of medications talk to your doctor about what could be right for you Yeah, don't self-medicate Highly do not recommend that I've tried that with anxiety. I tried to self-medicate You know a glass of wine Sure relaxed me for a while But it really messes you up the sugar intake on that and the after effects and that messes with your sleep And it's just not worth it. Don't do it Do not recommend that Like at all it's not worth it. It's awful It's awful Don't do it. All right All right, my friends. Oh, let's see Oh kunat. Hello. Nice to see you my dear. Nice to see you. Yeah, I'm feeling good today. I'm feeling better today Um, like I said, I'm high functioning I've been um working in a cafe since the middle of january and that was the last time I had a really low time And then decided I needed help so I've been doing pretty good. Plus I also went on a trip and I turned 50 and you've seen all my videos It's not fake when I'm happy and I'm uplifting and I'm positive. I'm feeling that way, you know, I'm not pretending But it does take everything in me sometimes to do the video or to have two sessions in a day Whereas before I could easily do three or four sessions in a day I've only been able to do like two which has been fine because I don't really have that many clients right now It doesn't seem like I don't know if people are just like financially not booking sessions or If people maybe just think that I'm really busy because I think that might be the case people I think people think like I'm super busy. I'm not I'm not right now I don't have tons and tons of clients right now. I just don't so I'm happy to welcome in some more Okay, let's see All right guys. All right. Thank you so much for being here this afternoon. Thank you so much for Watching above live channel and supporting the work that I do. I love it. It inspires my spirit and fills me with hope And I hope that um, it does that for you as well. Um, make sure You check out um You check out tomorrow's video I think some of you will appreciate the man that I'm channeling He died um in the last few months We'll say and he dealt with depression. We'll say that as well. All right Okay, thanks so much for watching above life channel Remember my friends This is your life It's yours It's your life And you get to live it Just live it. Thanks for watching