 Hey everyone this video is about how the narcissist will leave you when you need them the most. I know many of you are holding on hoping that things are going to change. You think that if you just give them another chance maybe things will improve but that's just never gonna happen. They're not just gonna suddenly be everything that you want them to be. They're not just suddenly gonna act normal around you and even if they do it's just an act it's never real all they can do is play pretend they're never about it for real but one of the tactics they use is future faking where they make you believe that one day you're gonna get everything you want from them everything's gonna be okay and then that's what makes you stick around just hoping that maybe this time they tell the truth. You really need to let go of that hope though because the longer you stay with them the worse it's gonna get the more your health is going to deteriorate the more you're just gonna not even remember who you are anymore. You're not gonna remember what you like because they'll just turn you into a copy of them. Narcissists just get involved with you to use you up to use everything that you have to offer. They don't get involved with you to give anything to you. It's all about what you can do for them and they will drain your health, your finances, your enthusiasm for life. They will drain all of that out of you and leave you with nothing for yourself but even when they do that they're not gonna stick around to build you back up again. When you need them the most, when they've drained everything out of you and you've got nothing left that's when they will leave and they will leave you with nothing because the truth is they never really cared about you. They never really loved you. The only thing they cared about, the only thing they loved was everything you gave to them. How you made them feel but they never even saw you as a real person. You were just an object to them and their minds you were just this object that existed to serve their needs. They never really cared about you. So yeah this is my advice to you. Don't hold on waiting for things to change. Just look back in the past to remember how long you waited and how much progress they made if any but even if they did make some progress over the last year, five years, ten years are you really gonna wait that much longer again to see the same amount of progress? You could end up waiting the rest of your life for these types of people to change but they're not gonna change. It's not like one day they're just gonna have this epiphany and then realize everything they've done wrong. They already know that what they're doing is wrong. That's why they hide it. If they thought that what they were doing was okay they would just come out and admit it. There would be no need to hide what they're doing and not just that but you can tell that their behavior is very different when they're outside in public, when there's a chance of them ruining their image in front of other people. They act very differently then so they do know exactly how to act. They do know what is wrong. They just don't care. All they care about is themselves using you for their own selfish needs and when they've used everything up they're out of there. They're not gonna stick around to help you. All they care about is themselves and when you're in a time of distress or need you're gonna remember back to the false character. You're gonna remember the fantasy that they showed you in the beginning. Everything you thought they were, everything you wanted them to be and you're gonna be thinking where is that person now? Where are they when I need them the most and you know where they're gonna be. They're gonna be displaying that character that they displayed to you in the beginning to someone else. Well you're left alone in the dark with no one, with no hope and you don't even know what's gonna happen next. You don't even know how you're gonna get through the day. That's how they will leave you. You think that you're sticking around for something better to happen or for things to change. It's only gonna get worse. They never change. It only escalates. Just a quick message that I wanted to share with you today. They will leave you when you need them the most and although in some situations they might come back that's only to manipulate you. That's only if they think they can get something more out of you. They're not coming back to give anything to you other than an illusion, a fantasy. That's all they've got for you. Other than that they have nothing to invest and that's why they were never serious about you. That's why they never tried to really make anything develop because they already know narcissists, they are rather stupid at times especially in their behaviors but we all know really what it takes to build a relationship. It takes two people. It can't just be one person invests in everything. It's never gonna build that way. It's never gonna sustain itself. A narcissist know this and they know that since they have nothing to invest with you it's only a matter of time until it all falls apart and that's why they move so quickly and try and get as much out of you as they can in that short amount of time and then they leave you with nothing because they already knew it was doomed from the start. They already knew they never had a chance with you. When you're invest in everything you've got and they've got nothing to bring to the table they know it's only a matter of time until you realize that you deserve so much more. You deserve so much better. So yeah they will leave you when you need them the most. If you're going for a difficult time don't expect them to stick around. They won't. They only care about themselves. I hope this video was helpful to you. Check out the new website www.narksurvivor.co.uk. You can also contact me at coaching at narksurvivor.co.uk or on my Instagram narksurvivor YouTube. There will be two premieres later today from 6 30 p.m. GMT London time so I hope you can join me there. So thank you all for watching and I'll talk to you soon.